Dear Ex

hasiangirl

Dear ex,
Thank you for reminding me today why you piss me off so entirely badly....so i go to drop something off to him today ....While there he grabs my belly fat and makes fun of it for a good 10 mins.... :explode: :grumble: :grumble: :explode: ....once again thank u A*@#&$e.....
Sincerely,
Diana

DoneWithTheFatGirl

All I have to say is thats a hell of a motivation!! Sucks just the same (my grandma does the same to me), but at least it gives you a little extra push. Sorry you had to put up with it though

nolachick

next time point at his crotch and laugh hysterically while making fun of THAT!
HAHHAHAHAHAHAH


p.s. @ 122 I cannot even imagine that you have a belly! are u kidding me?

JJRunning

He's trying to make you feel bad because you probably look excellent after losing 14 lbs!!! Keep it up:)

CasperO

Ignore him, he's an idiot.

How come we aren't friends?

T_R_A_V

What a dousche...sorry about his immaturity...not all of us are like that

elysant

I assume this is why he is your ex (or at least one of the reasons). I'm sorry that he was such an a** to you. At least you are working to change the tings that you see in yourself, to make yourself a better, stronger person. ) He is obviously not working to change anything.

bikergirl10

Ex's are a@@... When my ex and I were together we lost a lot of weight together and he loved how I looked well... that same year later in the year he dumped me and well who did he start dating, a girl who was bigger than me when we first started dating!!!! I was like WTF!?!?!?!?!?! Oh well, I am not madly in love and with a guy that loves me for me and supports me no matter how big or small I am. I just remember, I changed to better myself not him or anyone else. You have to remember to do it for you, not a guy.

hasiangirl

thank you so much everyone ....I all you MFP'ers and actually I'm back up to 130lbs :sick: and I have that baby belly I cant seem to get rid of so it's like a cross between fat and loose skin...doh ....and and ely I hate to say it, but that's one of the last things on a very long list lol.....
P.S. Casper I have no idea....I thought u were on my buddies list???

Magenta15

Hey I missed seeing your posts

good riddance...jealousy makes ppl do stupid things,

so feel good about yourself knowing he is only trying to bring you down cuz you obviously look great and he can't handle it!

PG

hasiangirl

Hey I missed seeing your posts

good riddance...jealousy makes ppl do stupid things,

so feel good about yourself knowing he is only trying to bring you down cuz you obviously look great and he can't handle it!

PG

I Misseddddd you too hun!.....I had to take a break during the split...too much stress ...but now I'm back and doing power 90 and oh boy ummm that workout makes ya sore lol

red01angel

Girl, I admire your self restraint....I'd have wanted to slap the *kitten*!

YogaRunner

OMG! If my ex touched me like that I'd deck him!:explode: It's one thing for someone you are in a relationship with to touch you, but a whole different story when its an ex. That is really crossing the line in my book. You are not a possession he gets to put his hands on when he feels like it! Especially when he is doing it to demoralize you and make you feel bad! Uggh!
Stay strong and tell him to keep his hands to himself!
(Okay, my rant is over )

guidosgal

next time point at his crotch and laugh hysterically while making fun of THAT!
HAHHAHAHAHAHAH


p.s. @ 122 I cannot even imagine that you have a belly! are u kidding me?

I thought the same thing when I read the post> I guess that the Ex is still attending his A.A meetings
(*kitten* HO*%s Anonymous) that is.

vhuber

A person on the defense is gonna punch (in your case grab) at the most weak, most insecure areas just to make themselves look/feel tuff! All the more reason the wimp is an EX, now get your fighting face on and get back to EATING RIGHT and WORKING OUT! YOU are worth more than how he makes you feel!! Get After It girl!!!!

hasiangirl

OMG! If my ex touched me like that I'd deck him!:explode: It's one thing for someone you are in a relationship with to touch you, but a whole different story when its an ex. That is really crossing the line in my book. You are not a possession he gets to put his hands on when he feels like it! Especially when he is doing it to demoralize you and make you feel bad! Uggh!
Stay strong and tell him to keep his hands to himself!
(Okay, my rant is over )

whenever I see him he still tells me I'm his property...He can be a real loose cannon.....he started threatening everyone I talked to and even went as far as telling me he was going to crush my head with a baseball bat one night.....(granted a few months ago) but still stuff like that makes me tread on thin ice when im around him and I try and watch what i say or do very carefully

beachbaby18

Wow. What an *kitten*. Well all I can say is that you look great and I bet he is just jealous because he doesn't have you anymore. Be confident in yourself be you look awesome. And I'm really surprised you didn't hit him because if a guy would do that to me I would probably kick his *kitten*. lol. :laugh:

♥dawnwestbury♥

i'm with you on that!! my EX is an A@% about my weight. not only did i have cancer (thyroid out because of it) but i also had 2 kids (HIS KIDS). well i'm SICK of being called FAT and thats what is getting me going because i'm not going to let him be able to call me that anymore! his current girlfriend yes is SKINNY BUT looks about 45 (shes not even 33...MY age) and i look about 23-25 (so i'm told)

anyway F him and i got your back sister!!

beachbaby18

Oh my god. Have you ever tried getting a PFA or something against him? He sounds like really dangerous.

aippolito1

Um, call the police!

hasiangirl

dawn: I think our ex's need a good swift kick in the *kitten*....ugh and it's deff to better to look younger and have a little bit extra meat...cause you can always exercise and get fit and in shape...cant change the way you look age wise

Twilight: If i were to get a restraining order he wouldn't be able to see his kids and he is a great father, I can't take that away from the guy....horrible boyfriend....but unless he really does something extreme to show that he'd follow through with his words than I'm putting it off....But I grew up without a parent and it isnt fun =/

jmarie9

what an ugly person. i'm glad he is a good rather, at least he has one redeeming quality. time to focus on you and your kids, the more important things.

pkgirrl

dawnwestberry - there's a lady like that at my gym. She's scary skinny, flappy wrinkly skin and HUGE bags under her eyes. She spends about 3 hours on the elliptical a day, and sure, she's probably a size 00, but it's NOT PRETTY. You're gorgeous, and youthful, and your losing the healthy way, so when you get down to where you wanna be, your going to have a gorgeous face to back that hot body up!

hasiangirl - OMG! I don't seriously know how you didn't deck him! Wow girl, that's some serious self restraint. What an @$$! At least you know you deserve so, so much more, than that excuse for a man. In your picture, you look pretty darn great to me, and I'm pretty sure there's a whole slough of MFP'ers ready to back me up on that one

Phoenix_Rising

whenever I see him he still tells me I'm his property...He can be a real loose cannon.....he started threatening everyone I talked to and even went as far as telling me he was going to crush my head with a baseball bat one night.....(granted a few months ago) but still stuff like that makes me tread on thin ice when im around him and I try and watch what i say or do very carefully

Between the inappropriate touching of your person and the violent physical threats, I'd VERY SERIOUSLY suggest you look into a domestic violence restraining order.

If you need help in finding info on it, let me know. I interned at a domestic violence shelter in my state. I can get the links and contacts I need in your state to help you. A restraining order is something you can do (usually) for free by yourself, no attorney required (i.e. no money required).

buggaboo73

Next time don't give him the ten minutes, say whatever and walk away, he's toxic. Well....maybe you could take the one suggestion and point to his crotch and laugh hystericaly.....I do kinda like that one! :laugh:

ericac

Ex's.....Grrrr....Girl you keep going strong.....your beautiful and one of these days..(with all the support and friendship of us here!)....you can look at him and laugh....the last laugh will be yours!!...

I've learned not to put myself in those situations with my ex.....be careful and limit your contact if ya can....be safe!

roylawrence87

Yay... The rest of us have to take care of this bad rap we have... Stupid immature boys... I don't understand how they can continue to destroy lives. How do they end up with the women and the good guys are hanging left to dry? Whats up with that?

hasiangirl

Yay... The rest of us have to take care of this bad rap we have... Stupid immature boys... I don't understand how they can continue to destroy lives. How do they end up with the women and the good guys are hanging left to dry? Whats up with that?

hey i never grouped all guys together...i said some...stands true with both sexes, but he wasnt an *kitten* when we first started dating 6 yrs ago lol

roylawrence87

Eh, your right. I just generalized. Sorry about that. I know our rep all too well.

robbienjill

Maybe you could only meet with him in a public location when u have to see him, for example taking the kids to see him etc. I am on the Board of Director's for DV in our county as well as an Investigator for Child Protective Services and I have seen alot of women and children in very dangerous situations. U do not have to put up with his threats. There are people who love u and thats including your kids.

I would rather have a loving, caring and living mother, than a man as my father who teaches me to disrespect or hurt women...think about it (children see more than we think sometimes!!) Anyway, You have our support!! I wish you and your children only the best because you truly deserve it!!:flowerforyou: Not all men are like this and you will find someone to treat you and your kids with respect!!

melgibson

Yay... The rest of us have to take care of this bad rap we have... Stupid immature boys... I don't understand how they can continue to destroy lives. How do they end up with the women and the good guys are hanging left to dry? Whats up with that?

hey i never grouped all guys together...i said some...stands true with both sexes, but he wasnt an *kitten* when we first started dating 6 yrs ago lol

Sounds to me like a perfect reason to keep him as an ex. These types of people never start out like this, it's something they build up over time, they knock your confidence until they can push you down and keep you down. It's all about control.
The best thing you did was get away, now he hasn't got that anymore. The next time you have to see him make it as short and sweet as possible and this will be the best way to deal with him forever.
One day he'll ask why you don't stay longer or chat more and you can explain that you understand it all and your not intersted in his opinion amymore.

And no women think all guys are bad, just the same as no men think all women are bad. There are good and bad in both but unfortunately some choose to take advantage of the good ones.
We live in hope of finding a good one - One day )