Escaping the children

goddessofsewing
goddessofsewing Posts: 110 Member
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I have three young kids (7months, 2, and 4) and I usually love that I can be their mom full time. However, there are some days when they drive me batty and I need an escape. Most often that means I eat some cookies to "get away" from it all. Not so good for losing weight. Does anyone have a suggestion for an escape hatch that isn't food related? They've just finished tossing cracker crumb confetti all over the freshly-vacuumed carpet. :grumble: I'm getting desperate.
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  • MrsPong
    MrsPong Posts: 580 Member
    When I was a stay at home mom, I found a gym that offered daycare so I can go workout for 2 hours without her!
    I also had a hourly daycare near me, and it was really cheap. So she went to "preschool" for a few hours a week... which was amazing!

    I'm not sure if this would work for you....but it's a thought?
  • dinosnopro
    dinosnopro Posts: 2,177 Member
    I lock myself in the bathroom and cry...............but that's just me.
  • MrsPong
    MrsPong Posts: 580 Member
    I lock myself in the bathroom and cry...............but that's just me.

    I have been there and done that. If I wasent going to be late for work this morning this would of been me 100%... My daughter was screaming for 40 mins while I was trying to get us both ready to leave the house for daycare n me for work.... UGH Glad I was not staying home with her today lol
  • jay10587
    jay10587 Posts: 57 Member
    My daycare lady keeps my daughter an extra 1.5hours so I can hit the park, put my music in and run my little heart out.....best meditation time EVER!
  • campi_mama
    campi_mama Posts: 350 Member
    Stroller, walk.....go!!
    Just getting out of the house sometimes is the answer, even if you have to take them with you.
  • FredDoyle
    FredDoyle Posts: 2,272 Member
    Babysitter. Have fun.
  • belladonna786
    belladonna786 Posts: 1,165 Member
    I am at that point right now! It has been building all week, I am frustrated, irritated and feel like it wont ever get better. I have 6 kids and handled my first 4 fine but twins, this is a whole different story. Thank God I am going away this weekend. This is my escape. I go away at the end of the month, not anywhere far just a hotel room near a major mall. My husband and I spend the weekend in peace. Thanks to my amazing mom who loves to watch her grandchildren. If I didn't have this I think I would lose my mind.
  • sarahrbraun
    sarahrbraun Posts: 2,261 Member
    I have three young kids (7months, 2, and 4) and I usually love that I can be their mom full time. However, there are some days when they drive me batty and I need an escape. Most often that means I eat some cookies to "get away" from it all. Not so good for losing weight. Does anyone have a suggestion for an escape hatch that isn't food related? They've just finished tossing cracker crumb confetti all over the freshly-vacuumed carpet. :grumble: I'm getting desperate.

    I read...I crochet...and I go to the gym. Over the summer I took the big kids (12 and 16) a few times, but I hated it. They wanted to be practically up my butt while I was trying to do my thing.

    The gym I go to is the local Y. they have a free daycare thing for kids 6 weeks and up ( one room for 6 weeks to 6 years, another for 6-12 or so years). The kids can be there for up to 2 hours a day. That is when I do my cardio and strength. The cardio helps keep me from wanting to strangle someone.
  • kiraleilani
    kiraleilani Posts: 124 Member
    I'm a full time SAHM too, three boys ages 1,2, and 8. And I homeschool my eldest. Most days I love it, but sometimes I need OUT too.

    Naptime is sacred time to me. The 8 year old must go to his room and read, the 2 year old lays down for a movie nap, and the 1 year old sleeps. I get a glorious hour and a half to myself.
  • mamakira
    mamakira Posts: 366
    I lock myself in the bathroom and cry...............but that's just me.

    Been there too. Just survived with my mantra..."itsjust a perioditwillgoovertheywillgetolderitsjustaperiodtheywillgetolder.....", then dressed them and went out of the house, yelling is more quiet in the woods or on the playground.

    Well, they grew out of it and now I can leave them alone.
  • Typhanee83
    Typhanee83 Posts: 309 Member
    I lock myself in the bathroom and cry...............but that's just me.

    Ditto. Except my bathroom door lock is broken. So I just sit in front of the door and cover my ears.
  • kclynn7
    kclynn7 Posts: 71
    I usually wait till the husband gets home and then I will leave the kids with him and go to the store - even grocery shopping is an escape if you don't have to drag the kids out of the house with you. And as far as the crying in the bathroom - been there, only I don't even make it to the bathroom haha. I have a 14 month old and a newborn so I definitely get your need to get a break.
  • AmyFett
    AmyFett Posts: 1,607 Member
    I lock myself in the bathroom and cry...............but that's just me.

    Same here... I have two little ones and four cats, I NEVER get a minute to myself. I'm lucky if I can actually shut the door before someone comes barging in.
  • GluttonousGirl
    GluttonousGirl Posts: 384 Member
    I lock myself in the bathroom and cry...............but that's just me.
    I work with kids...I have totally done this. I also blame them for my drinking problem.
  • MissyBenj
    MissyBenj Posts: 186 Member
    Find something that you enjoy doing, and make time for yourself to go do it. Feels impossible, but where there is a will there is a way. Running is the best escape for me, ever. If you aren't into that, find a hobby you enjoy and make time to do it. For me, if i"m in the same house, there is not going to be a break. The kids want their momma :) Can't complain, however, every Mother deserves her time. I for one know that it's difficult to make yourself a priority, I don't do it near often enough.
  • sarahrbraun
    sarahrbraun Posts: 2,261 Member
    when my oldest ( who we now know is on the autism spectrum and has IED) was a toddler, my husband would come home and find me sitting on the back of the couch. When he asked WHY I was sitting there I would tell him that it was the only place that my toddler could not reach me...and I was all *touched out*
  • dbanks80
    dbanks80 Posts: 3,685 Member
    My daycare lady keeps my daughter an extra 1.5hours so I can hit the park, put my music in and run my little heart out.....best meditation time EVER!

    WOW You have a great daycare provider! Back in the day mine would have yelled at me for being late or charge me extra but mostly yell at me because i would be infringing on her time to get off work!!!
  • OkieinMinny
    OkieinMinny Posts: 834 Member
    I lock myself in the bathroom and cry...............but that's just me.

    ^^ This BUT make sure to take the wine!
  • Rawr1978
    Rawr1978 Posts: 245 Member
    I have 3, they're 12, 5, and 1. The 1 yr old and 5 yr old have the SAME attention needs/wants. One or both are ALWAYS up my butt.
    I just go for a walk if it's a day i dont anticipate being able to have Me Time. The air clears my head.
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    uh - im pretty sure that exercising is a good idea?
  • DontStopB_Leakin
    DontStopB_Leakin Posts: 3,863 Member
    Naptime.


    Or don't have kids.
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    I just go "punch the clown in the face."
    Works....
  • dinosnopro
    dinosnopro Posts: 2,177 Member
    I lock myself in the bathroom and cry...............but that's just me.

    ^^ This BUT make sure to take the wine!


    Usually Coors light for me.......Just so everyone knows I was joking about locking myself in the bathroom. I actually try to find projects to occupy them, or turn them loose on the internet.
  • Pixi_Rex
    Pixi_Rex Posts: 1,676 Member
    Duct tape... and a wall.. tape them too the wall and then go for a nice long hot bubble bath with some wine.

    also dog kennels. put them in a kennel and leave them there.
  • Nerdy_Rose
    Nerdy_Rose Posts: 1,277 Member
    Duct tape... and a wall.. tape them too the wall and then go for a nice long hot bubble bath with some wine.

    also dog kennels. put them in a kennel and leave them there.

    Random and irrelevant: I used to lock myself in the dog kennel on purpose. I was a weird kid.
  • LuckyLeprechaun
    LuckyLeprechaun Posts: 6,296 Member
    Benadryl.

    WHAT!!? It's safe!
  • yo_andi
    yo_andi Posts: 2,178 Member
    Uhh, y'all are really making me want to procreate...

    :noway:
  • toomuchbootyindapants
    toomuchbootyindapants Posts: 811 Member
    Vodka. Not technically a food, right?

    Or uhm....a visit to my friend Gigi....by Lelo. Such an amazing stress reliever. Then follow-up with wine.
  • begreenbe
    begreenbe Posts: 102 Member
    Make friends with your neighbors and trade kids for an afternoon.
  • MacDHH
    MacDHH Posts: 34 Member
    I totally sympathize! I have a 3.5 and a 1.5-year-old, and if we stay in the house too much, they can drive me and each other batty. I find having activities keeps the three of us happy and sane. If the weather is not too lousy, we are usually at the park. I also take them to indoor play areas or kids' museums, the zoo, playgroups, and playdates with other mum friends.

    If it is feasible, I try to incorporate some exercise for me into the activity we do (e.g., going by bike with the kids in the trailer...they love riding in that thing). I'm not very good at thinking up stuff to do at home, but if you are into that, maybe you can find activities to keep them amused long enough for you to take a bit of a breather.

    On days where I don't have much planned and I need to get stuff done, I try to physically tire them out anyway, even if it means that it takes 4x as long to do stuff (e.g., walking to the shops instead of using the buggy).

    The other thing that has helped my sanity is to make time for myself. My husband works long hours, so this means I can only work out in the wee hours of the morning (he and I take turns doing it). But now that I am more used to waking up early, I love it, as it's just me and my (grown-up) music. If I had a gym with daycare, I'd be there every day!

    Oh, and I no longer feel guilty plopping them in front of the telly to chill them out :embarassed:

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