I have never weighed less than my hubbie.

Hanfordrose

My husband and I rib each other a lot in public, and some dense folks have accused us of not liking each other enough to be married. On the contrary, we rib each other because we love each other too much to describe. I expect my husband to point and laugh when I fall spectacularly on my *kitten* and then be a gentleman and help me up while I call him an *kitten* under my breath. It's just the way we are. So yeah, we compete a bit. We taunt each other when one person ups the weight their lifting. We try to outrun each other on the treadmill or blow by each other on the bike path. But after we're done sprinting it out and one person gives in, we laugh, catch our breath, and keep moving ahead together. We're motivating each other through laughter.

The 2 of you sound a lot like Ed and I, when it comes to the joking and teasing part...though I am not ready for any treadmill quite yet. All couple need to have a good sense of humor. If you can't laugh with each other, then...why would you want to be married to that person.

Joy and love are what helps us get through the hardest of times in any relationship. It is what brings us out of sadness, when it comes. It lifts us up, when boredom comes around. It gives us strength to fight through the hardest of times.

No doubt about it...You and your hubbie have the right attitude.

By the way, I call Ed...Butthead from time to time. It just a term of endearment.

Wolfe1759

My partner and I are on this path together. Although I started before him, he has set some great stretch goals and now tracks his food and makes a point of exercising every day, just like me. He is very supportive of me, as I am of him, and it is not a competition. We both enjoy our increasing fitness and health.

dblaacker

This is such a great post! I'm teamed up with my friend Kate so that we can just keep each other accountable. She's sort of in a competition with her husband because they gained weight together over the course of their relationship. His mother said she'd give $100 to whoever lost 25 pounds first. He's already about 20 pounds down, and she's only lost around half that much. She's not letting it get her down, though, which is good to see. It's good to have such healthy relationships, and I can only hope to have such a great relationship with my boyfriend (possibly husband later down the road... much later, lol). He's perpetually skinny, and a runner, so he always has a much easier time, but he's just as supportive of me and my goals. Don't you just love love?

Hanfordrose

My hubbie recently had neck surgery and lost a lot of weight. He was on the scale the other morning and I realized he only outweighed me by 5 lbs. This threw me into full-scale panic mode...

Don't panic, Sis. If this is a sudden loss of weight due to the surgery, he will get better and regain a healthy weight. If his weight loss is actual putting him into a good weight for him...then, encourage him to maintain that loss. Think first...What is best for him? You'll be just fine, whether he is lighter or heavier than you.

Love him and encourage him in whatever is right for his life. He would do the same for you.

flicka11

My friend introduced me to this website. I had mentioned in an email to her I might be more motivated if I had someone to share stuff with. As it turns out, she had been on here already, and replied to your post!:smooched: I am so proud of her, she has lost 15 lbs already. I have started, and have lost 4 1/2. Now, we must keep in mind the week prior to starting, I ate cheesecake every day for a week! But here it is for me in a nutshell: It's nice to have the support of my friend, and others who are trying to do this weight loss thing. I swore I would never have a weight issue when I was younger, and here I am, at least 40 lkbs overweight. Not really sure, but I think the cheesecake had something to do with that! My husband is a hummingbird, and, is much thinner now than when I married him. He looked good to me on our wedding day, and he looks just as good to me today (although I am beginning to worry if he scratches his butt once, it will totally disappear at this point). He is off of his hi blood pressure meds, so I know he feels better than when he had more lbs on. He was never a big guy though, or, if he was, I never, ever saw it.

So, judykat7 is my buddy on here, we live a couple hundred miles apart now, but I find it motivating to watch all of her posts on her exercise and food intake. She is leaps and bounds ahead of me on this journey, and is much more dedicated to her exercise than I have been. It's the coolest feeling though, when someone says, "Great job, keep at it", and you know they are having to suffer through all of the same obstacles, so they're words seems to have greater weight! A friendly goal keeper, a trusted companion, and your personal cheerleader is a great thing to have! Take the walk together, don't worry so much about the numbers as much as how you feel about your goals, and how you set out to attain them. And the answer is, TOGETHER!!!! Blessings, Flicka11

Hanfordrose

i feel your pain i lost 5 pounds this week and my wife looked at me like she was ready to bite nails lol

That made Ed and I both laugh out loud. Thank you for sharing that perfect moment. :laugh:

Your lady needs a big hug and kiss. She needs it NOW, because I know that you teased her...all puffed up with your big 5 pound weight loss.

Men! You just don't understand the rules. She is allowed to boast, and you're supposed to praise her for losing one pound this week. Then, you are supposed to merely say..."I lost a little bit this week." and not rub it in that the pounds are melt off your big, male body. You are lucky that she only glared at you. I would have punched you in the arm or something.

ericadawn92

I can't personally relate to what you're going through, but I wanted to comment and say that I totally admire your attitude!! It's so clear through your post that you love your husband and both of you are in this for the right reasons It's so easy to get caught up in making everything a competition these days, and I'm so glad you haven't given into that temptation.

Best of luck to the both of you on your weightloss/health goals! I know you can do it

cubbies77

As for your competitive boyfriend...let him have his pride. Some men...and even some women...have a need to be 'the winner'. Let him run ahead and break through some invisible tape at the end of his 'invisible race'.

Oh, he'll definitely beat me.

babylemonade

My fiance lost weight faster than I did too but I was always smaller than him so he never got to the point of being lighter than me so I didn't mind it. I might've been jealous otherwise..but still happy for him.

MLibby84

I was very touched by your post My husband we have been together for 10years and married for 4(in Feb). He has always been active, and gone to the gym even before we got together. I was skinny when we first met, weighing 110lbs. Over the yeasrs we got "comfortale" with each other and being skinny or not didnt matter anymore(as I was already self concious about my body). 4 Years into our relationship, on our anniversary to be excat, he took me to Planet Fitness for the very first time.(i wasn't over weight,but needed something to relive stress) so we sat in the parking lot for 20 minutes and I cried. Not because he did this but because I didn't know how I was going to do this with all these people "watching me" so I thought. Needless to say my husband has always supported me in trying to better my health. He is away on business right now, and over the years he has been slacking in the health department too, so we are both trying to better ourselves while we are appart

Hanfordrose

on our anniversary to be excat, he took me to Planet Fitness for the very first time.(i wasn't over weight,but needed something to relive stress) so we sat in the parking lot for 20 minutes and I cried. Not because he did this but because I didn't know how I was going to do this with all these people "watching me" so I thought.

Oh my goodness. Sis, I would have been as scared as you. :frown:

Everytime I think about gym and fitness centers (whatever the name), I remember Physical Ed classes in school. I hated PE! I was the 'fat girl'. I was never good at sports. I couldn't run for any length of time without pain and labored breathing. I felt uncoordinated; but worst of all, I was embarassed by how I looked in gym shorts or a swim suit. I hated the locker room and having to change clothes around the other girls, because they all looked so thin; and I was so fat.

I watch Biggest Loser and can't get over the fact that those incredible folks are so willing to stand up on TV and let the world see just how fat people really look under their carefully designed camophlage of clothing. I hid under loose clothes all of my life. I guess that I still do. I wear clothes that are always one size too big. Now, they are even bigger. My pants keep wanting to fall down.

It would be nice to hear about your experience...beyond the crying in the parking lot. I wonder what they would say, if a fat lady in a wheelchair rolled into a gym?

I currently do 30 minutes of exercises in a chair about 4 to 5 times per week. I just got another Sit and Fit DVD today. I can do all of the upper body stuff, and Ed even bought me some little 1 pound weights to use; but I have to skip the leg and foot stuff for now.

Hanfordrose

I know that I have not responded to all of your wonderful messages on this post. I tried to answer them all, but more kept coming. Please know that I love and support all of you in all your goals...mini or big ones.

I think that I should tell my friend who said to post my blog on the message board that she was right. People will respond.

God bless you all.

morielia

Joy and love are what helps us get through the hardest of times in any relationship. It is what brings us out of sadness, when it comes. It lifts us up, when boredom comes around. It gives us strength to fight through the hardest of times.

Well said!

By the way, I call Ed...Butthead from time to time. It just a term of endearment.

I call mine butthead too! Too funny

MLibby84

I have to say I did end up going into the gym that day. I've gone off and on over the years but always would loose the motivation. Now, I have a personal trainer who I see 2x a week and go to the gym 4 days a week. I just started this process so im still learning. I have to say if it wasn;t for my husband always supporting me( I was skinny when we first started dating, but I have always been self-concious of my body) and now that I am the heaviest i have ever been I knew it was time to do something. So he found me this trainer(its a small fitness place) and I love it! Its challenging and hard but I do well one on one. I need that "Keep goining" push. Ever since I started w. the trainer I have been keeping up with the gym. Also I saw a nutrionist which opened up a new world for me. I am hoping to lose 20lbs by the time my hubby comes home, 40lbs is my total goal to lose by my next birthday(which is July) I really admire your persistance with sticking to the excersie even though you have limited mobility right now. I have faith that you will get there If you can do it, I can do it.

Maggie~