needing some boyfriend advice!

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  • coe28
    coe28 Posts: 715 Member
    Wait until you actually move to the new country to find a boyfriend instead of trying to drag some poor guy along with you. No doubt the new guy will be much happier with his surroundings than an out-of-place guy would.
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
    So if you recently broke up with the last guy why would the new guy move if you've recently started dating?

    you're doing it wrong.
  • coe28
    coe28 Posts: 715 Member
    just break up...


    MWAHAHAHAH...I got here first.

    Now on to more (hopefully) useful advice.

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    Look what you've started!! LOL
  • hellraisedfire
    hellraisedfire Posts: 403 Member
    :) thank you everyone. I feel like a jerk because I still plan on going to grad school in Iceland or Sweden and my mother doesn't approve of me leaving like that. but. I know that's where my heart is and where I'd be happiest.
  • Molly_Maguire
    Molly_Maguire Posts: 1,103 Member
    just break up is the best advice..whether it came from Dani or n0ob....

    you told him your expectations...he listened, he agreed...and now he does this?

    do you really want to hang around and resent him later for it?

    you know you will.....

    I could not agree with this MORE. It's not like you're dropping this on him at the last second; he knew this was your plan from the start. He either doesn't care enough about your feelings to respect your wishes, OR he thinks he can guilt or convince you into staying. Either way is not a healthy relationship IMO, and I suggest you leave him in the dust and enjoy your new dream life in Europe, just like you always wanted.

    ETA: I don't blame you for wanting to go to Sweden, I absolutely LOVED it there. Jealous!
  • FluttershySweetie
    FluttershySweetie Posts: 216 Member
    Life is too short to short change your dreams. If your intentions have been clear all this time, then see ya later!
    I have made sacrifices for boyfriends in the past and no I don`t regret it but now that I look back on it I should have done what I really wanted to do.
    Do what feels right to you.
  • MyM0wM0w
    MyM0wM0w Posts: 2,008 Member
    Why not just wait until you move? It seems pretty unreasonable to me to expect someone to uproot themselves and leave their friends/family to move to a new country with someone they aren't even in a committed relationship with.

    Will you explode and die if you AREN'T dating someone when you move? Do you need someone to move with you? Just go.
  • Decide where you want to live, move there, and THEN find a boyfriend.

    This.

    Don't give up your dreams for anyone. If he doesn't understand then he's not worth it. :)
  • ILoveTheBrowns
    ILoveTheBrowns Posts: 661 Member
    im single and willing to relocate....problem solved
  • hellraisedfire
    hellraisedfire Posts: 403 Member
    just break up is the best advice..whether it came from Dani or n0ob....

    you told him your expectations...he listened, he agreed...and now he does this?

    do you really want to hang around and resent him later for it?

    you know you will.....

    I could not agree with this MORE. It's not like you're dropping this on him at the last second; he knew this was your plan from the start. He either doesn't care enough about your feelings to respect your wishes, OR he thinks he can guilt or convince you into staying. Either way is not a healthy relationship IMO, and I suggest you leave him in the dust and enjoy your new dream life in Europe, just like you always wanted.

    ETA: I don't blame you for wanting to go to Sweden, I absolutely LOVED it there. Jealous!

    :laugh: you're the first person who's EVER said that to me about Sweden. usually I get the D: WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU.
  • MikeyD1280
    MikeyD1280 Posts: 5,257
    are you dating here because Swedish guys all look like Dolph Lundren?

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  • hellraisedfire
    hellraisedfire Posts: 403 Member
    im single and willing to relocate....problem solved

    I've heard that one before... :wink: :drinker:
  • Decide where you want to live, move there, and THEN find a boyfriend.

    Yeah what she said^^^
  • hellraisedfire
    hellraisedfire Posts: 403 Member
    are you dating here because Swedish guys all look like Dolph Lundren?

    >.>
    I was hoping for one that looked like alex skarsgård but...
  • JingleMuffin
    JingleMuffin Posts: 543 Member
    im single and willing to relocate....problem solved
    there you go. & sweden is by far the best country in the world to live in. right infront of denmark.
  • gwenmf
    gwenmf Posts: 888 Member
    Decide where you want to live, move there, and THEN find a boyfriend.

    This
  • Honey7c70
    Honey7c70 Posts: 5 Member
    I agree with RunInTheMud....That's a smart lady!
  • MikeyD1280
    MikeyD1280 Posts: 5,257
    Alexander+Skarsgard+True+Blood+Season+4+Premiere+sNAkK84a99Xl.jpg

    is this what your boyfriends now look like?
  • pawnstarNate
    pawnstarNate Posts: 1,728 Member
    eh...he never liked you that much and just used you for a lil sack action. The "im not moving" is just the easy way out. But, like the other said.....Move and then get a boyfriend
  • hellraisedfire
    hellraisedfire Posts: 403 Member
    nope. give me two weeks and he will though.

    *goes to pack bags now*
  • HiKaren
    HiKaren Posts: 1,306 Member
    Wait until you actually move to the new country to find a boyfriend instead of trying to drag some poor guy along with you. No doubt the new guy will be much happier with his surroundings than an out-of-place guy would.
    Agreed.
  • MikeyD1280
    MikeyD1280 Posts: 5,257
    nope. give me two weeks and he will though.

    *goes to pack bags now*

    ooo suki suki.. you live by me... NO we cannot date, I am sorry, I will not be moving to Sweden.. :laugh:
  • There are only two ways that a relationship can end, You either break up or you die. If you can't talk him into commiting to going with you, you're going to have to break up. It sucks, ALWAYS. The alternative is for you both to live a life you don't really want. Once it's over, I'd take a break from dating. You're not only risking your heart, but you're setting the other person up to make a serious commitment or break their heart and that's not fair. If you're serious about moving (and it sounds like you are) wait until you've settled down where you want to be before you start getting emotionally invested in another guy, or at least wait until you're on the plane :)
  • hellraisedfire
    hellraisedfire Posts: 403 Member
    nope. give me two weeks and he will though.

    *goes to pack bags now*

    ooo suki suki.. you live by me... NO we cannot date, I am sorry, I will not be moving to Sweden.. :laugh:

    :sad:

    you couldn't handle our alcohol content anyway!!
  • hellraisedfire
    hellraisedfire Posts: 403 Member
    There are only two ways that a relationship can end, You either break up or you die. If you can't talk him into commiting to going with you, you're going to have to break up. It sucks, ALWAYS. The alternative is for you both to live a life you don't really want. Once it's over, I'd take a break from dating. You're not only risking your heart, but you're setting the other person up to make a serious commitment or break their heart and that's not fair. If you're serious about moving (and it sounds like you are) wait until you've settled down where you want to be before you start getting emotionally invested in another guy, or at least wait until you're on the plane :)

    you scared me with that first sentence. :tongue: I think I was just... surprised that I don't really keep this hidden from people. so I guess I get confused when people flipflop. oh well.
  • MikeyD1280
    MikeyD1280 Posts: 5,257
    nope. give me two weeks and he will though.

    *goes to pack bags now*

    ooo suki suki.. you live by me... NO we cannot date, I am sorry, I will not be moving to Sweden.. :laugh:

    :sad:

    you couldn't handle our alcohol content anyway!!

    word.. I don't drink much..
  • hellraisedfire
    hellraisedfire Posts: 403 Member

    word.. I don't drink much..

    good. hardware in wilkes-barre caught on fire not too long ago. :wink:
  • MikeyD1280
    MikeyD1280 Posts: 5,257

    word.. I don't drink much..

    good. hardware in wilkes-barre caught on fire not too long ago. :wink:

    when I was single... boy did I LOVE that place... so much.. candy.... well look at that... BOOM... seems that you can let the baggage go!

    glad I can help.. now you're ready for Sweden!
  • marycmeadows
    marycmeadows Posts: 1,691 Member
    move out of the area/country.... find someone that is already overseas!
  • hellraisedfire
    hellraisedfire Posts: 403 Member
    haha thank you everyone :) I still feel like a jerk but at least you guys can make me laugh about it. :)