Would This Violate Girl Code?
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i'd do him, i mean, it0
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Would it affect your relationship with your sister? That would be the only thing I'd take into consideration.
^^What she said! This is what matters because of course the friend is gonna be in your sisters ear as soon as she finds out. I still say its fair game just let your sister know so its not a shock to her when her friend comes crying.0 -
You could always ask her. It might make you feel better if you finally start dating him.
But if you two aren't friends, I wouldn't even bother. Go for it.0 -
"Girl code" doesn't exist... girls are manipulative and wouldn't think twice before taking him from you.... JUST SAYING
Go for it bc more than likely your sister and her prob won't stay friends forever. You worry about you and thats that.0 -
she's just an acquaintance. who cares if she's close to a relative if she isnt close to you. he's fair game.0
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girl code = your friend, your family no coworker. No further - and sometimes even THOSE lines are sketchy.
If he is a friend of a friend of a friend, then chase him!0 -
There's a girl code?0
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Feel free to hunt this man down and claim his as your own.0
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She's not YOUR friend. I say he's fair game....
^^^^ This, not your friend, fair game0 -
:drinker: Fair game...and good luck!0
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how much do you like him? if they broke up it usually means that he isnt that great.. also if he KNOWS that you know her he may be using you to make her jealous.. (believe me guys do this all the time even if you dont want to believe it) so just be careful if you answer back i can give u a good answer... because there is not much to go by here...
I disagree. Just because they broke up doesn't mean he isn't that great. Seriously, unless you've never dated someone who has dated other people, then you are dating someone who has had a relationship broken up for one reason or another.
I don't see any violation of girl code, the girl he used to date is too far removed from you as a friend.0 -
Hypothetically:
You are talking to a guy who you really like, but are worried that it may violate "girl code." This guy used to date a girl you are acquainted with. The girl is good friends with your sister, but she is not your friend and you don't talk. However, you met the guy when THEY were dating so you don't want to step on her toes seeing as she is close to a family member. Would you call it off in the name of girl code, or just do what you want seeing as she isn't your friend?
Thanks.
Well, I have been in that situation. Met a guy when we were both in relationships. We met up by chance when he was separated and I was single. It got back to his ex-partner (who had left him) that we had made out and she proceeded to blast me on the interwebs and via email for being a vacuous wh*Re and an enemy to all womenkind (as you do?!).
I decided to back away from that crazy situation. They had a stab at getting back together (which I thought was quite sweet) but it (unsurprisingly) didn't work out.
His ex isn't your friend so I would say go for it.0 -
I wasn't even aware there's a girl code. But re: the situation...I don't believe there's a one-size-fits-all rule. Instead, I'd review the facts of each situation and then make a judgement call. In this case, without additional information? I'd probably go for it.
there most certainly is a girl code. unfortunately it is mostly not talked about, kinda like how your wife never tells you when she's angry but just expected you to know why she was and sulks or complains about other stuff, or to her friends/mom/sister and just basically expects you to read her mind. well it's like that with girl code, there are definite rules that most people know on some level hence OP's original question but then the mind reading goes into effect resulting in hurt feelings, manipulative b.s., whispering behind people's backs, and sometimes catfights. For this reason and because OP is on my friends list I want none of these things to happen to her and suggest the straight up route. The girl would HAVE to tell her she is still pining for the guy to make it not okay at that point and who in her right mind would admit to that. No one. Leaving OP free to ride that cowboy.There is a girl code? I thought it was every chick for herself?0 -
I'd say he is fair game. She's not your friend BUT I would talk to your sister first to make sure she (your sis) wouldn't be upset by it. Family is more important than a dude that you don't really know well yet....0
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Wait, you aren't supposed to date anyone that anyone you know dated? ..............
............. You must not be from a small town lol.0 -
sorry, are we 12?0
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I didnt know there was a code, but I always get left out on the rules. Eh, alls fair in love and war.0
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My best friend's sister is currently dating and living with my ex. He and I were together eons ago for 2 years and things ended really badly, which is about the only thing that makes it a little awkward when I see him at fam gatherings. Also, though my bff's sister and I never really interacted with one another she still sought me out to see if I was cool with it when they first started dating. But I think this is because her sister and I have been friends for 16 years so I've been around a long time. It was unnecessary but cool of her to do so.
I say go for it.0 -
Sounds fair!! Go for it.0
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As long as you don't run in to each other at recess, it's okay.
LOL, good one.0 -
Batter on. Wouldn't bother me, it's happened me several times. No problem. The half-friend who's with my ex though, they've always been ****s to me. Maybe it's their guilty conscience? I've never considered that before.... but I've never considered that because that's how fine I think it is.
Just NEVER be a **** to her, and I'd even go as far to explain it to her if you get a suitable opportunity. I'd appreciate that, and think it sweet that you spared me a thought. Not at all necessary though. Good luck0 -
sorry, are we 12?
I think she's really sweet and lovely for thinking this, not immature0 -
Go for it.0
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depends
1- how long were they dating??? anything over 1 year would probably make her feel pretty emotionally sad...
2- how well do you know her. if you hung out with her or went out to lunch together it may be an issue.
how much do you like him? if they broke up it usually means that he isnt that great.. also if he KNOWS that you know her he may be using you to make her jealous.. (believe me guys do this all the time even if you dont want to believe it) so just be careful if you answer back i can give u a good answer... because there is not much to go by here...
No no no, it doesn't mean anything negative about either of them, it means they weren't compatible, most people aren't. I mean no disrespect, this is just my experience. I've left boys who are lovely and remain friends, we just didn't match. Even after 7 years with one of them0 -
depends
1- how long were they dating??? anything over 1 year would probably make her feel pretty emotionally sad...
2- how well do you know her. if you hung out with her or went out to lunch together it may be an issue.
how much do you like him? if they broke up it usually means that he isnt that great.. also if he KNOWS that you know her he may be using you to make her jealous.. (believe me guys do this all the time even if you dont want to believe it) so just be careful if you answer back i can give u a good answer... because there is not much to go by here...
No no no, it doesn't mean anything negative about either of them, it means they weren't compatible, most people aren't. I mean no disrespect, this is just my experience. I've left boys who are lovely and remain friends, we just didn't match. Even after 7 years with one of them
hmmm understandable.. i didnt think of it that way... but the first 2 questions i still would go by... but your right maybe they were not compatible not all relationships end tragically lol...0 -
This guy *used* to date a girl you are acquainted with.
she is *not your friend* and you don't talk.
I fail to see the problem here. Go hit that *kitten*.
Haha...This!!0 -
Fair game. Go get some.0
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Hypothetically:
Stop making a big deal about fückin'0 -
what the heck is "girl code"?0
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There's a girl code?0
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