Sex Ed certainly isn't what it was when I was in school

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BrendaLee
BrendaLee Posts: 4,463 Member
Today my daughter's grade 9 class had a random half hour sex class given by grade 12 "peer mentors". They demonstrated how to put colorful flavoured condoms on some type of instrument (not sure what they used, but I guess they were out of bananas), then my daughter's class was asked if anyone would like to lick it to see what it tastes like. SERIOUSLY? I'm all for sex ed, but that's just gross and inappropriate. She said the class laughed (including the teacher), but I think he should have said something. They were also informed that first time sex doesn't hurt all that much for most girls. Great thing to tell my 15 year old when one of her biggest deterrents from sex is that it's going to hurt. I'm not even comfy with my daughter having these random little sex classes- especially in front of her male teacher, and instructed by grade 12 students.

When I was in school it was all fallopian tubes and urethras now it's flavoured purple condoms.
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  • McFatterton
    McFatterton Posts: 1,358 Member
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    Um.....I'd be making a phone call to the principal/superintendent like NOW! That is NOT acceptable!
  • Questfor250
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    holy crap. That just does not sit well with me. I think THAT needs to be addressed to the school board. That is wrong.
  • karmasBFF
    karmasBFF Posts: 699 Member
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    Today my daughter's grade 9 class had a random half hour sex class given by grade 12 "peer mentors". They demonstrated how to put colorful flavoured condoms on some type of instrument (not sure what they used, but I guess they were out of bananas), then my daughter's class was asked if anyone would like to lick it to see what it tastes like. SERIOUSLY? I'm all for sex ed, but that's just gross and inappropriate. She said the class laughed (including the teacher), but I think he should have said something. They were also informed that first time sex doesn't hurt all that much for most girls. Great thing to tell my 15 year old when one of her biggest deterrents from sex is that it's going to hurt. I'm not even comfy with my daughter having these random little sex classes- especially in front of her male teacher, and instructed by grade 12 students.

    When I was in school it was all fallopian tubes and urethras now it's flavoured purple condoms.

    WOW! That is ridiculous! WTH do 12th graders know about responsible sex anyway???? I would definitely go to the board. They need to be more responsible with hormonal teenagers! If they dont do anything, call the news....I swear that makes ANYBODY take acttion!

    I am in shock, Brenda, I really am!
  • mandijo
    mandijo Posts: 618 Member
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    Um yeah, I agree with all of you! Call them now! A 13 year old girl from a town 20 minutes away from me just gave birth to a baby, so I'd say that purple flavored condoms need to go and urethras and fallopian tubes need to come back in. I'd seriously make some phone calls!!!
  • Sunsh1ne
    Sunsh1ne Posts: 879 Member
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    Ok, that is definitely inappropriate, because one of the big reasons for sex ed classes is to prevent peer info sharing, because it tends to be inaccurate. From what I understand, sex DOES hurt about half of girls the first time, at least a little. Saying it doesn't is lying, IMO.

    And while it's important for everyone to understand how contraceptives work (A 2002 study found that for 80% of students, abstience-only ed only meant a delayed onset of sexual activity) inviting students to taste the condoms was really inappropriate.

    On the upshot, you can use this as a chance to talk with your daughter, correct any misinformation she's recieving, and let her know where you stand. I think that talking to you will probably help her make good choices for herself better than anything she'll ever learn in school. The fact that you're involved enough for her to tell you about this class tells me that you are a good mom. :smile:
  • BassBoneBabe
    BassBoneBabe Posts: 226 Member
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    I am a personal fan of , "Just Don't" This is why we see 12 year olds in the ob ward. And excuse me but how should 12th graders know if it actually hurts or not? Seems like your daughters school is teaching promiscuity, and not responsibility. Call the principal and the board.
  • tubbytabbytales
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    Omg. That honestly makes me want to cry. To think that my baby sister, who is in the 8th grade, might have that same kind of education in school next year.

    WTF.

    Call the school!
  • fooja
    fooja Posts: 451 Member
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    WOW......THATS FUC*ED UP!!!!!!!!! I HOPE YOU CALL N COMPLAIN!!!!!!!!!!!! I AGREE WITH THE LAST PERSON THAT SAID, WHAT DO 12TH GRADERS KNOW!!!! SINCE WHEN DO THE SENIORS TEACH SEX ED???? THATS JUST WRONG!!!!! I HOPE NONE OF THE KIDS GOT THE WONG MESSAGE......
  • cc_campbell81
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    I agree totally inappopriate. Just read a teenager's myspace/facebook/twitter whatever posts and anyone can quickly see they are not prepared to teach each other about sex. i think kids should know about condoms but come on, instructing and encouraging are two different things.
  • sandmart2009
    sandmart2009 Posts: 153 Member
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    *making my insides turn as I am typing this*

    I can't believe this! I have an eight year old and, Lord help me, I can't bear the thought of her going through this type of class. I am honestly going to feel so humiliated if they make my daughter go through that!

    Sex Ed in my time was EDUCATION and not a bunch of retarded actions and immoral comments like that! This is making me mad!

    Make the call and go to the media. I will be knocking at the school board's office with my lawyer if they don't take action soon. Disgusting.
  • Questfor250
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    I have a 12th grader and she knows enough to giggle when she sees references in movies and TV. But teaching a freshman about it? Give me a break. The more I think about it, tell me the name of the school district. I will call and complain. That is still bugging me and it isn't even my kid.
  • karmasBFF
    karmasBFF Posts: 699 Member
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    I have a 12th grader and she knows enough to giggle when she sees references in movies and TV. But teaching a freshman about it? Give me a break. The more I think about it, tell me the name of the school district. I will call and complain. That is still bugging me and it isn't even my kid.

    I'm telling you, call the news!!! They will jump all over this!

    And in the end, the proper education can still become the answer and the reality!
  • BrendaLee
    BrendaLee Posts: 4,463 Member
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    Thanks everyone. As I was typing that, I was thinking, this sounds almost too obscene to be true. I'm going to be sending a letter to the school rescinding my daughter's permission to sit in during sex-ed classes. It has gotten pretty ridiculous at that school.
  • BrendaLee
    BrendaLee Posts: 4,463 Member
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    I have a 12th grader and she knows enough to giggle when she sees references in movies and TV. But teaching a freshman about it? Give me a break. The more I think about it, tell me the name of the school district. I will call and complain. That is still bugging me and it isn't even my kid.

    We're in Canada, but feel free to write a letter of complaint. District 18, Fredericton, New Brunswick- Leo Hayes High School.
  • BamaRose0107
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    Today my daughter's grade 9 class had a random half hour sex class given by grade 12 "peer mentors". They demonstrated how to put colorful flavoured condoms on some type of instrument (not sure what they used, but I guess they were out of bananas), then my daughter's class was asked if anyone would like to lick it to see what it tastes like. SERIOUSLY? I'm all for sex ed, but that's just gross and inappropriate. She said the class laughed (including the teacher), but I think he should have said something. They were also informed that first time sex doesn't hurt all that much for most girls. Great thing to tell my 15 year old when one of her biggest deterrents from sex is that it's going to hurt. I'm not even comfy with my daughter having these random little sex classes- especially in front of her male teacher, and instructed by grade 12 students.

    When I was in school it was all fallopian tubes and urethras now it's flavoured purple condoms.

    OH MY WOW!!!!! You are kidding! Thats crazy. I would be making a phone call or two. A 12th grader does not know anything about sex education. Even when I was in school sex ed was about the reproductive organs and sexually transmitted diseases not whether or not it would hurt!
  • SoldierDad
    SoldierDad Posts: 1,602
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    I would honestly call and complain to. This is just wrong. Besides, its our job as parents to teach about sex, not some kids.
  • sonjavon
    sonjavon Posts: 1,019 Member
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    We've had similar things happen around here. I honestly think that it's a shame that our society feels that it's appropriate to teach sex-ed in school. Years ago that didn't happen and guess what? There weren't as many people having premarital sex. As a mother, I'm sorry - I just feel that it's MY job to teach my children about sex. I have no problem with the schools teaching them about the body parts... because hopefully by the time they learn about those in school, I've already taught that at home.

    If I were you - I would be LIVID! It's not okay to have Senior peers teaching a sex ed class. It's not okay to ask someone to taste it. It's just not okay. And the teacher should be fired for letting it get that out of hand.

    My son is 12 and just went back to school after being homeschooled for 2 years and I have to admit... I'm in complete culture shock. I much preferred having him at home and knowing what he was being taught. If it weren't for football... he'd still be home with me... and probably be taking college classes in 10th grade.
  • sandmart2009
    sandmart2009 Posts: 153 Member
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    One of the parents' responsibility is to make sure their kids are given the proper guidance in school and we know that Sex Ed is not always an easy conversation.

    See? This is just one reason why I want to home school my child. WHAT IS HAPPENING TO THIS WORLD?
  • karmasBFF
    karmasBFF Posts: 699 Member
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    We've had similar things happen around here. I honestly think that it's a shame that our society feels that it's appropriate to teach sex-ed in school. Years ago that didn't happen and guess what? There weren't as many people having premarital sex. As a mother, I'm sorry - I just feel that it's MY job to teach my children about sex. I have no problem with the schools teaching them about the body parts... because hopefully by the time they learn about those in school, I've already taught that at home.

    If I were you - I would be LIVID! It's not okay to have Senior peers teaching a sex ed class. It's not okay to ask someone to taste it. It's just not okay. And the teacher should be fired for letting it get that out of hand.

    My son is 12 and just went back to school after being homeschooled for 2 years and I have to admit... I'm in complete culture shock. I much preferred having him at home and knowing what he was being taught. If it weren't for football... he'd still be home with me... and probably be taking college classes in 10th grade.

    Yes, but years ago, sex wasnt playing on primetime TV either. I was never taught sex ed in school and minimally by my parents...I got pregnant at 19.

    So I think it needs to be taught....but with RESPONSIBILITY, not by seniors!
  • guidosgal
    guidosgal Posts: 581 Member
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    That is just so wrong I would talk to the principal then I would file a written complaint at the district office then I would take it to the school board. If you have a written complaint it will back you up at the school board. Once its on paper in a complaint form it cannot be ignored. Again wrong wrong wrong.