IRL vs. Internet relationships

mattagascar

My MFP friends are 100x better then my IRL real life friends.


& that's no *kitten*

agreed x 1000.

oh crap I hope my real life friends don't read this

Until we meet up. :drinker:


Btw, I expect cake vodka.

DEAL :flowerforyou:

By cake vodka they mean me

jmc0806

Donnie Darko gif wins this thread


anyways most of my MFP friends live across the country so it makes meeting any in real life tricky

TylerJ76

My MFP friends are 100x better then my IRL real life friends.


& that's no *kitten*

agreed x 1000.

oh crap I hope my real life friends don't read this

Until we meet up. :drinker:


Btw, I expect cake vodka.

DEAL :flowerforyou:

By cake vodka they mean me

*hits over the head with shovel*

No, ME!

IMYarnCraz33

I consider internet friendships real friendships but am cautious who I choose to have as friends.
I find nothing wrong with internet dating/relationships. It's difficult yes, bcuz as some above said, there's no physical connection and you can't see how they live, what habits (good/bad) they have etc.
However, I met My Beloved online--on a game site no less.
We met face2face about 8 months after meeting online. And we've been married almost 8 years now.

DarkAngel262

Alot of my MFP internet friends have become my real life friends.

I've met Faerie, LaughingDani, Ben2118, and Miss_Chievious and we all talk on a regular basis. Skype, on the phone, text, whatever.

I have plans to meet more of my friends from MFP and Facebook (I'm in an animal rescue community) too and I say that's awesome. I act the exact same online as I do in real life.

Jerrypeoples

1 out of every 2 people on the internet are weird...

if you arent weird....

RobfromLakewood

I like quite a few of my MFP friends quite a bit, but it's hard to consider it the same as my friendships IRL. Lacking that time together, doing things together versus sharing feelings on the things we do apart, seems to make it hard for me to consider them close to the same level of friendship for me.

Alex_is_Hawks

Not going to happen everyone on the Internet is Crazy.

including you.

jackpotclown

\m/

lydia_the_tattooed_lady

Is it weird that I fell harder for someone I met on here, than I ever did with guys I was in real physical relationships with? Everybody looks at me like I'm a total idiot, a naive little girl because I'm stuck on someone 4,000 miles away Am I the only crazy one???

diodelcibo

Not going to happen everyone on the Internet is Crazy.

including you.

Yep I'd be wary of You, I've heard he's a real nutter.

LorinaLynn

I met my husband online 13 years ago, and it was long distance at first. That said, we didn't have an "internet relationship." It was just a way for us to become aware of each other's existence initially, and then a cheap way to communicate between dates.

mmddwechanged

One of the differences is that I don't get a daily "you're hot" from RLF. And I kinda like the complements, they boost my fragile ego

Rum_Runner

I have quite a few "internet" friends that I truly consider real friends. I text them, call them, email them, FB them....etc. we know each others life history, family, goals...etc. I can vent to them, cry, laugh, etc. So yes...I think internet relationships can be just as strong as IRL relationships. Now...if you're talking more about a love connection - Im sure love can be formed online (lots of success stories with online dating nowadays) - but like above said you'd probably want to meet face to face and get to know them IRL as a lot of things can be hidden behind a computer/phone screen!!

n8dawg77

^^ she is hot! (MANDY WE) - sure and RumRunner too!

But the truth is I would trade my RLF for these MFP friends any day of the week. More supportive, understanding and because we all have the same type of goals it makes for commonality. I wish RLF and even family were more like the beauties I've got to know on here!


GROUP HUG!!!!

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jbutterflye

I had the pleasure of meeting people from the internet world IRL. Here's what I find very interesting about that.

1) Usually, you are more intimate with them. Mind out of the gutter. But, they know way more about you, and you them, than anyone IRL ever would. At least, in my case, I say a lot of things. When people meet me IRL, they know so much more about me than even a real friend would. So, in many ways, it's refreshing.
2) Maybe because of 1, I find that I bond with them very quickly when I meet them IRL. We become real friends, and it sticks and I enjoy them a lot. Rarely have I been disappointed.
3) Probably because of my experiences, I feel that in many ways, my internet friends have the strong potential of being better real life friends that current real life non-internet friends. However, making that kleap is sometimes a little difficult. Especialy for me.I'm a bit socially anxious and it's hard for me to get to that place where I'll go meet up with a stranger. But, as I said, I have done it a lot in the past, and it was really great.
4) I think my internet friends are friends. In other words, they console me when I'm down. They pep talk me. They share things with me. I mean, in all respects, they are friends. And, the ones I care about can hurt my feelings. It has happened. To some people that seems dumb. But, I have friends here that I would say are friends, in a non-traditional sense. If they unfriended me, I would be hurt by it.

Becuase of the way I share online versus IRL, I think the relationships can be deeper than IRL. But, IRL is richer because of the experiential aspect, and the tactile part of it.

Thank you, I enjoyed reading that.

oregonzoo

My MFP friends didn't forget my birthday. My IRL friends did, in fact my IRL brother did.

lydia_the_tattooed_lady

I had the pleasure of meeting people from the internet world IRL. Here's what I find very interesting about that.

1) Usually, you are more intimate with them. Mind out of the gutter. But, they know way more about you, and you them, than anyone IRL ever would. At least, in my case, I say a lot of things. When people meet me IRL, they know so much more about me than even a real friend would. So, in many ways, it's refreshing.
2) Maybe because of 1, I find that I bond with them very quickly when I meet them IRL. We become real friends, and it sticks and I enjoy them a lot. Rarely have I been disappointed.
3) Probably because of my experiences, I feel that in many ways, my internet friends have the strong potential of being better real life friends that current real life non-internet friends. However, making that kleap is sometimes a little difficult. Especialy for me.I'm a bit socially anxious and it's hard for me to get to that place where I'll go meet up with a stranger. But, as I said, I have done it a lot in the past, and it was really great.
4) I think my internet friends are friends. In other words, they console me when I'm down. They pep talk me. They share things with me. I mean, in all respects, they are friends. And, the ones I care about can hurt my feelings. It has happened. To some people that seems dumb. But, I have friends here that I would say are friends, in a non-traditional sense. If they unfriended me, I would be hurt by it.

Becuase of the way I share online versus IRL, I think the relationships can be deeper than IRL. But, IRL is richer because of the experiential aspect, and the tactile part of it.

Eloquently put!! It's easier to be honest with people online....but it's harder to know if they're being honest. I've known a few sketchy folks online but they aren't all

Jerrypeoples

maybe i am lucky but there is no way in hell i would abandon my friends who have known me for however many years for "internet friends"

Im not open either group though friends know of the situations i have gone through the past couple of years i do not burden them or cybers with my drama/crap. i am on the internet to waste time and have fun, not to spill my guts or get a hand jibber

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Jerrypeoples

The ONLY true test of friends IRL is IF THEY WILL HELP YOU MOVE.

To me, that is the true test of friendship.

But, online friends can't really do that. LOL. So, you gotta just hope that they would, theoretically. LOL

what if you decide to move to a new nutrition board?

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MyChocolateDiet

I like my internet friends a lot but there are so many things that don't come across that may be deal breakers in real life. Flatulence problems, staring problems, rudeness in public (online rudeness whole other thing), bad breath, facial ticks, littering disputes, voice decibels at the store, the list goes on and on.

It's just not the same. That does not mean that I'd ever be mean to one of my online "friends" on purpose. No, I realize that's a real person on the other end regardless. I wish they do too. Most of mine do.

Finally, I only wish I could "unfriend" real life people as easily as I do here, not just the button but the no hemming and hawing about it either.

NormInv

Online friends is ok but online love is not feasible. The reason being that you can easily shut it down, shut it out. You are not dealing with the daily issues of a IRL relationship. I think you can start online and then take it IRL. Also, I think LDR can work if you have a defined goal of getting together by some fixed date.

Jerrypeoples

I like my internet friends a lot but there are so many things that don't come across that may be deal breakers in real life. Flatulence problems, staring problems, rudeness in public (online rudeness whole other thing), bad breath, facial ticks, littering disputes, voice decibels at the store, the list goes on and on.

It's just not the same. That does not mean that I'd ever be mean to one of my online "friends" on purpose. No, I realize that's a real person on the other end regardless. I wish they do too. Most of mine do.

Finally, I only wish I could "unfriend" real life people as easily as I do here, not just the button but the no hemming and hawing about it either.

so you fart a lot is what you are saying?

ItsCasey

"Internet relationships" as in you've never met the person in real life? Yeah, that's not real. I can see meeting someone on a dating site or elsewhere online and existing in that period between the first e-mail and your actual face-to-face meeting, but that needs to be a very short period. I don't care if you live on the other side of the world. A meeting needs to occur within 30 days or you need to move on. There is way too much risk involved in becoming emotionally invested in a person you've never actually met.

That doesn't mean real life relationships are necessarily better. I know married couples who are more like roommates than anything else. But I think if you are smart, you won't consider yourself to be "in a relationship" with a person you only know via phone, email, Skype, etc.

And I agree on the long-distance thing. There is always an expiration date ... either one person moves to be with the other, thus ending the "long-distance" aspect, or you decide to go your separate ways, thus ending the whole relationship. You cannot have a long-distance relationship indefinitely because it's the kind of thing that doesn't get easier; it gets harder, every single time you say goodbye to each other, knowing it will be weeks or even months before you see each other again.

Luvmesumkenny

My MFP friends are 100x better then my IRL real life friends.


& that's no *kitten*

TRUE STORY!

sunsnstatheart

My MFP friends are 100x better then my IRL real life friends.


& that's no *kitten*

TRUE STORY!

Yep. They don't smell, burp, fart or have any weird ticks either. At least none that I have to see. That, and I don't have to wear gloves when they want to touch . . . icky

susheetush

One of the most loyal and closest people to me IRL now is someone who was an internet friend for 3 years before we met. We knew everything about each other (you tend to be more candid when you're behind a screen) and when we actually met it was like we KNEW each other so well it didn't matter that we hadn't met in real life until then. I now live 7 mins away from her and we still talk everyday.

Romantic relationships are different. Met someone from the US when I was single and via Skype things got hot and heavy but the fact is, it was never going to last unless one person moved, and the logistics were pretty impossible, so eventually it fizzled. My guy and I met IRL while I was on holiday (to see my good friend above) and we had a LDR for 6 months before I moved over. I doubt I would have gotten into a relationship with him had I not already been planning to move though, coz relationships are tough, but LDRs are wayyyy tougher!