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I met a guy on a dating site and we have been texting and talking on the phone every day for two months. I have also stayed at his house nearly every week since we met. He is so sweet and has introduced me to his best mate and brother. I can’t help but worry if he is seeing other girls although he doesn’t seem the type and I do not know where he would get the time given we are in so much contact. Do I have the right to ask him if he is dating other people ? I just worry as online dating is new to me !
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I met a guy on a dating site and we have been texting and talking on the phone every day for two months. I have also stayed at his house nearly every week since we met. He is so sweet and has introduced me to his best mate and brother. I can’t help but worry if he is seeing other girls although he doesn’t seem the type and I do not know where he would get the time given we are in so much contact. Do I have the right to ask him if he is dating other people ? I just worry as online dating is new to me !
Communication is integral to a healthy relationship. So start talking.0 -
What has he done to give you the impression that he might be dating other people? If nothing then I wouldnt bring it up. Only thing I would do is maybe have the exclusive talk once you guys have stopped dating and are officially boyfriend and girlfriend. Until then I wouldn't worry about it.0
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Bles him he has not done anything and that's why I think is prob me! I just worry and seeing someone who might be having encounters with lots of people. Should I leave it a while before asking if we are "together" we act like we are in so many ways0
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You are 30 years old. Not in High School. I can't imagine you're still going to have the conversation that goes "Are we Boyfriend/Girlfriend? Check Yes or No!!"
Come on. How does he introduce you to people? Why can’t you just say, “Hey babe, I know this can be an awkward conversation, but I would like to know if you’re seeing other people.” Then close your mouth and let him ramble. You'll quickly figure out where you stand.0 -
Yes, of course you have the right to ask him. When he responds, be prepared for either answer. You especially want to know the answer if you're having sex with him.0
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you definitely have the right to ask, especially if you guys are having relations. That is something to know maybe beforehand, in my opinion.0
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You are 30 years old. Not in High School. I can't imagine you're still going to have the conversation that goes "Are we Boyfriend/Girlfriend? Check Yes or No!!"
Come on. How does he introduce you to people? Why can’t you just say, “Hey babe, I know this can be an awkward conversation, but I would like to know if you’re seeing other people.” Then close your mouth and let him ramble. You'll quickly figure out where you stand.
Yep.0 -
If you are sleeping with someone you have a right to know if he is sleeping with other women and bringing the risks associated with that into the bedroom.
Look buddy..how many times should I be wrapping this thing??0 -
If you are spending that much time together, enjoying yourselves, and he has introduced you to important people in his life, just tell him you aren't interested in seeing any other people. I can almost guarantee he will respond by saying he feels the same way, on the off chance he doesn't at least it will start the conversation and you will know where you stand.0
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If you are spending that much time together, enjoying yourselves, and he has introduced you to important people in his life, just tell him you aren't interested in seeing any other people. I can almost guarantee he will respond by saying he feels the same way, on the off chance he doesn't at least it will start the conversation and you will know where you stand.
Oh yes I totally second this!
Play games.
You're only 30 after all.0 -
Yep, just ask.0
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Has he introduced you to his wife yet?0
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If you're not sure, then you need to talk (especially if you're intimate). I think if you're just dating that's one thing, but as soon as you start having sex it's your right to know if they're are having sex with other people. This is generally a question you should ask before the quarter hits the floor, though.
As opposed to asking the bf/gf question though, exclusive is a better term as an adult. Something along the lines of, "I realize that this conversation may be a little tardy, however I generally prefer to know that when I'm intimate with someone we are sleeping with each other exlusively."0 -
Has he introduced you to his wife yet?
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"You are 30 years old. Not in High School. I can't imagine you're still going to have the conversation that goes "Are we Boyfriend/Girlfriend? Check Yes or No!!" "
That would actually be a cute thing. Maybe not for this general time or topic, but I love it when I get little notes from my lady.
It's awesome.
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Has he introduced you to his wife yet?
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"You are 30 years old. Not in High School. I can't imagine you're still going to have the conversation that goes "Are we Boyfriend/Girlfriend? Check Yes or No!!" "
That would actually be a cute thing. Maybe not for this general time or topic, but I love it when I get little notes from my lady.
It's awesome.0 -
Time to have the exclusivity discussion.0
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yeah, do the more mature thing and take it a step further..... i say raid his stuff while he's sleeping....sure he can't hide everything, and if you're skilled you'll get the 411 right away *rolls eyes* \m/If you are spending that much time together, enjoying yourselves, and he has introduced you to important people in his life, just tell him you aren't interested in seeing any other people. I can almost guarantee he will respond by saying he feels the same way, on the off chance he doesn't at least it will start the conversation and you will know where you stand.
Oh yes I totally second this!
Play games.
You're only 30 after all.0 -
Just break up0
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communication is the most important thing, if you do not have that, you have nothing.0
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you definitely have the right to ask, especially if you guys are having relations. That is something to know maybe beforehand, in my opinion.
I agree with this. And the person saying, just casually ask him if you are exclusive, let him answer and be prepared for either answer.
But I should add, so what if he is seeing other people? In my opinion until you have agreed to be exclusive, you may as well both do that!
And ALWAYS use a condom.0 -
Communication is integral to a healthy relationship. So start talking.
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Sounds to me that he's a boyfriend already.......0
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It's called defining the relationship.0
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You are 30 years old. Not in High School. I can't imagine you're still going to have the conversation that goes "Are we Boyfriend/Girlfriend? Check Yes or No!!"
Come on. How does he introduce you to people? Why can’t you just say, “Hey babe, I know this can be an awkward conversation, but I would like to know if you’re seeing other people.” Then close your mouth and let him ramble. You'll quickly figure out where you stand.
Uh huh.0 -
You have every right to ask and see where he stands. I've been in the same situation and it's gone both ways. The guy either says he wants to keep it casual (which means he is seeing or planning on seeing other people) or the guy has said that he isn't and doesn't plan on being or dating anyone else.
If he isn't mature enough to have this conversation with you, then he is not worth your time.0 -
You are 30 years old. Not in High School. I can't imagine you're still going to have the conversation that goes "Are we Boyfriend/Girlfriend? Check Yes or No!!"
Come on. How does he introduce you to people? Why can’t you just say, “Hey babe, I know this can be an awkward conversation, but I would like to know if you’re seeing other people.” Then close your mouth and let him ramble. You'll quickly figure out where you stand.
^^ This. Have the conversation - if you aren't sure make sure you are. Then you will know whether or not you want to continue .....0 -
You've only been dating two months...does he even know that you're in a "relationship"?0
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Personally, I would say ask him. Or just tell him how you feel...whats the worst that could happen?
I tried the whole online dating thing and it ended after a few months... I dont recommend it to anyone lol
but if youre gonna dive in face first then you had better at least talk about how you feel. OR RUN AWAY!0
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