How do you deal with comments on your loss?
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Does anyone else find it really awkward when someone says you look like you've lost weight?
I never really know what to say, and to be honest don't really want to tell people I'm trying to lose weight.
I've lost over 50lbs in the last few months so when people say it I kind of just get all awkward and never know to say.
I never really know what to say, and to be honest don't really want to tell people I'm trying to lose weight.
I've lost over 50lbs in the last few months so when people say it I kind of just get all awkward and never know to say.
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Be Proud! They're saying it to be nice....
"Thanks yes I have" Is probably what i would say!
Don't feel awkward - its' a wonderful acheivement0 -
Just look at them quizzically and make them wonder why they asked such personal question. I used to work at a store with another girl who was overweight, but had lost some weight recently. A customer asked ME if the other girl lost weight, and I was like... WTF? (in my head) and told her I don't know. She wound up going up to the other girl and telling her she looked good after losing some weight. I thought it was incredibly rude even though she thought she was being nice. I think drawing attention to someone's weight (even if it's a positive comment) is rude. Don't play into it.0
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Personall, I wouldn't say anything to someone who I thought had lost weight, it's basically like saying "You looked ugly before, but you're okay now."
Plus, I don't see fat as a "bad" thing - it's one of the many ways people can look. In fact, I quite like bigger people if you know what I mean lol0 -
I say, thank you!0
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It was nice in the beginning- yeah people noticed! But after 7 straight months of losing weight (108 lbs) and having to have conversations every single freakin day about my weight, I'm TOTALLY over it. Now I just smile or say thanks and change the subject.0
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I'm proud enough of having lost weight I say, "Thank you for noticing!"0
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My transformation was huge.
Everybody who first saw me commented. It felt good, but I still have so much more I want to do.0 -
I would just keep it a simple yes and thank you. I think 9 times out of 10 people are just trying to be nice.0
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I think drawing attention to someone's weight (even if it's a positive comment) is rude.
I completely disagree. I LOVE it when people notice I've lost weight. It makes me feel good, like my efforts are paying off, like people can actually tell. It gives me a buzz that I keep all day long. I say "Thank you very much!"0 -
It depends on the context of it. I had this d-bag say to me, "Wow you're looking great! You're going to be a 10/10 when you get done." Which I told him to go f himself, but when someone genuinely tells me that my hard work has payed off and I am looking good, I say thank you.0
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Yep, I just say, "yes I have, thank you for noticing", and move along. If you're not comfortable with that, you can simply reply that you have lost a couple of pounds recently, and thank them. But remember you have made tremendous progress in moving towards a healthier body/lifestyle, and that is something to be celebrated, so don't downplay what you've accomplished.
I only get upset when they say "Keep it up", as if I'm an idiot and think that at my size it's the time to stop, or that somehow they're commenting that I'm not good enough at my current size. But I digress... I just take it for what it is, a compliment.
It takes a while, but eventually you'll be comfortable with it being a compliment.0 -
if someone takes the time to notice, and to comment positively, then i take the time to thank them.
thats it really0 -
It's human nature to comment that someone has lost weight, as most people view it as encouraging. When people compiment me, I own, it it makes me feel good, it encourages me to continue and I wouldn't feel bad commenting on someone else. I'm not sure why it would be akward unless it was a stranger. I know my girlfriends love to be told they look thinner, I don't really know anyone personally who wouldn't, but everyone is different ; )0
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I say, thank you!
^^^^ This. I think people forget those 2 words. :ohwell:0 -
I love it when people notice! I don't think it's rude to comment on weight loss at ALL. I don't think anyone in the history of the world has ever intended it to be a mean thing when they ask if someone has lost weight.
I say, "why yes I have! thank you for noticing" and then I move on.0 -
I haven't received any comments yet. :sad:0
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I think drawing attention to someone's weight (even if it's a positive comment) is rude.
I completely disagree. I LOVE it when people notice I've lost weight. It makes me feel good, like my efforts are paying off, like people can actually tell. It gives me a buzz that I keep all day long. I say "Thank you very much!"
I agree with this!0 -
I think drawing attention to someone's weight (even if it's a positive comment) is rude.
I completely disagree. I LOVE it when people notice I've lost weight. It makes me feel good, like my efforts are paying off, like people can actually tell. It gives me a buzz that I keep all day long. I say "Thank you very much!"
agree, I'm not sure why it would be rude, never viewed it that way personally. Now what would be rude is if I gained weight and soemone said I was fat looking or look like I gained, lol, which has happened but it's a reality slap in the face. I like being told I look thinner, sometimes I am too HARD on myself and think I am not losing and looking flabby, etc then realize when I have 3 compliments from people that day that I am not seeing myself in good eyes.0 -
usually when people comment on my figure, I say "thank you. I have worked really really hard."0
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LOL. Maybe I'm just weird
Think it could be to do with the fact that I've got a good bit to shift yet too.0
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