When Anorexics Try to Add You
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Honestly, OP, she probably doesn't see herself as skin and bones.
I'm 5'4'' and was probably about 140 in this picture, and I could barely tell the difference between myself and someone who weighed 250 lbs. Self esteem issues really mess with your head.
Looking back and being as big as I am, I see how silly I was.0 -
All of you people who are calling her judgmental......you do realize that you are judging her right? Maybe she meant it with the best intentions, and just worded it wrong! This is why I hate the forums, or even posting in them.....you get burned at the stake by making a mistake or saying something the wrong way. If people don't tiptoe around you guys, heaven forbid. Makes me sick.0
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OMG some child starving herself to death tried to add me. I say child because she's only 18. Current weight is only 87 pounds!!!! Goal weight 80 pounds!!! What in the actual eff! And she has a pic up, she is rail thin and bony, this is not a very short person! Of course I declined, and reported the profile using the contact form on the site. I feel awful. I have a child that's 18, (my kids are 23, 18, and 15) and I would be so terrified and heartbroken if they wanted to destroy themselves. My goodness. What on earth could be so wrong with your life that you would intentionally do this to yourself??
A little knowledge and learning can be a very useful thing in life.0 -
For someone who would be horrified to think their children are going through this you seem to have a cr*p attitude towards someone who reached out to you.
If you don't wanna add them you could just ignore it.
People have eating disorders for lots of reasons. For some people it's the only thing in their life they can control, or not eating makes them feel cleaner or purer because food is bad. Which I am sure most 'dieters' on here can relate to.
Rude uneducated post.0 -
How ignorant can a person be? First of all, it's cruel to call someone out on their mental disorders in such a public way. Secondly, she is not CHOOSING to do this, she has an illness. Thirdly, several of my MFP friends suffer from eating disorders but are using this site to help them with their recovery so they can try & be healthier. Good to know that so many people on here would rather report people who truly need support & compassion.0
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JUST . STOP. TALKING. ABOUT IT.
Triggering / Negitive / Postive/ it doesn't matter we all agree it shouldn't be up here but by replying all we are doing it bumping it to the top. Just report it and let it float to the bottom, for her sake. I know I'm doing the same thing but I asking for it to STOP to egging it on. There is a chance she hasn't seen it and we know it has triggered others so please just stop replying - flag it, and let it sink to the bottom of the board.0 -
I don't understand all the coddling and tip-toeing around the issue. Hello, people are starving themselves to death and we're not supposed to say anything? Or nicely say, please stop starving yourself? And I'm supposed to worry about 'triggering' her or making her feel bad?? Um, what about triggering me and making me feel bad? I was a teen in the 80s and knew girls who did this (and bulimia) one had to be hospitalized. She never came back to school and her parents moved away, so we never even found out if she recovered or died. This triggered me into remembering all the revulsion and the horror I felt at the time.
Maybe if she sees this thread she'll think twice about putting her eating disorder all up in someone else's face.
And I 'could have been the help she needed'? How? I am not a psychiatrist or psychologist, I am not trained or equipped to deal with this madness. And even if I were, it would be unprofessional and unethical to provide treatment and therapy to a stranger online. What kind of help could I possibly give to someone who thinks 80 pounds is a good goal weight??
Also, this person has over 600 friends!!! They are getting plenty of attention and encouragement. This is sick! 600+ people are willing to stand by and watch this girl whittle herself to the bone. My word, I just can't believe this, it's an outrage!0 -
OMG some child starving herself to death tried to add me. I say child because she's only 18. Current weight is only 87 pounds!!!! Goal weight 80 pounds!!! What in the actual eff! And she has a pic up, she is rail thin and bony, this is not a very short person! Of course I declined, and reported the profile using the contact form on the site. I feel awful. I have a child that's 18, (my kids are 23, 18, and 15) and I would be so terrified and heartbroken if they wanted to destroy themselves. My goodness. What on earth could be so wrong with your life that you would intentionally do this to yourself??0
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So, I am fairly new to this site and see a lot of members and threads regarding this issue. I would also like to know the best way to deal with it. My understanding is this site isn't just about weight loss, it is about health and fitness. But this issue doesn't fall into the weight loss or fitness category - it is dangerously unhealthy and as many of you have said, an illness. I'm not a doctor and I just don't know what to do when I have received an invite from a member who has an ED. I have checked people's profiles and diary if available, their goals etc. when I receive an invite, but if it is obvious they have an issue, I don't know what to do. I wouldn't know if someone is in recovery or not, I can clearly see by someones diary that they are not eating enough ( when it is 300 calories or less I'm thinking it is not enough) and I am not comfortable nor am I qualified to deal with it. Is there really a good way to deal with it? You either hurt them or enable them. It seems like a no win situation0
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Dear Posters,
I want to provide an explanation for locking this topic and editing the OP...
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