Stay At Home Mom SUPER Discouraged

barb1241

I am already doing those kinds of things, more or less. I would be delighted to have you as a friend. Please feel free to add me.

Start NOW and make one small change at a time. Your list of "resolutions" is pretty big to try and inplement all at once. Remember the joke about how to eat an elephant? One bite at a time. Maybe just try to cut out sugar, or pop or whatever thing you can do to give you an accomplishment instead of failing at a bunch of things. Get that single thing under control first, then pick another-like walking around the block or parking further away from the entrance at the grocery store, or whatever like that. And so on. It is very, very difficult to go from one extreme to the other in a single shot, so give yourself a chance by taking it step by step. Don't think about what you are trying to do next year. Do it just for this moment. One minute at a time and repeat over and over as many times as it takes.

Please don't give up!

Barb

KipDrordy

You're too worried about the how. You don't need to schedule small meals every 2 hours to lose weight. I basically eat two meals a day that includes more junk food than I care to admit (my diary is open to all), yet I'm losing weight. You don't need a specific fitness routine. I'm not very active at all. All that matters is that by the end of the day/week that you are in a calorie deficit. Fitness is obviously important, but you can get plenty of that by just changing a few things in your daily routine. You'd be surprised how many extra calories you can burn by doing a few things differently. For instance, vacuum your house twice as often. Stand rather than sit. When you pick up toys or clothes, turn it into exercise by doing four or five squats per item you pick up. If you have a full basket of laundry, carry it up and down the stairs several times. All these little things add up. Some people get pedometers or heart monitors. You can get them rather cheaply and it's a great way to view where you're at every day and challenge yourself to top the previous day.

KipDrordy

I am already doing those kinds of things, more or less. I would be delighted to have you as a friend. Please feel free to add me.

Start NOW and make one small change at a time. Your list of "resolutions" is pretty big to try and inplement all at once. Remember the joke about how to eat an elephant? One bite at a time. Maybe just try to cut out sugar, or pop or whatever thing you can do to give you an accomplishment instead of failing at a bunch of things. Get that single thing under control first, then pick another-like walking around the block or parking further away from the entrance at the grocery store, or whatever like that. And so on. It is very, very difficult to go from one extreme to the other in a single shot, so give yourself a chance by taking it step by step. Don't think about what you are trying to do next year. Do it just for this moment. One minute at a time and repeat over and over as many times as it takes.

Please don't give up!

Barb

I agree 100%.

HypersonicFitNess

I didn't have 100 lbs to lose but that is exactly how I lost 35lbs in 6 months at the age of 38. I'm now 43. I will also tell you I wasn't a SAHM at the time, instead I worked 60 hours/week minimum with a 3-4 hour daily commute, as well as being a full time mom and carting my kid to practices, Bible study, paintballing, etc. I did it by planning each week on the weekend (usually on Sunday). I made my meal plan for the week, logged it in, wrote my grocery list, compared it to what I had on hand, then went to the store (and it usually meant two stores - the Whole Foods for things I couldn't get at the regular grocery and the regular grocery to save money on those items I could get there).

I have a lot of meal plans from when I was on eDiets (low glycemic) as well as raw food diet (I did a 16 week course and incorporate this into my diet now).

I also have lots of exercise workout routines from eDiets, Jillian Michaels (I was on her website for a while, but I didn't lose a single pound), I have also create my own from the other two as well as my years from teaching Mixed Martial Arts.

Feel free to Friend me or message me; I just sent a bunch of meal plans, recipes to my sister who still needs to lose 100 lbs and a friend who also needs to lose at least 100 if not more and she's also feeling discouraged. I'm trying to get them both to join on here... maybe I'll get them on here, yet.

bcl003

Ok I'm not a SAHM, but wish I was!! Here is what I got for you though: I am a horrible house cleaner, so I wanted to find something that would help with that and I did. The magical thing that helped me was Flylady.com, what does this have to do with you losing weight you think to yourself?? Well the thing Flylady taught/teaches me is that babysteps are really important. The reason I always fail when I think to myself I am going to get organized/fit/healthy/an education etc. was because I tried to do it all at once. I try to change all of my horrible habits at one time, I overwhelm myself and then I give up. So Flylady's ideas work for me, I am getting my house under control, started monthly (bi-weekly cause thats how my pay days fall) menu planning which in turn helps me watch what I eat because I have something planned and don't just turn right to frozen pizza for dinner saving me tons of calories (cause I can't eat pizza w/out ranch, lol!), I am less stressed. It helps, even if you don't need help with the cleaning aspect she has many ideas that are pretty awesome, like you can do anything for 15 minutes (like workout) or you are never behind (so why restart every Monday??). Just check out her site and some of these ideas can definitly apply to you obtaining your goals. Good luck.

sarahrbraun

You just typed my story...earlier this year I hit my all time high of 228.4lbs. That is a TON on my 5'2" frame.
I have only lost 32lbs, but my body has changed SO much. Just in the last month, I started using *real* weights, and I can now leg press 16lbs MORE than I weigh. I can only squat 65#, but I am hoping to get to 100lbs by Christmas.

I completely agree with you here - start SMALL, in fact SUPER SMALL.

I have been at MFP since last year and would just give up after some time counting calories. After one year I figured, diet was not the way for me. I CANNOT survive on a 1200 cal diet. I just can't. I can't even log food - I hate that.

Then this time around, I said, forget the calories, I want to be able to walk without losing my breath at least or turn in my car without feeling so creaky. Heck, I am 27 and felt like my body was that of a 55 year old. And I am a medical doctor, and after dealing with patients there was no way I wanted to end up with co-morbids by the time I hit 40!

I thought it starts now or never.

So I have worked out 4-5 times a week since August 2012, anywhere between 30 min and 1 hr 30 mins depending on if I need to catch up on my strength training.

Three months later in November, I can cycle for 45 mins at 27-30km/hr, without getting exhausted. I can walk 6 km in 1 hr with ease. I can do p90 cardio and fat burner workouts back to back with ease.

I started the 30DS but left it - I like going through my moves entirely, and with 30DS I felt I could not concentrate on the form. Mind you, I was not sore after doing 4 days of it because my body could take it.

I am 5 feet 1 inch, 64.5 kgs (around 144 pounds), and am definitely over-weight bordering on obese given my petite frame.

Have I lost weight? Nope. Just a fluctuation of 3-4 kgs here and there.

I am a voracious eater, and eat 1800 to 2000 cals on an average day. so I am guessing it's all being maintained.. But have I gained weight, nope again.

But I have stopped looking at the scales. Not worth it.

My butt has shrunk from 45 inches to 41 inches (I am naturally pear shaped and even when I was 47 kgs had a 36 inch butt), and it no longer sticks out in that ugly manner. It's round and smooth, and I do admire it. I have lost inches from my stomach, my thighs - I can fit into jeans and tights that I could not pull up half way through my thighs.

But what I am most proud of is the immense stamina I have, my movements require less effort, I don't lose energy over simple tasks, I feel my body has a RHYTHM!!!

So my advice to you, start moving. As simple as getting out of your home, and walking round the block. Do it for 20 mins, and then increase the time by 10 mins every day. Add an easy on the knees pilates workout, I have this video which has a 20 min pilates warm up, I did that before walking.

Do not do high-impact exercises if you haven't moved for the longest while. It will be discouraging.

Most of all, take out time for yourself. If you don't love yourself, no one else will. I know I am still not perfect, if someone else had been logging their food and eating clean, they would have lost 10-15 kgs with the amount of effort I put in. But you know what I stopped comparing myself to them. I am happy with what I have.

I feel ya. I didn't mention the fact that this time last year I was on my THIRD case of bronchitis/ asthma flare. In February when I started working out, I was only about 5-6 weeks out from my last case of bronchitis ( a total of 4 in 4 months!). The first month about killed me to walk 30 minutes at 2mph. I would literally be dripping with sweat and stumbling when I got off the treadmill. I'm not sure when it happened, but I realized a while back that I don't sweat on the treadmill anymore, even though I do 30 minutes of hill intervals at 3.2 or 3.3mph.

teschy123

I know we are already friends and feel free to IM whenever you need!! I am also a SAHM!! You can do this just start out small!!! I started out by just cutting out all sugary drinks except for my morning coffee, once I got that down I started watching what I was eating more!! Eventually I got to the point where I didn't feel good about myself if I was working out and eating better!!! Just take every day as a brand new day!!! Also don't feel bad if you do have a bad day, just start the next day hit refresh!!!! Seriously send me a message whenever you need help!!!