I am pathetic

taraaaal

I have been on this website for too long to have absolutely nothing to show for it. All I need to lose is 30lbs and I can't do it.. I get really into it and then something get in the way. Here are the different reasons why I get sidetracked:

"I can't afford to buy healthy food."
"I have a meal plan... its hard to keep track of the food they have."
"I never see any results."
"I don't have time to go to the gym."
etc. etc. etc.

The list can go on forever. I have no self esteem and I NEED to find a way to change things. I NEED to be more motivated. I am so ashamed of myself and I really don't know how to get past this terrible place I am in...

I'm 5'1 and since I started college I have avoided the scale... but I would assume I am up to 155-160 When I am really on track I eat 1200 calories a day and work out 3x per week. The results are almost non existent. When I was trying my hardest, I never was able to get below 145, and that was after being in the hospital for three days...

please help me

roseofhope

Hey i am in the same boat. So i started over from scratch today. New account so nothing can hold me back. My willpower and motivation really need a huge kick too!

I am talking to my doc next week, maybe you should to to see if they can come up with either a reason (medical) or help you on the path.

Adina81

you have to help you.

MOVE..
WANT to make right choices (not wishful thinking)
Food isn't an ENEMY.
MOVE.
Make sure your getting rest/vitamins
Moderation NOT restrictions.
MOVE.

I am sure there is plenty of other thingsI could add...but those are my core standards.

GOOD LUCK!

Adina81

Oh.... stop obsessing about your calories.

If your stomach is grumbling or your getting constant headaches.
EAT. your body WANTS you to feed it.

Make a healthy choice. Not a fast quick choice.

lachesissss

you have to help you.

MOVE..
WANT to make right choices (not wishful thinking)
Food isn't an ENEMY.
MOVE.
Make sure your getting rest/vitamins
Moderation NOT restrictions.
MOVE.

I am sure there is plenty of other thingsI could add...but those are my core standards.

GOOD LUCK!

Pretty much this. Making the decision to stick to it is the hardest part.

LovingLisa2012

well as other will suggest check your BMR and TDEE (people suggest not to eat under bmr, and eat 10 - 20% under tdee)

and as for as
I can't afford to buy healthy food." -- beans are cheap and healthy (maybe $2 for a 1 pound bag )
"I have a meal plan... its hard to keep track of the food they have." --- eat what you enjoy that fits your goals and fill up on veggies/fruit
"I never see any results." - take measurements (scales LIE)
"I don't have time to go to the gym." -- you have a body right ? well use it .. squats, lunges, jogging in place .. all this can be done anywhere any time

just some suggestions .. you can do this hun and drop the "I am pathetic" crap .. you being here and trying proves your not

:flowerforyou:

jenilla1

I don't really have any good advice, other than to say that I don't think you're pathetic. I think you just haven't been ready yet to do what you need to do. Some people are never ready - some don't even bother to try in the first place. At least you are trying. It shows you have the desire. Now it's just a matter of whether or not that desire is strong enough to outweigh the things that are holding you back. Set your priorities. Don't punish yourself, don't be too restrictive, and don't rush things. When you are ready, you will make permanent changes to your life for the better. Good luck! :flowerforyou:

mockchoc

Why don't you try to eat more calories, it's much easier to stick to long term an you will still loose. I know I couldn't do 1200 the whole time till I get to goal. I'd end up bingeing or giving up for good. I eat between 1400-1950 and my only real exercise is walking 30 mins a day till recently.

Fruit and veggies aren't expensive really, eggs are cheap, baked beans too etc... Don't buy too many packaged diet products, just buy food in it's natural state.

Forget the gym if you can't afford it or can't find the time and go for a walk around your neighbourhood for 20 minutes instead.

katieng85

This sounds exactly like me. I work at a bakery full time which makes it even harder : / My new plan is to just do something, anything, active on days that I don't feel like working out. Like a walk or bike ride through the park or downtown. Also I've been hearing a lot lately to tackle one goal at a time so as not to overwhelm yourself. It could be, drinking a healthy smoothie for breakfast every day, or doing something active, or just cutting your calories a little bit... baby steps. Not to do the whole diet and work out 5 days a week. Don't get discouraged! I've started and given up so many times! At least you still care about your health!

mochocki

First, you are not pathetic. You are totally normal!

I have always been the same way. I lost 50 pounds for my wedding in 2010, and both myself and my husband put back on OVER 50 pounds since then :-( I used all of those excuses.

But I've finally found something that works for me. I joined a fitness class where you have a group that goes to the class at the same time 6 days a week and they ask you to turn in your food log. I've been there for 5 weeks. To be honest, I don't see any changes in my body or how my clothes fit. Although I do know that I've lost about 10 pounds. I've been really discouraged about not SEEING the results, but I know that I'm getting stronger and building muscle. In the end, that will help me stay healthy and keep the weight off. The class lasts 10 weeks total. They keep telling all of us that if we are being faithful to the program, the results will come. Some people see them during the first 5 weeks, and others see them during the last 5 weeks. Unfortunately, I wasn't gifted with patience...probably like you.

You really just have to keep looking for a routine that will work for you. I needed others to keep me accountable, and I found it. I hope you can find the same! Just know that you are not alone!

PetulantOne

well as other will suggest check your BMR and TDEE (people suggest not to eat under bmr, and eat 10 - 20% under tdee)

and as for as
I can't afford to buy healthy food." -- beans are cheap and healthy (maybe $2 for a 1 pound bag )
"I have a meal plan... its hard to keep track of the food they have." --- eat what you enjoy that fits your goals and fill up on veggies/fruit
"I never see any results." - take measurements (scales LIE)
"I don't have time to go to the gym." -- you have a body right ? well use it .. squats, lunges, jogging in place .. all this can be done anywhere any time

just some suggestions .. you can do this hun and drop the "I am pathetic" crap .. you being here and trying proves your not

:flowerforyou:

Well put! :drinker:

blkwomban

First you need to stop beating up on yourself.

I wasn't able to lose weight for the longest time. So I set my mind to hire a trainer. Instead something better came along and I joined a program that offered exercise twice a week, classes with a dietitian once a week, a cooking session with a chef, a psychotherapy session and a trip to the supermarket to learn how to read labels. I lost 20 pounds!

The program is over and I have not been able to lose more weight. I recently hired a trainer and I work out with him two times a week in a park and I am loving every minute of it.

Did you say you are in college? Does it have a gym there? Can you attend some of the classes 3 times a week and or find a jogging buddy?

UncleMac

Life is filled with choices and each choice has a consequence... some good, some bad...

Weight loss isn't rocket science. The vast majority (ie: 80%) is what you eat. Seriously. Exercise helps but in order to lose weight, you must change your eating pattern... and do so in a manner that is sustainable otherwise you will end up gaining back every ounce.

First order of business is to address the self-esteem issue. As long as you don't care about yourself, you are doomed to continue the pattern that brought you to where you are today.

Have you considered getting the Tony Robbin's "Personal Power" tapes/cds? Tony gives good, solid advice and teaches techniques for you to improve your self esteem and make the difference in your life. I'm sure there are others who offer similar self-improvement products. I suggested Tony because I've listened to his tapes and it helped.

Good luck and remember... the big things are always made of smaller things. When you start making small changes, eventually you'll see big effects!!

djmp92

If you break and binge for a day, start again the next day.
If you want to eat fast food, do it. Just stay under the calories (remember cardiovascular activity gives you back calories).
I've literally been losing weight while eating fast food, processed food and healthy food (as well as the occasional binge ).
Show some determination and persistence. You can do it. Stop doubting yourself.

diligentjosh

I have told myself for 10 years that I need to quit smoking. Huff and puff but I never blew that house down. Well, I finally dug deep and decided that the only thing that was truly getting in the way of me defeating that hut was me. Same thing goes here. As soon as you realize that no matter what, YOU are the only thing getting in the way of what YOU want to accomplish.

Make that determination, and let it stick. I am 35 some odd days smoke free and that is the longest streak of my life, and I plan to keep breaking that record every day for the rest of my life. Nowadays, I cannot even walk on the same side of the sidewalk as a smoker, because it smells terrible. Makes me realize: is this really what I was doing to other people when I smoked? Secondhand smoke is a very terrible smell. Never realized it as much as I do these days...

taraaaal

I say i'm pathetic because I know my excuses are not legitimate. I know I am just setting myself back and I just keep letting it happen.

I forgot to mention that I don't have a kitchen, I live in a dorm. I also work two jobs and take 16 credit hours... so yeah if you know how insane that is... its RIDICULOUS.

ALSO, I cut out diet soda recently and not only drink water/tea.

kimosabe1

u need more motivation because I eat what everyone can AFFORD and bust my *kitten* working out and have disabilities up the wazoo....Type one diabetes, respiratory issues that include a throat tube, asthma, and trouble breathing and I am at the $20 gym 6 days a week and walk the seventh day. This is really all you dear....what's your excuse again?

DebbieLyn63

They don't call it Freshman 15 for nothing. College dorm life is so different than HS. You walk less, spend less time going to classes, food is always available at the caf and in your dorm room, no parents to tell you not to eat from the bag of chips, and there is alcohol which can put on the pounds. Add to that the late nights and lack of sleep, and you have the perfect storm for weight gain and poor health.

Get sleep. Regular sleep thru out the week.
Cut out alcohol if you drink. It causes problems in so many areas at your age.
Watch out for other liquid calories- sodas, juices, smoothies, red bulls, starbucks, etc.
Cut back on obvious sugars and other junk foods. Chips and cookies spike your blood sugar and make you crave more.
Eat lots of lean proteins, fresh veggies, and fresh fruit.
Choose high fiber carbs.
Snack on healthy foods, nuts, carrots, etc.
Portion servings out. Don't eat from the bag.
Drink lots of water.

You need to stop the gaining before it gets too out of hand. But don't have drastic swings of starving and binging. It's not healthy for your body and will only make you more frustrated. A slower steady loss is better than yo yo dieting.

Higher protein, fiber, and good healthy fats will help you feel fuller longer and keep you from craving and binging.
Be patient and consistent.
Don't give up. You can create healthier habits.

Katbody10

For each excuse you come up with .. make yourself 2 reasons to stick with it!

Start with Baby Steps .. don't try to slam dunk it all at once. You may need to simply start off with the mere basics.. and that's logging every thing you eat and drink for a week or so. Don't be concerned with any goals YET.

Take a good look at your diary after this initial week or 2 and see what can you change. Are you eating out a lot? do you sit and eat a bag of chips and dip in one sitting? Are you drinking a lot of sodas .. eating a lot of processed (pre-packaged) foods and meals?

Make initial adjustments small .. walk for 15-20 minutes a few times a week .. don't start with 1200 calorie a day goal .. start with only eating a deficit of 100 calories .. cutting out refined sugars .. lowering some carbs or increasing your protein and fiber. (will keep you feeling full longer)

As you begin to feel like you can stick with those little changes .. then you can up the ante .. lower your deficit by another 100 calories .. exercise longer and more often. Be patient with yourself!

This is a lifestyle change .. and hopefully one that will be life long :-) forgive yourself on days you didn't meet your goals. Don't look at them as failures .. but as reasons to work harder the next day or week :flowerforyou:

YOU CAN DO THIS!

JenKillough

Tonight I posted on my wall: "I suck. No exercise today"

One of my friends said here, do this: http://www.bodyrock.tv/2012/11/08/keep-climbing-to-your-goals/

So I stopped whining for a bit and spent about 15 minutes doing a rather kick-*kitten* workout. I got to log some exercise for the day, not feel like a pathetic loser, upped my TDEE a bit, and will now go to bed feeling a sense of accomplishment...

Switch off the negative self-talk for action. Even if only for 15 minutes. Begin to make a habit of this.

1) Eat less, 2) Move more... every day. Negative talk only hurts you.

ETA: I just saw you post that you try to eat 1200 cals... that's low. You probably need to increase you cals a little. Not sure of your height/weight but 1200 is very low. I'm 5'7" 120 lbs and eat 1600-2000 typically.

megsmom2

Ultimately it comes down to how much you want it. Fortunately you don't have to commit to a lifetime slog. All you have to do is make one good decision. One good choice...eat this, not that. Walk. Decide to have that....tomorrow. and then decide again. One choice at a time. You can do this! It isn't easy, but it is possible..,and you can do this.