I think I need a pep-talk. I'm a little frustrated.

WinnerVictorious

1. Don't worry about your protein intake. Keep your fats down and keep to your cals and you will be fine.
2. Kids are important yes but there is always a way to make it work. Do you have to drive everywhere? Maybe you can walk/cycle your kids around instead of driving? Can you do a workout DVD like the 30 Day Shred and squeeze it in evenings while kids are doing homework? Make time at the weekends to do a big workout. Remember, you wont be any good to your kids if you die prematurely because you haven't been focused on your health. Surely you want to teach them good habits? If so why not get them involved with whatever exercise it is you decide to take up. Go hillwalking at the weekend or swimming?

For number 1... Don't worry about protein intake? Why is that? Protein is required for muscles, hair growth, etc and keeps you feeling full for longer. You NEED to have adequate protein in your diet. Lack of proein and weight lifting while losing weight is what causes people to lose muscle mass while eating at a deficit. Lack of protein will cause people to feel hungrier, faster. For me, lack of protein caused hair loss (and I know it has for others too).

Keep fats down? Dietary fat doesn't translate to body fat. Fats are needed in a healthy diet. Of course that isn't fried foods for example but healthy fats (oils, etc) are needed in the body. They help you feel full, longer.. they help keep digestion moving along, healthy fats help the look of hair, nails and skin. I don't understand why you don't think protein and fats are important to include properly in your daily diet.

For number 2, I do agree with.. To the OP, you can sneak in exercise somewhere in there if you really want to. Take 30 minutes after dinner and go for a family walk. Exercise is important to children too. Or when you put the kids to bed put on a workout DVD... go for a walk and leave Hubby home to say clean up dinner. There are lots of ways to sneak in some exercise. Go for a walk at lunch while at work. If you get to work early don't go sit at your desk... go for a walk instead. Climb the stairs in the house/workplace.

Ultimately, a calorie deficit is required for weight loss. You can lose weight without exercise but your body won't change as much as it will with proper exercise.

in bold, can't be stressed enough.

20-25 years ago, low fat foods were all the rage. the idea was that less dietary fat would lead to less body fat. it doesn't work that way. dietary fat is used for energy much as dietary carbs are used for energy.

the primary concern with an abundance of dietary fat relates to long-term cardiovascular health. the "bad" fats may (or may not) contribute to a higher incidence of heart and arterial diseases.

but dietary fat itself doesn't make you any more or less fat than anything else you are eating.

finally, your fat macro should be treated as a minimum. let me repeat, your fat macro is a MINIMUM.

jetaylor63

I haven't been at this very long either and when I was feeling like you seem to be, I started sending out friend requests. The interactions have helped with focus, support and encouragement, and finding answers to the questions that keep popping up as I go along.

Feel free to add me as a friend.

Jennifer

debrapeterson

I have been with MFP a year and have found that I gradually incorporated all the elements for a healthier me. First I just tried to stay within my daily calories. This helped me find foods that I could grab in a rush. Veggie Chips, Carrot chips oh and so important. I had two packages of instant oatmeal every morning. I new that 1 would not fill me up. I didn't apply a lot of pressure on myself about exercise. I started with taking steps at work, then grandually got into the gym. This has taken a complete year. I have lost 40+ and have about 20 to go. I also have started taking vitamins to keep my energy up. Working with my doctor I have started taking folic, iron and B+ and a multi vitamin. I have health issues and this helps keep me going. Have fun with this. Find as many friends as possible on MFP and read the post when you have a moment. You are very busy so that will help you to burn calories. I hope to hear you are doing better in the future. Always tell yourself "You can do this" and it will happen.

CJpgh

Protein intake is very important. If you are not eating protein, your muscle will turn to fat. Counting calories is pointless. Why? If you are eating healthy, there is no point in counting. The only time I notice people counting calories is when they are eating something they shouldn't be. Your calorie expenditure fluctuates easily from day to day even if your schedule appears exactly the same. You must eat based on your actions, not emotions. A fork in the road does not warrant a spoon in the mouth. In regards to counting calories. If you eat for dinner grilled chicken breast, steamed broccoli and a palm full of quinoa. what is the calorie intake? who cares. you are eating healthy. Do yourself a favor. Buy Mike Dolce's Living Lean. I got the info above from his book. He has fantastic recipes. He is the nutrionist for MMA fighters. Counting calories is a Fad just like low carb diet, high protein, Atkins, Beach diet. He is not a diet, he is a way of life. If you have any questions, inbox me please. Its an amazing feeling. My two year old daughter is eating broccoli, spinach.

Good Luck

cdwilson2003

Thanks everyone for the support. I guess my first thing to do is to conquer the food aspect of "MY NEW LIFE"!!

And I just want to add that my hubby does do a lot. He's usually the one that cooks dinner, but he also works two jobs that takes up most any "free time" he has. We have discussed both of us getting up earlier and doing 20-30 min on the ski machine and/or step machine. I've been thinking of maybe something the kids (6 and 3) can do together.

My first grader DOES have homework every night (reading, spelling, math, and AR practice) she is a very busy first grader (nothing like I remember).

I know there's always excuses to be made, but I suppose I am taking the first step to a healthier/happier me! I just need to figure something that will LAST!

Coffeeplz_123z

Good Morning! being a mom of young kids is super busy and you are tired, found when mine were young I'd even just make sure that everytime I had something to go upstairs I would take it up, that way I was doing stairs more than just once by throwing everything into a bin and hauling it up1
I have also found alot of inspiration in Bob Harpers new book..``The Skinny Rules" Its really not a book about getting skinny but gives great advice on how to implement common every day weight loss techniques so that they become a habit. I've learned alot, to be honest, much more than I thought I would!
Be patient with yourself, don't beat yourself up because you had a so called "bad day". to have a day where we indulge is not a bad day...it's life!
Take care!

WinnerVictorious

Protein intake is very important. If you are not eating protein, your muscle will turn to fat. Counting calories is pointless. Why? If you are eating healthy, there is no point in counting. The only time I notice people counting calories is when they are eating something they shouldn't be. Your calorie expenditure fluctuates easily from day to day even if your schedule appears exactly the same. You must eat based on your actions, not emotions. A fork in the road does not warrant a spoon in the mouth. In regards to counting calories. If you eat for dinner grilled chicken breast, steamed broccoli and a palm full of quinoa. what is the calorie intake? who cares. you are eating healthy. Do yourself a favor. Buy Mike Dolce's Living Lean. I got the info above from his book. He has fantastic recipes. He is the nutrionist for MMA fighters. Counting calories is a Fad just like low carb diet, high protein, Atkins, Beach diet. He is not a diet, he is a way of life. If you have any questions, inbox me please. Its an amazing feeling. My two year old daughter is eating broccoli, spinach.

Good Luck

so much wrong here... :noway:

- muscle doesn't turn into fat. it gets catabolized for energy.
- counting calories is not pointless. it's information. information is never pointless.
- even if you eat healthy, you should count to be sure your portion sizes aren't too large or too small.
- i log calories whether i'm eating an orange or a hot dog. it has nothing to do with what i'm eating. i log it all.

RambyPandy

I am in the same boat, somewhat! I only have 1 small child who hasn't started pre-K yet but my situation is quite similar (except I make the dinners).

A few things I am thinking of trying out:
- working out once or twice a week after 8pm, when my son is in bed
- workout videos at home
- weekends: squeeze in a long walk and/or a workout
- classes that involve both me and my son, such as yoga

It's great that you have a ski & step machine.

It's hard being a working mom! We have 2 full time jobs, essentially. Add me if I can offer any other ideas and support!

FullOfWin

- counting calories is not pointless. it's information. information is never pointless.

unless it is as incorrect as what you quoted

Acg67

Protein intake is very important. If you are not eating protein, your muscle will turn to fat. Counting calories is pointless. Why? If you are eating healthy, there is no point in counting. The only time I notice people counting calories is when they are eating something they shouldn't be. Your calorie expenditure fluctuates easily from day to day even if your schedule appears exactly the same. You must eat based on your actions, not emotions. A fork in the road does not warrant a spoon in the mouth. In regards to counting calories. If you eat for dinner grilled chicken breast, steamed broccoli and a palm full of quinoa. what is the calorie intake? who cares. you are eating healthy. Do yourself a favor. Buy Mike Dolce's Living Lean. I got the info above from his book. He has fantastic recipes. He is the nutrionist for MMA fighters. Counting calories is a Fad just like low carb diet, high protein, Atkins, Beach diet. He is not a diet, he is a way of life. If you have any questions, inbox me please. Its an amazing feeling. My two year old daughter is eating broccoli, spinach.

Good Luck

Hendrix7

If you are not eating protein, your muscle will turn to fat

schaskes

I totally understand how you feel. As a working mom, I know how difficult/impossible it seems to find time for yourself. People have made some suggestions, and I agree with the drinking water - that can make a big difference in feeling full. If you do have a Wii, I suggest "Just Dance" - your kids might like to join in, and it's really fun! Above all, be patient with yourself and realize that you can only do your best. I wish you the very best of luck in your journey to be healthy and feel better.

cassiepv

1. Make lunches the night before
2. Cook large batches of food on the weekends for meals during the week
3. Take a walk after dinner
4 . Get your husband off his *kitten* to help

Paigepres

Here would be my suggestions that work for me:

1. Make lunches the night before
2. After the kids are in bed, workout with an at home dvd (i like Jillian Micheals dvds, most are only 20 min and only require a set of handweights or soup cans!). Then take your shower at night. These things allow you to sleep a little longer, feel less rushed and refreshed.
3. Buy crockpot and put meal inside, turn on in the morning. Less dishes, cuts down time.
4. Workout weekend mornings before you go about your family activities
5. Go for a walk in the evening with the kids, chase them outside or inside the house before a bedtime story or ask them to help count how many situps, pushups, lunges you can do. Then see who in the family can beat you?

Goodluck!

ginia2823

Hiya! First off, try not to beat yourself up. I think you are already on the right path just by attempting MFP and asking for suggestions and motivation. My weight has fluxuated in the past, up 60 lbs with my first pregnancy, down 44 lbs, up 30 lbs with my second pregnancy... I finally realized that dieting is not for me. It seems like we're on the same page! Losing weight isn't just about getting skinny; you have to be willing to make a complete lifestyle change. We all get stuck in repetitive daily routines especially when you have kids! Here's a few suggestions:

1) Eat more fiber in the morning
2) Try to walk during your lunch break
3) Take the stairs (if you work in a place that has multiple floors)
4) Take your kids outside for 30 minutes after dinner (maybe go on a walk, ride bikes together)
5) My oldest son (he's 6) and I do a core challenge every night before bed and he always beats me!

Good luck to you!

BrittanyAnnL

Would it be absolutely impossible to ask your husband to make dinner while you go for a walk in the evenings? Maybe just 2 times a week? & Maybe do some jumping jacks as soon as you get out of bed, crunches, squats... just to get the day started off. Try taking the stairs instead of the elevator at work... Maybe if the hubby cant cook try doing pre-cooked meals that you can freeze. Perhaps devote a few hours on sundays to making food ahead of time that you can just take out of the freezer, stick in the oven and take the kids on a walk while dad relaxes? The best way to find a way is just to make it happen. I am a single mom to a toddler and I commute 1 1/2 hours to work each way, cook dinner, clean, get him bathed, play with him, in bed, and repeat... BUT I find the time to exercise everyday. My mom watches him while I go on a run every evening for about 30-40 minutes. I workout on my stability ball after I put him to bed and before I take my shower and get ready. If your mom isnt around to help surely your husband can. You just need to tell him you are sick of feeling out of shape and overweight and you MUST do something and he HAS to help... its not an option. A marriage involves two people... I know most men come home from work and expect dinner on the table, and dont want to mess with the kids.. they just want to sit in front of the TV, but you need to make changes of expectations and take care of yourself for your family. There is always a way you just have to find it. && Protien is awesome for you.. dont worry about going over on it. Just make sure you are burning those calories, EAT CLEAN. Try to cut back on processed foods.. if none at all. I wont eat anything that I cant read the label and know exactly what something is... no chemicals. Thats about all the advice I have.... GOOD LUCK

rhinesb

A lot of people have already given you great advice so I will only have to add a few things. Some of these things people have already mentioned but that I will mention again.

1. Make YOU a priority. To some that is selfish...as per my husband when he's being an *kitten*. However without taking care of yourself you will be unhappy and it will show up by way of your health.

2. You don't have to go to the gym. I have the Wii and my girls and I will dance. Of course you don't need the Wii just a radio with a good upbeat station. Let me tell you the kids will love mom dancing with them.

3. And yes it is hard but find the time. Often I sacrifice my sleep time to exercise. Either getting up early or going to bed late.

4. Food: Protein good...don't worry about going over MFP levels. Fruits/veggies/protein.