Sex Ed certainly isn't what it was when I was in school

BrendaLee

Today my daughter's grade 9 class had a random half hour sex class given by grade 12 "peer mentors". They demonstrated how to put colorful flavoured condoms on some type of instrument (not sure what they used, but I guess they were out of bananas), then my daughter's class was asked if anyone would like to lick it to see what it tastes like. SERIOUSLY? I'm all for sex ed, but that's just gross and inappropriate. She said the class laughed (including the teacher), but I think he should have said something. They were also informed that first time sex doesn't hurt all that much for most girls. Great thing to tell my 15 year old when one of her biggest deterrents from sex is that it's going to hurt. I'm not even comfy with my daughter having these random little sex classes- especially in front of her male teacher, and instructed by grade 12 students.

When I was in school it was all fallopian tubes and urethras now it's flavoured purple condoms.

McFatterton

Um.....I'd be making a phone call to the principal/superintendent like NOW! That is NOT acceptable!

Questfor250

holy crap. That just does not sit well with me. I think THAT needs to be addressed to the school board. That is wrong.

karmasBFF

Today my daughter's grade 9 class had a random half hour sex class given by grade 12 "peer mentors". They demonstrated how to put colorful flavoured condoms on some type of instrument (not sure what they used, but I guess they were out of bananas), then my daughter's class was asked if anyone would like to lick it to see what it tastes like. SERIOUSLY? I'm all for sex ed, but that's just gross and inappropriate. She said the class laughed (including the teacher), but I think he should have said something. They were also informed that first time sex doesn't hurt all that much for most girls. Great thing to tell my 15 year old when one of her biggest deterrents from sex is that it's going to hurt. I'm not even comfy with my daughter having these random little sex classes- especially in front of her male teacher, and instructed by grade 12 students.

When I was in school it was all fallopian tubes and urethras now it's flavoured purple condoms.

WOW! That is ridiculous! WTH do 12th graders know about responsible sex anyway???? I would definitely go to the board. They need to be more responsible with hormonal teenagers! If they dont do anything, call the news....I swear that makes ANYBODY take acttion!

I am in shock, Brenda, I really am!

mandijo

Um yeah, I agree with all of you! Call them now! A 13 year old girl from a town 20 minutes away from me just gave birth to a baby, so I'd say that purple flavored condoms need to go and urethras and fallopian tubes need to come back in. I'd seriously make some phone calls!!!

Sunsh1ne

Ok, that is definitely inappropriate, because one of the big reasons for sex ed classes is to prevent peer info sharing, because it tends to be inaccurate. From what I understand, sex DOES hurt about half of girls the first time, at least a little. Saying it doesn't is lying, IMO.

And while it's important for everyone to understand how contraceptives work (A 2002 study found that for 80% of students, abstience-only ed only meant a delayed onset of sexual activity) inviting students to taste the condoms was really inappropriate.

On the upshot, you can use this as a chance to talk with your daughter, correct any misinformation she's recieving, and let her know where you stand. I think that talking to you will probably help her make good choices for herself better than anything she'll ever learn in school. The fact that you're involved enough for her to tell you about this class tells me that you are a good mom.

BassBoneBabe

I am a personal fan of , "Just Don't" This is why we see 12 year olds in the ob ward. And excuse me but how should 12th graders know if it actually hurts or not? Seems like your daughters school is teaching promiscuity, and not responsibility. Call the principal and the board.

tubbytabbytales

Omg. That honestly makes me want to cry. To think that my baby sister, who is in the 8th grade, might have that same kind of education in school next year.

WTF.

Call the school!

fooja

WOW......THATS FUC*ED UP!!!!!!!!! I HOPE YOU CALL N COMPLAIN!!!!!!!!!!!! I AGREE WITH THE LAST PERSON THAT SAID, WHAT DO 12TH GRADERS KNOW!!!! SINCE WHEN DO THE SENIORS TEACH SEX ED???? THATS JUST WRONG!!!!! I HOPE NONE OF THE KIDS GOT THE WONG MESSAGE......

cc_campbell81

I agree totally inappopriate. Just read a teenager's myspace/facebook/twitter whatever posts and anyone can quickly see they are not prepared to teach each other about sex. i think kids should know about condoms but come on, instructing and encouraging are two different things.

sandmart2009

*making my insides turn as I am typing this*

I can't believe this! I have an eight year old and, Lord help me, I can't bear the thought of her going through this type of class. I am honestly going to feel so humiliated if they make my daughter go through that!

Sex Ed in my time was EDUCATION and not a bunch of retarded actions and immoral comments like that! This is making me mad!

Make the call and go to the media. I will be knocking at the school board's office with my lawyer if they don't take action soon. Disgusting.

Questfor250

I have a 12th grader and she knows enough to giggle when she sees references in movies and TV. But teaching a freshman about it? Give me a break. The more I think about it, tell me the name of the school district. I will call and complain. That is still bugging me and it isn't even my kid.

karmasBFF

I have a 12th grader and she knows enough to giggle when she sees references in movies and TV. But teaching a freshman about it? Give me a break. The more I think about it, tell me the name of the school district. I will call and complain. That is still bugging me and it isn't even my kid.

I'm telling you, call the news!!! They will jump all over this!

And in the end, the proper education can still become the answer and the reality!

BrendaLee

Thanks everyone. As I was typing that, I was thinking, this sounds almost too obscene to be true. I'm going to be sending a letter to the school rescinding my daughter's permission to sit in during sex-ed classes. It has gotten pretty ridiculous at that school.

BrendaLee

I have a 12th grader and she knows enough to giggle when she sees references in movies and TV. But teaching a freshman about it? Give me a break. The more I think about it, tell me the name of the school district. I will call and complain. That is still bugging me and it isn't even my kid.

We're in Canada, but feel free to write a letter of complaint. District 18, Fredericton, New Brunswick- Leo Hayes High School.

BamaRose0107

Today my daughter's grade 9 class had a random half hour sex class given by grade 12 "peer mentors". They demonstrated how to put colorful flavoured condoms on some type of instrument (not sure what they used, but I guess they were out of bananas), then my daughter's class was asked if anyone would like to lick it to see what it tastes like. SERIOUSLY? I'm all for sex ed, but that's just gross and inappropriate. She said the class laughed (including the teacher), but I think he should have said something. They were also informed that first time sex doesn't hurt all that much for most girls. Great thing to tell my 15 year old when one of her biggest deterrents from sex is that it's going to hurt. I'm not even comfy with my daughter having these random little sex classes- especially in front of her male teacher, and instructed by grade 12 students.

When I was in school it was all fallopian tubes and urethras now it's flavoured purple condoms.

OH MY WOW!!!!! You are kidding! Thats crazy. I would be making a phone call or two. A 12th grader does not know anything about sex education. Even when I was in school sex ed was about the reproductive organs and sexually transmitted diseases not whether or not it would hurt!

SoldierDad

I would honestly call and complain to. This is just wrong. Besides, its our job as parents to teach about sex, not some kids.

sonjavon

We've had similar things happen around here. I honestly think that it's a shame that our society feels that it's appropriate to teach sex-ed in school. Years ago that didn't happen and guess what? There weren't as many people having premarital sex. As a mother, I'm sorry - I just feel that it's MY job to teach my children about sex. I have no problem with the schools teaching them about the body parts... because hopefully by the time they learn about those in school, I've already taught that at home.

If I were you - I would be LIVID! It's not okay to have Senior peers teaching a sex ed class. It's not okay to ask someone to taste it. It's just not okay. And the teacher should be fired for letting it get that out of hand.

My son is 12 and just went back to school after being homeschooled for 2 years and I have to admit... I'm in complete culture shock. I much preferred having him at home and knowing what he was being taught. If it weren't for football... he'd still be home with me... and probably be taking college classes in 10th grade.

sandmart2009

One of the parents' responsibility is to make sure their kids are given the proper guidance in school and we know that Sex Ed is not always an easy conversation.

See? This is just one reason why I want to home school my child. WHAT IS HAPPENING TO THIS WORLD?

karmasBFF

We've had similar things happen around here. I honestly think that it's a shame that our society feels that it's appropriate to teach sex-ed in school. Years ago that didn't happen and guess what? There weren't as many people having premarital sex. As a mother, I'm sorry - I just feel that it's MY job to teach my children about sex. I have no problem with the schools teaching them about the body parts... because hopefully by the time they learn about those in school, I've already taught that at home.

If I were you - I would be LIVID! It's not okay to have Senior peers teaching a sex ed class. It's not okay to ask someone to taste it. It's just not okay. And the teacher should be fired for letting it get that out of hand.

My son is 12 and just went back to school after being homeschooled for 2 years and I have to admit... I'm in complete culture shock. I much preferred having him at home and knowing what he was being taught. If it weren't for football... he'd still be home with me... and probably be taking college classes in 10th grade.

Yes, but years ago, sex wasnt playing on primetime TV either. I was never taught sex ed in school and minimally by my parents...I got pregnant at 19.

So I think it needs to be taught....but with RESPONSIBILITY, not by seniors!

guidosgal

That is just so wrong I would talk to the principal then I would file a written complaint at the district office then I would take it to the school board. If you have a written complaint it will back you up at the school board. Once its on paper in a complaint form it cannot be ignored. Again wrong wrong wrong.

gurgi22

I am teaching a high school reproductive health course right now and I would be fired if I even thought about doing something like this. This is something that needs to be brought to the principals attention. I would bet he/she had no idea that this was going on.

mrskathywright

THAT IS SO WRONG! You have got to report that!

sandmart2009

I got pregnant at 18 and became a mother at 19 - by choice and rebellion. Nothing to do with Sex education at all.

Teaching our kids about human anatomy and the reproductive system is WAY different than putting a condom on the right way and LICKING IT AT THAT!

Our curriculum about sex ed even involved inviting EXPERTS (doctors, population consultants, social workers and counselors), EVEN OUR OWN PARENTS, and we openly discuss things. The educators' concern at that time was making sure we are fully aware of the risks of sexual intimacy (untimely pregnancy, STD, AIDS, etc). This really helped a lot of us, be aware and make sure we made the right decisions along the way.

I am just recounting numbers - we have a small batch of 120 students. Of that class, only 3 got pregnant before marriage and it had nothing to do with "just because I want to experience and have good sex."

Delivered the right way, and with parent involvement, I believe the kids will realize how big a responsibility it is to be sexually active.

leavinglasvegas

This is coming from an extremely liberal parent.....

I'd be down there in a heatbeat b!tchin' up a storm! OMG, my heart is pounding with anger right now! I just might go into the office tomorrow morning when I take my daughter to school and slap the principal even though this has nothing to do with him.:explode:

I speak openly with my 10 year old, always have. But even I can't see the point of something like this! Its just purely stupid!

Brenda, I'm interested to hear what comes of this! Please keep us posted. And stand firm, we got your back!

bebhinn

If I recall correctly, we did a similar exercise but we were grouped off (females only) and had to pull certain subjects out of a hat and had to peer teach to the rest of the female class population. Putting a condom on a banana was part of it... however the class was taught by a female teacher and had all females in it. The was also no licking of the condom.

sandmart2009

I agree with taking action ASAP. Good thing that your daughter told you about this.

I am very open with my 8 year old too and I want her to grow up seeing the world from a realistic point-of-view. But heck, not this flagrant!

tammietifanie

Can i say something!!!! I became a mom at 14 well pregnant at 14 had him at 15 and to this day i wished my mom would have been more open about sex and the out come of it.. My freshman year i remember sitting around at the lunch table with my boyfriend and friends and some how we where talking about sex and who has done it and when my boyfriend and i said we didn't everyone looked at us like we where insane and not "cool" and a few months after that we had sex and got pregnant.. YUP! first time having sex i got pregnant and looking back as a teen i wish someone would have put me on birth control or gave me details about having a baby and becoming a mom at 15... I know it's hard for most parents to think their kids might be having sex but now and days it's pressured on them through their friends & Tv. So being 15 and pregnant i was put into a all mom school it was highschool for mom's and there was 60 of us and i know for a fact half of those girls where never told about sex ed and none of their parents ever sat them down and gave them the hard cold truth about it... This really makes me want to become a spokes person in schools about sex ed and what really happens when you make bad choices in life..... So please everyone sit down with your kids give them the truth.. Just tell them sex isn't just about body parts and hormones it's life changing

karmasBFF

I just might go into the office tomorrow morning when I take my daughter to school and slap the principal even though this has nothing to do with him.:explode:

HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! That is hilariously so much funnier when I actually picture it!!!

lesterfaye81

Wow.... that's special. Shouldn't a person (even in Canada? I don't know what your laws are) have to have a license to be teaching something that should be mandatory curriculum? I don't care if the teacher is a man. He should suck it up and deal.

I will say one thing though, at least condoms are getting mentioned and it's getting discussed. When I was in college I had a great example of sex ed in American schools. A 16 year I worked with at McDonald's asking me if she could get pregnant from oral sex...

Now why didn't that kid know that "you" (i.e. it) couldn't get "there" from there? Snicking aside, why didn't she have a basic knowledge of her own anatomy? And honestly, teaching what body parts do what is self preservation type of science, so I don't see why, even in a neocon town like the one she grew up in, it wasn't a teacher's place to make sure those kids knew up from down about their own junk.

Want to know what I said? I looked her in the eye and said "No, but you can get AIDS that way."

I told my friend (who had AIDS) that story later and he almost came unglued.

All things considered my dear I think you need to draw her some pictures for her own good. Literally.

doingit4myprincesses

Wow after reading that actually made me fear for when my two girls who are 3 years old and 6 mths get into school. What sorts of sick and twisted things will they be taught when they get into high school. I agree with everyone else and I'd be at that school making the principal, superintendant and anyone else around lives miserable. What ever happen to the innocence of being a kid. Good luck with talking to the school and lots of people support you 100%!!!