What Makes You Nervous About Losing Weight?

danamariers

Let's get it out in the open and say what makes you nervous about losing weight (at least for me, I find putting this in the open makes me feel better about it and getting past it doesn't seem so hard).

What makes me nervous: negative attention (not from guys, my husband, or anything like that) I mean from the other women I work with. They've noticed I'm shrinking and now suddenly everyone just wants to monitor what I eat, what I drink, etc.

Example- another shrinking gal brought some hummus for us to try as her recipe "guinea pigs" and suddenly women who aren't even in my dept are like, "Oh you can eat that?! Well at the rate you seem to be losing we didn't think you ate ANYTHING" (the only thing that made me keep my cool is the fact that these broads, who can't keep their obnoxious words to themselves, believe that by pumping diet pills, skipping meals, and taking the stairs once a day, they will lose weight and keep it off...)

What about you?

Crankstr

nothing.

joeysox

im nervous of what i will look like. i started out at 355 pounds and i have been huge my whole adult like i dont actually remember what i was like slim because i was convinced i was fat even though i was not! so i panic that the damage is already done and i will just look a saggy mess x

LittleMiss_WillLoseIt

Nothing.... I absolutely LOVE it!

LetsGetFitMama

For me, my nervousness is two things 1) sounds a little shallow but how my stomach is going to look after letting it go so long :-( 2) My relationship. The reason I say that is because I am trying so hard to get on the right track and he is just cool with being super heavy right now so I am just a little nervous that the relationship may change as I change. Its tough :frown:

NCchar130

Let's get it out in the open and say what makes you nervous about losing weight (at least for me, I find putting this in the open makes me feel better about it and getting past it doesn't seem so hard).

What makes me nervous: negative attention (not from guys, my husband, or anything like that) I mean from the other women I work with. They've noticed I'm shrinking and now suddenly everyone just wants to monitor what I eat, what I drink, etc.

Example- another shrinking gal brought some hummus for us to try as her recipe "guinea pigs" and suddenly women who aren't even in my dept are like, "Oh you can eat that?! Well at the rate you seem to be losing we didn't think you ate ANYTHING" (the only thing that made me keep my cool is the fact that these broads, who can't keep their obnoxious words to themselves, believe that by pumping diet pills, skipping meals, and taking the stairs once a day, they will lose weight and keep it off...)

What about you?

OMG! The women I work with are just as bad! In fact, I've lost work friends over this, even with me sticking to my original plan of NEVER discussing what I was doing or my weight loss unless someone asked me. I'm hoping that one day when I change jobs, since no one will have seen me 'before', that it won't be such a big deal.

The other thing that makes me a little nervous is visibility. Being fat makes me invisible. I'm kind of shy so in a lot of ways I guess I liked this. On the other hand, when you don't wish to be invisible, it's incredibly frustrating. When I wore a size 4 a decade ago, I was NOT invisible and I wasn't always sure that I liked that although I could get attention when I wanted/needed it. Not sure if that makes sense.

But even with the few negatives/fears, overall I expect my life to drastically improve with less weight to haul around.

LuckyCheryl

I am nervous about how I will look - being older I am worried that my skin will not adjust to the weight loss and I will be just saggy all over . :frown:

Fit_Happens_2021

My reply to women who say things like that to you would be to turn on a huge smile and say "Oh thank you for noticing, that is so kind of you" people are left stumped for what to say when you react to a catty remark that way, and they know you that know they are trying to be mean.

I am worried a little that loosing weight will come off my face too much, I like my face more with the weight but could stand to loose a bit, and I never had boobs till I gained weight, so that might kinda suck a bit (push up bras ftw lol)

leighdiane91

I don't know what I will really look like. I have been 160 when I was in high school, but since I have been 200 for more than a year i don't know if 160 will still look the same... Let alone what 135 will look like.

joconnor09

I'm nervous about how I will look, because I've been overweight my whole life so I don't have any idea what skinny me even remotely looks like. I'm also nervous about people treating me differently. I'm not saying I'll suddenly turn into Beyonce and everyone will love me, but I'm used to getting zero attention from people- most girls ignore me, most guys don't seem to notice I even exist. I guess just fear of the unknown in general. I'm heading into uncharted territory here, and I don't know how it will affect my life, if things will get better or worse.

VanessaHeartsMasr

I'm nervous that I will have saggy skin when I'm done. I'm hoping it's not too bad.

Poetry_In_Pics

I'm nervous/afraid of gaining it back!! :sad:

ldrosophila

Attention does get me I've lost a significant amount before and the attention was scary. It also made me angry that now people were much more friendlier and open to me. I was still the same person, but now some how I was worthy. I wasnt expecting it so it caused me to regain the weight. I hope I now know what to expect and can better put it into prespective. The oceans run shallow with human beings.

ldrosophila

I'm nervous/afraid of gaining it back!! :sad:

Oh, this too. With a statistic of like 95% of all people gaining it back...yeah that horrifying.

needles85365

feel great about losing the weight but nervous about gaining it back and being a failure again. Staying focused so that doesn't happen

paine016

Loose skin.

Artemis00diana

That the weight was not an issue at all and I am the soul reson why I dont look good/ have a boyfriend/lazy and so on...

And that my family is gonna act like you just described your people from work

FeebRyan

Being unattractive again rather than fat and unattractive

at least i have been able to pretend my complete lack of beauty is to do with my weight rather than how I truly am... But i need to be healthy so i can't use it as a crutch anymore.

chinks0113

im nervous of what i will look like. I started out at 355 pounds and i have been huge my whole adult like i dont actually remember what i was like slim because i was convinced i was fat even though i was not! so i panic that the damage is already done and i will just look a saggy mess x

That's exactly how I use to feel when I was skinny I still saw fat. Now i have close to 100lbs to lose and im scared im gonna be a saggy skinned weirdo. I also get discouraged when ppl make it their business to monitor my food. Its sooo annoying & I feel like they want me to fail.

newday1980

I am worried about gaining it back and having to start over.

I lost 45 lbs last year and gained all but 5 back this year. I am starting anew and I am just really fearful of the judgement that comes when those around you are checking to see if you'll be successful this time.

cmriverside

Example- another shrinking gal brought some hummus for us to try as her recipe "guinea pigs" and suddenly women who aren't even in my dept are like, "Oh you can eat that?! Well at the rate you seem to be losing we didn't think you ate ANYTHING" (the only thing that made me keep my cool is the fact that these broads, who can't keep their obnoxious words to themselves, believe that by pumping diet pills, skipping meals, and taking the stairs once a day, they will lose weight and keep it off...)

Well, you've showed them. You called them out on the interwebz. Ironic.

billsica

I suffer from barophobia, Its pretty debilitating with regards to weight loss.

susanswan

My original goal was to "look better fully dressed". I have lost 70 pounds and have achieved that. Beyond my wildest dreams I went from a dowdy size 16 to a "wear what I want to" size 4! I had never really been 135 as an adult. My skin was always kind of flabby anyway with lots of stretch marks, so sadly my skin does indeed sag now, but I'd still rather be at this healthy weight knowing I am adding years to my life than being fat again. Maybe exercise over time will help, but maybe I am just too old. My sagging arms will just have to bear witness to the awesome weight loss job I've done. They will not define me as a person. How many people only dream of losing the weight and reaching their personal goal?

Also people do treat me differently being a size 4 instead of a size 16. It is probably due to the way I also felt about myself. I have much more self confidence just knowing that I am not fat anymore and people are not judging me solely on being fat anymore.

I work at home and we have our own Auto Repair business, so mainly interact with men. Many are long time friends of husband so any remarks are positive. I don't have to deal with the catty women in a workplace. However I do remember losing weight before when I worked at the hospital and people would constantly be sizing me up. You lost weight. What do you eat? Why are you eating that? Like it or not I guess that is just human nature and you need to find a way to deal with it. There will always be those people who are jealous and want to see you fail. It makes them feel better somehow. After all, if losing weight was easy, everyone would be thin. I've heard from women who did lose their weight, too that now they are criticized for not eating! Just goes to show that some people will never be happy with YOUR body, YOUR weight loss, YOUR success. Because somehow it reflects on them and their weight issues.

Just go out there and be the best you can be. This is YOUR life! Maintenance is no cake walk either. IT requires the same diligence as losing weight, however you will be more used to your limitations by then knowing what you should and should not do. And don't ever lose sight of the awesome accomplishment you have made or you WILL be one of the 90 - 95% that does gain it all back and more. It isn't magic. It just takes daily thought and follow through.

BellaFe

Failing

horselady34

I love the feeling of losing weight, the only thing that makes me nervous is gaining it back and then some! Usually comes back ten fold and it gets harder each time I try to start over again.. Maintaining is a huge thing, but metabolism slows after weight loss.We'll see though!

healthyformeanMona

Being unattractive again rather than fat and unattractive

at least i have been able to pretend my complete lack of beauty is to do with my weight rather than how I truly am... But i need to be healthy so i can't use it as a crutch anymore.

Something like this -- it has been easy to blame any social, work-related, or other problem on my being overweight. It's almost like losing a friend who you know is bad for you, but you still are connected in some dysfunctional way. Plus, the extra layer of fat provides some sort of weird shield or protection--from what or who? Not sure, but I am willing to lean into this and find out what is on the other side of it!

groversa

That I'll work my butt off and nothing will happen. Then what?

kr1stadee

Maintenance

Ashleyyyb93

What other people think....and also finding out what people thought about me when I was overweight.

Some of my family and friends used to say "You're not fat!!" and I would believe them...and now I am a healthy weight...they say "yeah, well you were quite big, weren't you."...it hurts, even though I am not overweight anymore....and it makes me nervous to think about peoples opinions of me....

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Jerrawuff

I'm nervous tha my boobs will be really small and/or my skin will be loose and I'll look gross.

zyxst

I still won't be able to find clothes that fit.