ready blew my new years resolution. bit of a rant

_Wits_

Yeah just breathe and walk away.

As far as the youngin wanting to get pregnant...you prolly know as well as everyone else that she'll need to figure it out on her own and learn from her mistakes...maybe for her it may not be a mistake. Don't let that get to you. She's an adult...her life.

As for the dog lady...yeah I'd have something to say about that. That is just all sorts of douchecanoe stupid right there. FFS!

Also...I agree with Concrete...you're being hard on yourself for having opinions about people talking about really controversial things. You're not being a negative nancy but knowing when something "just isn't right'. All is not lost...

_Wits_

To the OP-how did your sister get pregnant so many times?

:huh:

Is this a trick question?


Am I being punkd?!

yoovie

who told all these people they had the ability to completely and seamlessly change their nature in 24 hours?

EDITED to elaborate - give yourself time to cultivate your positive outlook. The grass is always greener where you think it's most important to water it.

JustJennie1

I wouldn't say you blew your resolution over that. I think anyone would have reacted the same way, especially since the idiot was serious.

Just chalk it up to a shallow gene pool and move on. Don't let it make you feel as though you can't be positive. I mean what could possibly be a positive outlook on something that idiotic?

You can't expect to flip a switch and immediately change into someone different. It's something you'll have to work on and cultivate and yes, you will have times where you flip and are negative but that's ok because sometimes, like in the instance you just told, it's completely warranted.

What an idiot!!

bathsheba_c

I think, rather than trying to see everyone as all good, you might do better trying to find the good in everyone. For example, with the coworker who wants to get pregnant, you could appreciate the fact that she is at least trying to do some research to determine if it's a good idea. For the dog lady, I got nothing, though.

IslandRider

OP, I think you are mistaking the meaning of being positive. Positivity doesn't mean hearing all this crap and feeling like the world is a beautiful place in response. It means believing that YOU can influence things for the better, and snarky people can do that, too.

Additionally, I find that cynicism actually is another word for disappointed idealism. You may be more "positive" than you know, deep down.

I think your only failure here is beating yourself up for having a reasonable response to stupidity.

^^This. I gotta say, though I think you were fine with the one who wants to get pregnant. You were waaaay nicer than I would've been. I would still report the dog lady, if nothing else, to get her attention and also in case should she be stupid enough to actually hurt that poor dog. As for the "fat b" remark, I'd have told her to bite the crack my *kitten*, I'll lose the weight, she won't lose the stupidiity.

In any case, I don't think you did anything to bust your resolution at all.

imchicbad

Oh wow, look at the time... I got that thing I have to go to.....

emmalouc93

I think 20 is definitely old enough to decide if a baby is a good idea or not, and it is not young by any means depending on maturity and circumstances etc of course. I could go on more, but to stick to the point, it's her life, if it IS a stupid idea, she will pay for it. If it isn't, she will be happy.

As for the dog, totally insane and as you probably know already, people really lack common sense.. I would report her if I were you, I will never underestimate the cruelty and stupidity of people where poor animals are concerned.

Good luck on the rest of your resolutioning, I empathise with you though, it is hard not to hate humanity at times!

Maidofmer

For my co worker that wants to have a baby, I have no say in what she does. I just told her about my pregnancy. I got pregnant at 20, but I was high risk, so it was hard for me. Never told her to not get pregnant, just shared my experience. As for the dog lady, I'm not sure what good it would do to report. her. I have no proof, her word against mine, even though there are supposedly cameras, audio and visual at each station, and that was the first time I ever seen her. I'm the tue-sat shift, she's weekend, fri-tue shift. So I won' be seeing her again. (getting laid off this sat cause I'm seasonal)

Maybe everyone's right and I don't really have a grasp on what being positive it. Not that that's a bad thing, I just need to learn and try to experience more of what life can offer me. There, I think that was positive. I'd usually say something like life is one punch in the face after another. Hopefully I will meet more people around here that aren't like that, and have some common sense and decency.

I want to be open to all points of view and less conceited. Some, like the dog lady, yea, I am way better than you. My co worker that wants to have a baby, she's young, and I'm young. 24 on Saturday. She's nice, works hard, and is going to school to be a nurse. She's awesome. Just let her know that she may miss out on a lot of things, not always such a bad thing. When I hit 21, instead of being at a bar getting *kitten* faced with friends, I heard my baby's heart beat for the first time, and I wouldn't trade that for anything. Just to be clear, I am in no way shape for form against her wanting a baby.

The conversations about hair baffled me though. I guess that's where the common sense should be.

As for my resolution, maybe I should take on a new perspective. Instead of trying to see the good in others, focus on those around me or how I could better myself.

The thing about my sister, she first got pregnant at 16, (followed in our cousin's footsteps, she got pregnant at 15) by a drug dealer from Mexico with the thought that he would marry her. out of 11 pregnancies, she's given birth to 4 children, one on the way, and the rest she aborted cause the guy she was with didn't leave his wife for her. No, she is not a lovely girl. she is a junkie incubator. Out of her kids, her first was a miscarriage because she thought it would be fun to go on a roller coaster while 5 months pregnant., my nephew and niece are in the system. My nephew went in on his first birthday. my niece a year later. They were adopted 3 years ago, and I can only hope they're with a good family. So that was my insight to my life. Getting pregnant that young is in no way a good idea, and being married, you're married. However, that's just for me.

Hopefully that and the obvious form of sex answered how she got pregnant. if not, there's Google and a lot of adult stores.

Thank you for your insight and telling me to try again.