Internet dating dilemma
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Those are blatant lies. IT and Chef are not interchangeable. That's like saying I'm a gyno just because I've looked at and touched vaginas.
WAIT! you aren't !!!? but,...but you told me you were!!!
bwahahaaahaha
I'm basically all but certified. I'm perfectly qualified.0 -
If you started chatting to someone on an internet dating site and you found out they lied? You then confronted them, and their response was, "who doesnt lie on these sites?". Their profile said they dont have children and they do, also they said they are in the IT/ communications industry, and they work as a chef.
Would you continue chatting with them?
This one is WAY too easy. Absolutely not.
I believe that all relationships, whether they're romantic or just friends, need honesty. And if this person is starting off in finding a new relationship with lies, then that's not the kinda person I'd wanna have a relationship with.
I met someone last summer who lied online about her age ("Guys don't want to meet women in their 40s. And besides, I don't look a day over 35" (She did.)) and lied about the fact that she was a smoker ("I only have one or two when I'm drinking." Sorry, but that's still being a smoker.). She also turned out to be quite a bit racist, so I was more than happy to call it an early night. Needless to say, she never heard from me again.
And the next time someone asks "Who doesn't lie on these sites?" Simply say, "Me. Bye."0 -
LMAO, no.
Is he also 6 2", dark, handsome , 9% bodyfat and squats 350kilos for reps?
how YOU doin?
I'm doing well! I'm actually 6'4" and own a multi-million dollar company on the side for when my Olympic career is over!
Hands off she is mine!
Cranky I'll Be round later to pick you up in my helicopter.
Pfft I leave my helicopter parked on my yacht most of the time!0 -
A lie is a lie.. No matter how little or big! Just because "everyone lies one the internet", doesn't make it okay. It shows a lot of immaturity.. Relationship, friendships, etc. are based off of trust. They lied from the get go, and will prolly continue to lie.. Dust yourself off and move on!! :flowerforyou:0
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You will always be wondering if he's lying every time you talk.
So no, it's not ok to lie specially about having kids.
Btw what made him think he was going to get away with it unless he was just playing with you and never had intentions of meeting.0 -
LMAO, no.
Is he also 6 2", dark, handsome , 9% bodyfat and squats 350kilos for reps?
how YOU doin?
I'm doing well! I'm actually 6'4" and own a multi-million dollar company on the side for when my Olympic career is over!
Hands off she is mine!
Cranky I'll Be round later to pick you up in my helicopter.
oh my!0 -
No.
Who wants to get into a relationship with someone that started lying from the start?
This. I met my wife through one of the sites. Thus, I have a bit of experience with them and lying is an absolute deal killer IMHO.
I met my girl on POF. Lucky for me, she did not lie. Although I did want to date a girl with NO kids, I knew what I was getting into. She told me one time she met a guy and it did NOT look like his picture, she immediately walked away from the date. Lucky for me.:drinker:0 -
this makes me think of :
lies from the start...0 -
I met my bf/future dh online. Neither lied to the other. Fudging your height or weigh a bit is one thing, but having kids when you said you didn't is a huge deal. For me, having kids would not be a deal breaker, but lying about it would0
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nope.0
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If you started chatting to someone on an internet dating site and you found out they lied? You then confronted them, and their response was, "who doesnt lie on these sites?". Their profile said they dont have children and they do, also they said they are in the IT/ communications industry, and they work as a chef.
Would you continue chatting with them?
No way. Not unless I said I weighed 117lbs and I'm a mensa member when I really weigh 300lbs and can't remember where I left my keys last night. Because liars belong together. And hopefully will breed superliars that the rest of can spot a mile away.0 -
Absolutely NOT! Kind of silly of them to lie about something that can so easily be proven wrong. And it's not even that big of a deal! I don't lie, I figure SOMEONE has to like me just the way I am!0
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Hell no. Good riddance.0
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No I wouldn't. The kids already is a deal breaker for me because he lied about it0
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met my bf on okcupid. only "lie" he told....well I tease him about having one photo on his profile where there is a distinct set of six-pack abs that now are no where to be found :P . I tell him it was false advertising hehe.
Stretching the truth to make yourself look more attractive is one thing, but an outright lie about career or children seems a bit much to me.
If you are interested in someone, I recommend no more than a week chatting before meeting up in person. That makes it way easier to flush out the lies ahead of time. And as long as you're meeting in public (a restaurant or coffee place) there's no harm to it. Good luck!0 -
Get out now0
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Uh oh I smell another "catfish" show on MTV. For those who don't know what that means its a show on MTV where they do stories of internet dating and finally givng the parties involved a chance to meet. You'll be surprised, shocked, get mixed emotions and disgusted to what lengths people can lie about themselves.0
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this makes me think of :
lies from the start...
Dear god that's a great movie...0 -
No! Run quickly.0
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Lying about your weight on dating sites-not relevant
Lying about age-give or take 1 or 2 years-not too relevant
Lying about having KIDS- red flag
If he's lying about having kids, how do you know there's no wife with said kids. This is a MAJOR lie to start off with. So no, I wouldn't continue to chat with this person.0 -
I don't understand why you even wasted your time confronting them.If you started chatting to someone on an internet dating site and you found out they lied? You then confronted them, and their response was, "who doesnt lie on these sites?". Their profile said they dont have children and they do, also they said they are in the IT/ communications industry, and they work as a chef.
Would you continue chatting with them?0 -
No. I mean, hellz no.0
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This is not a dilemma, move on.0
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this makes me think of :
lies from the start...
Dear god that's a great movie...
Cool! I haven't seen it. Will have to remedy that soon.0 -
The fact that it is an internet relationship is irrelevant, people always see internet relationships as different, they aren't!
If a guy you met in a bar turns out to be married with kids and not an CIA agent, would you carry on speaking with him?
This guy lied, say bye bye and find yourself someone worth your time!0 -
If you started chatting to someone on an internet dating site and you found out they lied? You then confronted them, and their response was, "who doesnt lie on these sites?". Their profile said they dont have children and they do, also they said they are in the IT/ communications industry, and they work as a chef.
Would you continue chatting with them?
No, I wouldn't continue. If they asked why I didn't respond anymore I might say something quick and simple like "you lied about some significant things" and let that be the end of it. I wouldn't debate with them or justify myself or my actions. Just end it.0 -
Who doesn't lie in bars? :laugh:The fact that it is an internet relationship is irrelevant, people always see internet relationships as different, they aren't!
If a guy you met in a bar turns out to be married with kids and not an CIA agent, would you carry on speaking with him?
This guy lied, say bye bye and find yourself someone worth your time!
What doesn't compute for me is the idea of trying to salvage a relationship that hasn't even started yet. Isn't that the whole idea behind a dating service, is that everyone is different, and there are zillions of people out there to match up with. It allows you to find someone who is actually compatible instead of trying to lower your standards to get along with the first person you bump into.0 -
I met my husband on a video game, and his avatar was female, so I assumed he was, too. We knew each other for at least 6 months before he corrected that 'misunderstanding.' He didn't *lie*... he just didn't correct all the people who assumed he was female because he is so sweet.
Yes, I kept chatting with him. ;-)0 -
Um... yeah. I would never talk to this guy again. If you're willing to lie about your children and job field what ELSE would you be willing to lie about? His view of what is acceptable is obviously skewed. I wouldn't trust him at all at this point.
You know what they say;
If you can't be trusted with the little things, no one will ever trust you with the big things.0
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