I Am Scared of Failing - Need Fitness Pal Friends

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  • Christizzzle
    Christizzzle Posts: 454 Member
    Calorie counting is way easier than it seems, only takes a few seconds and then it becomes second nature. I love it so far. Feel free to add me!
  • BOOMaggedon
    BOOMaggedon Posts: 244 Member
    Please feel free to add me. The more friends I can be accountable to and help be accountable the better. And failing is all relative...the only way to truly fail is to quit trying. As long as you keep getting up after you fall down...you will be sucessful!
  • akern1987
    akern1987 Posts: 288 Member
    We're all in that boat....personally everyday I feel like I'm one cupcake away from throwing it all out the window.
    That's why this site exists, sometimes, I'll just read success stories if I'm feeling defeated...the people here are so great, and there are so many great tips!

    Good luck on your journey! Feel free to add me :)

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  • LiamsMummy10
    LiamsMummy10 Posts: 1
    Hi

    I have just started my weight loss journey today...I have the feeling the dietician I was seeing cant convert weight very well. According to her i was same weight as i was 6 weeks ago...however if you convert the weight i was today it means ive lost 3lb..so I have decided to do it myself!

    feel free to add me :-)

    xxxxx
  • fluffyfoxx
    fluffyfoxx Posts: 49
    You can do it! Don't be scared! Feel free to add me!
  • stephaniecaine82
    stephaniecaine82 Posts: 117 Member
    I always am looking for new friends with positive thoughts :)
  • yoscarlino
    yoscarlino Posts: 100 Member
    one day at a time! Set small goals. You can do it!
    add me too
  • RachelSRoach1
    RachelSRoach1 Posts: 435 Member
    Add me I'm cool :glasses:
  • mommamills
    mommamills Posts: 437
    Please do not be afraid of this, it is not a pass/fail proposition. It is a tool you can use to change the way you are doing things, get healthier change activity level track good and bad days. Use it as such and I promise you will learn a lot about yourself and change the things you need to as long as you are honest. I would be glad to support you anyway I can, please feel free to add me.

    ^^^^this! Plus the only way you can "fail" at something is to not even try. Making just a conscious effort everyday is a start and is better than where you are. Some suggestions....be COMPLETELY honest and don't be afraid of what "ppl might think' if they see your diary. you are in this for you and no one else so by not being completely honest you are only sabotaging and hurting yourself. We are all human....we make mistakes. This is a great tool and so are many of the ppl here. They may not always say things in the nicest way but the majority of what is said is true (as far as tough love goes) so confess that you have an issue and work on it. Don't get upset when someone tries to help...that is why we are here. Welcome aboard and good luck!!!!!!! :flowerforyou:
  • brassbombshell
    brassbombshell Posts: 4
    I'm scared of failing too but we won't - feel free to add me!
  • rininger85
    rininger85 Posts: 131
    can add me if you'd like, I've recently returned from a hiatus and started logging again
  • Ready2Serve
    Ready2Serve Posts: 113 Member
    Hang in there it is not always easy. You will hate the scale, gym, and many other thing during this process but hold your head up and take every day as a new one and move on.

    Anyone feel free to add me.
  • Kellyjo145
    Kellyjo145 Posts: 4 Member
    This has been really fun so far. Do you have the app on your phone? Use the bar code scanner for everything!! Its a fun way to track your calories and keep honest.
  • taps42
    taps42 Posts: 13 Member
    You are more than welcome to add me as a friend
  • Fibergurl
    Fibergurl Posts: 44
    This is an awesome site and user friendly as well!



    Good luck to you!
  • Gerald_King
    Gerald_King Posts: 2,031 Member
    All are free to Add me for support I log every day :flowerforyou: :drinker: :happy: :wink:
  • twilightlvr79
    twilightlvr79 Posts: 130 Member
    Feel free to add me if you want
  • Cherylllyn
    Cherylllyn Posts: 114 Member
    I know the feeling. I hate the way I feel and the way I look. But this site helps. Feel free to add me.:smile:
  • betsierivergirl
    betsierivergirl Posts: 8 Member
    feel free to add me
  • PrincessNikkiBoo
    PrincessNikkiBoo Posts: 330 Member
    I was nervous to start with. Now I'm transitioning into maintenance and I'm still anxious! Feel free to add me, I'll hapily support you the best I can. :)
  • Sharonsimon
    Sharonsimon Posts: 56 Member
    Feel free to add me I will try to encourage you when you are struggling
  • Schmoopy221
    Schmoopy221 Posts: 19 Member
    Feel free to add me :))
  • lisatomko1
    lisatomko1 Posts: 2
    Feel free to add me. I have a LONG journey ahead...we can work on it together.
  • auntiebabs
    auntiebabs Posts: 1,754 Member
    The good news is you don't have to be perfect, you just have to be better.

    1) tracking for a couple of weeks before I worried about losing.
    (although seeing what I was eating I couldn't help but rein back a bit)

    2) seeing where I could make small changes on things that weren't that important to me.
    (Don't even think of taking chocolate out of my diet!!!)
    --Reducing quantities where I won't notice it so much
    --Swapping out things instead of eliminating them.

    3) Look at my diary and started adding foods that had positive healthy effects specifically for the health issue in my family.
    I found most of the things I "should" add were really yummy too! salmon, avocado, oatmeal, mango, red grapes....
    (Sort of think of food as medicine to deal with family history of various health issue oatmeal is good for heart health, mango and red grapes lower cholesterol, tumeric and cinnamon good for arthritis)

    4) every couple of weeks I see where I can make another couple of small changes.
    If you completely revamp your diet, it's way easy to revert to old ways in times of stress. (and who doesn't have stress?)
    If you make a series of small changes, food still offers you some sense of comfort.
    sort of a comfort continuum, and after a while the first small changes will seem comforting in themselves.
    You don't have to be perfect you just have to do better.

    5) also rather than being uberstrict with the target MFP set for me. (I swear this saved my life.) I was happier once I gave myself a range:

    ROCK BOTTOM: 1200 cal
    TARGET: MFP Calories for lose 1 lb a week (when that hit 1200 I changed to lose 1/2 lb per week)
    TOP OF RANGE: Maintain Calories for my GOAL Weight.
    (SAFETY VALVE: Maintain Calories for CURRENT Weight - remember to keep updating this number as you lose)

    I naturally tended to do 2-4 days between 1200-1300 cal then a day at about 1500-1600 cal then back to the 1200-1300 cal. (No hard science here, but I credit the zig-zagging calories with preventing plateaus.)

    --As long as I stayed under the top of my range I should continue to lose, even if it is at a slower rate.
    --As long as I don't go past my safety valve I shouldn't gain.

    6) I only worry about it 1 lb at a time.
    Forget I *NEED* to lose 20, 30, 50, 100 lbs. I'm only worried about 1 lb the next one. I'll worry about the others later.
    Once I found ways to lessen the stress, I found it way easier to focus on the process and let the results follow. (It's what worked for me some people need the stress to get them motivated. Me I get scared and overwhelmed and don't see the big goal as achievable. )

    7)
    The closer I got to my goal the smaller I made my deficit. Yes, this took longer to get to my goal, but I was focusing on (am STILL tweaking) strategies for maintenance. What I found difficult (and haven't yet conquered) it establishing a guideline for a range for maintenance, being that I'm not really good at hitting the same number everyday.


    Food is not the enemy.

    Oddly enough on my journey here I've reduced guilt over food.
    I have the occasional treat and I fully enjoy it with no guilt involved.
    The thing is since I'm not eating crap all the time, now the occasional treat is just that a TREAT it's special and I enjoy it so much more than when I was unconsciously shovel junk food into my face.

    I figure if I've got a good plan that I can actually maintain I can keep this off for a long time to come, without feeling deprived.

    Good Luck
  • megb1107
    megb1107 Posts: 2
    I just started too, so add me!
  • stephhunt1975
    stephhunt1975 Posts: 2 Member
    I would love it if you added me. I've been on this site and exercising since Jan. 2, 2013 and have lost 20 lbs. so far. You can do it!
  • duckydoom
    duckydoom Posts: 27 Member
    You can do it - I'm having a moment right now where I'm incredibly frustrated, but I know I can do it if I perservere... I've already lost 30 lbs that I never thought I'd be able to shed, but between hormones and fatigue I'm feeling tantrum-y that I'm at a plateau, lol. Feel free to add me if you'd like - I always love having new buddies around :)
  • BAFischl
    BAFischl Posts: 1 Member
    You can't fail as long as you are trying! :) Add me!
  • ppshaffer
    ppshaffer Posts: 8 Member
    Major accomplishment!!!!
    Add Me
  • marylowery2
    marylowery2 Posts: 20 Member
    It is a very scary thing to start. I downloaded this app in october. It took me until last week to finally feel determined enough to utlize it. It has been worth every bit of effort I have spent on counting the calories.

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