I seriously hate life..

paradise_runs

I have honestly, the perfect solution! Hear me out --
So, I had hit my top weight in January 2012. I ended up losing 20 lbs by a change in eating. But of course, fell off and gained it right back! In August I was introduced to some people who are passionate about creating a healthy change for people. They asked me to join a challenge group via facebook - completely online based - where I would track my exercise and eating EVERY DAY. I had a team of people behind me and the support was absolutely unbelievable!! Since, I have lost 25" doing P90X and using MFP. And I have become a beachbody coach (makes of P90X, Insanity, Etc). If this is something you could be interested, please feel free to contact me on here and I can set you up in my challenge group on facebook for the extra support, motivation, tips, laughs, etc.!!
I was once at a dead end, just felt so depressed and like I couldn't control my own life. This challenge group sincerely changed my life.

fraser112

I have had so much success for the first 6 months and its almost like i have been bumped off the wagon and it sped off, because i can't seem to get back on it anymore. I try so hard to stick to the goal and before i know it those calories are gone and im over, every day ive been over. im so tired of doing this alone, with no one really there to motivate me. I feel like such a failure. Im so depressed. its so much pressure to lose weight and im PMSing and it feels like every bite i put in my mouth its just vaporizing, I cant seem to feel satisfied anymore. I go to the gym and i dont feel like im making a bit of difference and everyone around me just eats whatever they want. And even small amounts seems to add up in calories before i know it.

I dont even know why im venting here because all thats going to end up happening is people are going to tell me just to keep trying. All the same redundant speeches they give everyone else. i fail and am alone with everything else in life, why not this too.

You have bigger issues than we can address i think you need to talk to someone as these feelings all stem from something else and no amount of weight loss/anti depressents or support will fix it only mask it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KnC_VsEcFiM&feature=channel&list=UL

cebreisch

Going through the EXACT same thing myself. DId so great for the first year to 15 months, and suddently, it's as if I wasn't happy just falling off the wagon, but had to get in front of it and let it hit and roll over me a few times too!! It's so hard not to let those feelings overtake you. I just went through 3 weeks of BLECK....had my grandfather pass away on my daughters birthday, and had 3 birthdays in the last 2 weeks with cake and halloween candy and all going on. Yes, my weight loss efforts suffered, and it seemed like I was always hungry...Part of that had to be stress taking it's toll, because I usually eat when I'm stressed - well, truthfully I can eat for any occasion - happy, sad, tired, bored, it's raining, it's pouring, we're in a drought, hey was that snow? and THAT GUY JUST CUT ME OFF! and NOW, next week is Thanksgiving - lest we forget all the Christmas candy that's ALREADY in the stores!! UGH!!

As it says in "don't sweat the small stuff" - make peace with imperfection. It always seems like the more perfect I try to be, the more easily and the more faster I get derailed. Know that it's going to happen and try to get back on track without beating yourself up about it.

It's all about taking more steps in the right direction than not - but don't forget the "2steps forward 1 step back" - it's part of the human condition to not be perfectly perfect - but we can still get there!!!

Yesterday was my other daughters birthday, and she asked for cupcakes instead of a cake. I went to the bakery and got 4 cupcakes, 1 for each family member. I knew I was going to have a cupcake, and tried very hard to just enjoy the moment. I actually did so much so to the point I remembered, "Ah yes, this is a big part of the reason I'm on this journey."

And yes, it would help to get a therapist or counselor. I've had one since I started this journey, and he's had gastric bypass surgery so it isn't as if he doesn't understand what I'm going through. I never would have thought it would help, but it really has helped a lot.

Good luck! And you can do it!!!

IronDame

I dont even know why im venting here because all thats going to end up happening is people are going to tell me just to keep trying. All the same redundant speeches they give everyone else. i fail and am alone with everything else in life, why not this too.

Well I won't give you the same redundant speech. Only YOU can make this change, YOU have to want it bad enough. No one is going to make up get up off your butt and put into the work, but YOU. Stop whining and work on making a difference in your life. Or just give up if that is what you want to do. You have to be sick and tired of being sick and tired in order to make a full blown change. Either go for it or give up.

hdjjones

If you still have some clothes you wore when you were 46 lbs heavier (which you really shouldn't-get rid of them, your not going to ever need them again) anyway, if you do still have some, put them on. Do you really want to go back to wearing those clothes in that size?
Find some people who will support you, in person, not on a website, like at a weight loss class or maybe just a couple friends to confide in. Share with them, support each other, not just on weight issues, but life (all kinds of issues people have).
And finally, wake up in the morning and take a look in the mirror. Tell yourself how much you love you. Then smile and smile all day. Smile at people you don't even know.