Opinion Poll for the Gentleman

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  • JUDDDing
    JUDDDing Posts: 1,367 Member
    You know... It's ok to ask him out without professing a crush.

    Next time you talk, simply say, "This weekend would you like to go ________ with me?" Ask him to coffee, lunch, etc.

    Then he'll say, "yes", "no" or "can we do it next weekend".

    Then you can get to know him, or at least know if he is interested at all in getting to know you.

    "Have a good weekend" is just what you tell people on a Friday afternoon/early in the weekend - don't over think this.
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    He could effectively avoid me for months if he really felt awkward about rejecting me.

    I meant for you. Will it be awkward for you?

    Well, for the most part, it would depend on how it went down. But if I just asked, and he was just direct with his rejection, then no. If he toys with my affections, then yes. But he honestly doesn't seem like the type for that.
  • seventwenty
    seventwenty Posts: 565 Member
    Um, ask him out for drinks, maybe?

    What is it about the modern age that makes people miss the obvious?
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    You know... It's ok to ask him out without professing a crush.

    Next time you talk, simply say, "This weekend would you like to go ________ with me?" Ask him to coffee, lunch, etc.

    Then he'll say, "yes", "no" or "can we do it next weekend".

    Then you can get to know him, or at least know if he is interested at all in getting to know you.

    "Have a good weekend" is just what you tell people on a Friday afternoon/early in the weekend - don't over think this.

    Yeah, I really didn't think that much of it, but someone else suggested that it meant he had plans. Technically, this is his Friday so for him, it was like saying a farewell to a co-worker before leaving work for the day (even though the day was already over).

    Honestly though, I really didn't think that much of it. I was more concerned with how quickly he lost interest in the conversation.
  • benol1
    benol1 Posts: 867 Member
    Go ahead and ask him out.
    Its 2013 not 1946.
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    Okay... I'll send him a message tomorrow and ask him if he would like to get together.

    For now, though, it is bed time.

    Thank you so much, gentleman, for your input and insight. I am much more confident now than when I started this thread. :flowerforyou:
  • seventwenty
    seventwenty Posts: 565 Member
    Thank you so much, gentleman, for your input and insight. I am much more confident now than when I started this thread. :flowerforyou:

    Um. why?
  • LadyOfOceanBreeze
    LadyOfOceanBreeze Posts: 762 Member
    D. Flirt with you more to see if any interest sparks.

    Ah... that's the tricky part... not a lot of flirting has transpired. Just non-verbal cues.

    may I ask from a female's perspective...what are non-verbal cues on FB? just wondering :wink:
  • LadyOfOceanBreeze
    LadyOfOceanBreeze Posts: 762 Member
    Go ahead and ask him out.
    Its 2013 not 1946.


    this:heart:
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    D. Flirt with you more to see if any interest sparks.

    Ah... that's the tricky part... not a lot of flirting has transpired. Just non-verbal cues.

    may I ask from a female's perspective...what are non-verbal cues on FB? just wondering :wink:

    We have had face-to-face interaction at work. The FB only transpired tonight when I decided that the only way I can have a conversation with him outside the work setting was to send him a friend request on FB. A brief convo transpired after he accepted.
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    Thank you so much, gentleman, for your input and insight. I am much more confident now than when I started this thread. :flowerforyou:

    Um. why?

    Because the gentleman agree that being forward is more appropriate than being passive/aggressive and waiting for him to act.
  • oneworkoutatatime
    oneworkoutatatime Posts: 312
    if these are thee options, I'll would say B
  • gwhizeh
    gwhizeh Posts: 269 Member
    A for honesty
  • CovaJoser
    CovaJoser Posts: 18
    Why do you have to lose? Find a way to ask him out. Be it to eat, drink or a walk at the park. Live a little and get out of your comfort zone. If you get denied you'll get over it in a few days.
  • MoonShadow_1au
    MoonShadow_1au Posts: 149 Member
    If it were me (and I was available) I would probably not pick up on any subtle flirting so being a bit more obvious would be the way to go.
  • MoonShadow_1au
    MoonShadow_1au Posts: 149 Member
    From a guys perspective I landed my wife by inviting her to go to the beach with a group of friends from uni and "forgot" to invite anyone else ;)
  • Eons44
    Eons44 Posts: 76 Member
    well obviously it's A
  • lostinthe619
    lostinthe619 Posts: 98
    Ah... that's the tricky part... not a lot of flirting has transpired. Just non-verbal cues.

    While they may be obvious "non-verbal cues" to you, it may not come off as any type of cue to him. Just tell him how you feel.
  • teebeegeebee
    teebeegeebee Posts: 218 Member
    Ask to meet him for coffee - relax if its gonna happen it will happen - there is a friendship there as he agreed to accept on FB = the rest well thats chemistry and that only happens face to face

    if he says no, leave it and do something else for you

    its just an opinion
  • Macgeek74
    Macgeek74 Posts: 298 Member
    Pursue, ive learned if I dont go after her, someone else will.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    I told you A last night, but was not aware C was an option, so I say A and C. JUST KIDDING! I hope he replies!
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    I told you A last night, but was not aware C was an option, so I say A and C. JUST KIDDING! I hope he replies!

    LOL!
  • Hirgy03
    Hirgy03 Posts: 332 Member
    Didn't read the whole page but, for what its worth. If you don't feel comfortable with "A", then just drop a mention from time to time that "I'm gonna be at ____ tonight after work for a drink or two. Drop by and say "hi"" ..... that way you don't feel awkward that you are being the 'aggressor', and it gives him the green light to see you face to face. Back in the day, I needed to see a woman and read her body language to feel out whether or not I was gonna get a "no" prior to asking her out.

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