I don't "look" like I lost 50 lbs, so no one believed me.

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  • XXbrendaXX
    XXbrendaXX Posts: 169
    I completely understand. I have lost 71 lbs in the last 4 months, going from 320 to 249. A great achievement I know, but 249 is still big. I am still obese. People ask how much weight I've lost and I've gotten to the point that I hate to tell them. I'd say 71 lbs! and feel I'm getting a look like "really...but you're still fat"?! I am sure they don't realize that I needed to lose 150 lbs. Now when someone comments that I've lost weight, I just say "I'm working on it". How much weight have you lost? "Oh, a pound or two." I know the numbers. I know what they mean, how hard I have worked. I don't need to share that to feel good about what I have accomplished. Don't let what others think/say get to you. YOU know what you have accomplished...be proud!! :happy:
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
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  • MissFitee
    MissFitee Posts: 106 Member
    .... MONSTERS! >.< That just pisses me off sooo bad. Why are there so many sick people out there, and why can't they just keep it to themselves???

    Must be hard to be so public. I feel bad enough about myself and the only one picking on me is myself!
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    .... MONSTERS! >.< That just pisses me off sooo bad. Why are there so many sick people out there, and why can't they just keep it to themselves???

    Must be hard to be so public. I feel bad enough about myself and the only one picking on me is myself!

    lol

    you want a position in the public eye? you dont get to be upset about them judging you. You want a job in the public eye? You have to have thick skin. You want a job in the public eye? You want that little bit of fame? Then you trade in privacy and protection from meanies to have it.

    You cant have a little bit of celebrity without having everything else that goes with it. You gave that up.

    Not saying this is right, Im saying its the job.

    you just have to have a stronger character than everyone else so it wont get to you.

    practice tougher skin.
  • toxicsgrl
    toxicsgrl Posts: 12
    its the same for me. i have lost 40lbs and have another 200+ to go so obviously im very very heavy, but no one is noticing my loss except my partner coz hes the only one who sees me naked.

    i liken myself to a beach near to where i live. newgale, pembrokeshire. it has a massive pile of pebbles all along the 1 mile beach and i say to people, if you took 3 stones off newgale beach you wouldnt notice, but once you take half away you would. once ive lost half of my weight i know people wil defo notice and im looking forward to that!

    just keep going, you'll get there xx
  • Espressocycle
    Espressocycle Posts: 2,245 Member
    So nobody is speculating on the identity of Miss Sweetalker. If she really is a famous actress, I'm guessing Rebel Wilson despite a 7 year age gap/weight gap between the profile and the star. I mean, how many fat actresses have films out now and also would be likely slip between lbs and kg?
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    i dont care - whining is whining
  • danasings
    danasings Posts: 8,218 Member
    The entertainment industry is brutal, isn't it? Congratulations on your weight loss, 50 pounds is an amazing accomplishment!!

    Not to be negative, but I think you need to work on tuning all of that crap out and focus on building your self-esteem. In your profession your are going to get blasted from every tabloid, news source, and public forum available.

    I am also a binge eater, and yes, I still have setbacks. During Thanksgiving week, I ate and drank booze pretty much nonstop for four days straight...gained about six pounds. (That weight is gone now, thank goodness.) But what I did to get back on track was allow myself to "get it out of my system" and I started fresh on Sunday. I didn't wait until Monday or after Christmas, I forced myself to get back to better eating and working out. And now I am back to my lifestyle change. What I DON'T do is berate myself for it. I show myself grace for the holiday, the visit from my family, being out of routine, etc., and I move forward.

    It's not easy, but it is possible. Change your mind about yourself, and you can change your body and your health. Best of luck to you.
  • yogsvr4
    yogsvr4 Posts: 149 Member
    That being said, there's some ugly truths you need to recognize. About 10% of people will genuinely care about your weight loss and be supportive. 40% will hate you for it, or be jealous of you, and the other 50% could care less unless there is something in it for them.

    Did you also know that 92.45% of all statistics are made up on the spot :tongue:


    Aside from that tidbit. You put to much stock in what other people have to say. You need to put a little bit of focus on the very few people who's opinions actually matter. 50 is great and if you let other peole define it as something else, just visually stamp the word '*kitten*' on their face. That way, when you see them again, you can properly file their opinion.
  • goldenday
    goldenday Posts: 204 Member
    They are simply horrible people, try to stay away from them. Look at your old photos and see how far you've come.

    50 pounds is awesome and you should be so proud of yourself.

    Do the opinions of these people even matter?
  • PaleoPath4Lyfe
    PaleoPath4Lyfe Posts: 3,161 Member
    First, let me say that 50 lbs is a great achievement, no matter what your starting point is. You should feel great about that. So celebrate your successes, and take your setbacks as learning experiences and move on from them.

    That being said, there's some ugly truths you need to recognize. About 10% of people will genuinely care about your weight loss and be supportive. 40% will hate you for it, or be jealous of you, and the other 50% could care less unless there is something in it for them.
    That's the reality.

    I don't know you, and as such, I can't speak to your mental state or capacity, but I can say this, I've been losing weight, or mentoring others for a while now, and one thing I can say is that you need to worry about you, you can't let your feelings hinge on what a bunch of strangers think. The masses are cruel, mob rule is callous and unforgiving, if you put yourself out there, expect the harshest judgement you can think of, then make it worse.

    Allow those you love to be your real support, all the others out there should be tiny little marshmallow balls thrown at you, if you like them, have a few (but not to many) and enjoy, if you don't like them, let them bounce off you; because their commentary is only as important as you let it be.

    Continue your journey undaunted by the comments of fools, for only a fool would allow others to rule their though.

    Best luck

    -Banks

    This is so true..............
  • sylviatx
    sylviatx Posts: 156 Member
    Well, I say, forget about the 50. You have lost THIRTY POUNDS which is awesome and amazing and a wonderful accomplishment. I wish I knew how to post a picture but I don't, so here's a link to a picture of a THIRTY POUND BASS somebody caught (scroll down to the Sept 5th guy): http://www.adventurecharters.org/2009.htm
    Dang. That's a lot of extra weight, and you aren't carrying it around every day anymore! Congratulations!

    It's also twice as much weight as I have lost. And I'm really proud of my little 15 lbs!

    It must be very hard being in the public eye, having reviewers who write snarky things about you and then feeling blindsided. I can't quite imagine how that would feel. But I'm like some of the others here, you have to just forget about them. They don't matter. YOU matter.

    You can do this. Set your sights high and ignore the peanut gallery.
  • Lee_louh
    Lee_louh Posts: 37 Member
    Look to MFP. We support you, we are proud of you, yes some of us will envy you, but we don't belittle your AMAZING success out of petty jealousy.
    And above all else, congratulations. You earned that weight loss.
    Rock that body! You've lost the same weight as 200 sticks of butter!!!
  • DragonflyF15
    DragonflyF15 Posts: 437 Member
    I just read this and thought of you: Never judge yourself through other people's eyes! >hugz<
  • LisaLouisiana
    LisaLouisiana Posts: 145 Member
    I work in the same industry and you know we work with a lot of people that think they're sharks. You do what you need to do for you to be healthy and blow them off. I don't understand how some people get off being mean. You know they're being mean, so just ignore them and put your energy into taking care of yourself. (((HUGS)))
  • Ejourneys
    Ejourneys Posts: 1,603 Member
    First, give yourself credit for all the hard work you've done, period. And give yourself credit for reaching out and allowing yourself to be vulnerable here. I imagine it can't be easy while you're living in a fishbowl that runs so heavily on public image -- especially one where craft and talent can be forced aside by which wheel squeaks the loudest.

    The world is full of "shoulds" as it is. Make sure that you have some time to separate yourself from that. Find that space where you are true to yourself beyond all the clamoring from outside. The more that you can do that, the less what others say will matter and the more you'll be able to focus on what you need and on what nourishes your soul.

    You ask about setbacks. I've been a caregiver for 10+ years. Working multiple shifts to support us and deep-sixing myself in a dead-end job was one major source of stress. Another was a medical nightmare that lasted for about three years, leading up to my caree's latest and most definitive diagnosis (with misdiagnoses along the way).

    What helped me the most was finding support and validation for what I was going through. So much gets focused on the caree that caregivers often get lost in the shuffle. I had to learn to trust myself again and separate from all the actual and perceived "shoulds" around me. It's hard to do when one is so conditioned to rely on the expertise of others.

    Keep following your bliss. Keep doing what is right for YOU. Hurtful words hurt even if your skin is already thick; the trick is to see them for the smoke and mirrors they are. Your journalists and fans are bit players; they react to what they see on the surface. The you that's on stage for them is part of the act. The real you is what gives you your talent and your strength. Keep focusing on that and let the other lines be just lines.
  • TamiMcP
    TamiMcP Posts: 3
    NEVER ever let other people define who you are. Stay strong in the fight against unhealthy practices!
  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,733 Member
    Thanks guys, and it just occurred to me that at least I'm at a better starting point than I was when I first began this journey, I'm still down 30 pounds from what I was when I first started MFP.

    I've just been entirely too embarrassed to even try to keep track of what I ate in November. It was really, really bad.

    (And yes I noticed the math mistake in my original post, I got down to 270, now back up to 290 again, give or take a pound depending on time of day.)

    it's really simple... are you losing weight for yourself or for somebody else. if the answer is yourself (as i suspect it is), then who cares what other people think, notice, or say? 320lbs to 270lbs is a 50lb drop that only people who have been there will notice. don't fret if the entertainment media doesn't see it. when you go from 220lbs to 170lbs, they'll see it too.

    get back on track. log what you're eating. the logging helps keep you from slipping back. if you want support, seek it here. almost everyone here understand the little victories you are achieving because most of us have been in your shoes or are still in your shoes.

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