Do you measure up?

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  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    I don't do well with public speaking and in social situations. I am a talker to when i am comfortable; but get me in a group and I turn all quiet. It's really strange because I have been described as a very outgoing person who doesn't know a stranger.

    Yup. Same here sometimes.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Very similar with me. New situations and people always give me anxiety, and I avoid crowds and large groups of people usually.

    Seems like a few people have this same thing. Imagine how quiet a party would be with all of us together! LOL!
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
    Yep.
  • Crankstr
    Crankstr Posts: 3,958 Member
    Do I measure up?

    This has been the story of my life.

    and FINALLY, I don't give a (blank)

    I decided to stop worrying about the things I cannnot control, and focus on the things I can.I wasted so much time and energy wishing I could look like this or be like that.

    now I am sculpting the best me possible...and working on my self esteem as well as learning how to take a compliment without saying thanks, but.....

    and if you dont like it, well you can kiss my (blank)
  • Windy_
    Windy_ Posts: 1,012 Member
    Do I measure up?

    This has been the story of my life.

    and FINALLY, I don't give a (blank)

    I decided to stop worrying about the things I cannnot control, and focus on the things I can.I wasted so much time and energy wishing I could look like this or be like that.

    now I am sculpting the best me possible...and working on my self esteem as well as learning how to take a compliment without saying thanks, but.....

    and if you dont like it, well you can kiss my (blank)


    I like it! But can I still kiss your (blank)?
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member

    I decided to stop worrying about the things I cannnot control, and focus on the things I can.I wasted so much time and energy wishing I could look like this or be like that.

    now I am sculpting the best me possible...and working on my self esteem as well as learning how to take a compliment without saying thanks, but.....

    and if you dont like it, well you can kiss my (blank)

    I'm getting there myself. It is scary to look back and realize how much time/energy is wasted.
    Awzummmz!
  • olDave
    olDave Posts: 557 Member
    Hey...."Don't worry, be happy."

    Nobody can be good at EVERYTHING. Every person in the world can do SOMETHING better than I can.

    Inadequate? We all are. That's just life.

    Have a nice day.:smile:
  • Linli_Anne
    Linli_Anne Posts: 1,360 Member
    Thanks for the mention of that book. I asked my husband to borrow it from his work "library". Sounds interesting.

    One thing that I have really been dwelling on, is that I don't have any friends in real life. I have made a few acquaintances online, and have talked on the phone etc. over the last 7 years...like pen pals I guess.

    I have my kids, and my husband, but no girlfriends.

    I guess part of that is because I do worry I don't measure up. If I am in a social situation and people are having a conversation on the side, I automatically assume the worst; that they are talking about me. That I did something wrong. That they want me to leave. Eventually I make an excuse to leave.
  • krislyn84
    krislyn84 Posts: 337 Member
    I cannot say no. I am the type of person who puts everyone else first (in a bad way). I will continue to take on more responsibility, and continue to push myself, until I literally can't go anymore. I do others jobs at work. I don't know how to politely decline an invitation or say no when I am "volunteered" for a new project. Last night, I made my 27 year old brother a grilled cheese while he sat on the couch. Inside, I resent people who take advantage of me. Outwardly, I just smile and say "No worries"! UGH!
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    I have my kids, and my husband.

    I think that is a good base. I spend more time with the wife and kids than anyone. However, I do keep a short list of very close friends, and a long list of people to hang out with. Variety is the spice of life. Good friends won't measure you, or if they do you are usually taller than you think because they help lift you higher.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    I cannot say no. I am the type of person who puts everyone else first (in a bad way). I will continue to take on more responsibility, and continue to push myself, until I literally can't go anymore. I do others jobs at work. I don't know how to politely decline an invitation or say no when I am "volunteered" for a new project. Last night, I made my 27 year old brother a grilled cheese while he sat on the couch. Inside, I resent people who take advantage of me. Outwardly, I just smile and say "No worries"! UGH!

    Ahhhh, a pleaser. Yup. Not a bad thing, but there has GOT to be balance. You need to get a bit of you in there too! You're worth it!
  • jamie610811
    jamie610811 Posts: 1,735 Member
    NO
    GIRLS ALWAYS CALL ME JUSTIN
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Hey...."Don't worry, be happy."

    Nobody can be good at EVERYTHING. Every person in the world can do SOMETHING better than I can.

    Inadequate? We all are. That's just life.

    Have a nice day.:smile:

    Cheers!

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