Embarrassed to get fit?

jlapey

I have a 4-mile route that I've mapped out in my neighborhood. It included one lap of the neighborhood park track. One day while on the park track I noticed someone had written in big white chalk letters on the pavement "Exercising again? You rock". I thought that was so cool. I'm sure it wasn't meant for me personally, but I still found it motivating.

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erinnstreeter

Every morning I see a REALLY overwieght man walking slowly when I am on my way to work. I don't think, "wow that guy is really fat" I think "Good for him, he is concerned about his health and he is doing something about it" Don't worry if someone would think you look heavy, those people aren't worthy of your concern. Do this for you and when you are fit, those that would have giggled or thought you were heavy, will wish they had been excercising with you.

I totally do this. And when I'm in the car with my friends, we always go a cheer for the exerciser - not like, out the window or anything like that, but we all spontaneously yell out encouragement with the windows up in hopes that we're sending that person positive energy.

Part of my daily walk happens on a busy highway's bike path (probably illegal, but whatever, there aren't any sidewalks in my neighborhood, the county can bite me). When drivers move gently to the side out of safety for me, I like to think they're cheering for me in a silent way, too.

BobbieLee1959

Stick with it, walk, jog, lose weight, get fit and just maybe you'll inspire some of those other 1,999 people in your town to do the same.

^^^^THIS^^^^

Daniel, you can become a 1-Man Fitness Crusader and save your village from the O-Beast-ity!!

BobbieLee1959

I have a 4-mile route that I've mapped out in my neighborhood. It included one lap of the neighborhood park track. One day while on the park track I noticed someone had written in big white chalk letters on the pavement "Exercising again? You rock". I thought that was so cool. I'm sure it wasn't meant for me personally, but I still found it motivating.

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How I LOVE this!!

Next walk in the neighborhood, I am taking my chalk with me to encourage fellow fitness fanatics!!! YAY!!!

riveraphx

i feel teh same way and i'm in phoenix. sometimes i feel like people want you to fail, so i don't tell anyone. just my husband.

onyxwood

I know exactly how you feel! i am going to join my local gym tonite and i keep praying that i won't see anyone there that i know (and i surely will). not sure what it is, must be a self esteem/confidence issue.......but i think the more we get out there "getting fit" the more we will feel better about ourselves and let go of our insecurities. Good luck to you!

cwolfman13

Not sure if I'm the only one with this problem so I thought I'd ask.. Long story short, I am sort of embarrassed for people to see me attempting to get fit. I live in a small town of 2,000 people, so everybody knows everybody. And everybody knows everybody's business. And for some reason, when I am out in public for a walk or a jog, I pray and hope that nobody I know will see me. Why? I'm not exactly sure. Anybody with similar feelings?

I can relate, but maybe little bit different way. For me, my lifestyle change (quit smoking, healthy diet, re-introducing myself to exercise) was an admission that I f***** myself up somewhere along the way. I went from being a lean and mean Marine @ 165 Lbs to being a fat and flabby couch potato of 208 Lbs who got winded walking out to the car in the driveway. For me, it was initially embarrassing for people to see me walk out of the break room at work with my spinach and tuna salad (when a co-worker had brought in a huge pot of chicharonnes)...or to have a collegue catch me in my workout clothes as I headed for the parking lot. I was embarrased because I was not only admitting to myself that I f***** up somewhere along the way, but I was admitting that to my collegues/friends/family as well...and I'm not good about admiting when I've f***** up.

All that said, I've found a wealth of support...I have collegues/friends/family cheering me on. I bump into them occasionally at the park by my office that I run around and I get a, "great to see you out here Wolfman...keep it up!"

Now, what's really embarassing for me currently...one of my coworkers runs religiously at the park....he's 62 years old...and he wipes the floor with my *kitten*! I'm just getting started, but it's still embarassing to have a 62 year old lapping you a couple of times during a workout.

AmyAliEsq

I have always felt that way!! You are definitely not alone. Recently, though, I don't even notice other people or care about what they may be thinking - which is GREAT because I can do my thing without worrying about what the skinny girl on the elliptical next to me is thinking about my choice of gym attire (I know, I know leggings weren't made for everyone!) but is BAD when I realize that being so unaware is what has led to the extra weight!

I guess my point is this: it's OK to be a little self-conscious about other people watching, it can keep you on your toes! Instead of it becoming a deterrent, though, turn it into your motivation! If they're watching you today, wait until they see you a month from now, a year from now! You're out there making yourself WAY better, where's the shame in that? And by the way, if people are staring, they should probably stop standing around and get out there with you!

splitdog79

I have a 4-mile route that I've mapped out in my neighborhood. It included one lap of the neighborhood park track. One day while on the park track I noticed someone had written in big white chalk letters on the pavement "Exercising again? You rock". I thought that was so cool. I'm sure it wasn't meant for me personally, but I still found it motivating.

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Ha! That's plain awesome.

daniel7121

I can totally relate! And then I read this....someone posted it on MFP a while back...and I cried...lol. But seriously I have learned how people truly think. And I am no longer the fat girl!

http://flintland.blogspot.com/2012/05/hey-fat-girl.html

TOO AWESOME!! I love it

jlapey

I have a 4-mile route that I've mapped out in my neighborhood. It included one lap of the neighborhood park track. One day while on the park track I noticed someone had written in big white chalk letters on the pavement "Exercising again? You rock". I thought that was so cool. I'm sure it wasn't meant for me personally, but I still found it motivating.

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I have considered doing that myself. :happy:

How I LOVE this!!

Next walk in the neighborhood, I am taking my chalk with me to encourage fellow fitness fanatics!!! YAY!!!

torrini

I haven't told any of my friends that I'm trying to lose weight. Even though I know my best friend would be insanely supportive but still. I'll tell them when they'll start to notice it

jakidb

I don't live in a small town but I'm "embarass" to work out at the gym, in front of those who don't even know me including the ones I do, because in my mind they are "laughing". Don't know why I feel that way other than "self conscience", but it is what it is. Right now my preference is either 'walking' (which is an every day thing) or working out in the privacy of my own home. I'm hoping I won't feel this way after I drop another 60 lbs???

WendyTerry420

I totally understand. I waited until I was sure that I could stick to this before I ever told anyone. And I still do all my exercise at home, or go for walks while at work. I haven't set foot in a gym since I was 19.

caramel1920

I completely understand and used to feel the same way! I live in a rural community and when I first started out walking, attempting to jog, going to the track and then eventually the gym I was so self-conscious and even tried to go super early in the morning in the hopes no one would be there. But then I thought...everybody has to start somewhere and I can't be concerned about these people, I'm in here for me, no more excuses...and for me that worked, now I could give two s***s who's looking at me or who else is working out because we're all moving for the same reason, to get fit and stay healthy! First they'll ask you why you're doing it, then they'll ask you how you did it! Do whatever feels comfortable for you, but by all means, do something! You got this!

Tannedtiffers

Yes, I understand where you are coming from. We have 1100 people in my town, and for the longest I didn't wanna walk, much less run, in front of anyone at the track. I finally decided if they didn't like to look, then they should just turn there head. It's much easier now. Chin up and do it. You need to do it for you and to be happy!!

BobbyDaniel

I started this journey living in a town of 1200, now I live in a town of 3500 and in both places I was the pastor of the First Baptist Church...so everyone was all up in my grill at some point or another! It didn't bother me one bit, in fact I hoped that I would be able encourage others to do the same as well.

caramel1920

I can totally relate! And then I read this....someone posted it on MFP a while back...and I cried...lol. But seriously I have learned how people truly think. And I am no longer the fat girl!

http://flintland.blogspot.com/2012/05/hey-fat-girl.html

TOO AWESOME!! I love it

That was seriously cool!

akirgan

I can definitely relate to that feeling. It is like I feel they didn't know I was fat until they saw me working out and then they are like oh my she is fat. lol really I think it has to do with our own self esteem and confidence. I know that at my heaviest it's hard for me to get the courage to go anywhere because its so hard to deal with the whispers points and laughs but you can't stop living your life bc ppl are judging you. People will judge you if your fat or skinny it is a part of human nature all you can do is focus on what you want and need to live the life you deserve. So even though it may feel uncomfortable walk with your head high and a smile on your face be content with who you are now, and know you are worth being happy best luck and if you ever just want to chat I am here for you!!!!!

neverstray

I feel this way a lot. I almost kind of hide it. The reason is that people think I'm crazy when I tell them I workout 5 or 6 days a week. The last time I saw one of my friends, he seemed to insinuate that that's all I do, it's my whole life. And, I was like, 45 minutes a day is NOT my whole life. Duh! He didn't know how to react and there was a weird uncomfortable silence. But, yes, I feel weird because poeple think you're a nut or something. I'm not at all, it's just soemthing I enjoy doing. And, I think it's shows and I get results, and I don't know if it's jealousy or what, but it sucks. I wish people could just have the more healthy attitude and say, "Man, I sure wish I could find that motivation. good for you." Rather than the subtle ridicule I get from most people.

gadenni34

I ALWAYS think "how awesome!" when I see someone exercising. and ESPECIALLY when I see someone larger getting active. I admire anyone trying to get moving and find them all to be inspirations.

I try to remember this when I feel like the silly *fat* girl in the weight section. I try to operate based on the assumption others think like me and those who don't can p!ss off.

get out there and move and screw the ones who may or may not *approve*. and who knows who you may inspire!

emsfire839

I completely understand where you are coming from. I hate working out at a gym because I feel like a huge blimp next to all the cute little girls around me. I am even too self conscious to work out around my family. Love my mom to death, but she is one that thinks that negative comments work as motivation (they don't!). I've learned to workout with cardio tapes and weights at home, then go to my parents to use their treadmill while they're at work. Maybe someday when I can fit into some cute workout clothes and not my sweats, I'll venture out into public. Until then, I'll just keep doing what I'm doing.

jlapey

I have a 4-mile route that I've mapped out in my neighborhood. It included one lap of the neighborhood park track. One day while on the park track I noticed someone had written in big white chalk letters on the pavement "Exercising again? You rock". I thought that was so cool. I'm sure it wasn't meant for me personally, but I still found it motivating.

Edited to add pic:

How I LOVE this!!

Next walk in the neighborhood, I am taking my chalk with me to encourage fellow fitness fanatics!!! YAY!!!

I think I just might do that too. :happy:

MrsPong

I don't live in a small town. But I do feel you there...Since I've put on some weight I don't like going to the gym as much; I still go but I feel a little less at ease.
I feel like everything is rolling and sticking out. My husband has to keep reminding me everyone there is trying to get fit so don't worry about it. (Easy for him to say....he's like 9% body fat.)

daniel7121

I don't live in a small town but I'm "embarass" to work out at the gym, in front of those who don't even know me including the ones I do, because in my mind they are "laughing". Don't know why I feel that way other than "self conscience", but it is what it is. Right now my preference is either 'walking' (which is an every day thing) or working out in the privacy of my own home. I'm hoping I won't feel this way after I drop another 60 lbs???

That's exactly how I've felt. Hopefully we can keep ourselves motivated!! Good Luck!!

daniel7121

I don't live in a small town. But I do feel you there...Since I've put on some weight I don't like going to the gym as much; I still go but I feel a little less at ease.
I feel like everything is rolling and sticking out. My husband has to keep reminding me everyone there is trying to get fit so don't worry about it. (Easy for him to say....he's like 9% body fat.)

9%?! Holy Moley! Haha I can see why it would be easier for him to say.. I really don't like public gyms. They're expensive for one and a lot of the time, those in there are already at a good level of fitness. But, I shall trudge on! We can overcome!!