IM LOST OR OVER MY HEAD

TheStrawberryGirl

That's terrible that your family would say that to you, and I'm sorry to hear it. Even if you slip up while trying to lose the weight, you should just get back into the swing as soon as possible, and not beat yourself up. It's hard, and nobody should fault you for slipping up. It's been hard for me, too, I've tried a few times, and haven't gotten far. But I'm ready now, and I'm finding this program to be EXTREMELY helpful. You can still eat good foods, you just have to count them in and alter what else you eat that day. Try to plan your meals out at the beginning of the day or week, and try your hardest to stick with it. That's helping me a lot. Actually seeing what I'm eating and what it adds up to is keeping me from putting that "little bit" of extra cheese on my food, or "just having a little bit more" peanut butter or whatever! Also, the best exercise is the one that you'll actually do. I slack off with going to the gym, and it's bad, because I could have lost my 40+ pounds by now if I'd been going regularly. BUT, I have an exercise bike at home, and have been using it while I'm watching tv. I also use the Wii Fit program, which is easy and fun to do. Whatever you can squeeze in is better than nothing, and honestly, you'll lose weight without even exercising much, it will just take a bit longer.
Also, I've started eating the Weight Watchers Smart Ones/Lean Cuisine/Healthy Choice foods. I don't cook, and this is something really easy for me. It's a no-brainer. The food is decent, and it's all about the portion control. (I highly recommend the Lean Cuisine French Bread pizza! It's almost as good as Stouffer's!) Weight Watchers makes desserts, also, and the Skinny Cow desserts are delicious. You feel like you're cheating. I also feel like it keeps me from obsessing over food. I don't have to sit and think about what the heck I'm going to have for dinner, and end up at the pizza place around the corner. I just throw something in the oven/microwave and I'm done.
Keep up the good work, and most important, DON'T beat yourself up. You need to be ready to take on the challenge, and not feel terrible about yourself for being human. Just try to remember the mantra I use when I'm tempted... "Nothing tastes as good as losing weight feels!". Good luck!!! :-)
-Christine

xraygrandma

I know this may be silly or redundant on my posts but I tell myself Baby Steps, Baby Steps. I did not put it on overnight so it is going to take many baby steps to get it off. Sometimes that baby step may be just making myself go outside and water the plants, do some laundry, etc. I battle with depression so just staying out of bed is milestone at times. I have been really excited about how I have felt the last week. I have logged everyday and started exercising. Not a lot but at least I am doing some. I had a trainer tell me once that if you can lose 5lbs then you can lose 10. That helps me keep going. I have 80 lbs to lose. Hang in there. Read the posts. Look at the success stories. Good Luck.

chubbygirl253

If you want it bad enough, you'll find the gumption to do what it takes. You won't have to search for motivation, it'll just be inside you. It'll consume your life and everything in it like a fire.

If not, nothing we say will help you find the drive you are looking for. And if you quit you'll find yourself right back here, probably with even more to lose. It's your choice.

robinmoore3

What Zumba do you do?

I do zumba core now that its out and I do zumba rush

kcallas88

HA! I WAS IN THIS SAME BOAT!!!!! My roommate was so negative saying i couldn't do it and going to the gym daily wasn't going to do anything. I lost 15lbs since June (i stopped working out July-Oct). She claims she lost 15lbs and that she went from 130 to 115, all without working out at all and changing her diet. Which she really didn't. Psh...im not trying to be rude but she can barely fit in size 4 jeans and has huge rolls over her jeans. Its just her being negative and wanting to put me down and stop MY progress.

Use the negative comments and everything else negative and use it to fuel your workouts. My roommate just recently started asking if she could do p90x with me and how do you tone certain areas. I have trouble giving her advice because her diet is horrific and she hates cardio, yet wants things toned. Ha, good luck. She's still a good friend but i used her negative comments as something to make me workout and want to prove her wrong. its been a long process but her asking me for help gave me a huge sense of accomplishment. Now my goal is to show her up at the beach. May sound immature but 15lbs are gone off my body, i feel better, and i still have 10ish more to lose!!!!

nvrsettle

My reply to you isn't very inspirational but...

Some simple things motivate me - I look at Before and After pictures on Tumblr, this helps because you can physically see a person’s changes and it is so inspiring!! The other thing I do is look at pinterest; specifically I look at the Health & Fitness section and look at pictures, read diet tips and workout routines. I hardly EVER incorporate the things that I read/saw BUT it gives me support and motivation for my next workout or meal. It actually makes me excited about going to the gym in the morning!

Hope this helps and best of luck to you. You can do it, it is hard & rough, easy to quit and hard to finish but if you want it bad enough you will find the strength to get through it.

butterflylover527

Do it to prove your family wrong

k8blujay2

Honestly, just take it one day at a time and one decision at a time. Don't beat yourself up if you "fall"... just get back up the next day.

You say you love Zumba and do it everyday? Ok. That's a great start. Now just try and change something else... just keep changing one thing at a time and before you know it, you will be pounds lighter, much happier, and much healthier.

MinnieInMaine

Do it to prove your family wrong

This was my first thought as well. When I announced that I was rejoining Weight Watchers 3 years ago, my brother just rolled his eyes and said "here we go again". I was super peeved and vowed to myself that I was going to prove him wrong! And I have!!

You really can't let anyone else's opinions get into your head. I know that's much easier said than done but keep practicing and you'll get there eventually. When they make comments, kill them with kindness and say "gee, thanks guys, that's so sweet" and leave the room. They're trying to get you going, get you to defend yourself or whatever - don't let them get what they want!

As far as "needing" someone to workout with, I'm sorry but that's just bull crap. I used to think that too and had a couple gym buddies that were wishy washy about going and I LET them hold me back from my goals. For the sake of full disclosure, I do have a gym buddy but I go more to motivate her than for my need of support. She wasn't with me today and I rocked that workout! You have to just go do it for yourself and forget about relying on someone else for support. Who cares that you're going alone? Just plug some music in your ears or turn on a good movie and get moving!

Now as far as your food goes - same thing. If you don't have much control over what's being served for food in the house, that's a tough spot to be in but you can still make some improvements.
1) avoid junky snacks - just because they're there doesn't mean you havet o eat them. Bring your own healthy alternatives into the house like fruits, nuts, protein bars, etc. and keep them in your own cupboard or space in the fridge. Those spots should be the only place you go for snacks from now on.
2) if you can't avoid the junkier foods, work on reducing portions. Say pizza for instance, if you can control the toppings and crust, go with thin crust and skip the meat. And try eating a couple slices less than usual. if you're still hungry have a salad or something healthy to fill up.

Not sure what you usually eat but you can apply these kinds of rules to your life, just think more about what you're eating, what your choices are and keep working on it.

KEAVES13

I am trying to lose a little over 80 pounds.. I have lost all of my drive to accomplish this goal. I have no one to workout with and I have no support in my family.. they keep telling me that ill end up giving up and I wont make it till the end. How do you beat temptation? I am trying to eat healthier... buttttt I keep falling into my old habits.. I never knew how hard it was... ughhhhh.. need some help

I have problems with keeping myself motivated and trying to tell myself I don't have to fail this time..Just keep reminding yourself that this is all up to YOU to decide and noone else..only YOU can do the work and then YOU will reap the benefits of a happier healthier you! Good luck to you! You can do it!! ) :flowerforyou:

mommyof3j

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Honestly I think you just need a little more time. You don't seem quite ready to lose the weight yet. When you are, nothing anyone says will matter, temptation will still be there but will be overridden by disgust, gumption, or determination. You will not feel like you need support from family or anyone else. Old habits will be something that you see as hurdles and obstacles to be overcome, not so much a part of you. Keep your eye on your goal, keep it to yourself and one day it will just click and you will be on your way and NO one and nothing will be able to stop you.:flowerforyou:

Right on, so true. You have to want it bad enough, it starts and ends with you sweetie. If you really want to loose you have to put yourself first and forget everything else matters. Set small goals and take baby steps.

patcheroo

"don't you worry your pretty little mind. People throw rocks at things that shine" ... they do like to drag you down, I never figured out why, but they do. Ignore them all!

EstiloPanama

I looked at your pictures, and you are very pretty! Even at a higher weight, so imagine what you will look like at a lower weight I am trying to lose 100 lbs so I feel your pain. I am 247 trying to get down to 150. My motivation is joining the military, honestly. I want to be fit for my kids and my fiance. He loves me as I am, loves the "curves" (hehehe) but.......he understands I need to be healthy internally. I want to lose weight for myself, and so my brother can stop thinking of me as the 'fat, lazy sister", and so my family can quit asking things like, "Have you gained/lost weight?" I want to be more than a number to them. I want to feel loved for me, not judged by my weight.......anyway hun..good luck !

fiferize

we all feel you pain and we are here to help. Add me. I would like to help support you.

suzy1220

So much of weight loss is mental. If your head isn't ready or not into it, your body won't be either, no matter who you surround yourself with. I hope this site can give you the support that you need but your head has to really be into it for you to do anything permanent.

MissyJessy

I am trying to lose a little over 80 pounds.. I have lost all of my drive to accomplish this goal. I have no one to workout with and I have no support in my family.. they keep telling me that ill end up giving up and I wont make it till the end. How do you beat temptation? I am trying to eat healthier... buttttt I keep falling into my old habits.. I never knew how hard it was... ughhhhh.. need some help

It takes more than a day to change bad habits i would try to meet people with similar goals as you take a few classes at your local gym and build that support network for yourself and of course MFP is a great tool if you surround yourself with the right people. Dont stress so much about the old habits they are habits because you were doing that for such a long time and it will take time to form those new habits.
Your not going to lose the weight over night so start small like changing one meal a day to a healthier choice, increase your water, cut out pop... 10lbs goals at a time... little steps will slowly change your habits. Your not going to rewrite your history in a week. And keep in mind the image of all those peoples jaws dropping when you walk in 80lbs lighter, people always try to bring others down to their level because change is contageous no one may want to change but when you get to your goal you may encourgage them to change as well.

Keep your chin up hun i promise it does get easier! :flowerforyou:

NRSPAM

You said you have noone to workout with.... Go to www.zumba.com to find classes in your area! I love my group, we're like one big family, we support each other, and encourage each other. And I love it, because I'm at home with my kids all day, and it gives me an opportunity to be around other adults!!! It's a nice little break for Mommies!

KenosFeoh

I think the most important thing is don't give up. Keep working at it. If you have a setback/fall off the wagon, put it behind you as soon as you can. A few setbacks won't destroy all your good efforts, only giving up will do that.

Come here as often as you need. Sometimes when the trail mix in the kitchen is calling to me, I open MFP and read success stories and/or try to help somebody like you.

We can do this!

tristalamothe

First things first, you're only human! Give yourself a break; we all have bad days, and will continue to have bad days forever.

It's really unfortunate that your family isn't supportive. I have a few people in my life whose actions were the same. It's hard to zone them out, I understand that from experience, so just try and let it go in one ear, and out the other.

Some helpful things that have personally helped me thus far:
- plan plan plan! Plan your meals in advanced, especially during the week. The urge to go buy fast food is lessened when you have meals already prepared.
- eat lots! And what I mean, is lots of little meals. I have Breakfast, Snack, Lunch, Snack, Dinner, After Gym Snack. Keeps your metabolism up!
- water; whether it's just regular water, water with fresh sliced lemon and/or lime, or ice chips. Sometimes as a treat, I'll use Crystal Lite or MIO, but try to limit that to weekends. Tea is great too. Keeps your system constantly flushing out toxins.
- be COMPLETELY honest. For the longest time, I hid my diary on MFP, but once going public and tracking everything (from that one piece of cheese I had while cutting up veggies, or drop of honey in my tea, etc), it really made me motivated to want to do better. Not embarrass myself.
- fitness; plan a fitness routine, and keep at it. No matter how much you hurt, just do it and continue to go. It's nice now that the staff and regulars know me by name. They're like my second family.
- consistency; stay at it. You didn't gain the weigh overnight, and you won't lose it overnight either.
- and lastly, and most importantly; My Fitness Pal Community. If nobody is willing to support you in your life, you can find MANY people.. strangers from around the world, who want the very best for you (myself included).

You can do this, beautiful. Slow but sure. Feel free to send me a friend request!

Trista

Rhonnie

Just remember you don't have to change everything overnight! If it is too drastic of a change it will be harder to avoid all the temptations. Strive to improve, not for perfection. Probably most important is don't quit just because you do give into a temptation - that is not failure! You do not fail until you quit trying!

mleech77

For me it wasn't just having a weight goal, but something in addition to that. I can't work out just for the sake of working out and watching weight come off. In my case my goal initially is to be fit enough to compete in triathlons. Once I've achieved that it will be for longer distance triathlons, and then to have competitive times.

rhinesb

I'm sorry your family is mean.

I weigh everything i eat. I bring my scale with me when i go out to eat or to a friend's. Also during the week, I have every meal and snack planned and a designated time to eat. Breakfast, Snack, Lunch, Snack, Dinner Snack. It's all about 3 hours apart. I know that is hard to do, but It keeps me happy. Also don't deprive yourself things. Chocolate in your trail-mix, a little jam on your PBJ. Buy good, quality ingredients. So go for the fancy smancy jam in the little jar instead of the big cheapo bargain brand. You'll be eating less of it anyway right? The big jar might go bad, and the little jar will be savored. This is just an example, but you get the idea.

My favorite naughty snack? Really good cheddar, a good cracker, and some quince. Yummo! I feel so decadent eating that, and I limit myself to 6 crackers and 1 oz cheese, and 2 teaspoons of preserves. I have a cup of hot tea and I pretend I'm in Victorian England. Silly yes, but I enjoy it more.

I also drink Tea all day long. Black tea, herbal tea, whatever I got. I don't like just drinking water, I want something with flavor. I can drink tea black, unlike coffee which needs a ton of creamer to be palatable for me. Water is for when i first wake up, right before bed after I've brushed my teeth, and the gym.

On the weekends I have a hard time because I'm with people. I try really hard to limit what I eat during the day so I can enjoy whatever we eat out. Also I try to exercise on those days in particular because then I have a few extra callories to play with.

Hope this helps.

I have started doing this too!

Also, instead of trying to force myself to eat things I hate because they are healthy I've started making a list of items that are good for me and that I love and have been experimenting with different recipes to truly enjoy them. It has made sticking to my calories/protein/etc...much easier.

SipsMom

I agree with so many of the posts that others have made.
First you have to want it and it needs to be a life style change in your eating habits. It can not be about losing 80 pounds.

Start with saying that you want to be healthy and eat healthy. That doesn't mean you starve yourself or eat nothing but vegetables. Portion control is huge!! Eating many small meals(4-8) instead of trying to cram in three meals will do you so much more.

Use the calorie counter and goal settings here! They do work. However instead of plugging in a goal of 80 pounds start with 10. When you see the 10 going then you can adjust from there. Success comes from small steps.

Most importantly get moving. Even walking at a brisk pace for 30 minutes is something. Going to the gym is not fun if you are doing it alone. I will attest to that. If you have friends or family that work out or Zumba try to go with them. However, keep in mind that there will be others at the gym who feel the same way and may want someone to work out with. Start by chatting with people around you. You never know what could happen.

Week one keep track of everything you eat for one week without changing anything. The amount of calories and the nutrition or lack of nutrition and fat info will amaze you! You will want to give it all you got after seeing those numbers!

Week two try to eliminate all the fast and fried foods.

Week three make healthier choices. If you love popcorn and have to have it try a low calorie healthier option. If you love nacho chips look for whole grain or multi grain options. Instead of using regular hamburg use a lean 92%. Then slowly you can transition to 1/2 hamburg and 1/2 ground turkey. (I will never use all ground turkey, I can't stand the taste. But that is my opinion.)

Week four drink more water. Try to keep a water bottle with you at all times! If you are a soda drinker and can eliminate soda you will notice a big difference in two weeks just from stopping the soda. Don't go cold turkey wean yourself slowly over those two weeks and try to avoid it after that.

Take it slow and you will see results. If you try to do it all at once you will feel deprived and are more likely to go back to your old habits. Start slow and see how you start feeling with small steps!

Good Luck!

_ylime_

(1) Find something you LOVE to do – something that doesn’t feel like “work” – if you love zumba, go for it, if you love lifting, do it. You get the point, find activities you look forward to, and are willing to put 110% effort into.

(2) It stinks when people are rude and unsupportive – but at the end of the day this is about YOU, not them. It is nice to have support, but YOU need to want it to make it work long term. Think about why you want to lose the weight – make a plan, and hold yourself accountable. Don't worry about everyone else.

(3) If you have a bad day – move on – pick yourself up and make better choices. Don’t let one day turn into weeks.

This is your life, have fun, and keep pushing to make tomorrow better than today. Just my thoughts – hopefully you find something helpful in them.

:flowerforyou:

brookehe

I've lost 6 pounds too since starting my journey late December. I'm trying to celebrate the "smaller" milestones. Hey, pick up five pounds (weights, kids, detergent, cat litter) to remind yourself what it really feels like. That's helping me along the way. And as far as your lack of support from family (me too) - - don't get mad, get even. I liked the advice of keeping your health/fitness goals to yourself until after you've achieved them/hit a milestone. Then you can simply let them know how they're wrong, you're making steady progress - HA!