IM LOST OR OVER MY HEAD
robinmoore3
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I am trying to lose a little over 80 pounds.. I have lost all of my drive to accomplish this goal. I have no one to workout with and I have no support in my family.. they keep telling me that ill end up giving up and I wont make it till the end. How do you beat temptation? I am trying to eat healthier... buttttt I keep falling into my old habits.. I never knew how hard it was... ughhhhh.. need some help
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For me my motivation to keep going is those that tell me I am going to quit or I am going to fail. There is something inside me that doesn't want them to win.0
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I get similar comments from my family too. Of course I love them, but it can be so incredibly hurtful. But I turned how sad those comments make me into anger and that anger fuels my motivation. When I take on fitness goals I keep them to myself until I achieve them. When I do achieve them its only then that I share it with my family. This means that they can't tear down my resolve WHILE I'm working on it. Bottom line- you have to want to do this for YOU, but you can turn all the negative influences into motivation to prove them wrong!!!
Good luck and hang in there!0 -
Thank you ladies... I'm trying hard but I swear people like to pull you down when you try to better yourself0
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I know it seems like such a long, hard journey, but seriously, set some smaller goals for yourself. Try for 10 or 20 pounds at a time. Also, I'm going to keep spreading the word, because I believe in it so much....ZUMBA! I love it! I love to dance and always have. I didn't care what I looked like when I started, and neither should you! Just get in there n give it your all. It is so much fun. It's better than any other workout, and it's addicting! Just stick with it girl...you CAN do this!!! I did! In the last year, I've lost 60 lb's, and at one time, I weighed as much as 260! I'm now 150! And keep this in mind....there's no better feeling than proving someone wrong!!! :happy:
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I am trying to lose a little over 80 pounds.. I have lost all of my drive to accomplish this goal. I have no one to workout with and I have no support in my family.. they keep telling me that ill end up giving up and I wont make it till the end. How do you beat temptation? I am trying to eat healthier... buttttt I keep falling into my old habits.. I never knew how hard it was... ughhhhh.. need some help
Honestly I think you just need a little more time. You don't seem quite ready to lose the weight yet. When you are, nothing anyone says will matter, temptation will still be there but will be overridden by disgust, gumption, or determination. You will not feel like you need support from family or anyone else. Old habits will be something that you see as hurdles and obstacles to be overcome, not so much a part of you. Keep your eye on your goal, keep it to yourself and one day it will just click and you will be on your way and NO one and nothing will be able to stop you.:flowerforyou:0 -
I'm sorry your family is mean.
I weigh everything i eat. I bring my scale with me when i go out to eat or to a friend's. Also during the week, I have every meal and snack planned and a designated time to eat. Breakfast, Snack, Lunch, Snack, Dinner Snack. It's all about 3 hours apart. I know that is hard to do, but It keeps me happy. Also don't deprive yourself things. Chocolate in your trail-mix, a little jam on your PBJ. Buy good, quality ingredients. So go for the fancy smancy jam in the little jar instead of the big cheapo bargain brand. You'll be eating less of it anyway right? The big jar might go bad, and the little jar will be savored. This is just an example, but you get the idea.
My favorite naughty snack? Really good cheddar, a good cracker, and some quince. Yummo! I feel so decadent eating that, and I limit myself to 6 crackers and 1 oz cheese, and 2 teaspoons of preserves. I have a cup of hot tea and I pretend I'm in Victorian England. Silly yes, but I enjoy it more.
I also drink Tea all day long. Black tea, herbal tea, whatever I got. I don't like just drinking water, I want something with flavor. I can drink tea black, unlike coffee which needs a ton of creamer to be palatable for me. Water is for when i first wake up, right before bed after I've brushed my teeth, and the gym.
On the weekends I have a hard time because I'm with people. I try really hard to limit what I eat during the day so I can enjoy whatever we eat out. Also I try to exercise on those days in particular because then I have a few extra callories to play with.
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I know it seems like such a long, hard journey, but seriously, set some smaller goals for yourself. Try for 10 or 20 pounds at a time. Also, I'm going to keep spreading the word, because I believe in it so much....ZUMBA! I love it! I love to dance and always have. I didn't care what I looked like when I started, and neither should you! Just get in there n give it your all. It is so much fun. It's better than any other workout, and it's addicting! Just stick with it girl...you CAN do this!!! I did! In the last year, I've lost 60 lb's, and at one time, I weighed as much as 260! I'm now 150! And keep this in mind....there's no better feeling than proving someone wrong!!! :happy:
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Sometimes they do try to pull you down, it makes them feel better about their lack of effort.
I could make a number of suggestions about ways to make exercise habits and structuring eating etc, but the unfortunate fact is that it ultimately it comes down to you wanting it enough. A lot of people succeed in spite of others, not with their assistance (I'm one of them).
For me, knowledge was the key. Finding out the simple FACTS of fat loss, nutrition and exercise. Sorting the fact from the crap gave me a great sense of empowerment and allowed me to focus on what I needed to without the lingering doubts of whether what I was doing was 'right' or 'worthwhile'. That would be my suggestion; read, learn and apply! There are now some great threads on this site with easy to digest facts on these issues, if you are keen I'll happily point you in the right direction.0 -
I know its very hard when you don't have the support, but you have to believe you are worth it. The only reason you fail is if you stop trying. Keep trying!0
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It sounds silly... but I spend about 90% of my internet time on MyFitnessPal, reading about food/fitness ideas ans success stories... keeps me motivated.0
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This is just me:
I wouldn't lose weight for anyone other than myself. You have to make it about you. It doesn't matter what they say or do, their support is irrelevant.
I wouldn't focus on such a large macro goal of 80lbs. That's daunting and will take time. Divide that up into smaller more achievable goals of 10 or 20lbs and focus on that like a laser.
Good luck. Ignore your family. You don't choose them but you can choose to ignore them. 0 -
For me it's been the folks on this site.
Checking in constantly, motivating and getting motivated, the positive enforcement and checking in throughout the day has been a HUGE factor in my drive... it's so much different (better) that all my previous attempts.
I've tried and stopped so many times, I can understand my family's lack of confidence in yet another attempt at health and weight loss.
Login often, get lot's of friends who post a lot and are there for you... Add me if you like, I'm present quite a bit.0 -
Yes! Do it to prove them wrong. Don't let others take you down. You want that weight gone then stick to it. If they can't be supportive them stay away for awhile til your control gets better. Come on here for support. Add me if you'd like. I'm happy to help.0
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I know it seems like such a long, hard journey, but seriously, set some smaller goals for yourself. Try for 10 or 20 pounds at a time. Also, I'm going to keep spreading the word, because I believe in it so much....ZUMBA! I love it! I love to dance and always have. I didn't care what I looked like when I started, and neither should you! Just get in there n give it your all. It is so much fun. It's better than any other workout, and it's addicting! Just stick with it girl...you CAN do this!!! I did! In the last year, I've lost 60 lb's, and at one time, I weighed as much as 260! I'm now 150! And keep this in mind....there's no better feeling than proving someone wrong!!! :happy:
I don't know if youhave tried it but there is also water ZUMBA, it's AWESOME and much lower impact on larger bodies!!0 -
I know its very hard when you don't have the support, but you have to believe you are worth it. The only reason you fail is if you stop trying. Keep trying!
You must fail many many times in order to have great success. Successful people are that way because of the many times they failed but didn't give up. :drinker:0 -
It's really sad that the closest people are choosing to discourage you rather than build you up.....But hey, you can't make others support you or be happy for you....
Sooooo I guess all you can do is use it to fuel yourself!!! it's awesome that you're on here cause here you have sooo many people rootin for ya! So go ahead and tune out the people who are making you feel this way!!! Jealousy and resentment are ugly emotions!!! And when you've reached your goals you'll be even more gratified
And those ppl can eat those words 0 -
Read, read and then read some more.....knowledge is the key to any success......read the benefits of healthy eating, read how bad sugar is for you and read only healthy recipes......hey, it's working for me0
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It sounds silly... but I spend about 90% of my internet time on MyFitnessPal, reading about food/fitness ideas ans success stories... keeps me motivated.
This!! also make smaller goals.. start with 10lbs or even make your goals just promising to log all of your food for 10 days .. it can be super stressful to try and do everything at once. I just started (again) but im doing it right this time.. no gimmicks, no magic pills.. my first goal was just to log my food.. and drink my water.. after that I started easing into the workouts and now im addicted to MFP and wanting to do something everyday! you can do it!0 -
Sometimes they do try to pull you down, it makes them feel better about their lack of effort.
I could make a number of suggestions about ways to make exercise habits and structuring eating etc, but the unfortunate fact is that it ultimately it comes down to you wanting it enough. A lot of people succeed in spite of others, not with their assistance (I'm one of them).
For me, knowledge was the key. Finding out the simple FACTS of fat loss, nutrition and exercise. Sorting the fact from the crap gave me a great sense of empowerment and allowed me to focus on what I needed to without the lingering doubts of whether what I was doing was 'right' or 'worthwhile'. That would be my suggestion; read, learn and apply! There are now some great threads on this site with easy to digest facts on these issues, if you are keen I'll happily point you in the right direction.
This was my experience also. I learned so much once I actually started looking in the right places. At that point, I had my click and I am not looking back.0 -
It's really sad that the closest people are choosing to discourage you rather than build you up.....But hey, you can't make others support you or be happy for you....
Sooooo I guess all you can do is use it to fuel yourself!!! it's awesome that you're on here cause here you have sooo many people rootin for ya! So go ahead and tune out the people who are making you feel this way!!! Jealousy and resentment are ugly emotions!!! And when you've reached your goals you'll be even more gratified And those ppl can eat those words
Yea I'm use to it.. I have lost 6 lbs since working out and they keep telling me it all went to my ankles and stuff like that0 -
What Zumba do you do?0
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My two cents (because I'm so quick to lose motivation):
I keep a journal by my bed and I write 3 things in it that I would like to accomplish for the week. This week they are: 1) No soda. 2) Fast food no more than 4 times this week.<-This is pretty big for me since I'm on the road all the time. 3) 30 minutes of exercise 3 times.
I write what I accomplished and what I didn't every night. At the end of the week I kind of tally up how well I did. I'm not making this about weight loss and I'm not super-restricting my diet. I'm just not ready for that yet. But I am ready for my above goals and they are completely doable. Maybe you could try something like that. It's still early, but it seems to be working for me because I'm still here and still logging.0 -
You look great! You look like you have been working very hard.
We all struggle with weight loss. Sometimes we slip. What's important is that you keep moving forward.
You/we do that by starting over everyday!
Don't you allow anyone to take away all that hard work you've done.0 -
Also:
Here's a few things that helped me:
IMMERSION: Fully immerse yourself in knowledge. Knowledge on Health, Weightloss, Physiology, Energy, Food ETC. You can do so by the internet, books, documentries, finding people you know in your life that are "healthy" or manage to manage their weight. Grab knowledge from these people and ask questions!
LEARN ABOUT YOUR FOOD: Learn where it comes from, how it's made, how it affects your body, and what it does for you. This may help you steer away from certain foods.
MOTIVATION: I regularly go on things like youtube and watch videos of transformations, or even on MFP for success stories and PICS. When I'm needing some extra umph or drive or hope even!
UNDERSTAND THAT EVERYONE DOES IT DIFFERENTLY: We each have our own views on virtually everything including food and how to effectively lose weight, we each also have our own preferences. Try it and if it doesn't work move on. Try Try Again! Find what helps you!!!
SURROUNDINGS: Try to find people in your life that will BUILD you up, not tempt you to give up so they can feel better about themselves. Put motivation around your house. Pics out of mags or positive words! Anything that helps to motivate.
KNOWING NO ONE IS PERFECT: We ALL have good and bad days. If i have a bad day or make a poor choice I start by making a better next one. Tomorrow is a new day. And you can even start with your next meal. "See it as it is, but not worse than it is" and then see it better
BE ACCOUNTABLE: Like this site or an IpHONE APP, track EVERYTHING. Makes you aware and you don't just mindelessly eat.
These are things that have helped me, this is my first attempt at weight loss and today i reached my first goal of 30 pds down 0 -
It's really sad that the closest people are choosing to discourage you rather than build you up.....But hey, you can't make others support you or be happy for you....
Sooooo I guess all you can do is use it to fuel yourself!!! it's awesome that you're on here cause here you have sooo many people rootin for ya! So go ahead and tune out the people who are making you feel this way!!! Jealousy and resentment are ugly emotions!!! And when you've reached your goals you'll be even more gratified And those ppl can eat those words
Yea I'm use to it.. I have lost 6 lbs since working out and they keep telling me it all went to my ankles and stuff like that
That's horrible. Tune them out girl. Maybe you need to consider spending less time with those people. As sad as that it. Everyhting in life is about FOCUS. Maybe you need to direct your focus to people who are going to cheer for you.0 -
HAAAA!!! My new best friend!!! Lol... I'm an instructor now!!! :happy: LOVE LOVE LOVE MY ZUMBA!!!
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HAAAA!!! My new best friend!!! Lol... I'm an instructor now!!! :happy: LOVE LOVE LOVE MY ZUMBA!!!
Dang it! I forgot to quote again!!! Lol0 -
I know it seems like such a long, hard journey, but seriously, set some smaller goals for yourself. Try for 10 or 20 pounds at a time. Also, I'm going to keep spreading the word, because I believe in it so much....ZUMBA! I love it! I love to dance and always have. I didn't care what I looked like when I started, and neither should you! Just get in there n give it your all. It is so much fun. It's better than any other workout, and it's addicting! Just stick with it girl...you CAN do this!!! I did! In the last year, I've lost 60 lb's, and at one time, I weighed as much as 260! I'm now 150! And keep this in mind....there's no better feeling than proving someone wrong!!! :happy:
I LOVE ZUMBAAAAAA.. I DO IT EVERYDAY
How long have you been doing it for???
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I am trying to lose a little over 80 pounds.. I have lost all of my drive to accomplish this goal. I have no one to workout with and I have no support in my family.. they keep telling me that ill end up giving up and I wont make it till the end. How do you beat temptation? I am trying to eat healthier... buttttt I keep falling into my old habits.. I never knew how hard it was... ughhhhh.. need some help
I don’t have as much to lose as you (I’m hoping to lose about 30 lbs), but I know what you feel like with having “no one” to workout with (I am currently deployed so my fiancé is who I normally work out with when home, but he’s not here). I had been working out with a civilian co-worker who is deployed with me, but she has recently gotten very lazy and keeps coming up with “excuses” to not go work out. First she had gotten the flu, ok your sick, stay home, rest, get better, cool. But now it’s been 3 weeks since she was sick, and every time I ask if she wants to go workout with me, it’s one excuse after another. I still go and do my own thing, but I lack the motivation to push myself because I have no one to keep me honest. The worst part is listening to her talk about how she “needs to start working out again and lose weight again” but when I try to provide the motivation for her, she backs out, which reduces my motivation (I’m one of those people that needs someone else to help hold me accountable. If I have someone depending on me, I’m there, but if it’s just myself, I sometimes give in to laziness).0 -
For me personally, I realized that I have to be completely honest with myself... A lot of people I know are actually very supportave, but of course not all, you just have to push through that and tell yoyrself it will happen for you!!! Reading these success stories, especially girls that started out bigger than me and ended up smaller than me, helps me know that I'm not the only one and it is possible....and I look forward into putting my before and after pictures up on the foroums!!!0
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