Lost 15lb and nobody is noticing !

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  • Articeluvsmemphis
    Articeluvsmemphis Posts: 1,987 Member
    Sorry to clog the boards up with this trivial one all, I just wonder if anybody else is having this issue, I feel better healthwise and also mood wise. I just would like to know where this stone has gone !, I still have a tonne to go though and have a belly like a pregnant woman that wont shift !

    took about 30 pounds for people to notice for me
  • ptbodacious
    ptbodacious Posts: 65 Member
    EXACTLY! I have a picture of myself in my head and no matter what I weigh - big or small - I still look like that picture in my head. At 55 pounds down, I don't see myself as any different than I did when I was 55 pounds heavier or 50 pounds lighter. DH however, said last weekend "You finally look like yourself again - it was getting hard to see you in there when you were that heavy." I think it was a compliment.....:grumble:
  • gazzarelio
    gazzarelio Posts: 13
    EXACTLY! I have a picture of myself in my head and no matter what I weigh - big or small - I still look like that picture in my head. At 55 pounds down, I don't see myself as any different than I did when I was 55 pounds heavier or 50 pounds lighter. DH however, said last weekend "You finally look like yourself again - it was getting hard to see you in there when you were that heavy." I think it was a compliment.....:grumble:

    lol what a lovely thing to say !, bet you were so happy...............
  • shanpwn
    shanpwn Posts: 66 Member
    I'm down 21 lbs with only 31 to lose total and people are only commenting now. Many didn't want to say anything because they thought I might not be losing on purpose or it might be stress or something else unpleasant. I'm small and even 10 lbs loss was noticeable on me but most people avoided saying something out of politeness.
  • gazzarelio
    gazzarelio Posts: 13
    well done, great effort and I guess I never really saw the angle most are portraying, somebody said earlier people dont mention when you put weight on either apart from sarcy friends
  • repmlrs
    repmlrs Posts: 154
    i know it sucks when people dont notice right away but hey your doing it for you not for them right?
  • MemphisKitten
    MemphisKitten Posts: 878 Member
    People do notice. They won't say anything because it's not polite to comment on someone's weight. Unless you lose like 50 lbs (3.5 stone), don't expect anyone to comment out loud. But trust me, they are noticing!!
  • Brian_VA
    Brian_VA Posts: 125
    I don't think it has as much to do with how much you lose, but how much % you lose. You've lost about 6%. If a 135lb woman lost 15 lbs, that would be 11%. If you weight 350 lbs, losing 15 lbs would be 4%. The higher the percentage, the more noticeable.

    It also has something to do with where your genetics have you lose weight first. If it comes off your face first, people notice faster than if it is coming off your body.

    When I was in my serious losing phase, I was lifting heavy. The first comment anyone made is to say that I looking like I had been packing on some serious muscle. Then at lunch someone said something about me dropping serious weight, and everyone started saying they couldn't believe how much smaller I had gotten. It's like people think its rude or something to comment on someone else's weight. I guess if someone were dropping weight because of a serious illness it could be rude.

    Anyway - the one person that matters is you. If you are feeling better, and you are seeing the progress in the mirror, others will notice too. May just take them some time.
  • pickledginger
    pickledginger Posts: 172
    People can be pretty oblivious. I cut 15" off my hair once and dyed it bright red. I got two comments at work: "Have you lost weight?" and "Are those new glasses?"
  • Bevkus
    Bevkus Posts: 274 Member
    Two thoughts spring to mind...the first...I bet nobody said anything to you when you GAINED 15 or 25 lbs!! Its good the people who love you love you for who you are...and are pleased with you no matter what weight you are.

    The second comment....for people to notice one generally has to start wearing smaller clothes, new clothes. If youve lost weight and are still putting on your fat clthes the weight loss is virtually covered up by fabric!!

    Stay strong no matter what!!

    You acn do this!
  • juncture
    juncture Posts: 129 Member
    The second comment....for people to notice one generally has to start wearing smaller clothes, new clothes. If youve lost weight and are still putting on your fat clthes the weight loss is virtually covered up by fabric!!

    This was what I was going to say, my partner has lost a bit of weight recently and I'd started to notice it a little in his face but I noticed even more when he started wearing clothes that were smaller, before he was wearing t-shirts that were baggy to start with so it was harder to notice the weight loss :)
  • DannyMussels
    DannyMussels Posts: 1,842 Member
    Keep in mind, most people see you every day, so they don't see a 15lb loss. They're seeing 4-5oz disappearing every day or two...meaning, they see a slight, slight change over a long period of time.

    At work, nobody really commented on my 20lb loss over the summer, except one waitress who works opposite shifts than me. She finally saw me for the first time in 2-3 months, and surely noticed.
  • torrini
    torrini Posts: 78 Member
    I've lost 13 lbs and even though nobody has right out come and said it, that I've lost weight, I can see that people have noticed in ways like my better confidence levels and how my clothes fit and such. But don't be discouraged, 13 or even 15 lbs is not that "much" yet (though it's an amazing accomplishment for sure) and weight is just generally such a sensitive subject that I think most people just kind of shy from talking about it. I'm sure when you've lost another 15 lbs or how much you want to lose then people will definitely start noticing! Keep at it! :)
  • barb1241
    barb1241 Posts: 324 Member
    I lost nearly 50 lbs before anyone noticed. If people see you every day, the change is so gradual that is is not as obvious as if they see you nly before and after. And if you're like most of us, it doesn't necessarily come off of whatever makes you look thinner. For example, I'm now around 64 pounds lost and my face is still fat. The area at the top of my butt and the ottom of my back has slimmed down the most so far, and the jeans in a smaller size are much looser in the legs and butt than in the stomach area of the waist. Be patient and keep up the good work. Your body will know even if other people can't tell yet.

    Barb
  • Simone_King
    Simone_King Posts: 467 Member
    No one notes me until around 28 to 30 pounds..
  • thatjulesgirl
    thatjulesgirl Posts: 200 Member
    I know what you mean! Don't get discouraged though... if you're feeling better etc then it's aaaalll worth it ;)

    There seem to be a few hard-and-fast rules with people 'noticing' weight-loss.

    1) Most people don't like to admit it but they're completely self-absorbed (yes, including me and you), and probably don't notice other people's stuff as much as they should. Give them time to pull their heads out and eventually they'll look up and think WOW YOU LOOK INCREDIBLE

    2) Especially with friends of the same sex, I tend to find there's an initial period of friendship re-adjustment. Often they've put you in their little box as 'the fat friend' and can go a bit mental / jealous / weird / unsure when they realise you're jail-breaking!

    3) Like another poster said - you gotta FLAUNT it! In this over PC world, if someone is scared they'll offend or accidentally encourage an eating disorder or something extreme, they'll shut their mouths and ignore it. Don't be afraid to tell people how proud you are of yourself and that you're making healthy choices and feel better for it - and don't hide your shrinking bod under baggy saggy clothes. WORK IT!!

    And when all else fails, come here. MFP is full of awesomely supportive, understanding peeps :D


    By the way, OP.... have you lost weight?? YOU LOOK AMAZING!! :flowerforyou:
  • P05T5CRIPT
    P05T5CRIPT Posts: 285 Member
    I lost over 28lbs before anyone noticed, and now I've lost 57lbs, some people still haven't noticed! Crazy, but then again some folks don't like to comment on your weight in case it may offend.

    Lose weight for you, don't sweat it if no-one notices for a while, just keep going :flowerforyou:
  • Rachlmale
    Rachlmale Posts: 640 Member
    It depends on your size and who is noticing. A lot of people may see it but not say anything. I was about 30 pounds before 'outside the family' people started commenting.
  • dga226
    dga226 Posts: 224 Member
    my family never says boy you look good or nothing i use to wear a size 52 pants now i can get in my 48 and when i wear the 52 and show them how much room still nothing. but my sister who is luck to be 140 or so if she loses a pound or goes walking we hear about it all the time. i was always the chubby one but i am trying to get down to about 250 so still have 25 lbs to go.
  • evolutioner
    evolutioner Posts: 30
    I have to ask people bc well you look at yourself everyday so you won't notice any real change, what i do is ask some friends/coworkers they'll be truthful and wear light clothing or maybe there just jealous of you haters either way good job and keep at it!!!
  • Sirchkismet
    Sirchkismet Posts: 3 Member
    I agree with Alex_is_Hawks. For some of us who have to lose a lot of weight people just don't notice. Specially people who see you every day. The first people to say anything to me where friends who I haven't seen in about 4 months.
  • bexxgirl
    bexxgirl Posts: 260 Member
    15lbs into my loss, my mum said "That's nice - you've got your pretty face back." My fiance's jaw dropped and he said "ummm, she's ALWAYS had a pretty face!"

    I'd probably have been happier if she'd said nothing, tbh!
  • Noway13
    Noway13 Posts: 30
    It was like this for me in the beginning, but I think it had to do with the fact I was still wearing my 6XL shirts. Once I started wearing smaller shirts people started to notice and man did that feel good.
  • ManEnMotion
    ManEnMotion Posts: 73 Member
    Sorry to clog the boards up with this trivial one all, I just wonder if anybody else is having this issue, I feel better healthwise and also mood wise. I just would like to know where this stone has gone !, I still have a tonne to go though and have a belly like a pregnant woman that wont shift !

    I went down 39 before anyone commented. Made me work harder :D

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