S/O's friend is ALWAYS coming over without asking. Advice?
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Id just distract him from his friend and head to the bedroom. His friend can keep playing the game or watching the movie who cares. Besides better to have them at your bf's place then out who knows where possibly getting into trouble lol.0
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He wants a threesome?0
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I would just talk to your boyfriend about it first... Have his friend shoot him a text message before heading over...On the flip side, have you tried to spend any time with his friends? Maybe if you suggest that the 3 of you go out together for a little while you can get to know your boyfriends friends... I personally love my boyfriends buddies, we all hang out, they are a lot of fun! If they want to do a guys night the wives/girlfriends just hang out together. Just some ideas.0
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Talk to him about it.
Why is open communication such a foreign concept, idgi. If something is weirding you out or making you uncomfortable, talk about it.
open and honest communication?! Get outta here!
Along those lines, I say tell your boyfriend that you want to spend more time alone with him. Or get your own life so you don't care anymore. Or suck it up & deal.0 -
OP is 18
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Yep. When I was 18 I thought I had to be with my boyfriend 24/7 including sitting around watching him play Xbox with his friends.
Get up and do something else. Leave. Call a friend to hang out.0 -
two boys are better than one - - - embrace it (and yes, i mean that literally)
Yes, this!0 -
1. Don't put your relationship problems on the internet for a bunch of strangers to comment on. They don't know you, him or what's really going on. Also, a relationship should be between two people..not two people and everyone else who has an opinion. Plus, I think your SO would probably be pissed.
2. Learn about communication. It's one of the most important things in a relationship. This means instead of talking to everyone else about something - talk to him. Even if it is frustrating, keep talking because no one but the two of you are going to be able to resolve your relationship issues.
3. You may say that this isn't a relationship issue but it is.
4. Again, don't ever put your relationship problems on the internet unless you are just looking for reasons to break up with someone, trying to encourage people to side with you on a situation even if you are presenting the situation in a biased way, or you just want attention.
^^ This.0 -
Give Gary and your hubby my number. I know a few places we can go party without the women in their lives putting their personal business on the internet0
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When I was 18-24 if we needed to "call/text ahead" before stopping over to any of our friends houses....I don't know if I could have afforded the bill.
That's all us guys did. We always had guys and girls showing up unannounced to our place.
Big Whoop. If my girfriend was there, I'd say...I'm busy (hint).0 -
Talk to him about it.
Why is open communication such a foreign concept, idgi. If something is weirding you out or making you uncomfortable, talk about it.
Open? Communication? Like... both parties talk AND listen to each other? Hmmm, novel concept... <sneaks off to file a patent and trademark application>0 -
age has nothing to do with it. if the relationship is still becoming solid (as it can be no matter what the age) private time or couple time is important. don't hang around the house! lock up and go out and do something!0
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OP is 18
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Yep. When I was 18 I thought I had to be with my boyfriend 24/7 including sitting around watching him play Xbox with his friends.
This isn't how relationships work? Dam0 -
Just break up.0
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Just break up.
Dani is fired..0 -
OP is 18
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Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamen. Haha
I didnt realize age had anything to do with it, or the point of this thread.
then look around and realize that most of the ppl who have been doing this a lot longer than you have said it's pretty normal behavior.0 -
The next time Gary sows up unannounced tell bf... That Gary is going to cause bf to miss...bj....
End of story....bye bye Gary0 -
LOL love the two boys are better than one.
i have a similar situation but i'm married so the house is just as much mine (if not more) i just told his freind if he is going to show up unannounced he is required to bring me a six pack of delicious beer. Its worked out pretty good so far.
That makes the most sense of anything I've ever read.0 -
That would seriously upset me. My BF and I share a place, so being as it is your bf's home, you might need to compromise. Personally - I don't have a home, I have a FORTRESS. Nobody gets in without previous discussion and agreement.0
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Talk to your boyfriend.
Gary (and maybe your BF as well) probably doesn't understand that the boundaries of all your relationships have changed. It can be quite difficult if you are young to deal with an issue like this.
I don't think it's unreasonable to expect a bit of courtesy and for Gary to call and check that it is ok to come over. As a couple you do have a "personal space" which friends should respect.0 -
Sorry hun but I still have friends who just show up at my house whenever they want and I'm 32.....Gently let your Bf know you want alone time with him but you cannot expect him to stop hanging with his friends... However if you really wanna get rid of the friend quickly beat him in x-box and then gloat all over him lol.....
Seriously though this is not the big issue you think it is0 -
if he keeps coming over...then your S/O hasn't told him to GTFO....
so it seems to me your S/O is ok with him being over.....
it's not your house, you don't get to make the rules.
He just doesn't want to be mean.
He has admitted that his friend is "boring"
^^Just because someone knocks or rings the bell doesn't mean you have to answer it. Its not a summons. OR...open the door in lingerie and tell the friend that your b/f is not available ::wink wink::.
awwwwwwwwyeah!0 -
1. Don't put your relationship problems on the internet for a bunch of strangers to comment on. They don't know you, him or what's really going on. Also, a relationship should be between two people..not two people and everyone else who has an opinion. Plus, I think your SO would probably be pissed.
2. Learn about communication. It's one of the most important things in a relationship. This means instead of talking to everyone else about something - talk to him. Even if it is frustrating, keep talking because no one but the two of you are going to be able to resolve your relationship issues.
3. You may say that this isn't a relationship issue but it is.
4. Again, don't ever put your relationship problems on the internet unless you are just looking for reasons to break up with someone, trying to encourage people to side with you on a situation even if you are presenting the situation in a biased way, or you just want attention.
This.0 -
How long have you been together?0
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I'm pretty sure you're probably the one who intruded on guy time, simply by dating him.
Talk to your boyfriend about how much time is necessary to be spending alone with one another, and then accept that he has friends who like him (and probably you too if he wants to hang out while you're there), and want to spend qt with him.0 -
Seriously? Not everyone has a million friends to talk to. She only asked a simple question, she didn't pour out her soul like the internet is her psychiatrist. Get the hell over it, people. She wanted opinions on what we would do, not to get bashed.
I swear, this place is really good for having a couple friends to encourage you to lose weight, but this forum is a damn shark tank.0 -
OP is 18
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Yep. When I was 18 I thought I had to be with my boyfriend 24/7 including sitting around watching him play Xbox with his friends.
Get up and do something else. Leave. Call a friend to hang out.
I'm not like that, I only see him usually 1-3 times a week which is why this is such a problem.0 -
OP is 18
/end thread.
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamen. Haha
I didnt realize age had anything to do with it, or the point of this thread.
Well dear, it is because being so young you don't realize that this is perfectly normal behavior for guys your age and that you are being rather unreasonable by making an issue of it. It also means that you need to start learning to communicate with your S/O now instead of letting it stew and becoming a passive aggressive nightmare of a girlfriend.0 -
And to soften the message:0
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Since it's your SO's house and his friend, he needs to speak up. If it bothers you, let him know and let him tell his buddy to call ahead of time.0
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