even when i eat right i feel super guilty
mikeswife04
Posts: 130 Member
so all together i have lost 90 pounds.... my goal was a pants size 6 and i am actually in a 4.... but i still cant help but feel just super guilty about eating..... any advice on this....
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LOL depends on what you are eating? If you are eating clean/healthy and are meeting your macros and staying within your calorie limit and exercising... no reason to feel guilty! Enjoy the new skinny you... you earned it!0
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Professional help, no sarcasm.0
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i just wanted a bit of advice.... im so used to being a size 14 i still feel that way.... no reason for you to be a ****0
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Professional help, no sarcasm.
I agree, if you've gotten down as small as a size 4 and you feel guilty about eating, even when eating CORRECTLY that is, there's something wrong emotionally or mentally.
For comparison, I've never felt even slightly guilty about anything I ate, no matter how bad it was. Even when I was 300lbs. That's just a recipe for a major eating disorder.0 -
Professional help, no sarcasm.
He really wasn't trying to be rude by saying this.
Honestly, I agree. You need some cognitive therapy. These kinds of thoughts aren't healthy to have. You shouldn't feel guilty about something you HAVE to do just to live. Seek some professional help- they will give better advice than any stranger on MFP can.0 -
I don't think they were trying to be a ****. You said you feel guilty about eating food. That's kind of like feeling guilty about breathing oxygen, and you do need help.0
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Don't let food run or dictate your life. You are doing well. Keep it up!
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Professional help, no sarcasm.0
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I don't think the person who said professional help was being an *kitten*. I think they just said it bluntly. Maybe if you talked to someone they could help get to the bottom of why you feel guilty. I don't really know what to say, except, awesome job on reaching below your goal! Keep eating healthy and KNOW that you have to eat to live. You worked hard to get to where you are. Losing 90lbs will definitely help you live a longer life. So enjoy it and don't stress over eating. You must eat to live. : ) And again, congratulations on losing your weight.0
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I'm in your same boat. It took me a long time after I hit goal - May 2012- to realize that eating more wouldn't make me a size 14 again. The only thing that will is completely losing control and eating the way I used to, which I don't feel like I could. I'm still aware of what I should eat - what is a serving size - what's realistic and every day I'm in awe of the fact that all my jeans say "size 4"...I've NEVER been a size 4, I swear I went from a kids 14 to an 8 when I was 13...LOL
But I do have to say that because of this guilt I lost more weight that I wanted to. Now that I'm used to this size I don't want to gain to go back to my goal weight - that's the scary thing. I know my goal weight was still an amazing weight for me, but now that I'm used to being under a certain number, I can't let myself put on more than 3 pounds before I freak out...
It will all get easier, but when you are feeling guilty just remember you'll NEVER go back to that size 14 girl because you have way more knowledge and power now than you ever did before!0 -
Professional help, no sarcasm.
No, really, he's not being rude, he's being honest. You shouldn't feel guilty about fueling your body, giving it what it needs to keep you alive. Talking out your food issues with a professional will do you a world of good. They're more equipped to help you than strangers on the internet.
Good luck.
[edit] Please don't think we're calling you crazy or anything by suggesting you seek help. EVERYONE needs a little help now and then.0 -
Actually that's not a bad answer. I had the exact same kind of loss, and I still struggle with this guilt and paranoia. There's nothing wrong with needing help.i just wanted a bit of advice.... im so used to being a size 14 i still feel that way.... no reason for you to be a ****
These issues can be hard to wrestle with on your own.
If you are eating within your allotted calories, you shouldn't feel guilty.0 -
those that said professional help were being helpful
it is not normal to feel guilty when you are eating the way you wish to
nothing wrong with getting help.
but for those issues, and many have them, not just you, a forum like this with so little information, is not the place0 -
i just wanted a bit of advice.... im so used to being a size 14 i still feel that way.... no reason for you to be a ****
this response is SO defensive it makes the professional help sound even more like the right answer...
you obviously have issues that need to be worked through and cannot even stand to hear the truth.0 -
i just wanted a bit of advice.... im so used to being a size 14 i still feel that way.... no reason for you to be a ****
I think 'professional help' was meant as kind and honest advice. It sounds like you might have an unhealthy relationship with food if you feel guilty about eating. It probably stems from fear of regaining all the weight you've lost. Trust me... I've been there! I did seek professional help in the form of counseling and cognitive behavioral therapy.
These days, I'm able to enjoy a cupcake or a couple pieces of pizza without feeling any guilt. And that's how it should be. (or... at least how I believe it should be)0 -
those that said professional help were being helpful
it is not normal to feel guilty when you are eating the way you wish to
nothing wrong with getting help.
but for those issues, and many have them, not just you, a forum like this with so little information, is not the place
THIS^^^
I am putting in my bit for some professional help.
There is *something* going on in your head that is making you feel guilty for eating, even if it IS healthy. It is better to have a few sessions with a therapist now rather than waiting until you have developed an eating disorder.0 -
i just wanted a bit of advice.... im so used to being a size 14 i still feel that way.... no reason for you to be a ****
If you can't accept an advice, don't ask for one
If you feel guilty eating right, you definitively need help.0 -
Since when is seeing a professional to discuss the feelings you have toward food an insult?
YOU attacked him...nice.0 -
Like they said, I wasn't being mean. There's no shame in needing some help. It doesn't sound like you're in a healthy place.0
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I'm in your same boat. It took me a long time after I hit goal - May 2012- to realize that eating more wouldn't make me a size 14 again. The only thing that will is completely losing control and eating the way I used to, which I don't feel like I could. I'm still aware of what I should eat - what is a serving size - what's realistic and every day I'm in awe of the fact that all my jeans say "size 4"...I've NEVER been a size 4, I swear I went from a kids 14 to an 8 when I was 13...LOL
But I do have to say that because of this guilt I lost more weight that I wanted to. Now that I'm used to this size I don't want to gain to go back to my goal weight - that's the scary thing. I know my goal weight was still an amazing weight for me, but now that I'm used to being under a certain number, I can't let myself put on more than 3 pounds before I freak out...
It will all get easier, but when you are feeling guilty just remember you'll NEVER go back to that size 14 girl because you have way more knowledge and power now than you ever did before!
this is what i needed.... im not obsessive over it but damn, sometimes i feel no one gets it.... i got my mom and dad trying to shove food down my throat all the time.... im not lookin to lose any more just to tone up some!!!! and get rid of this nagging feeling of "getting fat again".... if i want to eat something bad i do... i just dont again for a long long time lol... my husband will not let mme go too far... either way big or small... but what this tought me is that i need to be careful what to post, or ask because some people will take it the wrong way....0 -
I'm a smaller size than that and I I have the same problems - I always say things to myself like, "Well, I could always have eaten less. I didn't have to eat that," about foods, healthy or not healthy. I know that thinking like that isn't good and is a set-up for a true disorder. I try to reason with myself and eventually realize that it's okay to eat more than 500 calories. I usually average out around 800-1000 and i think that's okay because I'm very small and don't exercise.0
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Professional help, no sarcasm.
I agree with this. Eating should never make anyone feel guilty. That's ****ed up.0 -
I'm in your same boat. It took me a long time after I hit goal - May 2012- to realize that eating more wouldn't make me a size 14 again. The only thing that will is completely losing control and eating the way I used to, which I don't feel like I could. I'm still aware of what I should eat - what is a serving size - what's realistic and every day I'm in awe of the fact that all my jeans say "size 4"...I've NEVER been a size 4, I swear I went from a kids 14 to an 8 when I was 13...LOL
But I do have to say that because of this guilt I lost more weight that I wanted to. Now that I'm used to this size I don't want to gain to go back to my goal weight - that's the scary thing. I know my goal weight was still an amazing weight for me, but now that I'm used to being under a certain number, I can't let myself put on more than 3 pounds before I freak out...
It will all get easier, but when you are feeling guilty just remember you'll NEVER go back to that size 14 girl because you have way more knowledge and power now than you ever did before!
this is what i needed.... im not obsessive over it but damn, sometimes i feel no one gets it.... i got my mom and dad trying to shove food down my throat all the time.... im not lookin to lose any more just to tone up some!!!! and get rid of this nagging feeling of "getting fat again".... if i want to eat something bad i do... i just dont again for a long long time lol... my husband will not let mme go too far... either way big or small... but what this tought me is that i need to be careful what to post, or ask because some people will take it the wrong way....
In the future, when you're looking for a certain kind of answer to your question and only a certain kind, please let us know. It will save everyone the time of giving you their honest opinions to your question.0 -
I'm in your same boat. It took me a long time after I hit goal - May 2012- to realize that eating more wouldn't make me a size 14 again. The only thing that will is completely losing control and eating the way I used to, which I don't feel like I could. I'm still aware of what I should eat - what is a serving size - what's realistic and every day I'm in awe of the fact that all my jeans say "size 4"...I've NEVER been a size 4, I swear I went from a kids 14 to an 8 when I was 13...LOL
But I do have to say that because of this guilt I lost more weight that I wanted to. Now that I'm used to this size I don't want to gain to go back to my goal weight - that's the scary thing. I know my goal weight was still an amazing weight for me, but now that I'm used to being under a certain number, I can't let myself put on more than 3 pounds before I freak out...
It will all get easier, but when you are feeling guilty just remember you'll NEVER go back to that size 14 girl because you have way more knowledge and power now than you ever did before!
this is what i needed.... im not obsessive over it but damn, sometimes i feel no one gets it.... i got my mom and dad trying to shove food down my throat all the time.... im not lookin to lose any more just to tone up some!!!! and get rid of this nagging feeling of "getting fat again".... if i want to eat something bad i do... i just dont again for a long long time lol... my husband will not let mme go too far... either way big or small... but what this tought me is that i need to be careful what to post, or ask because some people will take it the wrong way....
In the future, when you're looking for a certain kind of answer to your question and only a certain kind, please let us know. It will save everyone the time of giving you their honest opinions to your question.
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One of the toughest things in this journey is beginning to see yourself as you are rather than as you once were. You cannot see yourself as the fat kid anymore... You have to realize that what once was is no more. Try to take a GOOD look in that mirror and see the beautiful person you have become... not who you once were.0
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Just be careful before this turns into an eating disorder....... If u have already lost THAT MUCH weight, you should feel in control and know that by eating right, this should not happen....0
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Professional help, no sarcasm.
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I'm in your same boat. It took me a long time after I hit goal - May 2012- to realize that eating more wouldn't make me a size 14 again. The only thing that will is completely losing control and eating the way I used to, which I don't feel like I could. I'm still aware of what I should eat - what is a serving size - what's realistic and every day I'm in awe of the fact that all my jeans say "size 4"...I've NEVER been a size 4, I swear I went from a kids 14 to an 8 when I was 13...LOL
But I do have to say that because of this guilt I lost more weight that I wanted to. Now that I'm used to this size I don't want to gain to go back to my goal weight - that's the scary thing. I know my goal weight was still an amazing weight for me, but now that I'm used to being under a certain number, I can't let myself put on more than 3 pounds before I freak out...
It will all get easier, but when you are feeling guilty just remember you'll NEVER go back to that size 14 girl because you have way more knowledge and power now than you ever did before!
this is what i needed.... im not obsessive over it but damn, sometimes i feel no one gets it.... i got my mom and dad trying to shove food down my throat all the time.... im not lookin to lose any more just to tone up some!!!! and get rid of this nagging feeling of "getting fat again".... if i want to eat something bad i do... i just dont again for a long long time lol... my husband will not let mme go too far... either way big or small... but what this tought me is that i need to be careful what to post, or ask because some people will take it the wrong way....
on the internet there is no tone in writing, so people can only read the question and respond. it seemed to me like you asked what you should do. and i agree with the professional help responses that you've received throughout this thread.
we can't tell what you 'needed'. we can only reply with our opinions and reflect our experiences. if you only wanted a certain reply then there really was no question, was there? you just wanted someone else to reinforce your already existing opinion. which is fine, but then don't ask for help you don't want! good luck :drinker:0 -
I can relate a bit. I never felt guilty as such, but for the first 3 months I was pretty obsessed with my diet, eating almost the same thing for the first 2 months because I didn't know what was in food and couldn't go over my limit. over the last 2 months I've improved my diet a lot and made it varied, I could always improve on that, but now I dont really think that much about what ive eaten that much, so I've let go of the rail now.
you should be slowly letting go of the rail. the wars over. back to peace time. I'm a guy and I was never that obsessed with my pants size, as long as I looked alright in my clothes I was cool, so for me its easy to relax a bit.
being female is different. all girls are obsessed with their appearance to a degree, thats just how it is. its almost normal.
right now, your super guilt isn't normal and should be subsiding. try eating a cupcake without checking the cals first because you DESERVE IT! because you do.
I'd say if you cant eat a healthy diet and feel good about it, or not feel the grip of your guilt subsiding, then yes, you have a problem which may need professional help.
I think you have a unanimous answer from everyone here. perhaps take the problem more seriously.0 -
I'm in your same boat. It took me a long time after I hit goal - May 2012- to realize that eating more wouldn't make me a size 14 again. The only thing that will is completely losing control and eating the way I used to, which I don't feel like I could. I'm still aware of what I should eat - what is a serving size - what's realistic and every day I'm in awe of the fact that all my jeans say "size 4"...I've NEVER been a size 4, I swear I went from a kids 14 to an 8 when I was 13...LOL
But I do have to say that because of this guilt I lost more weight that I wanted to. Now that I'm used to this size I don't want to gain to go back to my goal weight - that's the scary thing. I know my goal weight was still an amazing weight for me, but now that I'm used to being under a certain number, I can't let myself put on more than 3 pounds before I freak out...
It will all get easier, but when you are feeling guilty just remember you'll NEVER go back to that size 14 girl because you have way more knowledge and power now than you ever did before!
this is what i needed.... im not obsessive over it but damn, sometimes i feel no one gets it.... i got my mom and dad trying to shove food down my throat all the time.... im not lookin to lose any more just to tone up some!!!! and get rid of this nagging feeling of "getting fat again".... if i want to eat something bad i do... i just dont again for a long long time lol... my husband will not let mme go too far... either way big or small... but what this tought me is that i need to be careful what to post, or ask because some people will take it the wrong way....
In the future, when you're looking for a certain kind of answer to your question and only a certain kind, please let us know. It will save everyone the time of giving you their honest opinions to your question.
HOW RUDE!! STOP ATTACKING HER YOU BULLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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