Ladies, how do you deal with a break up?

FeliciaFitRNModel

I kick him in the balls

Michellerawrrr

I'm curious as to how we deal with this. I'm definitely going along the path of 'never sleeps, loses appetite' way of coping.

I would say that's all okay for the first week as you need time to grieve a little.Then you have to pick yourself back up and start putting yourself first. Pamper yourself at the spa or make your own home spa, kill it in the gym, eat for your health and yes indulge a little bit in your favorite treats. Go out with friends and stay busy. Sorry for your heart ache ~ you will get past this! :flowerforyou:

SeahawkFan1

I tend to cry but then again they shouldn't be worth your tears. I would hit the gym or grab a friend and do a night out with drinks and some comfort food

basslinewild

The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.

I fully agree with this. And wine.

Well damn, I thought I'd have something useful to input but here it is. Get drunk and have awesome sex.

:laugh:

lenoresaari

Lots of ways but one really fun way is to fly somewhere exotic..........

peterson_jessica

Haha.. your situation is not funny, but it's funny that this popped up since I sent my BF of 13 months packing an hour ago! My best advice is to channel all of your time and energy into bettering yourself. Eat healthy and kill it in the gym. You will be over him in no time... promise

caldon4523

Sometimes we guys can be real tools...

rlmiller73190

You'll be sad for a while... Most days I feel so happy and then something will get me and I'll cry a little bit or get sad for a short while, but that's usually short lived. It's okay to be sad...just don't be sad forever. Never let anyone dim your light in the world.

slkehl

I balance my sadness with anger. When I start getting really depressed, I remember how he hurt me and the rage helps me move forward. I also write everything I'm thinking down. I actually have a blog app on my phone, so I can journal on the go. It helps me actually be productive with my thoughts and process them instead of going in circles thinking the same half formed things over and over. I also talk to friends about it-don't think you're being annoying. Friends are supposed to be there for you in these times. And stay away from things that seem to trigger negative feelings. Just don't keep your feelings and thoughts suppressed. You're going to have to deal with it at some point, so better to work through everything now so you don't have to later!

RunIntheMud

Go about your business...he's not worth it. Seriously. You need to remind yourself that it's all for a reason and dating is process in which you find "the one". You can't marry every man you date, and you certainly would rather find out sooner than later that he's a creep. Sucks, yeah. So, throw on something that makes you feel hot. Go somewhere that's guaranteed to be an ego boost. It doesn't have to be a bar, and it doesn't have to be with the intent to meet a man, but just to get checked out and "validated". I thought it was strange that I had a place, but have found that my friends do as well. For me, it's a specific Starbucks...never fails, there are always young men in there that will check me out (too young for me to date, but they always make me feel good about myself). So, I'll usually start there if my girlfriends aren't available....then a little retail therapy (who couldn't use a new sweater or dress?)....and then dinner with my girlfriends when they're available. I'll grab a movie on the way home and just chill. Usually a chick flick that I wouldn't normally watch, but am now able to watch because there's not a guy around.

The main thing is do not over indulge in ice cream and alcohol....you pack on the pounds and feel like crap. Do things to make you feel good. Take time for you. And, just know that you're one step closer to meeting Mr Right.

nyxrun

The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.

I have been doing this wrong!

AmyFett

ive always been the one to call things off. so...joy.

now that my fiance and i are nearing the seven year mark...it would likely be hysterics

same here. My husband and I have been together almost 7 years. I think I would stay in bed for like a year and not eat or move.

slkehl

Yes, he might not be worth crying over, but sometimes you need to cry. Don't hold back how you feel. Ignoring it will not help. Don't feel ashamed if it takes you time to grieve.

mjrkearney

After my last big break-up so very many years ago, I shed a few tears, had a pint of HG, and proceeded to forget about his sanctimonious @$$ until he showed up at my doorstep two months later for some of his stuff. He had his new girl on his arm and I had 15 pounds off my self and a few more pleasant experiences under my belt.

So I guess my advice would be to pull yourself together and move on as best you can.

Unless you're seriously grieving, then, yeah, friends, family, therapy. Healing takes time.

LadyOfOceanBreeze

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MysticRealm

I've never been in a serious relationship and I have been the one to end any of my relationships, haha. Will let you know what I do if they find a way to break up with me before I break up with them! Haha!

LadyOfOceanBreeze

me? by getting back together!

one,two,three....
AaaaWwwwww!!!

denezy

I get drunk and take advantage of a very cute, very dumb, young man.

And then I go to the spa.