Were you ever in a relationship where...
...after a few dates you found out they were still married or had a bf/gf?
There was one woman I met, wet out a couple times, told me she was divorced. Got a call one night from a number I never saw before. It was the woman's husband begging me to stop seeing his wife...DAHUR!! We actually spoke for about 15 minutes and I told him what I learned from my divorce and gave him some pointers.
I immediately stopped talking to the woman. Ended up seeing her a couple months later with some other dude...lol.
There was one woman I met, wet out a couple times, told me she was divorced. Got a call one night from a number I never saw before. It was the woman's husband begging me to stop seeing his wife...DAHUR!! We actually spoke for about 15 minutes and I told him what I learned from my divorce and gave him some pointers.
I immediately stopped talking to the woman. Ended up seeing her a couple months later with some other dude...lol.
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Divorced or Separated (for a good amount of time 1 year plus) is fine with me.
I wouldn't touch someone with a 50 foot pole if they are Married or in a relationship. I wouldn't want to be cheated on.0 -
Divorced or Separated (for a good amount of time 1 year plus) is fine with me.
I wouldn't touch someone with a 50 foot pole if they are Married or in a relationship. I wouldn't want to be cheated on.
werd, once i found out she was still married I stopped all contact...couldn't tell her why either cuz the husband begged me not to let her know he called me. He went through her phone and found my number and texts.0 -
I went on a date with a guy I had liked for a while. He messaged me one day inviting me to hang out with him at a friend's party. He told me he was single and that him and his last gf had been broken up "for a while." We went out, had fun, went to a bar, he acted "coupley" with me all night & in front of everyone. I felt like it was too good to ve true & asked a few times if he was reallh single and he said yes. I slept over (but we didn't do *that* stuff). I found out the next day when he messaged me saying "It was a mistake" and 20 minutes later I had a bunch of hate mail & death threats from his girlfriend in my Facebook inbox.
I also have a friend who dated a guy for 2 weeks, she was a minor and he was 18 or 19. She assumed he was her boyfriend and he even brought her to his house and everything... Then his girlfriend came back from her 2-week vacation! My friend wasn't too impressed, and the guy's girlfriend never found out. He's been with that girl for a couple years.0 -
I went on a date with a guy I had lijed for a while. He messaged me one day inviting me to ahang out with him at a friend's party. He told me he was single and that him and his last gf had been broken up "for a while." We went out, had fun, went to a bar, he acted "coupley" with me all night & in front of everyone. I slept over (but we didn't do *that* stuff). I found out the next day when he messaged me saying "It was a mistake" and 20 minutes later I had a bunch of hate mail & death threats from his girlfriend in my Facebook inbox.
I also have a friend who dated a guy for 2 weeks, she was a minor and he was 18 or 19. She assumed he was her boyfriend and he even brought her to his house and everything... Then his girlfriend came back from her 2-week vacation! My friend wasn't too impressed, and the guy's girlfriend never found out. He's been with that girl for a couple years.
I love the idiots like that, that send you hate mail like its YOUR fault and not her cheating husband/boyfriend0 -
I love the idiots like that, that send you hate mail like its YOUR fault and not her cheating husband/boyfriend
Yup. I even explained to her how everything went down. It's been an awkward path with that couple ever since... Once in a great while, him & I will chat at the bar (Because we have mutual friends & he's a friendly guy) and when she finds out, I get more hate mail. Even though I was not flirting and she knows who he went home with that night.0 -
I love the idiots like that, that send you hate mail like its YOUR fault and not her cheating husband/boyfriend
Yup. I even explained to her how everything went down. It's been an awkward path with that couple ever since... Once in a great while, him & I will chat at the bar (Because we have mutual friends & he's a friendly guy) and when she finds out, I get more hate mail. Even though I was not flirting and she knows who he went home with that night.
are you still attracted to him though?0 -
I never had that happen. Glad you stopped it when you found out.0
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Probably still attracted deep down... But I usually avoid him and try not to get in talking situations because of his girlfriend. And also he's an *kitten* for what he did so I'm hoping someone better will come around. I'm not gonna wait around or waste more time on him.0
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Probably still attracted deep down... But I usually avoid him and try not to get in talking situations because of his girlfriend. And also he's an *kitten* for what he did so I'm hoping someone better will come around. I'm not gonna wait around or waste more time on him.
i know when you like someone already...its easier said than done...but there's plenty of other guys out there to meet.
I'm trying to stop being that guy that "puts up" with things in a relationship to make them work...if I know its not working or there's stuff I don't like...time to move on.0 -
I dated a guy once for a couple of months. I really liked him and we spent a lot of time together, he would even stay the night a couple of times a week. I had even met and spent time with his family. One day I get a call from a girl that said she knew about me and wanted to let me know that she was his live-in, pregnant girlfriend. I confronted him and him and his dad convinced me that it was his sister playing a prank on him. It bugged me all night so I called her number back the next morning, she was telling the truth so I broke it off right then.0
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I dated a guy once for a couple of months. I really liked him and we spent a lot of time together, he would even stay the night a couple of times a week. I had even met and spent time with his family. One day I get a call from a girl that said she knew about me and wanted to let me know that she was his live-in, pregnant girlfriend. I confronted him and him and his dad convinced me that it was his sister playing a prank on him. It bugged me all night so I called her number back the next morning, she was telling the truth so I broke it off right then.
the guy is a scumbag enough....but for the *kitten* dad to even get involved? What a ****.0 -
That poor husband saved you miles of grief....:glasses:...after a few dates you found out they were still married or had a bf/gf?
There was one woman I met, wet out a couple times, told me she was divorced. Got a call one night from a number I never saw before. It was the woman's husband begging me to stop seeing his wife...DAHUR!! We actually spoke for about 15 minutes and I told him what I learned from my divorce and gave him some pointers.
I immediately stopped talking to the woman. Ended up seeing her a couple months later with some other dude...lol.0 -
There's a Guy at my work place who talks about his wife and kids then hits on me in the same breath (blatantly, "your looking so good" "Wish you'd let me take you out" ect).
He's a really nice guy and i enjoy working and talking to him, but it just seems so messed up.
If I make a commitment to be in a relationship with someone then that's it for me, and if I become unhappy in that relationship then I either get out of it or try and work it out. I don't think there is any excuse for cheating
It's funny actually, if I see a guy I'm attracted to I go out of my way to talk to him, and if I find out he's in a relationship it's like an "turn off" switch gets flicked and I lose interest (romantically anyway).0 -
I dated a guy once for a couple of months. I really liked him and we spent a lot of time together, he would even stay the night a couple of times a week. I had even met and spent time with his family. One day I get a call from a girl that said she knew about me and wanted to let me know that she was his live-in, pregnant girlfriend. I confronted him and him and his dad convinced me that it was his sister playing a prank on him. It bugged me all night so I called her number back the next morning, she was telling the truth so I broke it off right then.
the guy is a scumbag enough....but for the *kitten* dad to even get involved? What a ****.
That's why at first it was so easy to believe it was a prank. I'd met the mom, dad and one brother. Plus he called me his girlfriend in front of them. Definitely all *kitten*!!0 -
This never really happened to me, but I saw a guy at a bar one night and we were chatting and he was being flirtatious and friendly and asked for my number... then I saw the wedding band (silly me for not checking right away). Needless to say, that was the end of that. I've been cheated on, and I would NEVER want anyone to feel the way I did.
Speaking of which, this girl was creeping all over my ex's facebook page. I told him I wasn't comfortable with her, but he and I had been dating for over 2 years, so i trusted him. His facebook cover photo was even a picture of me sleeping in the car, so she KNEW he had a girlfriend. Well, come to find out when he moves in with me, he's sleeping with this girl. things ended after that. I'm not quite sure how a girl could do that to another girl, let alone a man who told me he wanted to marry me and had me get sized for a ring, but everything happens for a reason and I'm sure they will get their karma.0 -
I'm trying to stop being that guy that "puts up" with things in a relationship to make them work...if I know its not working or there's stuff I don't like...time to move on.
That is good that you're trying to stop that, but make sure you TALK before you just decide to end it. It always hurts the worst when you continuously ask them if something is wrong, because girls can tell, they honestly can, but the guy keeps saying "nope", and then before you know it he's gone.0 -
I ran into a guy a knew (vaguely) from childhood. We ended up spending the whole evening together and talked all night. I was pretty sure he was Mr. Right. He was so sweet. I found out the next day that he was married and his wife was 8 months pregnant. Blah.0
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I'm going to play the devil's advocate here...
How do you know the husband / ex-husband was on the up & up? Ok, so he got your number and saw some texts. Maybe they were still on the same plan. I am on the same plan with my ex, at least for now (legal recommendation). He has access to the account and can find out whatever he wants. Who cares. My ex is also a compulsive LIAR. Ok, my current situation may be different than hers as the papers are not yet signed (he's being an arsss & wants me to support him forever - NOT gonna happen!). However, you really don't know the situation.
May not have been worth finding out the truth, but I'm just sayin' that he may not have been telling you the truth either. :glasses:0 -
No. But I'd be pissed if I found out someone whom had taken the steps with me was still in a relationship with someone else.0
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How horrible! Have nothing really to add to what others have said except that it amazes me how some people don't seem to mind hurting others or can't seem to believe that they are important enough to be hurtful. WOW! You are so lucky to have gotten out when you did....0
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I'm going to play the devil's advocate here...
How do you know the husband / ex-husband was on the up & up? Ok, so he got your number and saw some texts. Maybe they were still on the same plan. I am on the same plan with my ex, at least for now (legal recommendation). He has access to the account and can find out whatever he wants. Who cares. My ex is also a compulsive LIAR. Ok, my current situation may be different than hers as the papers are not yet signed (he's being an arsss & wants me to support him forever - NOT gonna happen!). However, you really don't know the situation.
May not have been worth finding out the truth, but I'm just sayin' that he may not have been telling you the truth either. :glasses:
Just by our phone conversation he said that its been rough but they're still together and married and he's trying to make it work.
There was no way I was getting involved with that kinda complication in a relationship even if it was "over" between them in the woman's eyes.
Plus we had sex...so i felt even worse for the husband when he asked if we did anything and there was no way I could tell him the truth. I just said "no, we didn't"...he was pretty much crying to me on the phone!0 -
Got you all beat. I dated a guy for three YEARS, we lived together and had a 9 month old son together when I found out he was still with the woman he dated before me. He traveled alot for work and actually lived with her too. Looking back, there were lots of signs, but for whatever reason I chose not to see them.0
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Yes..it's disgusting. I started dating a guy that I met out dancing one night... We went out for a month or so, then I saw him at a community event (he was a county sheriff) with his WIFE!!! I was so torn as to what to do... I wanted her to know what a scumbag he was, but I didn't want to be the one to tear a family apart. Never talked to him again.0
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There was no way I was getting involved with that kinda complication in a relationship even if it was "over" between them in the woman's eyes.
Plus we had sex...so i felt even worse for the husband when he asked if we did anything and there was no way I could tell him the truth. I just said "no, we didn't"...he was pretty much crying to me on the phone!
I agree. I would have done the same thing you did in your situation. I was just pointing out that there are always two sides to the story and not everyone tells the truth. My ex plays the pity card ALL the time! It's pathetic. Thankfully those who know see right through it. Hopefully, if it comes before the judge, he will too!0 -
Got you all beat. I dated a guy for three YEARS, we lived together and had a 9 month old son together when I found out he was still with the woman he dated before me. He traveled alot for work and actually lived with her too. Looking back, there were lots of signs, but for whatever reason I chose not to see them.
OMG!! How do you come back from that?? I've heard of these double lives, but never really think someone can carry it off. Must tale a lot of planning and deceipt. I hope the pair of you (women) kicked his *kitten*!!0 -
A guy once asked me on a date and about half way through dinner his phone kept ringing.. He claimed it was his mother.. He eventually confessed after I pushed it it was his fiancé.. Whom he was marrying the very next month.. Needless to say I made a swift exit!!!!0
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Got you all beat. I dated a guy for three YEARS, we lived together and had a 9 month old son together when I found out he was still with the woman he dated before me. He traveled alot for work and actually lived with her too. Looking back, there were lots of signs, but for whatever reason I chose not to see them.
OMG!! How do you come back from that?? I've heard of these double lives, but never really think someone can carry it off. Must tale a lot of planning and deceipt. I hope the pair of you (women) kicked his *kitten*!!
This was back in 98 and it was not easy. I thought he was the perfect man; he spent alot of time portraying that character. Live and learn. He actually stayed with her for quite a few years after. He apologized to me a few years ago, told me didn't realize what a good woman he had. I think he was just lonely at that point and I was soooo over it, wasn't even tempting. Good riddance.0 -
...after a few dates you found out they were still married or had a bf/gf?
Not quite actually, but moot. My betrothed and I knew what was to be - with us, despite the 17 years difference and that was that. He carried on with his long-time girlfriend and mother of his 2 children, with whom he was involved from when I was a toddler and I'd maintained my discretion with my boyfriend, whilst out on the town/city.
Relevant to topic in the sense that given the circumstances, him needing to be with his "secret" family and my having to spend time with my boyfriend at the time as an independent teenager, allowed those awkward moments when my then future-husband would enter into a venue I'd entered to socialise with my then-boyfriend, to take liberties - with a kiss in front of my boyfriend, before he'd continue with his evening on site, or worse - he'd help himself to a seat, worsening an already uncomfortable evening, directed solely at my then-boyfriend.
Just awful!!!
* My boyfriend bravely dared date me, despite my former betrothed - for a semblance of normalcy in my life - then.0 -
^^ same here with the off switch...they are no longer sexual beings in my eyesThere's a Guy at my work place who talks about his wife and kids then hits on me in the same breath (blatantly, "your looking so good" "Wish you'd let me take you out" ect).
He's a really nice guy and i enjoy working and talking to him, but it just seems so messed up.
If I make a commitment to be in a relationship with someone then that's it for me, and if I become unhappy in that relationship then I either get out of it or try and work it out. I don't think there is any excuse for cheating
It's funny actually, if I see a guy I'm attracted to I go out of my way to talk to him, and if I find out he's in a relationship it's like an "turn off" switch gets flicked and I lose interest (romantically anyway).0 -
cant say that I have, but it happed to a friend of mine. almost killed the *kitten*.0
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