Jealous much?

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  • dinosnopro
    dinosnopro Posts: 2,177 Member
    VERY happy with your dear darling....yet trading numbers with random dude at gym




    ......seems legit


    I would get dear darling to run with you, but that's just my humble opinion. You could bet household chores on who pr's.
  • rybo
    rybo Posts: 5,424 Member
    As long as everything is open & up front I see no issues. You made things that way with your man, he should have made things that way with his girl. His girl must have already had trust issues with him if she was checking his phone.

    It's nice to have your running partner's number to coordinate before hand because sometimes things change & one person can't make it. If you know your partner is going, it gives you more motivation to show up.
  • avlama
    avlama Posts: 502 Member
    what are y'all talking about.....jealuosy is an awesome thing!

    just in case - kidding
  • secretlobster
    secretlobster Posts: 3,566 Member
    it irritates me that you call your bf/husband "my darling"........just saying.

    She keeps him locked in her basement, feeding on rats and insects

    So, I get a bunch of crap from you for telling someone it's weird to call their boyfriend their "husband", but you get to make fun of someone for calling their boyfriend/husband "my Darling"?

    Seems legit.

    Yes, I make fun of everyone for everything, perhaps you haven't seen me around much
  • Sarahbara76
    Sarahbara76 Posts: 601 Member
    The difference is your bf probably does not reference you as Babydoll when speaking or commenting to others, such as: "The other day Babydoll said to me that I to pull out the Christmas decorations", or on Facebook, "I know what you mean dude, Babydoll takes hours to get ready in the morning. Babydoll practically lives before the mirror!"

    However you bf calling YOU Babydoll to you in person is not weird or odd. Most of us call our significant others a different name ( baby, honey, hunnybunny, ***** ( with love) to their faces. We rarely address them by their first names unless angry with them or trying to get their attention across a crowded room.

    Now, do you see the difference?




    No he is a gamer and I HAVE SEEN him type "Can't tomorrow ,spending my time with my babydoll." or "Babydoll just finished making me dinner , gonna log off to nom with her" not weird to me and pretty damn cute if you ask me.
  • perfectingpatti
    perfectingpatti Posts: 1,037 Member
    Okay, so you're asking what others would do: I'd never meet a guy at the gym, exchange phone numbers, text to meet up again, and then discuss personal relationship issues with him. A few other points.

    Jealousy =/= mistrust.

    You don't know if he's given her reason to be jealous or mistrust him.

    Respect that your "running friendship" with him could hurt his relationship and remove yourself from the situation.

    Remember this for future use; YOU and Your Darling may not mind if the other meets up with people at the gym and develops this kind of relationship, but that doesn't mean that the women with your new friends will feel the same way.
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    It depends. How big is his junk?
  • secretlobster
    secretlobster Posts: 3,566 Member
    It depends. How big is his junk?

    Make sure you text his girlfriend when you find out! You two can bond over it. Jealousy: defeated!
  • Sarahbara76
    Sarahbara76 Posts: 601 Member
    It depends. How big is his junk?

    Make sure you text his girlfriend when you find out! You two can bond over it. Jealousy: defeated!


    Now you two are just silly :laugh: thanks for making me laugh!! :drinker:
  • AmberLee2012
    AmberLee2012 Posts: 540
    I would have said sorry dude, your girl is too much drama for me and I'll see you when I see you.
  • supertracylynn
    supertracylynn Posts: 1,338 Member
    It depends. How big is his junk?
    Make sure you text his girlfriend when you find out! You two can bond over it. Jealousy: defeated!
    Now you two are just silly :laugh: thanks for making me laugh!! :drinker:

    HAHA!! I LOL'd a little at this, too!
    I have no desire to see even a little of his junk, whether it's his garbage or his pen!s.


    Jealousy stems from fear - fear that you might lose what you have, or someone has something you do not.
    So I ran with her boyfriend. (time spent). However... I am very happily in a committed relationship, I have 3 kids, and not only am I older than her, I am older than him too.

    Mistrust stems from feeling the other person is not worthy of trust - whether that is founded or not. For example, going through someone's phone, emails, computer, sifting through their clothing over and over again, even though nothing is ever found.
    It's nice to have your running partner's number to coordinate before hand because sometimes things change & one person can't make it. If you know your partner is going, it gives you more motivation to show up.

    this is why we exchanged numbers. I'm training for a half marathon in 4 weeks, and today is my kids' last day of school for the next 3 weeks. I'm going to need some extra motivation to get up in the mornings, and even MORE motivation to get in my runs.

    Like I said to the one person who emailed me about this (she was very kind, by the way), The only person who's opinion that matters is your SO (aside from what you think of yourself).
  • secretlobster
    secretlobster Posts: 3,566 Member
    Have you decided how you're going to handle this yet?

    This guy sounds like more drama than he's worth, I'm amazed he actually told a stranger from the gym about his girlfriend's jealousy. You seem to have a great deal of respect for your own relationship, so why would you associate with a guy who doesn't for his?
  • soulfulsally
    soulfulsally Posts: 326
    Have you decided how you're going to handle this yet?

    This guy sounds like more drama than he's worth, I'm amazed he actually told a stranger from the gym about his girlfriend's jealousy. You seem to have a great deal of respect for your own relationship, so why would you associate with a guy who doesn't for his?

    ^^this. It's a little suspicious that this dude would be so quick to blab to you about his gf's jealousy. Like, is he trying to paint an oh-woe-is-me picture to gain your sympathy? And what does he hope to accomplish by doing so? Is he hoping you'll take the bait and complain about your spouse too and then he'll put the moves on you? Just a thought...
  • MyOwnSunshine
    MyOwnSunshine Posts: 1,312 Member
    Skipped over a few replies, but here's something to think about before you judge her or her response to texting her boyfriend...

    You only know this guy casually in workout situations. You probably haven't had any deep, soul-searching conversations with him. How do you know that cheating and dishonesty haven't been issues in their relationship. Maybe he has cheated on her before, or maybe her last boyfriend cheated on her, so it's a sensitive issue for her.

    I really don't think it's worth destroying someone's relationship to have a running partner. Run by yourself or join a running group. Why invite such drama into your life and why create drama in someone else's life?
  • Becoming_A_Butterfly
    Becoming_A_Butterfly Posts: 2,534 Member
    Instantly labeling his girlfriend as jealous is not fair. It seems like any reaction she would have had that didn't include skipping through the daisies and smiling endlessly would have been branded as jealousy.

    If my boyfriend had exchanged phone numbers with a woman and was meeting up with her, I would want to know about it. I am 100% he would want to know as well, if the situation was reversed. No jealousy involved, simply respect.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    it irritates me that you call your bf/husband "my darling"........just saying.


    its her pet name for him, much like some people call their SO baby or babe or cuddle butt.... It's no different. He likes it. She likes it, so why does it irritate you?
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    Who here has not innocently traded numbers with someone of the opposite sex WITHOUT wanting something inappropriate in return? I have guy friends with whom I have traded numbers and there is absolutely nothing physical going on there at all. No chemistry, just friendship. Whoa! Not every number a person gets is in order to bang them. Crap, people, get over it.
  • allisona28
    allisona28 Posts: 186 Member
    All I know is that my darling only gets rats on special occasions. Otherwise, it's all insects.
    LOL!!! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • noscalenoscissors
    noscalenoscissors Posts: 6
    "Where the mind goes, the man follows."

    Just keep that in mind.
  • Lesa_Sass
    Lesa_Sass Posts: 2,213 Member
    Some random chick I did not know, texting my husband asking him about meeting up at the gym would P!SS me off too. And it would be our issue to deal with, not hers to go spreading around the internet.
  • supertracylynn
    supertracylynn Posts: 1,338 Member
    Have you decided how you're going to handle this yet?
    My Darling and I talked about it, and I'm going to wait. I haven't heard anything back, and I wont text. I don't NEED a running partner, I've gotten along just fine without one when my Darling is busy and I can't make it down to run with my Brand Ambassador Buddy.
    This guy sounds like more drama than he's worth, I'm amazed he actually told a stranger from the gym about his girlfriend's jealousy. You seem to have a great deal of respect for your own relationship, so why would you associate with a guy who doesn't for his?
    Some people like to talk negatively, often. It's human nature. Men get together and talk about their naggy wife. Women get together and talk about their lazy hub.
    However, not all of us are like this.
    I'm divorced and try very hard to say only positive things about my ex. He's the father of my kids. If I have any issues with my Darling, I like to keep it to myself. He's fantastic, really, and I don't want any one thinking poorly of him or thinking that they might have an "in".

    This guy had actually spoken highly of his ex (which I appreciated), and didn't say anything negative about his gf until that "jealous type" comment, and even then, that was it. What they do in their relationship is their business. And yes, I am questioning if I want to continue associating with this type of potential drama.

    Please allow me to reiterate that the text I sent him said exactly this, "Are you hitting the gym tomorrow?"
    No times were mentioned, no meeting up was mentioned. None of that "other" stuff.


    Oh, and guess who has a running date tomorrow with their SO?
    That'd be *ME!*
    I'm excited!!!!
    :blushing: :bigsmile: :smooched:
  • loneworg
    loneworg Posts: 342 Member
    Ya did nothing wrong. Dude should of been upfront about it with his woman. Oh and people you can be friends with the opposite sex.
  • theCarlton
    theCarlton Posts: 1,344 Member
    Some random chick I did not know, texting my husband asking him about meeting up at the gym would P!SS me off too. And it would be our issue to deal with, not hers
    sufficient answer. But..........
    to go spreading around the internet.
    dumb.

    I'm sure his girlfriend is totally going to check the internet to see if anyone posted a scenario such as this, not including any names or even locations.
  • perfectingpatti
    perfectingpatti Posts: 1,037 Member
    Some random chick I did not know, texting my husband asking him about meeting up at the gym would P!SS me off too.
    I'd be upset, too. Not because of jealousy or because I don't trust my husband but because I expect more propriety in our marriage.
    And it would be our issue to deal with, not hers to go spreading around the internet.
    How else will she find validation that she's done nothing wrong? She wants people to agree with her that there is nothing wrong with what she's been doing.
  • supertracylynn
    supertracylynn Posts: 1,338 Member
    to go spreading around the internet.
    dumb.

    I'm sure his girlfriend is totally going to check the internet to see if anyone posted a scenario such as this, not including any names or even locations.

    YES!
  • wareagle8706
    wareagle8706 Posts: 1,090 Member
    it irritates me that you call your bf/husband "my darling"........just saying.
    She only does that because, "My Precious" was already taken.


    now I would have liked that!!

    My boyfriend calls me babydoll...is that creepy?
    If he refers to you that way in third person when speaking to other people, especially strangers on the Internet, yes.

    Y'all are being seriously crazy. Why aren't you commenting that the fact that she called the gym goes "Dude?" It's obvious she didn't want to give real names so she came up with something else. What the hell is wrong with that??
  • supertracylynn
    supertracylynn Posts: 1,338 Member
    Y'all are being seriously crazy. Why aren't you commenting that the fact that she called the gym goes "Dude?" It's obvious she didn't want to give real names so she came up with something else. What the hell is wrong with that??

    Actually... I do call him "my Darling" when talking to other people, especially since his name is fairly common. He is much more than casual to me, and just saying his name doesn't denote the special place he has in my life.

    Though I do agree, what I call my person is really not the point of this thread.
    If you're looking at a financial report that indicates a company (or family) is hemorrhaging money, are you really going to pass over that fact if you don't like the colors and font?
    :noway:
  • supertracylynn
    supertracylynn Posts: 1,338 Member
    ..double post...
  • whitneyps7
    whitneyps7 Posts: 409 Member
    I aspire to be an endurance runner and know that a) speed work is important, b) distance/length of time is important, and c) enjoying it is important.

    The last 2 days I went to the gym and ran with a guy I met there last week. He's quite a bit faster too and yes, I peeked at his treadmill when I first saw him there (he was running beside me when it was crowded). When I saw him the next day, I struck up conversation and asked him what his fitness goals were. I mentioned running side-by-side on the treadmill to encourage each other. He agreed, we exchanged numbers. I told my Darling about it and that I was excited to maybe have a gym-social-running partner. There was very little interaction between us after that, which was mutual.

    I texted him on Tues asking if he was going to run on Wed, he said yes. We met up and ran - he ran double his goal, and almost twice his PR distance util that point, and I ran 2 extra miles. It was pleasant and platonic. He has a girlfriend, I am in a committed relationship. My Darling knew where I was, we have built our relationship on trust and honesty. However, Dude's girlfriend didn't know about me.

    Last night I texted Dude and asked if he was hitting the gym today. That was it.
    His girlfriend checked his phone this morning and apparently... she's the jealous type.
    I told Dude that I'd be fine meeting her, texting her, getting to know her, I'm certainly no threat to her since I am VERY happy with my Darling, that I like the idea of a social running partner for when I'm not doing my longer distances with my Darling. He agreed and said he'd talk to her.

    When I got to my van afterward, I immediately relayed the whole thing to my Darling, expressing my concerns and suggestions.


    I'm curious how others might've handled this.

    sounds like u did the right thing! i would have done the same im friends with all of my exs new girlfriends. and i also have alot of guy friends who have girlfriends and they have flipped out on me.....the opposite sex for your gf/bf its just the way it is. she sees u as a female and a threat.
  • whitneyps7
    whitneyps7 Posts: 409 Member
    it irritates me that you call your bf/husband "my darling"........just saying.
    She only does that because, "My Precious" was already taken.


    now I would have liked that!!

    My boyfriend calls me babydoll...is that creepy?
    If he refers to you that way in third person when speaking to other people, especially strangers on the Internet, yes.

    Y'all are being seriously crazy. Why aren't you commenting that the fact that she called the gym goes "Dude?" It's obvious she didn't want to give real names so she came up with something else. What the hell is wrong with that??

    seriously!!!!????? so freakin stupid who gives a **** what she calls her boyfriend?!?!! its her bf if anyone should be complaining it should be him ( if it bothered him!) no one else really has a say in what she calls him.

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