All or nothing mentality - need help being consistent

seabuckaroo

I have this same problem. I find I need to get into a routine to channel my intensity.

lmelangley

I try to not be so restrictive. I can have anything I want, whenever I want it. But, unless it's a planned occasion like a birthday or barbecue or Christmas, I need to stay under my calorie goals each day. So, if I have a cookie at lunch, it means about 100 fewer calories I get for dinner time. I take the attitude that I need to think about each and every bite I take. If the cookie is worth it to me at the time, knowing the reprocussions for later in the day, so be it.

Skeebee

I can totally relate to you. Unfortunately for me, I have a mental issue that was working against me....I'm 100% or nothing at all. If I don't do the 1%, I didn't do anything at all. And, yes, some people are right; you don't want this bad enough. For me, it was the case and I knew it. But, even when I DID want it the most, I was hindered by my disorder. That made me have to work TWICE as hard to get to it.

How did I do it? It wasn't easy, but I had to SLOOOWLY convince myself that 99% was ok....then 98%....ect....basically had to convince myself that nobody is perfect, I may slip up, but it's perfectly acceptable....baby steps. Once I did that with OTHER things in my life (I had that problem with cleaning the house...no lie...if I couldn't clean EVERY room in the house and finish EVERYTHING than I wouldn't do anything at all.....), then I finally applied it towards weight loss.

Just make sure you really want this, find some reason inside yourself, and push yourself. If I can do it with the personal struggle I had, I'm sure you will be fine. :flowerforyou:

kiane50

I like that..tough love...if we loved ourselves more we wouldn't put the things in our bodies that we do.

Project_Jodie

I read on here once that throwing out your whole day and binging because you made one mistake is a little like smashing your cell phone to bits with a sledgehammer because you dropped it on the ground. :flowerforyou:

Haha love this!

cargilb

Thanks for all the responses guys I am a work in progess to all the tough lovers out there, but I do appreciate those comments too. I DO need to want it more and I'm working on my downfalls.

A very nice person took the time to write me quite a long email - his experience and words really resonated with me and I think I've just had my first AHA moment If he says its ok I'll put on here so everyone else can benefit from his wise words - well i thought they were wise some of the perfectionists out there might disagree but hey the info won't be for you!

Thanks again for all the posts I'm feeling much more confident in making this a lifestyle change rather than just a diet.....

ok. don't give up. and we have tough love and gentle love for you here, so wallow in the one that suits you. whatever you do, be honest with yourself as to what is causing you set backs and address it over time. things don't always happen over night. its all a process. I failed for like 5 years before i started losing weight like bad habit. :grumble: