Dear Ex

msbanana

The guy sounds like an a$$hat.
If you find anything else that belongs to him, I'd drop it off while he wasn't home and stay H away from that disaster.
Stay strong girl- NO human being has the right to do that to you. Current SO, Ex, Parent, Grandparent... doesn't matter. It's your body and that isn't motivation. It's demoralizing and awful. Good Luck!!

Remember: You're Strong, You're Beautiful and You're Loved!!

rlsluvr

Heck, If you find anything else, call him on your way out, tell him it's on the front porch, in front of the garage etc. and tell him if it's still here when I get back in an hour, I'm giving it to goodwill.... better yet I'm selling it on Craigslist!!!!

lcouterm

You should be happy he did that it will make it so much more sweet when your looking your absolute best in the near future wearing something slinky walking up to him and saying "remember when you, Blah Blah" smiling and walking away. Or same scenario, saying that you were heavy and he was an idiot and you lost the weight and what was his excuse.

themethod

Twilight: If i were to get a restraining order he wouldn't be able to see his kids and he is a great father, I can't take that away from the guy....horrible boyfriend....but unless he really does something extreme to show that he'd follow through with his words than I'm putting it off....But I grew up without a parent and it isnt fun =/

Do me a favor, don't wait until he "does something extreme"... What does he have to do to prove to you that he's dangerous? Hurt you? Guess what, then it's too late. At that point the damage will already be done, you will have been hurt, and those kids with that "great father" now have a "great father" that's in jail.

I've had far too many friends go through this same thing. I've had to give statements to police, give depositions to lawyers, visit people in the hospital, write letters to child protective services, hide friends and their children in other people's homes, and clean my friend's blood off of every surface in her house.

Waiting doesn't help anyone except him.

Lecture over.

Just be safe, protect yourself and your children, and lose the weight for yourself, not because of him. Obviously he's a d!ck and his comments are just one more way to keep you under his control. After you've been out of the relationship for awhile, you'll look back and say to yourself, "What the hell was I thinking?" :flowerforyou:

jbuffan218

Forgive me if someone has already said this, I was just so pissed off for you I couldn't take time to read all of the replies.

First thing and most important thing is that he is an EX . Sounds like that was a healthy move on your part.
Secondly he sounds like a douche bag. I can't imagine anyone in my life ever grabbing hold of my belly bump and making fun of it for 10 minutes?? Seriously? Do not stand ther for 10 whole minutes and listen to his diarreha of the mouth.
WTH? The next time he attempts to treat you like that, get the heck outta there. What a jerk. He's an EX, there is no reason to even deal with him. Your too young & beautiful to let some immature boy to disrespect you.

WALK AWAY ! eat right, exercise and when your smokin' hot THEN who's gonna be laughing?

P.S. From your profile pic I cant even see a belly, are you kidding me? Ok, let me sqint.......nope no belly in sight.

FitJoani

honey i know EXACTLY how this feels. Hes a jerk. Show the jerk face up!!!! Convince him to run a race or something and destroy him. I made the stupid mistake of attemopting to get back together with the one who did that too me thinking he changed I was wrong and hes far gone...

foxyforce

hasian you are and will continue to be a hot mama, now and when you reach and maintain your goal!!! keep kicking *kitten*!

hasiangirl

Once again thank you all for the advice and comments I really appreciate it :bigsmile: I should actually thank him tho cause I was kind of getting lonely and missing him....because we're at about the 4th month marker, but that just made me realize he was a total jerk :laugh: I'm over it now...but it was just a fresh wound the other day especially since I had put on about 12lbs in the four months, but I've started with power 90 and although i'm only a few days in I feel awesome! thank you all so much for the support I you MFP'ers!

and Loathesome! I love the new pic girl!....hope all is going well with you sweety :smooched:

CasperO

Honey, think about this. Earlier you said:

whenever I see him he still tells me I'm his property...He can be a real loose cannon.....he started threatening everyone I talked to and even went as far as telling me he was going to crush my head with a baseball bat one night.....(granted a few months ago) but still stuff like that makes me tread on thin ice when im around him and I try and watch what i say or do very carefully

And then later you said:

If i were to get a restraining order he wouldn't be able to see his kids and he is a great father, I can't take that away from the guy....horrible boyfriend....but unless he really does something extreme ,,,

Listen up cupcake,,, I'm a pretty good father and I have the happy-well adjusted adult children to prove it, so I know what I'm talking about. A 'man' who calls other people property and talks about crushing mommy's head with a bat is not a good father.

He's a stupid, cowardly, frightened little *kitten*. By his words and deeds he will teach his children that other people are 'property' to be used and abused. Nothing good about that. Get your children away from him ASAP before he infects them with his flawed thinking and general disrespect for other people.

ericac

Honey, think about this. Earlier you said:

whenever I see him he still tells me I'm his property...He can be a real loose cannon.....he started threatening everyone I talked to and even went as far as telling me he was going to crush my head with a baseball bat one night.....(granted a few months ago) but still stuff like that makes me tread on thin ice when im around him and I try and watch what i say or do very carefully

And then later you said:

If i were to get a restraining order he wouldn't be able to see his kids and he is a great father, I can't take that away from the guy....horrible boyfriend....but unless he really does something extreme ,,,

Listen up cupcake,,, I'm a pretty good father and I have the happy-well adjusted adult children to prove it, so I know what I'm talking about. A 'man' who calls other people property and talks about crushing mommy's head with a bat is not a good father.

He's a stupid, cowardly, frightened little *kitten*. By his words and deeds he will teach his children that other people are 'property' to be used and abused. Nothing good about that. Get your children away from him ASAP before he infects them with his flawed thinking and general disrespect for other people.

DITTO!!!.....well said hunni!

Phoenix_Rising

Honey, think about this. Earlier you said:

whenever I see him he still tells me I'm his property...He can be a real loose cannon.....he started threatening everyone I talked to and even went as far as telling me he was going to crush my head with a baseball bat one night.....(granted a few months ago) but still stuff like that makes me tread on thin ice when im around him and I try and watch what i say or do very carefully

And then later you said:

If i were to get a restraining order he wouldn't be able to see his kids and he is a great father, I can't take that away from the guy....horrible boyfriend....but unless he really does something extreme ,,,

Listen up cupcake,,, I'm a pretty good father and I have the happy-well adjusted adult children to prove it, so I know what I'm talking about. A 'man' who calls other people property and talks about crushing mommy's head with a bat is not a good father.

He's a stupid, cowardly, frightened little *kitten*. By his words and deeds he will teach his children that other people are 'property' to be used and abused. Nothing good about that. Get your children away from him ASAP before he infects them with his flawed thinking and general disrespect for other people.

DITTO!!!.....well said hunni!

A restraining order does not mean he won't get to see his kids. You can always have him pick them up from school, daycare, or a family member's home. For example, his mother can pick up the kids from you and drop them with him. However, I agree with Casper that you don't want that kind of man around your boys. :frown:

I'm truly sorry you are having to deal with this.

guidosgal

Honey, think about this. Earlier you said:

whenever I see him he still tells me I'm his property...He can be a real loose cannon.....he started threatening everyone I talked to and even went as far as telling me he was going to crush my head with a baseball bat one night.....(granted a few months ago) but still stuff like that makes me tread on thin ice when im around him and I try and watch what i say or do very carefully

And then later you said:

If i were to get a restraining order he wouldn't be able to see his kids and he is a great father, I can't take that away from the guy....horrible boyfriend....but unless he really does something extreme ,,,

Listen up cupcake,,, I'm a pretty good father and I have the happy-well adjusted adult children to prove it, so I know what I'm talking about. A 'man' who calls other people property and talks about crushing mommy's head with a bat is not a good father.

He's a stupid, cowardly, frightened little *kitten*. By his words and deeds he will teach his children that other people are 'property' to be used and abused. Nothing good about that. Get your children away from him ASAP before he infects them with his flawed thinking and general disrespect for other people.

Well Said CasperO Spoken like a real man ((((((APPLAUSE))))))))