Hot topic for Wednesday: How would you feel if...
Your significant other was airing out grievences on your relationship on one of their social media sites/message boards/facebook?
Just curious what people would think.. with all the stuff posted on here...how they'd feel if the shoe was on the other foot.
Just curious what people would think.. with all the stuff posted on here...how they'd feel if the shoe was on the other foot.
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I wouldn't do that to my SO (if I had one) and I would hope he wouldn't do that to me.0
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I would have a problem with it on Facebook or anywhere that we both knew people.
On a random message board, it wouldn't bother me so much. It especially wouldn't bother me if the responses made him think because sometimes he needs that.0 -
I've been guilty of doing that and it made my husband furious! I think probably because he was in the wrong...lol But I did end up deleting it all and I've never done it again. I don't hate my husband, but I was venting and wanted some support that he wasn't giving me. In the end all it did was make my friends/family upset with him. I forgave him, but they may not have. Our problems need to stay our problems and not be open for anyone else we actually know.0
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I would be pissed.
#1... man up (man or woman) and confront the issue. Discuss it with me.
#2... don't go blabbing our business all over the place!
#3... if you seriously need help, seek a professional. You will not find the best advice on social media sites!0 -
Well it depends. If she's come to me already and expressed her feelings with me. And then she vents and air out her issues in public, then I wouldn't have that much of a problem with it. If airing it out and discussing it with other people makes her feel better, then so be it.
But if instead of discussing with me she's going straight to public/social media, then there's a problem.0 -
And I must say.. oddly enough it's a little different just keeping a slight issue on your FL, rather than starting a big long thread about it that thousands of people are going to read...0
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Exactly this!I would be pissed.
#1... man up (man or woman) and confront the issue. Discuss it with me.
#2... don't go blabbing our business all over the place!
#3... if you seriously need help, seek a professional. You will not find the best advice on social media sites!0 -
If it were a site where he didn't actually know anyone in person, and he didn't use my name...I don't think I'd care.0
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I hate when people cry all over their social networking sites about their personal life.0
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Mine knows better! I wouldn't do it to him either, not to anyone we know. I might have a vent here and there that I'll post on my MFP status or something.0
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Very true.And I must say.. oddly enough it's a little different just keeping a slight issue on your FL, rather than starting a big long thread about it that thousands of people are going to read...0 -
Facebook would be different. People there know us both in real life. Here, I can vent w/o anyone knowing who I'm talking about.
Frankly, it's a bit better than talking to a friend about it because it's like throwing it out in to the void. Doesn't hurt anything, gets it off my chest.0 -
I think even worse than creating threads on annonymous message boards, is passive agressive facebook statuses.
"if you love somebody you show them"
"I'm so done"
ect, ect.0 -
My general take is .. ok, if you start that on facebook .. I'll jump in, and we can have a full-blown argument on your wall ...
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Hm... I try not to give my husband a reason to complain about me. If he did have a gripe about something that I was doing, I would expect him to tell me.
I do have a very small network of girlfriends that do hear me gripe here and there. I don't tell them *anything* that I do not flat out say to my husband's face and it's never anything horribly seriously because he's not a complicated husband. It's more of a "I know you guys can relate" thing than a "I hate the *kitten* that I married and hope he dies" conversation. If it was flipped, I wouldn't care................... as long as it was addressed to me, too.0 -
My husband and I are very clear that in the heat of the moment it doesn't really matter what we say to one another as long as:
a) we apologise
b) it is never said anywhere else to anyone else. Internally we might have ructions, but externally we are a team0 -
Depends on what it was and if we knew anyone in real life. I imagine it would also be interesting to everyone reading the post once I found it . . . public arguments are never pretty.0
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I don't know if it was about a relationship or what, but one of my FB friends last night posted a PRAYER (actually talking to God) asking for strength on FB, but then refused to tell anyone what she was talking about.I think even worse than creating threads on annonymous message boards, is passive agressive facebook statuses.
"if you love somebody you show them"
"I'm so done"
ect, ect.
Seriously? Vaguebooking pisses me off in general. I am not a religious person, but I do meditate and things like that and it's so private. Why do you need to put that on FACEBOOK???
I thought it was inappropriate, weird and show-offy.
Sorry. Had to vent about that. lol0 -
I am a grown up. I would address relationship issues directly with my husband, if there were a need. He is, too, so we're good.0
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If I write anything about my husband here, I always let him read it, so he can have a laugh...0
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I would first feel bad that my SO felt we couldn't have a conversation about whatever was bothering her. We have a very open line of communication and to not feel safe talking to me would make me feel I was doing something wrong.
As for the other people who read our dirty laundry, they don't know anything about us or who we are so that I could overlook.0 -
I've talked to friends on here about issues with my husband, and he's fine with that, because he understands that I have to talk to someone, and sometimes no one else is available.
However, I've never, ever, EVER made a flippin public forum thread putting my husband on blast, no matter how wrong he might be. I will NEVER do that to him. He would be furious, and rightfully so.
If he were to do that to me, I would lose my ****.0 -
People get way too personal here IMO. I personally wouldn't care for a lot of what gets posted here being said about any relationship I was in.0
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I've talked to friends on here about issues with my husband, and he's fine with that, because he understands that I have to talk to someone, and sometimes no one else is available.
However, I've never, ever, EVER made a flippin public forum thread putting my husband on blast, no matter how wrong he might be. I will NEVER do that to him. He would be furious, and rightfully so.
If he were to do that to me, I would lose my ****.
Well well well...0 -
I've stopped using FB for the array of ridiculous messages on there. Its almost as bad as these forums except that everyone has actually met each other so in some ways its even worse. So yes, I would be a tad perturbed if my SO posted things like that, but she doesn't and she won't, and neither will I.0
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my wife got mad at me yesterday for posting about her trying to kill me by overspicing my food...
We met on a forum (and she'd be pretty much the awesomest person here if she posted), so she knows how it is...0 -
Your significant other was airing out grievences on your relationship on one of their social media sites/message boards/facebook?
I would feel bewildered and ask myself how a grown *kitten* man like myself wound up marrying a teenager...0 -
I've talked to friends on here about issues with my husband, and he's fine with that, because he understands that I have to talk to someone, and sometimes no one else is available.
However, I've never, ever, EVER made a flippin public forum thread putting my husband on blast, no matter how wrong he might be. I will NEVER do that to him. He would be furious, and rightfully so.
If he were to do that to me, I would lose my ****.
Your view on relationships is so inspirational. I hope I can be in a relationship as good as your someday..0 -
No worries.
It would kind of depend what they are venting/airing. But it takes a lot to really piss me off. Everybody's got to vent sometimes. I would probably be a little peeved if the details were exceptionally personal.0 -
If my husband were to say something about me online, I'd be very, very shocked. Even when I'm being a complete pain in his butt, he wouldn't share it with anyone except me and the neighbors within earshot.0
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