is being skinny worth it?

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  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I want to be skinny but not ana-skinny and still be able to eat a pizza here and there
    unfortunately, the skinnies are treated better than overweight, like when you apply for a job, companies (almost always) pick the skinny over the "average"

    Do you have a source for this?

    well, a friend of my dad works in the staff department and before they even read the applications, they look at the photo and decide then if they even wanna see the rest of the application, and he said they reject the "ugly" and "fat" ones

    I also see it myself, I want a new job, keep applying (with great refenrences, skills etc) but I hardly get invited to interviews, ok here I don't know for sure its cos of my overweight, but its the only reason I could imagine so *shrug*


    (maybe its just the grumpy-me that sses everything pessimistic tho xD )

    When did you start having to have photos attached to your resumes?

    always have to in Germany ;x

    I even tried applying w/o photo and I didn't even get an answer at all :(

    So glad we don't have to do this! I look HORRIBLE in photos. Nothing like I look IRL.

    What is the logic behind that?
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    I want to be skinny but not ana-skinny and still be able to eat a pizza here and there
    unfortunately, the skinnies are treated better than overweight, like when you apply for a job, companies (almost always) pick the skinny over the "average"

    Do you have a source for this?

    well, a friend of my dad works in the staff department and before they even read the applications, they look at the photo and decide then if they even wanna see the rest of the application, and he said they reject the "ugly" and "fat" ones

    I also see it myself, I want a new job, keep applying (with great refenrences, skills etc) but I hardly get invited to interviews, ok here I don't know for sure its cos of my overweight, but its the only reason I could imagine so *shrug*


    (maybe its just the grumpy-me that sses everything pessimistic tho xD )

    When did you start having to have photos attached to your resumes?

    always have to in Germany ;x

    I even tried applying w/o photo and I didn't even get an answer at all :(

    So glad we don't have to do this! I look HORRIBLE in photos. Nothing like I look IRL.

    What is the logic behind that?
    Anything involving customers; the logic is the more attractive your staff, the more likely people are to spend time in your store/office buying your products.
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    really, is it worth all the time and effort that women put into eating foods they don't really love, exercising when they'd rather not, and just not being truly happy to be "skinny?" what do men/women really think about skinny women, and what do you women think about society and feeling like you must achieve a certain body image to be considered attractive? do you wish you could just eat and not exercise and let your body do what it wants and be happy like that, or do you feel content with eating diet foods or restricting calories, daily exercise, and feeling the pressure to be skinny?

    this is not meant to offend anyone of any body type, i'm just curious as to what you all think! society frustrates me sometimes. :p

    Ive lost a hundred pounds.

    I only eat food I love.
    I exercise regardless if I feel like it because I was taught by the age of 3 (and on through Physical Education in every grade of school) that physical activity is a necessary and fundamental part of life and there is no reason why people graduate highschool and stop exercising as though it was some temporary BS for teenagers.
    I was not truly happy when I was over 250 pounds.
    I am truly happy now! Running and playing and up and down the stairs and in and out of trees and hills and bikes and laughter and pulling my jeans down without having to unbutton them. Im not freaking skinny - Im fit.
    I eat real food not diet food.
    I realized that I thought of a certain body type as te4h most beautiful and decided to go get it for myself...

    If these are the thinks that are going through your brain that make you wanna quit - baby you are doing this for ALLLLLLLLLL the wrong reasons....

    Im not even sure what your point is here.

    MEN dont think one thing is attractive.
    you dont have to starve yourself, eat nasty bland food and do two hours of cardio a day to get small.
    who the hell is teaching you people these things.

    Wrong post is wrong.
  • PaleoPath4Lyfe
    PaleoPath4Lyfe Posts: 3,161 Member
    really, is it worth all the time and effort that women put into eating foods they don't really love, exercising when they'd rather not, and just not being truly happy to be "skinny?" what do men/women really think about skinny women, and what do you women think about society and feeling like you must achieve a certain body image to be considered attractive? do you wish you could just eat and not exercise and let your body do what it wants and be happy like that, or do you feel content with eating diet foods or restricting calories, daily exercise, and feeling the pressure to be skinny?

    this is not meant to offend anyone of any body type, i'm just curious as to what you all think! society frustrates me sometimes. :p

    My goal isn't to be skinny.............but rather to get back to being Athletic and fit like I was when I was in the Army. I am all about fit and being healthy.

    I don't give a hoot about society and what they think. I care about me and how I look. I have never been "model thin", but I was once very fit and muscular, in which some men do not like due to looking "masculine"......pfffft whatever.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I want to be skinny but not ana-skinny and still be able to eat a pizza here and there
    unfortunately, the skinnies are treated better than overweight, like when you apply for a job, companies (almost always) pick the skinny over the "average"

    Do you have a source for this?

    well, a friend of my dad works in the staff department and before they even read the applications, they look at the photo and decide then if they even wanna see the rest of the application, and he said they reject the "ugly" and "fat" ones

    I also see it myself, I want a new job, keep applying (with great refenrences, skills etc) but I hardly get invited to interviews, ok here I don't know for sure its cos of my overweight, but its the only reason I could imagine so *shrug*


    (maybe its just the grumpy-me that sses everything pessimistic tho xD )

    When did you start having to have photos attached to your resumes?

    always have to in Germany ;x

    I even tried applying w/o photo and I didn't even get an answer at all :(

    So glad we don't have to do this! I look HORRIBLE in photos. Nothing like I look IRL.

    What is the logic behind that?
    Anything involving customers; the logic is the more attractive your staff, the more likely people are to spend time in your store/office buying your products.

    Wow. I have never, ever considered the aesthetic appeal of staff when choosing a store. I look at price and quality of product. I don't even know what staff will look like until I walk in and then I'm not looking at the people but the products themselves.

    What a shame. Is this the case, though, for a job that doesn't involve face time with customers?
  • Muddy_Yogi
    Muddy_Yogi Posts: 1,459 Member
    I don't necessarily think being skinny is worth it, and that was my goal when I started this endeavor.

    I do think that being fit, healthy, confident, strong and more emotionally balanced is definitely worth it.

    I believe that being free of the shame and guilt I felt when I would binge and attempt to fix the difficulties in my life by consuming massive amounts of food is worth it.

    I believe that the pride and sense of accomplishment, not to mention the endorphin rush, that I get when I accomplish a workout or fitness goal that I never dreamed I would be able to do is worth it.

    I believe that my daughter would tell you that having a healthy, active mom who isn't ashamed to attend events and socialize with other parents is worth it.

    I believe that being able to do things without worrying about a weight or size limit (horseback riding, amusement park rides, flying on a plane) is worth it.

    Would I put forth this much effort simply to be a size that society deems attractive or acceptable? Probably not, but I've learned that there is a lot more to this than a number on a scale or a size on a tag in my jeans.

    ^^^^THIS
  • brittany103
    brittany103 Posts: 96 Member
    It's definitely worth it, I would rather be unhappy about what I'm eating, than unhappy about the way I look.
  • lizziebeth1028
    lizziebeth1028 Posts: 3,602 Member
    really, is it worth all the time and effort that women put into eating foods they don't really love, exercising when they'd rather not, and just not being truly happy to be "skinny?" what do men/women really think about skinny women, and what do you women think about society and feeling like you must achieve a certain body image to be considered attractive? do you wish you could just eat and not exercise and let your body do what it wants and be happy like that, or do you feel content with eating diet foods or restricting calories, daily exercise, and feeling the pressure to be skinny?

    this is not meant to offend anyone of any body type, i'm just curious as to what you all think! society frustrates me sometimes. :p

    Being skinny is not worth it. But being healthy and fit is!!!!!!! I ENJOY eating healthy foods, I ENJOY exercise and I ENJOY the rewards that come from it. My goal is not a size, a number. It's to be the best I can be, healthy, fit, happy, centered and balanced. Healthy mind, healthy body!
  • marias2gaa
    marias2gaa Posts: 118 Member
    :noway: Im not aiming ot be skinny. I am aiming ot be healthy and I am not doing it for anyone but for myself! There is a difference
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    Exercising and being active has so many benefits to my well being and happiness and I need to exercise in order to do what I love (dance) and to keep my muscles strong to prevent further injury to my joints. There are times when I don't want to exercise, but if we all never had any discipline we would actually be less happy (I'm always glad when I push through the inertia and get moving). Eating well and with moderation is not a hardship to me. I enjoy my food and feel nourished and healthy and I get to eat every single day (something to be thankful for). Having a fit body is enjoyable to me as well.
  • ash8184
    ash8184 Posts: 701 Member
    I agree with all of the other ladies who say they aren't shooting for "skinny" so much as healthy. I still eat almost everything I want, just in smaller quantities, and I feel stronger and healthier than I've ever been. It is SO worth it.
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    really, is it worth all the time and effort that women put into eating foods they don't really love, exercising when they'd rather not, and just not being truly happy to be "skinny?"

    I eat all my favorite foods (just not tons and tons of it), I only exercise when I feel like it (exercise feels good to me, so I usually look forward to it), and I'm very happy being at a healthy, slim weight. You don't have to be miserable to be "skinny." If you're miserable, you're doing it wrong! :flowerforyou:
  • Erica262
    Erica262 Posts: 226 Member
    I'm a nurse. You need to change your focus. Not skinny, healthy. You are decreasing your risk of heart disease, stroke, high cholesterol, diabetes. Keep pushing.

    I agree with this. However, I'm not going to lie, YES, it is worth it to be skinny. It's okay to be a little vain and feel good about all the attention you get after you lose weight. The compliments make the hard work worth it. Your focus should most definitely be on getting healthy, but the compliments definitely help keep you motivated.
  • PamelaKuz
    PamelaKuz Posts: 191 Member
    Yes, I want to be skinny.

    Edit- (for vanity, and fitness)
  • jofjltncb6
    jofjltncb6 Posts: 34,415 Member
    I want to be skinny but not ana-skinny and still be able to eat a pizza here and there
    unfortunately, the skinnies are treated better than overweight, like when you apply for a job, companies (almost always) pick the skinny over the "average"

    Do you have a source for this?

    well, a friend of my dad works in the staff department and before they even read the applications, they look at the photo and decide then if they even wanna see the rest of the application, and he said they reject the "ugly" and "fat" ones

    I also see it myself, I want a new job, keep applying (with great refenrences, skills etc) but I hardly get invited to interviews, ok here I don't know for sure its cos of my overweight, but its the only reason I could imagine so *shrug*


    (maybe its just the grumpy-me that sses everything pessimistic tho xD )

    When did you start having to have photos attached to your resumes?

    always have to in Germany ;x

    I even tried applying w/o photo and I didn't even get an answer at all :(


    Egads!

    When did Germany start putting so much focus on something as meaningless and trivial as your looks/heredity?
  • Oops25
    Oops25 Posts: 68 Member
    I recently reached my goal and though I am not stick-thin or sickly skinny, I am skinny now & believe me, I am loving it ! And I think it is totally worth it, it was worth all the hard work that I put-in & it is worth me restricting myself from bad food in the future too.. Coz honestly, bad food might give you momentary pleasure but when you stay healthy & fit, you have a lifetime of pleasure ! Its tough to push yourself to go exercise when you would rather want to just laze on the couch, but again it is totally worth it when you see your tummy melting, your hands getting definition & you becoming sexier by the day..

    The above was my personal opinion, others might have a different philosophy but I know that I have never been happy whenever I put on weight, couldn't be happier than now since I am skinny now & I wish I stay like this for the rest of my life !
  • Who knows since I'm not.

    I really wanted to reply to the other issue-the job ramifications of being heavy. I knew a girl who applied at a large theme park for a job. They told her that if she wanted to work for them, she would have to work underground because she did not fit their physical profile to meet customers. She didn't feel like it, so she didn't take the job. I've also read studies that say that teachers spend more time with attractive children. I think that's reality.
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
    really, is it worth all the time and effort that women put into eating foods they don't really love, exercising when they'd rather not, and just not being truly happy to be "skinny?" what do men/women really think about skinny women, and what do you women think about society and feeling like you must achieve a certain body image to be considered attractive? do you wish you could just eat and not exercise and let your body do what it wants and be happy like that, or do you feel content with eating diet foods or restricting calories, daily exercise, and feeling the pressure to be skinny?

    this is not meant to offend anyone of any body type, i'm just curious as to what you all think! society frustrates me sometimes. :p

    You're doing it wrong. I eat what I like and what fuels me to be fit, when I exercise I do activities that I enjoy. I find great satisfaction in my lifestyle.
  • eganita
    eganita Posts: 501 Member
    I don't consider myself "skinny", but I am in a healthy weight range and physically fit. I don't give up any foods I like. I exercise a lot, but generally doing things I really enjoy (like playing hockey). You don't have to deprive yourself to meet your goals... as many people say, moderation is key. On a day when you want to splurge and have some "sinful" foods, just make sure to burn off some calories being active in some way.
  • wow29
    wow29 Posts: 283 Member
    really, is it worth all the time and effort that women put into eating foods they don't really love, exercising when they'd rather not, and just not being truly happy to be "skinny?" what do men/women really think about skinny women, and what do you women think about society and feeling like you must achieve a certain body image to be considered attractive? do you wish you could just eat and not exercise and let your body do what it wants and be happy like that, or do you feel content with eating diet foods or restricting calories, daily exercise, and feeling the pressure to be skinny?

    this is not meant to offend anyone of any body type, i'm just curious as to what you all think! society frustrates me sometimes. :p
    It is not just about being skinny anymore, not that that isn't a part of it, I want to live a long and healthy and happy life. I need to be able to move about easily to do or try what I need or enjoy to do without carrying an extra 60 lbs,
  • sammniamii
    sammniamii Posts: 669 Member
    100% honestly - YES I am loosing weight to be "skinny".

    Shallow and silly of me, but I have NEVER EVER been small in my life. EVER! I remember in kindergarten being the largest kid in class, I remember all the torment and bulling I had to grow up with, how everyone picked on and abused me because I was fat.

    All the name calling, beating me up, looking down and belittling.... there are days I wonder how I survived it.

    So yes...

    I want to be small and make others envious of me for once, instead of the other way around.

    As I said... shallow and petty, yes. I'll 100% admit it.

    Hate me if you wish, I want to BE HAPPY for once in my life. Just freaking ONCE.
  • Hellbent_Heidi
    Hellbent_Heidi Posts: 3,669 Member
    really, is it worth all the time and effort that women put into eating foods they don't really love, exercising when they'd rather not, and just not being truly happy to be "skinny?"

    The whole use of the word "skinny" aside (because everyone gets ridiculously worked up over that word), YES, I absolutely think its worth all the work to look and feel great!

    Is it worth feeling crappy, bloated and down on yourself all the time just so you can continue to scarf down a bunch of crap that makes you happy for what....20 seconds? If you believe that eating healthy and working out equates to "not being truly happy", that is very unfortunate.

    I, for one, am VERY happy at my goal weight....and I hope you find what you are looking for in this 'journey' :flowerforyou:
  • chocl8girl
    chocl8girl Posts: 1,968 Member
    No.
  • lewcompton
    lewcompton Posts: 881 Member
    I am willing to try new things but I do not eat things that I do not like... My favorite meal lately is fajitas that I make myself with sirloin, onion, bell pepper, cilantro, lime juice and pepper in La Tortilla Factory low carb tortilla... with homemade guacamole, pico de gallo and non-fat greek yogurt. Under 250 calories per fajita...
  • umachanxo
    umachanxo Posts: 926 Member
    really, is it worth all the time and effort that women put into eating foods they don't really love, exercising when they'd rather not, and just not being truly happy to be "skinny?"

    Well, I enjoy the foods that I eat and I love the feeling I get after my workouts. I'm not sure where you are getting the information that "every thin" woman hates everything they eat and hates working out.

    what do men/women really think about skinny women, and what do you women think about society and feeling like you must achieve a certain body image to be considered attractive?

    No. I am happy with who I am. People need to stop focusing on everyone else and how they look, and focus on their own body. Honestly, I'm a bit too busy focusing on my health and goals to be caring about what the media says I need to look like.

    do you wish you could just eat and not exercise and let your body do what it wants and be happy like that, or do you feel content with eating diet foods or restricting calories, daily exercise, and feeling the pressure to be skinny?

    I enjoy exercising. I would feel terribly lazy if I just sat around all day. Also, I don't eat "diet" foods or feel restricted at all. I eat 1500-2000 calories a day. I think that this is something you need to figure out. This must be bothering you and your perception of thin women is a bit wonky.

    this is not meant to offend anyone of any body type, i'm just curious as to what you all think! society frustrates me sometimes. :p
  • chocl8girl
    chocl8girl Posts: 1,968 Member

    Hate me if you wish, I want to BE HAPPY for once in my life. Just freaking ONCE.

    It kind of sounds more like you hate yourself. :( Simply being smaller will not make you happy.
  • sa11yjane
    sa11yjane Posts: 491 Member
    I wish that I could just accept the overweight me and get on with my life. Many years ago I managed to get really slim but it involved aerobic classes every day of the week which was just not sustainable. It's really interesting to see everyone's comments. I guess that I just keep trying as I really would like to be slim again so that I can buy nice clothes and give myself the best chance of a long and healthy life.
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    Is changing your life to be fit and feel beautiful, worth it?

    this is from nerdfitness and its the best go to there ever was.

    Read the whole thing or prove you already dont care enough to follow through.



    It will require commitment and dedication.

    It will require you to say “no” sometimes.

    It will require sacrifice.

    It won’t be quick.

    It won’t be easy.

    It won’t be fun all of the time

    Your friends will laugh at you for doing things differently.

    Your coworkers will gawk and poke fun at your new eating habits.

    Your loved ones will call you crazy and ask you to “be normal.”

    You will have to change some habits.

    You will want to give up.

    You will want to go back to bed.

    You will want to say “eh, good enough.”

    And you will ask yourself: “is it really worth it?”


    You’re damn right is is.

    You will feel great when you set a new record for push ups.

    You will let out a rebel yell when doing your first pull up.

    You will feel awesome running faster this week than last week.

    You will be amazed at how far you’ve come when looking at old pictures.

    You will feel good when people ask “have you been working out?”

    You will smile when your kids say “I want to be strong like you!”

    You will be surprised when people come to you for fitness advice.

    You will feel pride when you look at yourself in the mirror.

    You will go to sleep knowing that you’re a better person today than you were yesterday.

    It is worth it.
  • Food is now fuel, it is not the enemy. I no longer feel jealous of people who say they have dieted to be smaller then me as I feel there is more importance to strength and fitness rather than size.

    Truth.
  • jonesin_am
    jonesin_am Posts: 404 Member
    It's all about self confidence for me. I have NEVER liked my body, my life, or myself in general. I hated looking in the mirror, getting my picture taken, being introduced to new people, etc. Learning to eat right (not just the right foods but the right amount) and learning to enjoy exercise is one of the best things I have ever done for myself and my family!

    For me, at first this journey was about getting skinny and fitting into smaller clothes. Along the journey it became about making fitness goals for myself and feeling the awesome feeling of accomplishment when I met those goals. I have learned to like (still working on love) my body no matter it's shape and size. I walk with more bounce in my step and more confidence in my attitude. My overall emotional state is better...still have my bad days but I am actually not lying when I say I am happy most of the time.

    Taking control of your life and your health is totally worth it. At first it feels like work...after awhile it becomes a part of you. One thing that has been said over and over again...stop looking at it as a diet and start looking at it as a lifestyle change. Because that's what it really is. Eat foods you enjoy...in moderation. Relearn what good food tastes like. Some of us are so used to processed foods that we forgot how good a cucumber or orange can taste.

    You have to find what works for you. If there is something that you just can't live without (mine was coffee with french vanilla creamer) then don't live without it. Eventually, when I was ready, I was able to cut down on my consumption of coffee with creamer. Stil have it on weekends but not during the week.

    You got this! And yes YOU are worth it :)