Hubby threw out all my "healthy food".. WTH

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naayden
naayden Posts: 9
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So today I just join this site however in December I started to change the way I eat. More organic no fried or process food.
Well my husband seem so supportive please keep in mind he is 5'9 155 lbs very active so he eats any and everything. Me on the other hand is a different story I look at food it goes straight to my thighs and stomach. LOL. For the last two months he did not complain about the groceries nor what I cooked until tonight. He came home with buffalo chicken grande nachos. He offered me some I decline he kept saying come on try them their so good. Again I politely decline, I don't know what that triggered but he snapping saying he can't live like this anymore. He wants to drink whole milk instead of skim. He hates yogurt , he miss me cooking with salt, Mrs dash is disgusting. what he have to do to get some soda in here.This man was on a full rampage but the kicker is he threw all the food out then puts his debt card on the kitchen counter and said he wants "real" food here by time he gets home from work. I never been so pissed off in my life. He complains when I work out or mention anything about it. I just needed to vent. I refuse for this incident to discouraged me. little do he know I'm going repurchase my food he tossed out. *smiling* good night
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  • Mhaney
    Mhaney Posts: 467 Member
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    oh fudge all that noise
  • Mhaney
    Mhaney Posts: 467 Member
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    the next thing that would be getting thrown out is him, then I'd slap him with his own shoe and say "I want a better man by the time I get back"
  • My0WNinspiration
    My0WNinspiration Posts: 1,146 Member
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    Kick him out!
  • Lifting_Knitter
    Lifting_Knitter Posts: 1,025
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    I wouldn't buy food, he's on his own for the rest of the week.
  • MeMyCatsandI
    MeMyCatsandI Posts: 704 Member
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    In all fairness, you're the one who is trying to change your eating habits and you've kind of forced it on him. I'd suggest making some of the things he wants available in the house. Continue to eat healthy yourself and cook healthy. If he chooses to eat crap, so be it. You can only change you.
  • Mcgrawhaha
    Mcgrawhaha Posts: 1,596 Member
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    wow, i would have kicked my husbands *kitten*, no joke! i would have taken that debit card of his and smacked him upside the head with it, and told him that he has 18 minutes to get his butt to the store and re-purchase all of my stuff that he threw out. and you know what, he would have been back with everything, in 17 minutes!
  • sheyennelilly
    sheyennelilly Posts: 122 Member
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    Let him cool down and then have a talk with him about what's going on. Then do rebuy your food. You are a grown woman and need not be controlled by someone else. If he doesn't like the food you are buying, he knows his way to the grocery store, right? Or if you are the main shopper and want to work with him, talk to him about some of the things he enjoys that he would like to have "in stock" around the house. He needs to respect and support you and you need to do the same, and having a screaming fit of pent up resentment is not the way to do it. Good luck to you and keep up the good work you're doing for your body.
  • Mcgrawhaha
    Mcgrawhaha Posts: 1,596 Member
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    In all fairness, you're the one who is trying to change your eating habits and you've kind of forced it on him. I'd suggest making some of the things he wants available in the house. Continue to eat healthy yourself and cook healthy. If he chooses to eat crap, so be it. You can only change you.

    not in my house. my husband and kids eat what i cook. im not a waitress. if im eating healthy, they are eating healthy. if my husband doesnt like it, he knows where the door is, and also knows my address to mail his child support payments to :)
  • aekimz23
    aekimz23 Posts: 112 Member
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    Honestly I can see why your husband is mad, although the way he raged out was wrong. Just because you want to eat healthier does not necessarily mean he does. And that's not a bad thing! He's fit, if he doesn't have health problems from the way he likes to eat, I don't see anything wrong with it. By changing your eating habits, you've changed around his eating habits (though clearly he didn't want you to). If you're the one who grocery shops, buy your healthy food, buy his indulgent foods, tell him he has to make his food himself if you feel you have to, but don't keep the foods he enjoys out of the house just because you want to be healthier.
  • packratpatty
    packratpatty Posts: 46 Member
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    Man that's awful! It would have scared the heck out of me for my husband to flip out like that. It seems to me that something much more is bothering him. Hopefully he is feeling bad at work for yelling at you and throwing a fit. When he comes home, tell him if he wants that crap to eat that he will have to go buy it himself but you are not going to be an accessory to his early death and you want to live with him for a long long time. Tell him that is why you want to be healthy, so you can live a long healthy life WITH HIM. That might make him feel better. Tell him if he wants that junk food that he can go ahead and have it but you are going to still eat your healthy way and you'll be really disappointed if he ever acts like that or treats you like that again. Tell him it scared you and you want to feel safe in your home...that ought to get to him! Good luck. Don't give in.
  • kellyf_83
    kellyf_83 Posts: 20
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    Let him do his own grocery shopping. Give him his own cabinet and fridge space. Tell him to cook his own meals. And while your at it, tell him to do his own cleaning too. You do what makes you feel good and if cant support you then throw him out with the junk food!
  • arsonsmom
    arsonsmom Posts: 234 Member
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    This is a great idea I would bring him in a little at a time...Learn how to cook one mealers for him and how to make those same meals with a healthy twist...Or as I do with my daughter learn to resist the junk... I normally have to keep some snacks for her lunch in the house of course we love the same things...But it does help me to keep up on my will power!!
    Good luck
    In all fairness, you're the one who is trying to change your eating habits and you've kind of forced it on him. I'd suggest making some of the things he wants available in the house. Continue to eat healthy yourself and cook healthy. If he chooses to eat crap, so be it. You can only change you.
  • MeMyCatsandI
    MeMyCatsandI Posts: 704 Member
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    In all fairness, you're the one who is trying to change your eating habits and you've kind of forced it on him. I'd suggest making some of the things he wants available in the house. Continue to eat healthy yourself and cook healthy. If he chooses to eat crap, so be it. You can only change you.

    not in my house. my husband and kids eat what i cook. im not a waitress. if im eating healthy, they are eating healthy. if my husband doesnt like it, he knows where the door is, and also knows my address to mail his child support payments to :)
    If you re-read my post, I did not say she should be his waitress. I suggested that she continue to eat healthy and COOK healthy.
  • PennStateChick
    PennStateChick Posts: 327 Member
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    In all fairness, you're the one who is trying to change your eating habits and you've kind of forced it on him. I'd suggest making some of the things he wants available in the house. Continue to eat healthy yourself and cook healthy. If he chooses to eat crap, so be it. You can only change you.

    Yea, this advice wouldn't fly in my house. I pay for the groceries, do most of the grocery shopping, and the majority of the cooking. I buy and cook what I want, although I include things I know he likes. (For instance, buffalo chicken lasagna is lower calorie and one of his favs.) However, if he wants crap and through out my groceries- he would be shopping for himself.
  • Mcgrawhaha
    Mcgrawhaha Posts: 1,596 Member
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    In all fairness, you're the one who is trying to change your eating habits and you've kind of forced it on him. I'd suggest making some of the things he wants available in the house. Continue to eat healthy yourself and cook healthy. If he chooses to eat crap, so be it. You can only change you.

    not in my house. my husband and kids eat what i cook. im not a waitress. if im eating healthy, they are eating healthy. if my husband doesnt like it, he knows where the door is, and also knows my address to mail his child support payments to :)
    If you re-read my post, I did not say she should be his waitress. I suggested that she continue to eat healthy and COOK healthy.

    i didnt say that you said that. i said in my house, my eating habits WILL BE FORCED ON EVERYONE ELSE, because im not a waitress, and i dont cook to order... i make a meal, and thats it, they can either eat it, or starve. thier choice. that was my point. im not going to buy junk, when im trying to eat healthy. and i dare him to bring junk in to my house...
  • ladymiseryali
    ladymiseryali Posts: 2,555 Member
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    Is this the first time he has had a childish outburst like that and demanded that you do something? What happens if you refuse? He sounds like a grade A prick or man-child. He needs to realize that you've made a lifestyle change. If he wants to eat other food, then he can go buy it himself......
  • kdeaux1959
    kdeaux1959 Posts: 2,675 Member
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    This journey is much easier when everybody in the family is on the same page. I agree, it was over the top for him to approach this the way he did .. throwing that stuff out made no sense... At the same time, as one other person said, the best way to deal with this (as in any relationship) is COMPROMISE... This compromise, however, should not be one sided... There is no reason you cannot have 2% milk AND whole milk in the fridge... Just because you have yogurt should not mean that YOU have to eat it... He should not force anything down your throat that YOU don't want.. and by the same token, making things available that HE enjoys would be an acceptable compromise. In most cases, what is wrong is not the food choices though... Usually when things show up like this, it only reveals relationship problems that are already there.. the food is not the problem... However, getting to what the REAL problem is, will be necessary for your relationship to flourish.
  • Mcgrawhaha
    Mcgrawhaha Posts: 1,596 Member
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    Is this the first time he has had a childish outburst like that and demanded that you do something? What happens if you refuse? He sounds like a grade A prick or man-child. He needs to realize that you've made a lifestyle change. If he wants to eat other food, then he can go buy it himself......

    yes, exactly what i was thinking... a childs tempertantrum... my husband has tried once or twice to throw a tantrum... but he soon realized that a 6 foot 3 man sleeping in a dodge magnum was no bueno!
  • Italiano7
    Italiano7 Posts: 382 Member
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    the next thing that would be getting thrown out is him, then I'd slap him with his own shoe and say "I want a better man by the time I get back"




    ^^^^^^this
  • Cameronzmum
    Cameronzmum Posts: 10 Member
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    Maybe he is just jealous of how you are going to look when you get down to goal weight (if not there already). And that he's afraid he might lose you and you'd end up moving on with someone else instead of him. That and once in awhile wants to sneak some junkfood. If you don't already give yourself a cheat meal/snack/not necessarily food. You know a reward for doing a spectacular job. I mean you can't eat completely healthy all the time. After all your human, besides talk to your significant other. Maybe his idea wasn't fully ideal but isn't there still a way you can do that. Do healthier versions of favorite foods then you both get what you want.

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