To all the men who think they are nice, take the Fedora test

captainsuperpants

Ahahahha, this whole website makes me laugh (and feel a wee bit depressed too). The fedora test though is extra-special. Take note 'nice' guys, there may be some serious truths to be learned here about why you're REALLY getting rejected, if you care to learn...

Ps: FOUL LANGUAGE WARNING

http://niceguysofokc.tumblr.com/page/5

jayche

apparently I'm an alright guy

captainsuperpants

apparently I'm an alright guy

Well done! It's great news to hear there are men who have common human decency in the world without expecting a prize...

If you don't expect that women keep their legs shaved or are obligated to have sex with you even when they don't want to, or that there may be reasons other than you are so nice they don't want to date you, or that women perhaps can make their own decisions about who they date and why, then well done, You are a human.

You don't even own a fedora?

LOLOLOL

jayche

You don't even own a fedora?

LOLOLOL

Well, apparently even if I owned one I'd still be an alright guy after getting rid of it. Is it common to own one or something?

Jetpack826

Damn. I own two Fedoras. But...but...but they were made in Italy. Does that count for anything?

captainsuperpants

You don't even own a fedora?

LOLOLOL

Well, apparently even if I owned one I'd still be an alright guy after getting rid of it. Is it common to own one or something?

I was just being silly (about the fedora anyway). I think the implication is that only *kitten* own fedoras. Which isn't true, but lightens the tone and makes comedy out of something that is actually kind of sad. Or maybe it is true, about fedoras?

captainsuperpants

Damn. I own two Fedoras. But...but...but they were made in Italy. Does that count for anything?

Yes. That's extra-douchey. Get rid of them immediately.

BBehnke84

I'm proud to report that I own zero fedoras, and never have lol

amyjax

GuysOfOKC is amazing and sad all at once. Do these guys think that their female friends are machines, and if they put friendship coins in then some sex will fall out?! "I'm a NiceGuy, but I will judge you if you don't shave your legs or if you refuse to sleep with me. I'm entitled to some sex." - if you think that, then you're not a nice guy, you're a misogynist pig who wouldn't know what to do with a girlfriend even if he could get one.

captainsuperpants

I'm proud to report that I own zero fedoras, and never have lol

While this is great news, the test isn't actually about fedoras, it's about 'nice guy syndrome', where guys think they are 'friendzoned' (gee, it's so horrible being friends with women who won't bone you) because they are so 'nice' when perhaps they be a little unsure as to the actual definition of nice...

captainsuperpants

GuysOfOKC is amazing and sad all at once. Do these guys think that their female friends are machines, and if they put friendship coins in then some sex will fall out?! "I'm a NiceGuy, but I will judge you if you don't shave your legs or if you refuse to sleep with me. I'm entitled to some sex." - if you think that, then you're not a nice guy, you're a misogynist pig who wouldn't know what to do with a girlfriend even if he could get one.

Will you marry me?

BBehnke84

I'm proud to report that I own zero fedoras, and never have lol

While this is great news, the test isn't actually about fedoras, it's about 'nice guy syndrome', where guys think they are 'friendzoned' (gee, it's so horrible being friends with women who won't bone you) because they are so 'nice' when perhaps they be a little unsure as to the actual definition of nice...

Haha no I got what it was about, just felt like pointing out that fact regarding fedoras

amyjax

*swoons*

YES MY LOVE, A THOUSAND TIMES YES!

captainsuperpants

*swoons*

YES MY LOVE, A THOUSAND TIMES YES!

Finally! I knew i'd find true love on here, one day... It's hard, i have to be pretend to be straight, because as you can see i am a proud feminist, and obviously all feminists are lesbians.

Laces_0ut

good lord thats awesome...how am i just finding out about this now?

Chinadorian

When I moved out of my ex fiances place, the one thing he hid from me so i wouldnt take it from him.....was the fedora i had gotten him for an anniversary present. Dbag central. as if i would want it anyway

Chinadorian

and i got it for him because he wanted it, not because i really cared he wear one

Sick_Beard

No guy would pass that test...so those of you who did is either a liar or smooth talking OP =P

Laces_0ut

as i read more ...i love all the hate mail the blogger is receiving.

captainsuperpants

When I moved out of my ex fiances place, the one thing he hid from me so i wouldnt take it from him.....was the fedora i had gotten him for an anniversary present. Dbag central. as if i would want it anyway

Famous last words 'And he loved his fedora...'

mikey1976

whats this nice guy quiz i couldn't find it. thank you
ps someone want to fill me in on what a fedora is i have no clue thanks again

captainsuperpants

No guy would pass that test...so those of you who did is either a liar or smooth talking OP =P

Um, I would hope that generally people who are humans would pass this test.

It's the fedora's causing you issue at the end isn't it, you just can't bear to part with your fedora.

Or are you not claiming you are a nice guy? because if you're more than happy to admit you're a sexist pig, or just a general arsehole then the test is irrelevant to you. It's only for the surprising amount of fellas who believe they are being passed over because they are so 'Nice' when actually it is possible they are, as CatPower83 said, misogynistic jerks.

Laces_0ut

as for the test i failed right off the bat on the "leg shaving" question. but to be clear i feel men and women are obligated to groom themselves.

Sick_Beard

whats this nice guy quiz i couldn't find it. thank you
ps someone want to fill me in on what a fedora is i have no clue thanks again

It's a hat

captainsuperpants

whats this nice guy quiz i couldn't find it. thank you
ps someone want to fill me in on what a fedora is i have no clue thanks again

Just copy and paste the link and then scroll down a bit, it's like a flowchart: http://niceguysofokc.tumblr.com/page/5

a fedora is a hat. People who think they're cool wear them. Some of those people are actually cool. Some of them are actually looking a little silly. The fedora thing is just to maintain the comedy.

Just to be clear, these are real men on a real dating website. Just in case you weren't already depressed.

grawrrrr

I am so tired of the phrase "friend zone" for this exact reason!

captainsuperpants

as for the test i failed right off the bat on the "leg shaving" question. but to be clear i feel men and women are obligated to groom themselves.

It's more the issue that it is expected, and from someone you haven't met yet. Rather than something that you both believe in as a couple. Shaving both of your entire legs every day is alot more work than shaving your face or whatever, so the expectations on women to be well-groomed are, quite frankly, ridiculous and unfair/unequal.

Also, have you claimed you are a nice guy? if not, then this test is irrelevant to you.

In case you hadn't noticed, for quite a number of the men on the website who answered that question as you did, it doesn't appear that grooming is their top priority...

I'm more disturbed by the sexual expectations these jerks have.

Laces_0ut

as for the test i failed right off the bat on the "leg shaving" question. but to be clear i feel men and women are obligated to groom themselves.

It's more the issue that it is expected, and from someone you haven't met yet. Rather than something that you both believe in as a couple. Shaving both of your entire legs every day is alot more work than shaving your face or whatever, so the expectations on women to be well-groomed are, quite frankly, ridiculous and unfair/unequal.

Also, have you claimed you are a nice guy? if not, then this test is irrelevant to you.

In case you hadn't noticed, for quite a number of the men on the website who answered that question as you did, it doesn't appear that grooming is their top priority...

I'm more disturbed by the sexual expectations these jerks have.

guys groom more than just their face. maybe obligated is the wrong word.

and yeah the guys that said girls were obligated to have sex with them was pretty scary. and on top of that they were dumb enough to answer the question.

Sick_Beard

as for the test i failed right off the bat on the "leg shaving" question. but to be clear i feel men and women are obligated to groom themselves.

It's more the issue that it is expected, and from someone you haven't met yet. Rather than something that you both believe in as a couple. Shaving both of your entire legs every day is alot more work than shaving your face or whatever, so the expectations on women to be well-groomed are, quite frankly, ridiculous and unfair/unequal.

Also, have you claimed you are a nice guy? if not, then this test is irrelevant to you.

In case you hadn't noticed, for quite a number of the men on the website who answered that question as you did, it doesn't appear that grooming is their top priority...

I'm more disturbed by the sexual expectations these jerks have.

Personal vendetta against men like me that have standards? I have no desire to sleep next to a chimp, I took care of myself and I expect my future wife to do the same not only physically but mentally and career wise as well.

The term "Nice" guy is subjective and to be honest if I knew you in person I would find your attitude very insulting as you yourself come across as a sexist pig trying to downplay men giving honest answers.

captainsuperpants

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guys groom more than just their face. maybe obligated is the wrong word.

and yeah the guys that said girls were obligated to have sex with them was pretty scary. and on top of that they were dumb enough to answer the question.
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Most men who are into grooming are still not grooming as much as women are into grooming, but yes, i take your point, although the actual point is the word 'obligated'. it is upsetting.

'dumb' enough is actually not true, it is ****ing DISTURBING that any man does or thinks anything like that, but we know unfortunately they do, or there would be no rape or sexual harassment in the world. I guess they figured they were hiding in some sort of anonymous internet hole, alot of them wouldn't even know they'd made it to that blog. Or they think those attitudes are acceptable. If there are that many men thinking that **** is ok, then i'd rather it be out in the open and addressed rather than guys 'pretending' they don't believe in rape in ANY circumstances, but secretly thinking there are some situations where it is fine.

Just to be clear to all you 'nice' guys, unwanted and ongoing sexual behaviour is NEVER EVER ok. EVER. Don't do it. Ever. Even if you think you 'got away with it' you didn't. If she wasn't ok with it in any way, you committed a crime and violated a human being and she knows what you did.

Sick_Beard

guys groom more than just their face. maybe obligated is the wrong word.

and yeah the guys that said girls were obligated to have sex with them was pretty scary. and on top of that they were dumb enough to answer the question.

Most men who are into grooming are still not grooming as much as women are into grooming, but yes, i take your point, although the actual point is the word 'obligated'. it is upsetting.

'dumb' enough is actually not true, it is ****ing DISTURBING that any man does or thinks anything like that, but we know unfortunately they do, or there would be no rape or sexual harassment in the world. I guess they figured they were hiding in some sort of anonymous internet hole, alot of them wouldn't even know they'd made it to that blog. Or they think those attitudes are acceptable. If there are that many men thinking that **** is ok, then i'd rather it be out in the open and addressed rather than guys 'pretending' they don't believe in rape in ANY circumstances, but secretly thinking there are some situations where it is fine.

Just to be clear to all you 'nice' guys, unwanted and ongoing sexual behaviour is NEVER EVER ok. EVER. Don't do it. Ever. Even if you think you 'got away with it' you didn't. If she wasn't ok with it in any way, you committed a crime and violated a human being and she knows what you did.

Woman rape and sexual harass as well...just so you know.

So this concludes that OP should back off from the keyboard right about now and have the thread locked and burnt into ashes as the topic is not even relevant to fitness or the men on this site. If you however were subjected to any ill treatment from a member on this site then I would suggest you contact Mike and have it sorted....