WAHmbulance thread - NonScaleDEmotivators

cubbies77

My hubby is famous for giving compliments that quickly turn into unintentional insults. I was walking up the stairs the other day with him in tow and he exclaims, "Hey babe, your *kitten* is lookin' good!" <PREEN>.."Man, for awhile there, when I walked behind you up the stairs I was thinking, 'her butt is getting REALLY big', but yeah, now it looks good."

I resisted the urge to push him down the stairs with my now-good lookin' *kitten*. Gah, I love him.

I'm sorry, but this made me laugh. I can totally picture some clueless guy saying that. My boyfriend usually doesn't comment on my weight loss because, as he says, "I'm so scared I'm going to compliment you and it's going to come out all wrong and you'll feel sad or angry." I told him to just go ahead and say something, and he put his hands up and said, "Oh no. No no. Not even going to take that chance. I'm very proud of you, and that's all I'm going to say. Good job. I'm proud. That's it."

knittnponder

Go rent Magic Mike and watch it with him telling him all the while how great and hot they look.

Ok, that's my own little vindictive streak that could come out in a situation like that (but I probably wouldn't actually do it.) It was very rude of your husband to say such a thing and you are very beautiful!

ShamsZahar

My boyfriend doesn't say anything... he just breaks his neck looking at other women. When I call him on it he says I'm just as attractive "just in a less obvious way"

lizlkbg

My boyfriend doesn't say anything... he just breaks his neck looking at other women. When I call him on it he says I'm just as attractive "just in a less obvious way"

Ouch. Geez.

ladymiseryali

Stepped on the scale and saw a gain....although it might just be the scale being broken. Looked at myself in the mirror, thought I looked good until I took measurements. Gained inches instead of losing them. Feel like a fat failure.

ChapinaGrande

I had a similar situation. Last night, I told my usually supportive husband that I had lost 6 pounds last month. I was so proud. He was mad at me for being inattentive earlier in the day (I have ADHD, so it's kind of typical) and didn't say anything. Later, when I put our daughter to bed, I told him that she had a comfortable bed. He said, "YOU laid on her bed?? You're gonna break it!" And howled with laughter when I got upset. It escalated into a gigantic argument about how I'm too sensitive and he should move into the guest bedroom. I felt like I was on Candid Camera, but the host never came out from behind the potted plant.

julimonster

Looking good IS the best revenge! You can do this, don't let someone else's thoughtless comment bring you down!

GiddyupTim

My wife would wait until I was unsuspecting and bent over. Then she would give me a swift kick.
You might wanna try it. It very well might help you feel better.

dmpizza

Men seem dumb or mean sometimes because we compartmentalize issues more than women.

Don't take it personally, but DO tell him how you felt after he said what he did.

MrClean55

Next time you see a hot guy....make sure your hubby knows you were looking:)

sunsnstatheart

The comment had nothing to do with you. He was simply saying something positive about someone else. Not everything your man is going to say is going to be related to you and your goals. You look great, and I'm pretty sure he wasn't meaning it as a backhanded insult.

Rawr1978

my bf learned about being clueless right after I became a complete ***** when he mentioned a hottie at work who was a "gym bunny". He's a very supportive, encouraging guy, and wasn't saying I was less than her...but it pissed me off just the same, and set me back a bit.
and it isn't a "wahbulance", we all need to vent at times.

jofjltncb6

Meh, I reconsidered.

liittlesparrow

I was feeling pretty good about myself last week. Smaller, even. I was talking to a co-worker and he mentioned another co-worker I know telling him that I had "line-backer arms". The name came from ANOTHER male co-worker a couple months before. Then the guy I was talking to proceeded to tell me I had "running-back legs". Pretty much felt like a double hit to the face, and I seriously almost cried.

etoiles_argentees

jof, you were right.

BeachGingerOnTheRocks

jof, you were right.

QFT

iAMsmiling

Just break up.

Alatariel75

My boyfriend doesn't say anything... he just breaks his neck looking at other women. When I call him on it he says I'm just as attractive "just in a less obvious way"

Ouch. Geez.

After nookie, tell him he's just as big, "just in a less obvious way"

SleepingBeauty12345

im in the same boat! i look in the mirror and all i see is flaws.

forgtmenot

Uh... so you allow your boyfriend to talk about how hot/sexy other women are and you don't say anything about it? This is an odd concept to me...

Sorry but I nipped that ish in the bud, so to speak, at the very beginning of my relationship. I find it extremely disrespectful for a man whom I am dating/sleeping with/married to etc to go on and on about other women to me. If he loves me he should be looking at how hot I am, not how hot some coworker is and SURELY not telling me about how hot she is. That's just plain rude!

ETA: Sorry just read the comment where you said you did say something about it to him. You aren't too sensitive, that's BS. You're NORMAL. No woman would like that.