Alone, or share?

iuew

though i'm not the jealous type, i pick alone. sharing romantic partners usually ends in disaster. count me out.

rosesigil

I'd share him--but I would constantly compete with the other woman for his full attention.

HelloSweetie4

I don't find this to be a philosophy issue. This situation of sharing your love exists and can work well in the correct circumstances.

Food for thought (from wikipedia):
Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly], meaning "many" or "several", and Latin amor, "love") is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. It is distinct from both swinging (which emphasizes sex with others as merely recreational) and polysexuality (which is attraction towards multiple genders and/or sexes)[citation needed].

Polyamory, often abbreviated as poly, is often described as "consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy." The word is sometimes used in a broader sense to refer to sexual or romantic relationships that are not sexually exclusive, though there is disagreement on how broadly it applies; an emphasis on ethics, honesty, and transparency all around is widely regarded as the crucial defining characteristic.

I fully agree!!

And Kudos! Not many people I've encountered know what "polyamorous" actually means.

Personally, I consider it "philosophical" because it is quite debatable. Funny how when it comes to carbs/protein/cals, this site is ALL about jumping down each other's throats. But this particular thread is cut and dry thus far.

I would determine it more towards a sociological subject (I was a sociology major, I crave this stuff)

MemphisKitten

I used to believe in true love; not anymore.
I would rather be alone.

MyPsalm63

ALONE

farfoorah

Forever alone!

RodSuarez

I'll rather share than have no sex, and as I say if I get the double deal [poly] would be cool with me

Jonesingmucho

I'd share...and even attend his lover's funeral to comfort him after her fatal "accident". jk jk

stinkpurty

Clarification on the no sex thing...does alone mean I can't have "toys"?

supertracylynn

Clarification on the no sex thing...does alone mean I can't have "toys"?

Toys are always welcome!

But if you choose to be alone, no mutual *kitten*, webcams, videos, etc.

RodSuarez

Clarification on the no sex thing...does alone mean I can't have "toys"?

Toys are always welcome!

But if you choose to be alone, no mutual *kitten*, webcams, videos, etc.

alone implies no sex right? I was right then?

supertracylynn

Clarification on the no sex thing...does alone mean I can't have "toys"?

Toys are always welcome!

But if you choose to be alone, no mutual *kitten*, webcams, videos, etc.

alone implies no sex right? I was right then?

I "ETA"d that it means no sex, at all

RodSuarez

then let's love begin!

shiraLA

Alone. Been there and didn't find out until later. Never want to feel that way again.

deadmittens

I'd probably allow them someone on the side if it was that or be alone, but I'd be a raging jealous b****

stinkpurty

Clarification on the no sex thing...does alone mean I can't have "toys"?

Toys are always welcome!

But if you choose to be alone, no mutual *kitten*, webcams, videos, etc.

I still think I'd pick sharing. Toys have their purpose, but they aren't the same as being with an actual person.

RodSuarez

I still think I'd pick sharing. Toys have their purpose, but they aren't the same as being with an actual person.

we've got feelings too lady!

stinkpurty

I still think I'd pick sharing. Toys have their purpose, but they aren't the same as being with an actual person.

we've got feelings too lady!

I thought we were talking about sex. Don't need feelings muddying that up.

RodSuarez

I still think I'd pick sharing. Toys have their purpose, but they aren't the same as being with an actual person.

we've got feelings too lady!

I thought we were talking about sex. Don't need feelings muddying that up.

well I am but if I am going to be somebodies regular boytoy I want to know I'm giving them something they need and don't get somewhere else so there's a bond - so it makes me feel special haha

RubyRed8067

alone

stinkpurty

I still think I'd pick sharing. Toys have their purpose, but they aren't the same as being with an actual person.

we've got feelings too lady!

I thought we were talking about sex. Don't need feelings muddying that up.

well I am but if I am going to be somebodies regular boytoy I want to know I'm giving them something they need and don't get somewhere else so there's a bond - so it makes me feel special haha

Don't be jealous of something powered by a 9-volt battery. It never appreciates the sandwich I make for it afterwards. It just lies there and ignores me.

RodSuarez

mramirez1981

Share. However, I will share the wife during certain times. PMS, When she is working, when her mother is visiting, etc...

LOL - cracked me up

mramirez1981

Both choices suck, but I'd go with share and hope it's a bit exciting.

fat2fitKara

I see myself having kids eventually so I would have to say alone, and then I would adopt. My definition of family is unconditional love and I believe your partner sharing your love would be a limitation.

I could never share the person I was with and would never want to be "shared" either. I am with an amazing man right now, and if we felt that we needed more than what each other could provide to be happy then we would not be together. plain and simple.

My boyfriend's parents were in a polyamarous relationship for over ten years (his mother lived in the united states and his father was living on a military base in germany) and it was extremely detrimental to their relationship and family. I won't even begin to explain the damage done to the kids.. But his mother has stated that if they let the relationship run it's course as a monogamous couple then they would not have been together, she said that having a boyfriend with a husband just let her run away from the problems she was having with her husband. She said if they were in a monogamous relationship then they would have both been miserable and would have seen that they should not be together. She said when they agreed to these relationship terms they were both admitting that they didn't love each other like they once did and that it was easier to have a poly relationship then to get a divorce.

supertracylynn

To put it out there...

It's unfair to expect one person to be EVERYTHING.

fat2fitKara

To put it out there...

It's unfair to expect one person to be EVERYTHING.

I completely agree, but only because nobody should expect EVERYTHING from ANY relationship. My sister provides support to me in ways my boyfriend never could but that doesn't mean I'm going to start a romantic relationship with her. I don't expect ANYTHING from my boyfriend except unconditional love and if he wasn't able to give me that because he was shareing it with somebody else then he wouldn't be my boyfriend for long. And if he felt like he needed somebody else because my love wasn't enough, then again, we wouldn't be together. Everyday we have so many interactions and relationships that make us who we are and to expect to get everything we need from one person is ridiculous.. but that doesn't mean we should start romantic relationships with people who provide for us in any ways that our significant other can't...

oregonzoo

Share.
I basically share right now, being long distance.

EatClean_WashUrNuts

Sharing...the more the merrier.

etoiles_argentees

To put it out there...

It's unfair to expect one person to be EVERYTHING.

Fair or not, if one person isn't enough I'd rather be alone.