Weight + treatment from men / dating

BlackBarbieBABY
BlackBarbieBABY Posts: 19
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Hey all, so I used to be 280 highest and 150 lowest, have you girls losing weight found that you attract more or different men at different weight? If so what weight did you notice the change?
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  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
    I've never been overweight, and I've never gotten special attention from guys. Idk maybe I just look that bad lol
  • BlackBarbieBABY
    BlackBarbieBABY Posts: 19
    Really? From your picture I think your a totally cutie!
  • jesz124
    jesz124 Posts: 1,004 Member
    From my single days: I got far more attention when I was slim (I was a UK size 8-10) It was almost like I was invisible when I was a chunky monkey (UK size 16) lol. Men are so very shallow :noway: :laugh: she jokes of course ;-))
  • jesz124
    jesz124 Posts: 1,004 Member
    I've never been overweight, and I've never gotten special attention from guys. Idk maybe I just look that bad lol

    Oh you are telling lies!! You have to be? You look like a model girl!! Jealous, much!! lol
  • minsooky
    minsooky Posts: 59
    Doesn't really make a difference, men ignore me no matter how much I weigh lol
  • AntWrig
    AntWrig Posts: 2,273 Member
    It's all about how you carry yourself.
  • ejha77
    ejha77 Posts: 63
    Since losing weight (I'm probably a US size 2/UK size 6 now- I was a size or two bigger before), men are a LOT nicer to me. It's very noticeable. Strangers are nicer, and men I've known a long time are nicer. It does piss me off a bit how noticeable it is.
  • wannabeskinnysoon94
    wannabeskinnysoon94 Posts: 14
    I've never been overweight but because of my quiet personality guys would probably notice someone bigger (for example) first, because she has more confidence :)
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member
    Men were much more friendly and flirtatious to me when I was slimmer. Women have been more nice and flirtatious now that I'm bigger. (Though they weren't mean before) It's an odd switch up.
  • RobynLB
    RobynLB Posts: 617 Member
    145 v. 130, big difference. My natural chest v. massive padded bra, even bigger difference. Lol.
  • Indygirl_81
    Indygirl_81 Posts: 142 Member
    I too don't have men talk to me (whatever weight I am)...
  • red_road
    red_road Posts: 761 Member
    Men were much more friendly and flirtatious to me when I was slimmer. Women have been more nice and flirtatious now that I'm bigger. (Though they weren't mean before) It's an odd switch up.

    isnt that the truth! i never realized this before
  • Miss_dannii
    Miss_dannii Posts: 1,351 Member
    No to be honest! Apart from on MFP and Facebook. In real life I don't get approached in clubs or anything (which is fine with me btw lol) saying that, my friends are all super hot so the attention is usually on them when we are out!
    x
  • nexangelus
    nexangelus Posts: 2,080 Member
    It's all about how you carry yourself.

    Yep, I have always attracted guys heavy or light...if you have the confidence and you are looking for someone, you will find someone or they will find you.
  • Miss_dannii
    Miss_dannii Posts: 1,351 Member
    I've never been overweight, and I've never gotten special attention from guys. Idk maybe I just look that bad lol

    I find that so hard to believe! They must feel like there's no point in approaching you because you're out of their league!
  • onehurt
    onehurt Posts: 143 Member
    I would say a lot of it depends where you are hanging out. I remember back when I was young and running around one bar was kind of a "Meat market" Lots of attention all around. Then to play the devils advocate, it happens to us guys too if we were chubby or otherwise. Get shot down a few times, then get a bit gun shy and quit trying as much.

    Just my 2 cents worth,
    Mark
  • Jenny775
    Jenny775 Posts: 108 Member
    It's all about how you carry yourself.

    Yep, I have always attracted guys heavy or light...if you have the confidence and you are looking for someone, you will find someone or they will find you.


    ^^^^^ AGREED!! It's about how you carry yourself and your confidence ladies! I will probably never be slim - I'm not built like that and I've come to terms with it; however, I get lots of attention from guys who like thick, voluptuous, curvy sexy women and that's cool by me. Work on your self esteem and attitude and they will notice you. :smile:
  • JennaM222
    JennaM222 Posts: 1,996 Member
    Hey all, so I used to be 280 highest and 150 lowest, have you girls losing weight found that you attract more or different men at different weight? If so what weight did you notice the change?

    Hells ya.

    when I was at my lowest, 150. I am between 5'8 - 5'9 also that is when I loved my body the most and treated it "right". I am working now on getting back there.

    I think a - It was clearly a change in my body. Tight, lean legs, curves, etc.

    and b - a change in my confidence and attitude. I have always been very outgoing and confident, but feeling my best gave me that extra boost!!
  • GauchoMark
    GauchoMark Posts: 1,804 Member
    I've never been overweight, and I've never gotten special attention from guys. Idk maybe I just look that bad lol

    I find that so hard to believe! They must feel like there's no point in approaching you because you're out of their league!


    ^^^ agree. You too, Miss Dannii!
  • Bentley2718
    Bentley2718 Posts: 1,689 Member
    My high weight was 240, my low weight was 130. Men, and women, are much nicer to you in general when your thinner. Part of the added attention from men may have been the way I carried myself, but trust me, other people changed too. Now that I'm in the mid-150s, I get far less attention then I did in the 130s.
  • BarackMeLikeAHurricane
    BarackMeLikeAHurricane Posts: 3,400 Member
    Definitely. Without dieting/exercise, just normal daily routine I'll stay between 132-136lbs and I'm 5'8". A this weight I tend to attract your average white boy. I hit my heaviest in jail of 142, when I got out it was mainly black guys that liked that my butt got bigger lol. Whenever I get too thin, like under 105-110, it's usually creepy old white dudes that hit on me. I think it's because at that weight I look really small, closer to a prepubescent look so they pedophiles like that.
  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,733 Member
    I've never been overweight, and I've never gotten special attention from guys. Idk maybe I just look that bad lol
    No to be honest! Apart from on MFP and Facebook. In real life I don't get approached in clubs or anything (which is fine with me btw lol) saying that, my friends are all super hot so the attention is usually on them when we are out!
    x

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  • cherbapp
    cherbapp Posts: 322
    This is interesting...I find that guys hold the door and look right at me now, and clearly say you're welcome when I thank them....etc.

    I also find that women are more helpful and respectful to me now as well. I feel like they have the misconception that if you are in better shape, you are more intelligent. Which I find a little odd, because I was always weirdly smart. Lol
  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,733 Member
    Hey all, so I used to be 280 highest and 150 lowest, have you girls losing weight found that you attract more or different men at different weight? If so what weight did you notice the change?

    it's not really about weight per se. it's about how you look. if you're curvy, but not flabby, you'll get plenty of attention from all sorts of men. what weight shows on the scale at that point depends alot on your size and frame.
  • Shamrock_me
    Shamrock_me Posts: 161
    Men don't hit on me... I'm kinda scary in general:
    Unless that guy at the gym on weekend afternoons who won't stop talking about himself and his weight gain while I'm trying to do cardio counts.
  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,733 Member
    Men don't hit on me... I'm kinda scary in general:
    Unless that guy at the gym on weekend afternoons who won't stop talking about himself and his weight gain while I'm trying to do cardio counts.

    if you want guys to hit on you, just smile at us. it lets us know you are approachable. if guys aren't hitting on you now, you are probably putting out a vibe that says, "leave me alone!".
  • Greenrun99
    Greenrun99 Posts: 2,065 Member
    Guys and girls are the same in this question even when girls like to say otherwise.. Girls are attracted to skinny, stronger guys.. guys are attracted to skinny, happy looking girls. If you don't get much attention being bigger, guys don't either..
  • NJL13500
    NJL13500 Posts: 433 Member
    I find that I get a different kind of attention as a thinner person. I felt confident when I was 45 pounds heavier and maybe that showed. I didn't really have trouble attracting men when I was single. I'm not out looking now that I'm thinner, but I find that I get "the nod" from other fit women. It's kind of like we are in a private club for people that work hard to keep ourselves fit. My fiance notices that men look at me and mentions it to me, but I don't really notice because I'm not on the hunt.

    I do really believe that it comes down to how you feel about yourself. If you think that you are awesome and a great person, then so will other people to a certain degree. I think there is a weight cut-off though. MY PERSONAL OPINION based on experience-not trying to offend anyone- I think that "overweight" is okay to attract men, but "obese" is not going to be generally accepted regardless of personality.

    I was sometimes treated like I was invisible when I was almost 100 pounds heavier. People would cut in front of me in line like I wasn't even there.
  • Jaulen
    Jaulen Posts: 468 Member
    Weight I am now, invisible to guys, which is okay, I am married, and old-ish.

    At my lowest/best shape of 132 pounds and 17% body fat, invisible to guys.

    At 145 to 150 pounds, and kind of squishy looking? Was asked for dates all the time.
  • CarolinaMoon76
    CarolinaMoon76 Posts: 78
    I would get hit on more when slimmer but would still be hit on now - I honestly think its a confidence thing. Men do prefer slimmer women but would be attracted to larger women depending on how she carries herself and how she feels. I just assume I'm gorgeous and fool them :laugh:

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