Lost 56 lbs and no one noticed!!!

SandyRob

Hey, don't be discouraged!

I had a similar experience about 10 years ago. Over a period of about 6 months, I lost 50 lbs, and very proud of myself.
My husband (at the time), who was away alot over those 6 months, never commented on my weight loss or how much
better I looked. It wasn't until a mutual friend of ours commented on how wonderful I looked and what was my secret, that
he even noticed. Needless to say, the relationship didn't last....for other reasons as well, of course.

Now I'm married to a great guy who is very supportive and encourages me when I'm trying to lose a few pounds & get
into shape. At the same time, he tells me he loves me just the way I am! We both strive to look good for one another and
we want to live a long & healthy life, so that we can spend as much time together as possible.

So, chin up...if your family doesn't notice the wonderful change you've made in your life..that's their problem!
Be proud of yourself, walk with your head held high, and be happy with your accomplishment.

Congratulations,

Sandy

MommyofLily

I'm going through the same thing! I have lost over 30 lbs since Christmas and NOBODY at work has noticed and neither have my friends. The only people who have noticed are my mom and my fiance. At least someone has noticed, but they also both know how hard I've been working, and they are my best motivators and supporters. I just keep waiting for my friends and coworkers to say something, but apparently it isn't obvious yet. I even just saw a friend that I hadn't seen since I was at my all time heaviest weight and I finally said to her "I've lost like 30+ lbs since you saw me last!!!" and she just said "really??" and that was pretty much the end of the conversation...

Anyway, I just want to say congratulations to you and I bet you look amazing! I know that losing 30 lbs has taken me a lot of hard work and determination so 56 lbs, to me, is a huge success. Good job! Stay positive, we can do this!! All that matters is how good we are feeling now compared to before. We rock! :happy:

MexicanStew

Fifteen years ago I was 170 pounds I had lost the same amount you have. The one person that I wanted to complement me was my husband. It never happened. In the fifteen years since then I managed to gain 100 pounds. I was so miserable that the one person I needed the most seemed not to notice or care. Little did I understand that this man loved me for me. Not my body. I wish I would have known that back then. We have been married 30 years this year. Our 2 sons are grown and living their own lives, my biggest fan and supporter is my husband, the one that loves me for me. Keep up the good work. You are doing this for you, and NO ONE ELSE!

ComfortFoodAddict

Congratulations! I am so sorry no one noticed... or if they did... shame on them for not complimenting you. I know how you feel though. I lost quite a bit of weight before and when I saw my family at Christmas time all they would say is "look who is starving herself" and "you must be off the diet cause your hips are sure spreading" I hated it because almost all of them are bigger than me! My grandmother's boyfriend is the worst... he is constantly putting me down in ways that he thinks is so funny. I hate being the butt of their jokes. Then there is my mom that talks about anytime she loses an ounce... then turns around and makes comments like "you havent had three kids, you dont have all my medical problems, and blah blah blah" she doesn't realize that everyone has their own set of road blocks to make things hard for them.... Don't we wish we could choose our family sometimes?

I sure hope things get better for you very soon!

junipuni

That sucks! Do they know you are trying to lose weight? Are you wearing clothes that fit you or clothes that are still too big? I think there could be so many reasons and I do understand how you feel.

My sister-in-law has lost a bunch of weight this last year or so and looks fantastic. She really does, and she has worked SO hard. She deserves all the compliments and then some. But it bugs me because my MIL will talk about it all the time and never say a word about my weight loss. I haven't lost a ton of weight but I've lost about 17 inches from my body - 6 inches just from my waist. And I don't see her everyday or even every week so it should be noticeable. It is hard but you are doing great and we are very proud of you!

usmcwifeb15

I am really sorry no one noticed, I am sure you look great and it sounds like you are doing awesome. I do know how you feel not so much with family because I haven't seen them in about 4 months. I am actually going to a wedding in a month and am hoping everyone will notice a difference after losing hopefully 30lbs by then. I talke my daughters to dance once a week and they have been going since September. I have lost 23lbs since then and no one has noticed, it's kind of annoying but I just keep working at it and maybe someone will notice eventually. I notice though and in the end that's all the matters. Just keep working at it cause you are doing great!!!

junipuni

if it helps any, I saw someone today who I had seen in a few years and she didnt say one word about it. I went up to her, said hello , so and so, and she just looked at me, then looked at my name tag, ( she came into the store I work at) and said, "ohhh yeah, thats right, you work here" . then she went on to tell me what she was looking for. She said not one thing, not, ohh you have lost weight , nothing. and yes, I have lost almost 160 pounds since she last saw me.
She on the other hand had put some weight on, so maybe she was just uncomfortable with it??
Maybe your family is uncomfortable with your weight loss, and doesnt know what to say to you? somepeople are like that.

whatever the reasoning, just know that what you have done is wonderful, and you should be so proud of yourself!! dont let them bring you down, just look in the mirror and know how great your doing!

With your transformation, are you sure she realized who you were???

CHRISSYEPSON

I am very proud of you! Keep up the good work! You must loose weight for yourself not anyone else!!!

nursee67

I say...to hell with the people who don't notice! You are doing great...and 56 lbs is nothing to sneeze at. Keep up the great work!

cvtga

I know how frustrated you must feel, but don't let this get you down. 56lbs is a great accomplishment, and you should feel extremely proud

cdickey

You are doing great! 56lbs is a big accomplishment. I hope that the next time you see them they notice and make nice compliments. I do kind of agree with some of the posts that maybe they don't want to offend you. I have had that happen before to me. People would say I looked like I had lost weight when I knew that I hadn't or when I had lost some they never said anything. I'm sure you look fantastic.

I have lost 100#'s and to this day my MIL hasn't said anything to me about it. She probably won't either. My SIL has lost 40 pounds by taking shots and such from a weight loss clinic and everybody raves about how good she looks. I just know that I am a lot healthier now than I was and I don't need a shot or pill to bring it off. Mine will stay off where she might have trouble keeping hers off. It's sad.

kjs1628

People are so funny about weight loss - either they compliment you and then tell you to stop because it won't suit you if you lose too much more, or they completely ignore the fact that you've lost it. Either way, jealousy is involved (and I've probably been guilty of that myself!)

There is the third option too, which is that they genuinely don't know whether they can comment on it at all - like it might be rude to do so....

My sister in law has also lost LOADS of weight (Uk size 24 down to 10!!!), through sheer hard work and dedication, and I am absolutely thrilled for her, although a little miffed that I would have to weigh about six stone before I could compare to her!!! Tee hee. My mother in law (I guess quite rightly) is so proud of her that my legs would have to fall off before she commented on my loss too!

56 pounds isn't just good - it's a miracle. Keep going. Keep your chin up. It's your self pride that really matters at the end of the day - and I bet you feel great! Well done.x

luvslife2

Wow, the butterfly is emerging!!!!! Congratulations, you are an inspiration. It is the same with me....Since starting before mfp, i've lost 30lbs...not one word said...maybe it isnt noticeable enough on the body, but I know it is on the face. Stick with it, and try not to let it bother you. You should be so proud and look at the support you get here! That's why we are here, for ourselves and for the support that we garner here. My hat's off to you!
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SraArroz

You have done so wonderfully! Don't let anybody make you feel any less successful or important! Like others have said, you need to remember that you're doing this for yourself. We are truly rooting for you here!!

jrobertson37

Congrats to you that is a huge milestone. Please do not feel alone. Thats why we are all here bc we can all use encouragement and support. Remember you are doing this for yourself!!! Dont worry about them. You know what they say about family!!! So no worries and keep up the good work. We here on this website SALUTE YOU!!!! I hope you feel better and im sorry that that happened.