Doing good until the husband comes home! :(

CrazyTrackLady

And I find this happens more with my real life friends than my family members. I can go out for a nice night on the town, and if I end up ordering an unsweetened ice tea as opposed to an alcoholic beverage, I get the "Aw come on, ONE little drink won't kill ya" and "OH LIGHTEN UP, ITS THE WEEKEND".

I don't hang out with one lady anymore because of this: morbidly obese woman who complains about her weight, sees me doing the right things, and yet gives me crap for watching what I put into my mouth.

lilrani

Hey. So I can relate to what's you're feeling. I have a 4 month little one. But honestly, drinking just shakes won't push you towards your goal, bc as soon as you start "real food" ... You'll gain weight.

I've been substituting one meal for smoothies, so I pack in fruits and spinach and get a good protein combo going. Favorite one is : 1 banana, 1 apple, 3/4 cup milk, 1/4 cup ice, and 2 cups spinach. And you can't even taste the spinach.

My husband is the same way about "real food" so I've figured ways to go about it by making healthier versions. For instance, homemade marinara instead of Ragu and adding grilled chicken beast that's marinated with spices to bring more flavor. Look at what's he likes to eat, and find healthy recipes for those specific things. Calorie count for yourself and portion control and honey you'll be totally great!!

Feel free to add me, and I can give you more recipes I've been trying . Good luck.

yoovie

Why are these people bugging you about shakes?

See that's the problem right there. You were asking about getting your husband to support you in your goals, not What do you think about diet shakes? If that's your plan, then that's your plan.

What you should do is show him how you are tracking your food on-line, and show him how that helps you reach your goal. Then show him what eating one of his meals you do to your goal. Tell him if he keeps bugging you about the two of you eating the same thing, he better get ready to start drinking diet shakes when he gets off the rig.

Good Luck

well - most of us know that shakes vs real food is not a sustainable plan, which makes it harder to help her stay focused when her man comes home and eats real food.

Ya see... some people on here love to tell a person how to put a bandaid on a situation, and the rest of like to tell a person to fix the source of the problem.

You break a bone, you go to the hospital and get a cast- you dont kiss it and take an Aleve.

Shakes - unsustainable diet leading to temporary weight loss and leaves no willpower to fend off unhealthy food while vulnerable. Learn how to eat real food nutritiously and she wont need to come into the forums and ask us how to have willpower around the man she fell in love with and married.

We dont know anything about their relationship dynamic, but we do know that shakes cause problems like this.

So we're actually being way more helpful, is that ok with you?

kayholt2012

I'm not on a crazy 10 shakes a day diet. I drink 3 a day along with healthy snacks. The first time I lost a bunch of weight I did that for about 3 weeks, lots 10 pounds and slowly introduced healthy food into my life. It was so much easier for me to lose weight that way. Not sure if it was a mental thing or what.

Normal food for us usually consists of bread and pasta. While I was pregnant all I wanted was bread.

kayholt2012

So I finished reading what everyone was saying. And there are a lot of good points. Everyone has to do a diet that works for them. Since I have already have experience losing weight with the shake diet then eating healthy food I decided to do it again. I already know it works. I also didn't gain the wait back until I got pregnant, about 4 years later. So I know it works.

My problem is keeping myself motivated when my husband comes home. I feel like I should change my eating habits because of him. We had a talk and hopefully I won't feel like that anymore. I think he is starting to understand.

Alderaic

what is a typical day for you foodwise 3 shakes consisting of what? and what kind of snacks?
having a nice salad and lean meats every once in a while is a good habit, having shakes every day is not sustainable and that's why you cannot resist when you husband is back, i.e. too many cravings for varied foods.

Remember that we are not animals who can eat the same thing day in day out

DavPul

I'm not on a crazy 10 shakes a day diet. I drink 3 a day along with healthy snacks. The first time I lost a bunch of weight I did that for about 3 weeks, lots 10 pounds and slowly introduced healthy food into my life. It was so much easier for me to lose weight that way. Not sure if it was a mental thing or what.

Normal food for us usually consists of bread and pasta. While I was pregnant all I wanted was bread.

10 shakes a day would be less crazy than just 3. I've done what you're doing. It does not work. After i got off the shakes i would end up heavier than when i started.

Learn to eat food.

yoovie

shortcuts ( for example:to replace healthy food and willpower with a fake food diet chosen for you and no self discipline needed) lead to less than satisfactory results, 100% of the time.

good luck with the easy way!

dgljones

Get your husband excited about your weight loss and it will probably be easier. Stuff like "I can't wait to show you how good I'll look in this bikini (show picture of some supermodel/actress in a tiny bikini) by the next time you come home, but this time I need to stick to it so I can get there."
Trust me you won't have to get that Bikini (unless you want to) but the idea you are working towards some fantasy ideal, however silly that is in reality, will probably resonate better with your average guy than most other methods.

yoovie

oh yeah lol that's healthy

finestephy

My husband works off shore too. He does the same thing. However, he just weighed himself and is not pleased. I am encouraging him work out with me. I refuse to be "fluffy" anymore. I already instructed him to buy me healthy things for Valentine's Day meaning NO CANDY! lol.

Lupercalia

I agree with the people who are telling you to just eat real food. I've changed the way I eat and the rest of the family is along for the ride, whether they like it or not! They just get bigger portions and perhaps a potato on the side in addition to whatever we're having that night. Works out fine. I don't keep junk food around the house (I shop and cook, so the kitchen and pantry is my domain). I've lost 50 lbs since July doing it this way. At first my husband whined a bit, but he got over it soon enough. I cook all sorts of great stuff that both my husband and teenage son seem to really enjoy. You can do it, it just takes a bit of effort to learn about food and cooking and all that good stuff. Super important to do this for yourself and your family. Good luck!