WAHmbulance thread - NonScaleDEmotivators

lizlkbg

So, I was all happy about the results of working out and losing weight and was feeling kind of sexy about it, and suddenly my man starts talking about some girl from work who works out for 4 hours a day and how hot she looks. DEFLATION. Wah-wah. I took it really hard and really personally. Even though he was probably just being WAY clueless. But next time I looked in the mirror all I could see were flaws.

Had to jump on here to get some motivation, which helped a ton.

But sometimes it helps to vent.

Anyone else feeling a bit delicate in the feelings department today? Or have you had a similar experience? How did you bounce back?:grumble:

kristina1709

That was not very nice of your BF. My husband would never talk like that in front of me. He thinks it disrespectful.

Who has time to work out for 4 hours every single day?! Not me that's for sure! You just remember how good YOU feel!! Think of the great work you have put into yourself and will continue to put into yourself.

Chris5138

Your beautiful, sexy, successful, and you have a great smile!!! Don't ever forget it and never give up. Keep your eye on the goal!!!

thick_to_fit

ugh remind your man how much you need his support and how much it would help. my boyfriend every once in awhile will tell my my legs look toner or somethingg along the lines and it really is motivating. have him get on board!! who cares about how good that girl looks...i'm sure there's plenty of other great looking guys you've noticed too!

you are doing great! don't lose focus keep on track! you've come far already

MaraDiaz

Obviously you need to quit your job, move into the gym, and hire a nanny to watch the kids and do all the house stuff. Tell your husband you just put your notice in and see what he says! :laugh:

NikkiSixGuns

OUCH! That one would've deflated me, too...

I don't know if there is a quick fix to turn it around. If it were me, I'd talk to him about it and tell him how it made me feel. Chances are that he thinks you're sexy & look great, too, but was just sharing some other thought he had. Once you tell him I'd bet he'll have the same compliments to pay you that he paid the other girl.

Also... tally your successes for yourself & don't compare your list to anyone else's. There will ALWAYS be someone out there that is working out longer, lifting heavier, running further and/or faster, etc. Someone else doing something that you aren't doesn't make what you're doing any less awesome! Be proud of yourself every day. I'll bet your husband is.

fairbanksk

From where I stand I see no flaws at all, you are a very attractive lady. Would be more then happy to call you my own. Sorry that your man was so inconsiderate to speak without thinking first. You need to let him know how this bothered you so that he can learn from his mistake.

lizlkbg

You guys are all so kind. Thank you. I was hoping to that others would share similar things, but maybe it's just too embarassing.

And, I did say something, but was told that I'm a bit too sensitive and was reading into things that weren't there. So there ya go.

lizlkbg

From where I stand I see no flaws at all, you are a very attractive lady. Would be more then happy to call you my own. Sorry that your man was so inconsiderate to speak without thinking first. You need to let him know how this bothered you so that he can learn from his mistake.

You are sweet and any woman would be lucky to have you.

lizlkbg

Your beautiful, sexy, successful, and you have a great smile!!! Don't ever forget it and never give up. Keep your eye on the goal!!!

You are so kind. Thanks!

lizlkbg

Obviously you need to quit your job, move into the gym, and hire a nanny to watch the kids and do all the house stuff. Tell your husband you just put your notice in and see what he says! :laugh:

Bwah hahahaha! Great idea!

WhoTheHellIsBen

come visit Boston sometime, I'll make sure you leave feeling very sexy and very appreciated :drinker:

lizlkbg

come visit Boston sometime, I'll make sure you leave feeling very sexy and very appreciated :drinker:

Boston is such a slut.

PopCorn_Said

Today, I was offered the pregnant lady seat... I am blaming the shirt I am wearing. I DO NOT look pregnant!
I did take the seat though... bus was full... And my ego was wounded!

WhoTheHellIsBen

come visit Boston sometime, I'll make sure you leave feeling very sexy and very appreciated :drinker:

Boston is such a slut.

an awesome slut! With a Sam Adams plant, duh!

CherokeeBabe

And, I did say something, but was told that I'm a bit too sensitive and was reading into things that weren't there. So there ya go.

Hmph. Seems that many gents always play the 'you're being too sensitive' card. For the record, men can also be surprisingly sensitive and can be treated the same way about it ('man up, dude' etc). All people can be hurt by things, even small ones. If it bothers you, it's a valid feeling for you to have and you should get an understanding response to your feelings, not to be told that you're somehow 'wrong' or "'too *thisorthat'" to be feeling that way.

I can't imagine he'd be too keen for you to look at him naked, and then start talking about how hot Brad Pitt is or something like that, for example. He'd be deflated too and likely wonder why you felt the need to say it, etc.

amandat_79

Ugh, sometimes they just don't think before they talk, do they?

This weekend I was stoked to get into a size of pants I've NEVER been in before!! I felt SO good!! Then yesterday my 5 year old touches my stomach and says "oh you're having a baby"... wah wah. There goes all my good feelings (and no, there's no baby in there... ugh).

chocl8girl

come visit Boston sometime, I'll make sure you leave feeling very sexy and very appreciated :drinker:

Boston is such a slut.

A sexy, sexy slut.

I find myself getting MORE embarrassed now when people look at me in disgust when I am eating, even when I am eating something healthy, then I ever did when I was 100+ pounds heavier. I have no idea what that's about...nor why people feel the need to judge what anyone else is eating or whether they have the "right" to eat it, no matter what size they are. Ugh...

lizlkbg

come visit Boston sometime, I'll make sure you leave feeling very sexy and very appreciated :drinker:

Boston is such a slut.

A sexy, sexy slut.

I find myself getting MORE embarrassed now when people look at me in disgust when I am eating, even when I am eating something healthy, then I ever did when I was 100+ pounds heavier. I have no idea what that's about...nor why people feel the need to judge what anyone else is eating or whether they have the "right" to eat it, no matter what size they are. Ugh...

Ugh, to those a holes I say "B*TCH - she's amazing!!!" You are! 112 lbs gone! My god, that's epic!

lvisel

Okay, the day I got on the scale and lost 20 pounds (picture the music of angels descending from heaven) one of my coworkers told me she heard I was pregnant. lol

Cappicorn

My hubby is famous for giving compliments that quickly turn into unintentional insults. I was walking up the stairs the other day with him in tow and he exclaims, "Hey babe, your *kitten* is lookin' good!" <PREEN>.."Man, for awhile there, when I walked behind you up the stairs I was thinking, 'her butt is getting REALLY big', but yeah, now it looks good."

I resisted the urge to push him down the stairs with my now-good lookin' *kitten*. Gah, I love him.

graceylou222

Screw that! Regardless if he is CLUELESS to your happiness about your acheivements or not, he should not be talking about some chick at his work being hot and how much she works out! I mean granted we are women so we tend to take things to heart a lot. But that is a no no. Big time. It would be different if it was some famous girl he was talking about, but someone he personally knows, that would make me feel like crap.

wendybird5

Last Friday everyone kept telling me how great I looked and I was feeling so confident that I agreed to go to a singles mixer with a friend of mine that night. She got hit on by a lot of guys and I got zilch. Was feeling a bit demotivated by the end of the event. But then we went dancing and I was groped by a gay guy who thought I looked hot so it ended on a funny note at least.

mommamills

Yeah....guys just don't think and when you call them out on it it's much easier for them to say it's because YOU are too sensitive rather than you're right...I'm an *kitten*! You look great! Keep working hard and make sure you tell him about every head you've turned that day. ;-) He'll see those heads turn too and then it will all click! They never see it until they see that others do...and we see it!

oh....and I know I'm in trouble when my TEN YEAR OLD SON starts off his comment by "no offense but...." Bump that friggin bootcamp class every morning at 6am! lol

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Jessi_Brooks

These arent weight related, but my Grandma is the WORST at giving backhanded compliments. A few examples:

I like your new hair cut.... you look like Raggedy Ann.
Thats a nice hair style you have.... looks like 2 turds sitting on your head.
Nice makeup.... kinda like raccoon eyes.
You have a nice color to you.... Before, I thought you might be sick.
You know sometimes you can be smarter than you look.

PaulFromEssex

Hey Liz,

I've packed me carrier bag and am heading for the airport. I should be with you some time tomorrow.

We'll strut our stuff around town all day and night.

Then there will be hundreds of guys telling their wags about this beautiful babe on the arm of an old baldie!

Sound like a good plan?

lizlkbg

Hey Liz,

I've packed me carrier bag and am heading for the airport. I should be with you some time tomorrow.

We'll strut our stuff around town all day and night.

Then there will be hundreds of guys telling their wags about this beautiful babe on the arm of an old baldie!

Sound like a good plan?

You had me at "carrier bag" :blushing:

PaulFromEssex

Hey Liz,

I've packed me carrier bag and am heading for the airport. I should be with you some time tomorrow.

We'll strut our stuff around town all day and night.

Then there will be hundreds of guys telling their wags about this beautiful babe on the arm of an old baldie!

Sound like a good plan?

You had me at "carrier bag" :blushing:

I like to travel light ....

NikkiSixGuns

Here's one that happened to me:

When I was really close to reaching my goal weight and feeling pretty darn proud of myself, my husband's grandfather told me, "Don't lose any more weight. You'll be too skinny on top and you'll still have the problem on the bottom." :huh: :ohwell:

likitisplit

Classic.

I'm focused on weight loss through healthy living not "dieting" so I got some really nice dark chocolate as a treat (Yum and not so many calories/fat, right?). My husband was all "Is that DIET chocolate?" I told him I was trying to boost my potassium intake.

He'd feel like I was so much more "committed" to weight loss if I up and decided to eat nothing but watermelon for two weeks and never lost an ounce. Cause I'd *look* like I was dieting. I know he meant to be supportive, but I really did want to kick him in the shin for about 5 minutes.