Family saying I am getting too skinny when I am not?

wonderstruck91

I get this constantly. Its frustrating.

yaddayaddayadda

LOL... My sister in law uses the endearing term, "chicken-chested" when she is trying to say that I'm too skinny. (I always thought chickens were grown to have big chests though). Although I have never used it, I could refer to her as Manatee-like.

It is interesting to me that it's OK to insult someone because they are skinnier than you, but it is insensitive to call someone fat.

Ignore your family and do what is best for you and your body...

fitmommy75

I didn't tell anyone I was on a journey of weight loss. Once I started showing a good deal of weight loss family and friends started with the guilt trips about me not going out to eat much anymore. I received so much food as gifts this year too. Most of it went in the trash. I also started running this year and kept that to myself until my brother announced that I had signed up for a half marathon. Now, I catch a lot of crap at home for wanting to go out and run for an hour.

amann1976

before and after pics would help

thingeringer

Based on your avatar photo they might be correct. Your round head is as big as your torso. I'm no expert but I think your torso should be at least two if not three times bigger than your head.

Too cute. Thanks for good laugh before I head out to pick up a lady minute gift!

Capt_Apollo

parents also don't want to see kids fail or push themselves to extremes.

they also can be a little clueless about things too. i mentioned to my dad that i had started weight lifting, and i was enjoying myself, and that i was taking some protein powder to help out with muscle development. he called me two days later warning me not to take steroids like i used to do.

yeah, i took steroids once. i lost my voice and the doctor prescribed about a weeks worth of steroid pills to help with recovery. so my dad took it to mean that i was juicing.

neanderthin

The flip side of the coin is, that you are skinny and posting here for reassurance can be triggering for people that have poor relationships with their body and/or food......not that this is you, just mentioning it and why sometimes the wrong information is given.....nobody want to contribute to a trigger for that type of condition.

zentha1384

A lot of it depends on the person and their personality. My immediate family is very supportive of my weight loss. My mom was one of those mom's that always used to say "I didn't weight what you weight at your age" or "You should try losing some weight" "If you aren't careful you will end up Diabetic" "The clothes you are wearing is too tight"

Now that I have lost weight, my mom constantly tells me how good I look and how proud of me she is.

Now take my cousin, she is the jealous type (I had a better upbringing than her) and will try any way possible to prove she is better than me, and ignore any way she isn't. She will make those backhanded complements whenever she can. A few years back I got in a snide condensing voice "Looks like you have lost a little bit of weight (I had not and she knew it), Soon you might fit into the same size I'm wearing" She was wearing 18s and at the time I was in 16s.

Bottom line, not everyone's family sabatoage and it really depends on the personality type when they do. If you look at what my mom did, she said some things that were really not nice when I was really overweight, she thought she was helping me. Now she isn't. It is possible it is your family is doing the reverse of this. They think they are trying to help you because they think you are under weight.

Don't be too quick to judge, they do love you. They may think they are helping you or just be insecure with themselves.

InnerFatGirl

I'm getting the same. Gets kinda annoying. I LOVE people noticing my weight loss, but I do not love being told to stop losing weight when I am still fat.

annepage

I'm getting the same. Gets kinda annoying. I LOVE people noticing my weight loss, but I do not love being told to stop losing weight when I am still fat.

Agreed.

sweetpea129

Yes i have the same problem. It really annoys me. From famliy and even some friends. Why do people think they have the right to tell me how much i should weigh? If it were a problem i totally get it but even then, it should be done privately. I think its all jealousy.

For myself, i was always obese. I weighed 277 before i changed my life. I was mostly in the 250s since college and gained more the past couple years because of kids. I guess my family was just use to me looking like that. Now i'm 178 lbs. Still overweight. But all they say is that im getting too skinny and i need to "stop now". They think im crazy that i want to weigh 145-155. And thats not even that low! I have no advice but wanted you to know you're not alone. I wish my family would mind their business. I just dont talk about it with them anymore.

Tanja_CHH

Im still 80 kilos at 172 centimeters, so still not in the HEALTHY range of weight and I often got told to stop loosing weight. i live with the most unhealthy host family, having to fight temptations and was only finally able to say no when I had gallstones and since then (a year ago now) i learned to say no anytime, and if they say I need to stop loosing I nod and ignore it. Ill stop loosing when I feel Im the right size

cheshire29

Does anyone know why families fail to show support when it comes to fitness/losing weight/health?

I think it's because they are overweight themselves but because they don't do anything about it they have to put others down for actually taking action...

that's probably it, the people that see you a lot or what their used too is so different. My family asks me why I want to lose weight and I'm at 180# lol

My parents are not overweight and said nothing when they saw me after losing 40lbs (240 down to 200). My mom used to say plenty about how I should eat better, now she doesn't know what to say I guess. I think depending on your situation it really depends. I would suggest trying to talk to them. I know after my last encounter I am going to bring it up the next time and see what they have to say.

gwicks54

I am 57 years old & I get that. I carry most of my weight in the belly which means I don't have much hips & I have a friend that tells me I need to stop losing because of this. I choose to believe she means well but I know my body and I know that my belly fat is unhealthy so I will lose until I am at a normal BMI.

RockandRoseRebel

I don't think they truly understand what being healthy means, they associate being in shape as anorexic or having a eating disorder.

^That is my family. I think one of the reasons it's taken me so long to finally get motivated to make my body what I want it to be is because in my family for some reason weight is a taboo subject and if you're fat, you don't actually DO anything about it because you're not fat (even if you are). Also my family has no idea what a healthy diet is. My mother buys lots of grain & dairy products and thinks she's being healthy because it's all whole wheat, brown rice, organic, whathaveyou, nevermind that protein and fruits/veggies are non-existent.

Personally, I don't like anyone commenting on my body. I don't care if they're commenting favorably on lost weight, telling me I need to lose more, or that I need to stop, I don't want to hear it. It's mine and I'll do what I want with it. Furthermore I'm pretty sure that if I when I get down to the size I want, somebody is going to tell me I'm too skinny. Most likely because for one thing I'm tall so I'll look different than a shorter person wearing the same size, and also because no one has ever actually SEEN me that small because I've had a weight problem for what seems like forever (really only from around 16 on, when I stopped growing but kept eating like I was and then tried to compensate by starving...yeah that doesn't work, but it only took me four years to figure it out /sarcasm).

But I'm not going to let anybody's opinion get to me. I've done my research, I'm smart. I'm not married to a particular number on the scale, and I'm confident in my ability to be able to find a healthy weight. I know what's a healthy range for BMI and body fat and I know what's going overboard/dipping into eating disorder territory, so nobody's else's perception matters as long as I have science and math on my side.