A rant about ''friends''

Stace5
Stace5 Posts: 70 Member
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Sorry for the moan but this is bugging me....

I've just deleted a whole load of guys from my friends list, purely because i started to notice they ONLY had female friends! I'll happily friend anybody as long is it's for the right reasons, but to me only having friends of the opposite sex seems very creepy, and i don't want people on my friends list purely because they want to ogle pictures, there are other sites for that!!!

If you are genuinely here for motivation and support why wouldn't you at least have some friends of the same sex / similar height, weight build etc.... or friends with similar goals.

That said, if you have the right intentions i do not mind friending you :)
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  • AmberJo1984
    AmberJo1984 Posts: 1,067 Member
    That is a great reason to defriend "friends". I feel the same way. Of course... I don't think anyone would be friending me to "ogle pictures". :laugh:
  • beccannes
    beccannes Posts: 88
    Sorry for the moan but this is bugging me....

    I've just deleted a whole load of guys from my friends list, purely because i started to notice they ONLY had female friends! I'll happily friend anybody as long is it's for the right reasons, but to me only having friends of the opposite sex seems very creepy, and i don't want people on my friends list purely because they want to ogle pictures, there are other sites for that!!!

    If you are genuinely here for motivation and support why wouldn't you at least have some friends of the same sex / similar height, weight build etc.... or friends with similar goals.

    That said, if you have the right intentions i do not mind friending you :)


    I complely agree!! My husband gets female friend requests (like 10 a week) and I told him that the majority of these people request to be his friend b/c he's such a hottie! I think that is ridicoulous and that motivation should be the main focus here as well!
  • JenniBaby85
    JenniBaby85 Posts: 855 Member
    I think, I only have 2 male friends :tongue: They're awesome though!
  • Dan112358
    Dan112358 Posts: 525 Member
    Maybe your male friends had an allergy? You never know.
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
    I have not friended anyone in a very long time. All my friends were requests to be my friend. The fact that most of them are ladies is not my fault. Don't judge. It's not fair. I'm not a friend collector. Everyone needs motivation. Whatever motivates one person, may not be the same motivation for another. Cheers.
  • Stace5
    Stace5 Posts: 70 Member
    Sorry for the moan but this is bugging me....

    I've just deleted a whole load of guys from my friends list, purely because i started to notice they ONLY had female friends! I'll happily friend anybody as long is it's for the right reasons, but to me only having friends of the opposite sex seems very creepy, and i don't want people on my friends list purely because they want to ogle pictures, there are other sites for that!!!

    If you are genuinely here for motivation and support why wouldn't you at least have some friends of the same sex / similar height, weight build etc.... or friends with similar goals.

    That said, if you have the right intentions i do not mind friending you :)


    I complely agree!! My husband gets female friend requests (like 10 a week) and I told him that the majority of these people request to be his friend b/c he's such a hottie! I think that is ridicoulous and that motivation should be the main focus here as well!

    I would have to agree that you are probably right, I'm not saying we can't friend attractive people, but i'm usually drawn to request people if they make a witty comment or discuss things i'm interested in on the forums, i came to this site to lose weight and get fit, not to seek attention and flirt with people.
  • deevatude
    deevatude Posts: 322 Member
    people on here are trying to achieve the record of having the most friends on MFP.

    there arent quite as many guys on here as there are women, so i dont find it creepy.
  • Stace5
    Stace5 Posts: 70 Member
    I have not friended anyone in a very long time. All my friends were requests to be my friend. The fact that most of them are ladies is not my fault. Don't judge. It's not fair. I'm not a friend collector. Everyone needs motivation. Whatever motivates one person, may not be the same motivation for another. Cheers.

    It was more the fact that they did not have ONE male friend that made me defriend them, especially as some of them had hundreds of friends. That to me seems very odd.
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
    I have not friended anyone in a very long time. All my friends were requests to be my friend. The fact that most of them are ladies is not my fault. Don't judge. It's not fair. I'm not a friend collector. Everyone needs motivation. Whatever motivates one person, may not be the same motivation for another. Cheers.

    It was more the fact that they did not have ONE male friend that made me defriend them, especially as some of them had hundreds of friends. That to me seems very odd.

    MFP doubles as a dating site. So, there's that aspect of it. :) For us single guys, it can be fun. It's not all innocent you know.
  • Stace5
    Stace5 Posts: 70 Member
    I have not friended anyone in a very long time. All my friends were requests to be my friend. The fact that most of them are ladies is not my fault. Don't judge. It's not fair. I'm not a friend collector. Everyone needs motivation. Whatever motivates one person, may not be the same motivation for another. Cheers.

    It was more the fact that they did not have ONE male friend that made me defriend them, especially as some of them had hundreds of friends. That to me seems very odd.

    MFP doubles as a dating site. So, there's that aspect of it. :) For us single guys, it can be fun. It's not all innocent you know.

    I'm not saying that it can't, everyone's welcome to have their fun, but i personally only want friends for motivation and support, I have no interest in using it as a dating site.
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
    I have not friended anyone in a very long time. All my friends were requests to be my friend. The fact that most of them are ladies is not my fault. Don't judge. It's not fair. I'm not a friend collector. Everyone needs motivation. Whatever motivates one person, may not be the same motivation for another. Cheers.

    It was more the fact that they did not have ONE male friend that made me defriend them, especially as some of them had hundreds of friends. That to me seems very odd.

    MFP doubles as a dating site. So, there's that aspect of it. :) For us single guys, it can be fun. It's not all innocent you know.

    I'm not saying that it can't, everyone's welcome to have their fun, but i personally only want friends for motivation and support, I have no interest in using it as a dating site.

    ...and I totally respect that. I have lots of women friends that are happily married and all that. It's no big deal to me. I love the motivation some of them give me, and I try to help them when they need a good kick in the *kitten*. Eh. I guess it's a non-issue for me. Doesn't matter.
  • MrsWilsoncroft
    MrsWilsoncroft Posts: 968 Member
    I'll defriend anyone if they get creepy lol!
  • Jongfaith
    Jongfaith Posts: 195
    Yeah I have defriended people in my real life over excess creepiness and it has nothing to do with the gender of that person. Never here but sure I could see that happening.
  • _Wits_
    _Wits_ Posts: 1,286 Member
    Considering this site is overloaded with females, I don't find it creepy nor would I make an assumption about someone based on who is on their FL.
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
    :In my best jacwhite voice:


    You have pretty hair, I bet it smells nice.
  • Cranktastic
    Cranktastic Posts: 1,517 Member
    :In my best jacwhite voice:


    You have pretty hair, I bet it smells nice.

    heh.
    just take me now.
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    I get at LEAST 10 FR's a week, almost all of them females. I have an auto-accept policy for most mens and for the females I check the profile and see if they're supportive, their eating habits etc.

    STILL with all this care, if you look at my friends list you would say that I'm a creeper who collects females, een though I rarely send any females an FR.

    The ratio of men to women on this site is ridiculous. Do not judge anyone based on this
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    :In my best jacwhite voice:


    You have pretty hair, I bet it smells nice.

    all he says to me is "Only YOU can prevent wild fire"

    Of course, he knows that, thats all he needs to say to me :)
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
    Hi Taunto.
  • _JR_
    _JR_ Posts: 830 Member
    I have not friended anyone in a very long time. All my friends were requests to be my friend. The fact that most of them are ladies is not my fault. Don't judge. It's not fair. I'm not a friend collector. Everyone needs motivation. Whatever motivates one person, may not be the same motivation for another. Cheers.

    Ditto to this.
  • FabMrFox
    FabMrFox Posts: 259 Member
    I have not friended anyone in a very long time. All my friends were requests to be my friend. The fact that most of them are ladies is not my fault. Don't judge. It's not fair. I'm not a friend collector. Everyone needs motivation. Whatever motivates one person, may not be the same motivation for another. Cheers.

    Ditto to this.

    same.
  • ILoveTheBrowns
    ILoveTheBrowns Posts: 661 Member
    boo hoo
  • skinnyinnotime
    skinnyinnotime Posts: 4,078 Member
    I'm not sure what's to rant about, you didn't like it so deleted them, end of.

    People send FR for different reasons, I don't send many but when I do I have various reasons for doing so.
  • RunMyOregonBunsOff
    RunMyOregonBunsOff Posts: 862 Member
    I was going to mention that a there is a lot more females than males that populate this site, but I have turned down requests because they didn't have male friends at all before. I do have one friend like that and a couple that are close to it. The one that doesn't have any is starting to train for a marathon and I'm doing my first half a week from tomorrow so that's the only reason I accepted his FR. I mostly just don't comment on their stuff unless it's diet/fitness related and they can ogle all their little groupies pics if that's what they're into.
  • cgarand
    cgarand Posts: 541 Member
    I can't say I have ever scanned through the friends list of any of my MFP friends, male or female. So, I have no idea if they have only female friends. Trolling through their lists seems a little creepy to me. :laugh:
  • Stace5
    Stace5 Posts: 70 Member
    I can't say I have ever scanned through the friends list of any of my MFP friends, male or female. So, I have no idea if they have only female friends. Trolling through their lists seems a little creepy to me. :laugh:

    Its actually something I started to notice in general, so I did a quick scan of their list for this reason only. I'm not desperate for friends so if people just want to 'collect' friends without actually communicating then it's my choice to delete them.

    Why one earth would a middle aged man only want to be friends with people that could be deemed as young attractive females if it's not to creep. I'm not saying people can't be friends but what on earth is wrong with having at least SOME friends with similar goals.
  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    This is why I have "decoy" friends.


    But seriously, it is your choice. Some women don't want any male friends on MFP. Do what suits you.
  • Stace5
    Stace5 Posts: 70 Member
    This is why I have "decoy" friends.


    But seriously, it is your choice. Some women don't want any male friends on MFP. Do what suits you.

    Haha you're obviously a smart guy... :) either that or a very experienced creep.
  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,733 Member
    6% of the people on my very tiny friends list are dudes.

    does that meet with your approval, or should i take corrective action? :huh:
  • Stace5
    Stace5 Posts: 70 Member
    6% of the people on my very tiny friends list are dudes.

    does that meet with your approval, or should i take corrective action? :huh:

    Like I said... It's 0% that's bothers me, something about that just puts me off.

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