Ladies, how do you deal with a break up?

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  • Dub_D
    Dub_D Posts: 1,760 Member
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  • Colleen118
    Colleen118 Posts: 491 Member
    I'm curious as to how we deal with this. I'm definitely going along the path of 'never sleeps, loses appetite' way of coping.

    ^^ this is me all over. The stress blocks appetite and in some cases trying to force myself to eat renders me praying to the porceline God because my body rejects it. Loss of sleep and waking to a puffy swollen face day after day.

    My advice, is focus on you. Turn the pain into gain (actually loss) by letting it guide your determination. Easier said than done, I am far well aware but we can't let dumb boys ruin our progress
  • Irish_Chica
    Irish_Chica Posts: 295
    Go get a new haircut, outfit, facial, pedicure, etc. then get yourself back out there and remind yourself how amazing you are. If he doesn't see it, somebody else will. There are plenty of fish in the sea!
  • AllTehBeers
    AllTehBeers Posts: 5,030 Member
    The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.

    I fully agree with this. And wine.

    Well damn, I thought I'd have something useful to input but here it is. Get drunk and have awesome sex.
  • RavenhairedWoman
    RavenhairedWoman Posts: 661 Member
    Well... First I break up with the jerk and then I get on with my life ^_^. I've never been broken up with, I've always done the leaving. Sometimes I've mourned the relationship prior to break up. But that was mostly just some bouts of crying because I didn't want to be alone again.

    I'm over the not wanting to be alone thing now, I kind of prefer it actually. Sure I miss some things about dating but hey, my life isn't complicated so it is a trade off.
  • Emancipated_Tai
    Emancipated_Tai Posts: 751 Member
    Lose weight & look hotter than I did before!
  • HeidiJoLHB
    HeidiJoLHB Posts: 88 Member
    Foxus on yourelf and do things you couldnt when you were in a relationship! :) Realize what you love about yourself and what someone else should also love about you :)
  • ElizaRoche
    ElizaRoche Posts: 2,005 Member
    after crying and crying I normally hate all the men in earth´s surface, making the rest of the people believe im lesbian :laugh:
  • tashaa1992
    tashaa1992 Posts: 658 Member
    I've only been broken up with once, but my last break up was rough. I chose to end it, but I cried for months, still cry about him now lol. At first it was the usual things, cry, watch sad films, etc but eventually you realise things don't always pan out the way we want them to, and sometimes there's a good reason as to why it wouldn't work. I think if it was a serious relationship then sometimes you just need to let yourself mope around, it's almost like grieving. I'm focusing on myself and my needs now.
  • Ivian_
    Ivian_ Posts: 276 Member
    It's been said before. Drinks and dick. Enjoy both responsibly.
  • jaleungs8
    jaleungs8 Posts: 21
    I've only been broken up with twice, but I find that getting dressed up...complete makeover, hanging out with friends, and having a great time no only helps you to move on, but it helps you meet new people. AND, meeting new people (men) always takes your mind off things :bigsmile: :wink:
  • wanda9501
    wanda9501 Posts: 114
    Ask yourself. Is he crying over me? If the answer is no, have one finally pity party booze and all. Than the next day wake up, shower, put on your best this makes me feel pretty outfit and spend the entire day doing whatever. Go to the movies, mall, dinner, bowling, skating, mani/pedi, window shopping. Spend the entire day alone enjoying your company and rediscovering just how great you are. That night if you still have energy, go clubbing or stop by redbox, pick up a movie, order some food, put on your most comfy PJ's and enjoy your evening.

    Bottom line, don't let him continue to control you anymore. Breaking up hurts like hell, each day will make it better just don't keep thinking about him over and over because that will not help.

    My mother always told me, when you feel your worst always look your best!

    Good luck and remember, you have friends here!!!!!!
  • jus_in_bello
    jus_in_bello Posts: 326 Member
    Bottle of tequila and a best friend. I've never been upset/sad about a break up, though. I feel like I'm missing out but I'm more than happy to not go through that.
  • wanda9501
    wanda9501 Posts: 114
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    LOL!!!
  • Charloo1990
    Charloo1990 Posts: 619 Member
    Its a tough one. I recently broke up with someone I was seeing for 2 months, he was really upset about it, I on the other hand felt fine about it, for me there just wasn't that spark there but different relationships end differently. Like my first love, I had that horrible hurting feeling for a whole year, now its been 2 years it doesn't huurt like it used to but I will still always have feelings for him cause he was my first love and no else since has come close to what he meant to me xx
  • wanda9501
    wanda9501 Posts: 114
    Lose weight & look hotter than I did before!


    And, then send him a framed 8X10 photo!
  • Sweetpea472
    Sweetpea472 Posts: 229 Member
    I wish I knew where this quote came from:

    "Crying will get you sympathy, but going to the gym will make you forget you ever needed any."

    Take that to heart, throw on a sexy dress & hit the town! (after a good shower, of course!)
  • magj0y
    magj0y Posts: 1,911 Member
    The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.

    ^^pretty much. Maybe not the best, but def. quick.
    Have a ladies night out and don't be the DD
  • dodihere
    dodihere Posts: 490
    Well, my last break up I threw him in jail, pack his clothes and dumped them at his parents house, that was after 15 years of marriage. I burned so much of his stuff I cracked the chiminea he bought me last year. I couldn't thank him more for the gift.
  • toya316
    toya316 Posts: 137 Member
    Sleep with his best friend.



    I'LL DRINK TO THAT....:drinker: :cry: :drinker: :drinker: :drinker: :drinker:
  • shiraLA
    shiraLA Posts: 272 Member
    The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.

    I fully agree with this. And wine.

    I concur.
  • shiraLA
    shiraLA Posts: 272 Member
    You should read the book "it's called a breakup because it's broken" The smart girls breakup buddy. It's got some awesome advice...it's like my bible!

    I'm gonna check this book out! lol
  • LilEmm
    LilEmm Posts: 240
    How lovely!
    Time... and focusing on yourself. Whenever I break up with someone, I always start a new and different exercise routine or do something that I love that I haven't done in awhile. You're the only person you'll have forever, so you have to make sure YOU are happy first, and don't worry about anyone else for awhile. Making myself feel good boosts self esteem and makes me feel stronger, physically and mentally!
  • DaisyHamilton
    DaisyHamilton Posts: 575 Member
    I have a "doesn't eat" take to it too, hahaha. I prefer it to the "eat everything in sight" though. I usually tell a friend all about the break up, we go do something fun (like playing Super Mario video games), and then go home and try to get my mind off things. Talk to new guys (no intention of relationships, just to freshen my mind). Work out, because then I'm officially on the market, so I need to step my game up again. Also, can't let an ex see you look bad, right? :wink:
  • kealambert
    kealambert Posts: 961 Member
    Wanna have sex?
  • beccannes
    beccannes Posts: 88
    I think the best thing is to realize your self worth. Despite who broke it off it was not right and you do not want to waste your time on something that is not right. Once you meet the perfect guy for you you will look back on any men that you have dated in the past or you were interested in and realize that they meant nothing anyway.
  • healthyformeanMona
    healthyformeanMona Posts: 143 Member
    I'm curious as to how we deal with this. I'm definitely going along the path of 'never sleeps, loses appetite' way of coping.
  • LadyOfOceanBreeze
    LadyOfOceanBreeze Posts: 762 Member
    :tongue: this thread is going to be part of my therapy over the next few days....thanks everyone :heart: you guys rock!!!!
  • Lacebopp
    Lacebopp Posts: 92 Member
    I stay busy and do things I enjoy more often.
    Yes! Also, getting myself in shape and seeing the way he's looking at me whenever we meet REALLY Helps! LOL
  • wrevhn
    wrevhn Posts: 864 Member
    Honestly, the "under someone" is a quick fix for self esteem. Heart, no. Only time helps that. Lots of family and friend love can help. Get out, stay busy. Live life and do not look back.

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