Do you feel like you're invisible or way too visible?

TryingtobeHealthy4Life

Soo all my friends are either in very serious relationships or are getting married Next Year. Yes, all of them. Ok except one who just got out of a serious relationship but she has no problem meeting guys. I'm always the best friend of the hot chick, which is why I always stay in the "friend zone" with guys and i have wayyy tooo many guy "friends".
Sometimes it is soooo frustrating. Reality is that no body wants to date the fat chick. Ok maybe 1 in a million will settle.

Has anyone ever felt that either they were invisible- no one noticed them or way too visible- that everyone noticed the big girl?

xxnellie146xx

I wonder if they real think of you as only a friend or if you currently lack the self-confidence to see it any other way or test the waters a little bit. Self confidence plays a large part in meeting people, imo.

mikey1976

i've been invisible pretty much my whole life but i lack some serious Self confidence

cuterbee

I wasn't actually invisible until I hit my 40s. I have to admit that I like it (but then, I'm kind of shy in some ways). It's been one of the things holding me back from losing weight, actually. I'd just as soon be in the background most of the time...maybe since I'm older, though, becoming thin won't affect that.

However...this did not seem to be a problem with meeting or charming men in my age bracket (married again in my 50s and during the time I was single actually dated more than I did before I married the first time).

RunDoozer

Invisible since I got divorced ... or maybe they see me and just think I have the plague

TryingtobeHealthy4Life

thanks for your input guys!!! I feel that when we eat clean and train mean at the end of the day we feel better about ourselves and better in our own skin. It's a huge boost to self confidence. I am going to continue my best and see where that leads me!

Good luck to you as well.

MidwestAngel

I'd say I'm a happy medium of visible and invisible.

PapaverSomniferum

completely invisible.

I've had several people that I see 3-5 times a year at religious events re-introduce themselves to me EVERY YEAR.

I also never get any customer service when shopping.

And never have anyone remember my --very distinctive-- name.

Matt_Wild

Visible as I want to be. You make your own luck. You make yourself as visible or invisible as you choose.

LittleMiss_WillLoseIt

I'd say I'm a happy medium of visible and invisible.

diodelcibo

Being that I'm fairly tall , pretty loud with a strange accent it's kind of hard not to notice me...

Visible.

MidwestAngel

Being that I'm fairly tall , pretty loud with a strange accent it's kind of hard not to notice me...

Visible.

And killer quads and hammies!!!!

PapaverSomniferum

Visible as I want to be. You make your own luck. You make yourself as visible or invisible as you choose.

You say that,

but I dress in loud colors, often dye my hair crazy unnatural colors, bathe in glitter, and go out of my way to be the helpiest helper EVER

yet no one ever recognizes me the second time we meet.

MidwestAngel

I'd say I'm a happy medium of visible and invisible.

That's right b!tches, she's my pimp.

WendyTerry420

I've always thought that I was way too visible....on account of, I got a big mouth! :blushing:

:smokin:

_SABOTEUR_

Very visible and outgoing in every way accept flirting with people I find attractive. Mostly a confidence thing. It's getting better, but I'm still single...

stinkpurty

Without a doubt--I am invisible.

sleepytexan

the reason "all" your friends are getting married is bc you're 26. It's the age of desperation and jumping too soon. Focus on yourself and the changes you want to make.

trophywife24

Visible but I would say 9 times out of 10 that's a total confidence thing. It really... really shows on the outside when you're feeling less than stellar on the inside.

bettacheckyoself

Visible in positive and negative ways...

Elma1975

I would say I´m noticed, at least people sure have oppinions when it comes down to my weight.
I´m disabled so I guess that is scaring men more than my ugly heavy look.
I know how you are feeling, all and I mean ALL of my friends are in relationships or married and as soon as they found their spouses they had not time for me so I have found myself totally alone. When I tried to reach out to one friend I was asked..."what do you want" and I was only wishing him good luck on his exams. I don´t get it why people have to change so much when they fall in love. When I met the only guy I have been with I didn´t push my friends away, maybe because my house was the meeting center but still my ex didn´t like my friends and I told him to go meet his friends than, so I didn´t change and I don´t understand why people change so much.
I will always just stay in the "friend zone" due to my looks and disability and that is ok most of the time.
I wish you all the best and hopefully your friends will wake up and realize what they are risking losing

Cindy873

Invisible. Story of my life.

♥Faerie♥

I'm so invisible that I am f**king crystalline ...

TryingtobeHealthy4Life

friends and I told him to go meet his friends than, so I didn´t change and I don´t understand why people change so much.
I will always just stay in the "friend zone" due to my looks and disability and that is ok most of the time.
I wish you all the best and hopefully your friends will wake up and realize what they are risking losing

Don't say that. i have many friends with disabilities and they ended up with nice men and are super happy. I believe like a lot of you guys mentioned that it comes down to how you feel on the inside and your confidence. Give yourself more credit. Take care of yourself and you will meet an amazing partner who will take care of you!!!
I have severe confidence issues but i am working on it. I find that the more i make an effort to look good on the outside and eat healthy to feel good on the inside, it totally shows.
Good luck!!! :bigsmile:

TryingtobeHealthy4Life

I'm so invisible that I am f**king crystalline ...

You are gorgeous. Love the hair!!!

PapaverSomniferum

I'm so invisible that I am f**king crystalline ...

You are gorgeous. Love the hair!!!

yup. she's the prettiest faerie crystal in the entire universe

true story

chocl8girl

I'm so invisible you don't even notice I'm posting in this thread...

nickyfm

I hear you.

My best girl friends are GORGEOUS. Guys constantly ask me to help them get in with my friends.

Once, a guy i was obsessed with would not stop calling and texting me, asking how he could pick up my best friend. Felt great. Silver lining though is that now I have a room mate for when we move to NYC, and it would have been tres weird if we were formally dating.

They do try to help me out though, I guess. Every time we go out, they try and match me up with someone. Because I'm single, I must be miserable, right?

Lambeze

Both

acstansell

I am visible to the person that matters - my hubs. To certain family members, I am invisible, which is the way I prefer it.

But, I've got a loud voice, a big smile, a boisterous laugh, big blue eyes, and red hair.

I'm pretty visible to a general audience.

etoiles_argentees

Visible. Not sure why but it is too much, I hide a lot. Too many men, boys, stalkers.