EX-HUSBAND Christmas gift

rudegyal_b

Once I told an ex I had a present for him and I was coming over. When I arrived, he was laying there naked in a housecoat, waiting for his "present"

no more presents for the ex

You should hint that might happen do it again and have friends go with you and have all the phones ready to snap pics....

genius.

Micheetah

I don't get my ex/son's dad a gift. My money is for my family not him/his. Now that my son is older, maybe I'll ask him if he wants to get dad something, but i'd rather have him pick something for his dad's new daughter than his dad bc thats his lil sister. but the ex is just not a person I think of when its time to get gifts. and ESPECIALLY anything over $25. But if u insist, then homemade is the way to go, its traditional and a keepsake. He'll appreciate it when they get older, if he doesnt throw the gift out. I love seeing my old homemade ornaments on my moms tree.

XXXMinnieXXX

Id say give him an email confirmation, printed out, wrapped.. that shows him he has confirmed his new account at Christian Singles... Tell him it's what God wanted you to do.

:bigsmile:

This! :laugh: for sure!

50-100??? Wow! I barely spend that on my partner! Definitely get the kids to make something or a photo of them in a nice frame. No better present in my eyes and doesn't cost much either! X

jenbit

My ex-h and I are good friends (weve been divorced 7yrs) This year I bought some passes to a boomers type place for his whole family (him, his GF ,our kids and her 2 kids) its was just some coupons that will make it a littke easier for them to all go out as family.

This guy would be getting a crayon colored card though

ChirishGirl

Footie pajamas. Nothing says "merry christmas daddy" like footie pajamas from the kids. Pink ones. That look like a bunny wabbit. HA!!

emmeylou

I really liked the idea that the gift should be something involving the kids... like tickets to a show, etc. For something slightly cheaper, you could do a "day at the movies" gift card type of thing for him and the kids....

MissAnjy

Footie pajamas. Nothing says "merry christmas daddy" like footie pajamas from the kids. Pink ones. That look like a bunny wabbit. HA!!

LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Shamrock_me

What.. they can't make him red & green macaroni art?

I get along with my ex now that he's way way long ago ex.. we buy each other weird little gifts every Christmas. You get over the past schtuff.. it's called being an adult. I try to make everyone believe I am one - but the really close people know I am not.

I usually buy him music - stuff he's never heard of so when it does get on the radio he'll text me.. "Hey I heard Black Stone Cherry today on the radio!" (last years gift) I'm getting him a Japanese movie this year - I saw it & liked it. "A Woman, A Gun & A Noodle Shop" is the title...

angelique_redhead

I'm all for getting him a gift certificate to BP's and a box of condoms. He's probably out by now and the kids will like the pizza. *HUGS*

Gift card

Nothing says "I really don't give a **** what you think of this gift" more than a gift card. :laugh:

I LOVE THIS and use this for that exact reason.

Plenty of them at Target. Or get him a Target one.

He used to work at Boston Pizza. He was actually set to become GM of the franchise here in town. When I divorced him, he quit his job (for whatever reason) and decided to go around collecting grease and restoring it with his best friend.

I SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO wanted to get him a BP gift card this Christmas. Just as a joke, but I know he wouldn't find it funny LOL (oh, and his gf works there)

WillLift4Tats

Does he get you a present for Christmas?

Good question. Does he let the kids buy a gift for you? I agree with pretty much every response here. What a jerk. You should just go with the homemade option and spend that money on yourself. Sounds like you really deserve it.

auroranflash

I actually get along really well with my ex so I will get him (from the kids):

Jeans
Jordan Shoes
Socks (he always needs socks)
A big box filled with (toliet paper, paper towels, napkins, plates, chips, jerky, shampoo, body wash and a couple of gift cards to a sporting goods store)

Is your ex homeless?

elijhasmomma

Uhhmm so let the g/f buy his *kitten*. Let the kids make some crafts as the others suggested. You got rid of him, why the hell would you care wtf he thinks?? And WTF would you buy him an expensive a s s watch like that? Lol, I understand civility but c'mon! It almost comes off as if you are stressing what to get because you care what he thinks or what he feels about the gift?

No wonder he is spoiled and walking all over people. Men like that, excuse me, GUYS like that, who don't appreciate their wife, their kids...theyd on't deserve crap from them in my opinion. But if you want to be nice, give the kids $20-$30 a piece and take them to the gift section in any store, wal-mart, target, wheverever and just let them pick out a bunch of little gifts. They will feel like they played a big part and can most likely find more then one gift in their price range. What does it matter if he needs or likes it anyway since he doesn't seem to cherish *kitten* he gets with meaning behind it, including his kids (according to the "thats nice get in the car" comment)

you speak the truth. I agree with all of this. I shouldn't care so much about "what he thinks". I just worried that it would reflect on myself and the kids if I didn't get him something nice. Almost as if he'd think i was "bitter" and "resentful" etc.........I really shouldn't care about what he thinks though, you're right. I think i'll take the kids to a general section I think he'd be okay with, and let them roam and pick something. Thanks!

I think you are doing awesome by being strong enough to look past his "douche canoe antics" but I honestly wouldn't stress it as much. Let the kids have fun, let him know on the side though, that you will no longer be spoiling him in the name of his children as he doesn't seem to care much at all about anything but himself.
He is obviously quite preoccupied with his new "life" so let him enjoy that til he gets bored with it too and roams. Any smart person would know that a 4 year old doesn't have an income and the money for the gift would be coming directly from your hard earned labor. He should be lucky that your kind enough to consider how it will reflect on your children even when he doesn't give two sh1ts about THEIR feelings. :flowerforyou:

ETA: (to fix quote mishap LOL)

rieann84

I actually get along really well with my ex so I will get him (from the kids):

Jeans
Jordan Shoes
Socks (he always needs socks)
A big box filled with (toliet paper, paper towels, napkins, plates, chips, jerky, shampoo, body wash and a couple of gift cards to a sporting goods store)

Is your ex homeless?

LauraMacNCheese

I have this same issue every year…my ex-husband runs so hot & cold. He can be super cool one day, actually willing to help out with stuff with the kids and being nice to me. Then he can be a totally passive-aggressive twatwaffle the next & I have to remind myself that prison-orange is not a good color for a ginger.

What I’ve done in the past is a gift card to the movies along with a $1 box of candy for him & both kiddos. That way, they can have some father/kids time.

thathockeychick23

A punch in the face. A gift card, clothing, maybe steaks again. The hand made gifts from the kids is such a great idea, but if he can't apperciate them, it's really his loss.

mistyladidah

I love the idea of a pic of his mom. Seriously. You could buy a frame that the kids decorate, and put a nice portrait of his mommy in it.

And (slightly less seriously) the condoms... he clearly doesn't deserve more kids. Or those could be for the GF, since her life would be screwed if they procreate.

sobriquet84

i would have the kids make him something.

aStrongerSteph

I like to have a pic taken of our daughter and put it on something...calendar, mug, etc and give him that or tickets for them to do something daddy/daughter-ish like mini golf, movies, bowling.

jenj1313

Fruitcake? Cheese log?

elijhasmomma

I actually get along really well with my ex so I will get him (from the kids):

Jeans
Jordan Shoes
Socks (he always needs socks)
A big box filled with (toliet paper, paper towels, napkins, plates, chips, jerky, shampoo, body wash and a couple of gift cards to a sporting goods store)

Is your ex homeless?

NoMoreJellyRolls

Footie pajamas. Nothing says "merry christmas daddy" like footie pajamas from the kids. Pink ones. That look like a bunny wabbit. HA!!

LOL thats what my hubby wants for christmas. Footie jammies! LOL

RychelleD

Get your kids to scribble a bunch of randomness on a piece of paper, throw some sparkles on that b!tch. Bam - Merry Christmas!!

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crystal_loga

Take a cute picture of the kids, print out a copy and put it in a decent frame. Let the kids give him that. You could even make it an annual tradition. Make it fun for the kids by letting them choose a theme, location, etc. Shouldn't cost too much, its from the heart, and from the kids. You should not have to spend a ton on him for Christmas. Sounds like he needs to learn the true meaning of Christmas. It's not about the gifts, its about the heart behind the gifts.

Tangerine302

I agree with the mugs too! I've had some done at Walmart in the past of family member pictures that turned out nice! Does he drink coffee?

NoMoreJellyRolls

Let the kids make him something or buy him something he can do with the kids.

I cant stand my stepdaughters mom! Last year for christmas she made her mom a candle with her school picture in it. Of course I helped. After my stepdaughter came back from her moms she was telling me that all her mom did was b****hing and complaining that she got a small picture (in a candle) and that she deserved a big picture (that she didnt put a dime in on) and that i wasnt her mom so i need to give her MY 10x13. You know what shes getting this year for christmas??

The school pictures reorder form... LMAO

KittieLea

How about a pic of you and your new man? LOL

Jaulen

I'll definitely do a craft from the kids. I think that's a great idea.
I just worry that he will be "pissed off" because he's VERY spoiled & will not be satisfied with something "cheap".
Any time the kids make something when they are with him, or from school, he sends it home to me.

He really has very little to do with our kids, so he doesn't quite get the importance of homemade things, or things the kids do.

This is the guy who when his son said "I love you daddy" replied with "That's nice, get in the car" (after not seeing him for 2 weeks).

Not exactly a sentimental schmuck anymore when it comes to them. Pretty much divorced them when I divorced him.

BUT the craft thing would at least be fun for them to do.

Then I say be done with it. It's the thought that counts, and if he doesn't appreciate the thought anyway, quit worrying about what to get him, and let the kids enjoy themselves doing something.

o.O

and why is it your job to spoil him anymore?

new2locs

You better than me cuz I wouldn't buy him s*^t!!! Does he buy you gifts that are from the kids? He sounds like an a hole.

laural007

I actually get along really well with my ex so I will get him (from the kids):

Jeans
Jordan Shoes
Socks (he always needs socks)
A big box filled with (toliet paper, paper towels, napkins, plates, chips, jerky, shampoo, body wash and a couple of gift cards to a sporting goods store)

Is your ex homeless?

Haha no. He never buys anything for himself, it always goes towards the kids. He's a great father so I try to show my appreciation. The box is a gag gift that I always used to get him when we were married so it carried over.

magj0y

I would take the kids to get their pics taken (or do one up yourself)

have them decorate it (maybe one for home, one for the office) and there you go! craft stores have all sorts of things you can use. I would get a glue stick or dots to make clean up easy