Offline to Online Friendships

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  • Edwin_S
    Edwin_S Posts: 440 Member
    Sorry to hear youre having troubles. Social media can be a great resource for connecting with people just like yourself, but it can also just be a pain in the butt because people can literally claim to be anyone or anything they want. I’m always happy to make new friends, and will usually give people the benefit of the doubt to start with, its too bad that you have some bad apples to spoil the bunch.

    A few years ago I had an ex girlfriend who I asked to leave me alone, but she would constantly find ways to be included in my day to day, be it standing within earshot of my conversations at church to try and see what I was up to or repeatedly showing up at my retail job claiming she was just shopping, the list goes on…. This went on for some time.

    I started seeing someone new and thought she might get the hint it was time to move on but instead she started showing up at the new GFs work and stalking her too. I ended up talking to the stalkers parents, who ended up calling the police on me for making claims against their daughter. All in all the stalking stopped. I’m not saying involve the police, but if it does get a little creepy don’t be afraid to at least file a report. That way its all recorded if per chance she does decide to come after you.

    Hope it all turns out well for you.

    Edwin
  • penrbrown
    penrbrown Posts: 2,685 Member
    Sorry to hear youre having troubles. Social media can be a great resource for connecting with people just like yourself, but it can also just be a pain in the butt because people can literally claim to be anyone or anything they want. I’m always happy to make new friends, and will usually give people the benefit of the doubt to start with, its too bad that you have some bad apples to spoil the bunch.

    A few years ago I had an ex girlfriend who I asked to leave me alone, but she would constantly find ways to be included in my day to day, be it standing within earshot of my conversations at church to try and see what I was up to or repeatedly showing up at my retail job claiming she was just shopping, the list goes on…. This went on for some time.

    I started seeing someone new and thought she might get the hint it was time to move on but instead she started showing up at the new GFs work and stalking her too. I ended up talking to the stalkers parents, who ended up calling the police on me for making claims against their daughter. All in all the stalking stopped. I’m not saying involve the police, but if it does get a little creepy don’t be afraid to at least file a report. That way its all recorded if per chance she does decide to come after you.

    Hope it all turns out well for you.

    Edwin

    Thank you for weighing in. :)

    I know things will work out. I just find it interesting how people can seem normal and then make themselves appear completely crazy when social media is introduced.
  • 1shauna1
    1shauna1 Posts: 993 Member
    For the texting lady, tell her your cellphone plan is changing and you can't send free texts anymore. So, she should expect that you won't respond to texts from her. As mentioned for the FB woman, either hide her feed, or just delete it. I sometimes don't even notice if someone I'm not really friends with (an acquaintance or whatever) has deleted me (or at least not for a while). And then if they ask you why you deleted them, just tell them you're cleaning up your friend's list and just keeping real life friends.
  • currierand
    currierand Posts: 155 Member
    Don't worry, someday you'll be old and bitter like me.
  • Stacyplus5
    Stacyplus5 Posts: 493
    Just about everytime I go to town I run into a crazy person. My husband says I must attract the crazies. My boys and I were in the pharmacy and some dude in cut off blue jeans and unbutton shirt comes up to me and ask me to go look in his trator-trailer bed to tell me what kind of spider he had. I told him I was scared of spiders no thanks, left...fast.
  • lorijh72
    lorijh72 Posts: 118 Member
    I don't speak to strangers!

    I can't STOP speaking to strangers!!! It's like a sickness. I just love everyone! Until they get all weird and freaky on me. :P
    I work in a psych hospital...please stop being so trusting not everyone is good be cautious and keep you guard up... remember when you was a little girl the words STRANGER DANGER keep your distance and stay safe!!!!!!
  • penrbrown
    penrbrown Posts: 2,685 Member
    I don't speak to strangers!

    I can't STOP speaking to strangers!!! It's like a sickness. I just love everyone! Until they get all weird and freaky on me. :P
    I work in a psych hospital...please stop being so trusting not everyone is good be cautious and keep you guard up... remember when you was a little girl the words STRANGER DANGER keep your distance and stay safe!!!!!!

    ): Sounds like a really sad way to live. I'll just be me thanks. If some psycho ends up chopping me to pieces, at least I lived my life the way I wanted to, rather then in fear. :P
  • JezzD1
    JezzD1 Posts: 431
    This made me laugh so hard. :laugh:
  • chubbygirl253
    chubbygirl253 Posts: 1,309 Member
    I think this why my friend thinks its so weird that I talk to strangers all the time. But I can't stop. That being said, I have never been on facebook but I'd prolly delete the snotty chick. If her bf mentions it just say you thought she was mean so you deleted her. Chances are he knows she's mean. And he prolly knows she doesn't like you anyway. For the texter you just need to explain when you are working you don't see the texts so she doesn't need to have a conniption if you can't get back to her right away. I wouldn't keep putting up with her tantrums. If it continues and if you have a smartphone download a free app that you can block texts and calls so you don't have to be bothered by her crazy.

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