Neighbor smoking pot. What would you do?
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Tell him to man up and try some real drugs, get him hooked on H, and when he OD's the problem will solve ti self naturally. Win Win0
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No offense to you or your wife, but if a day care center opened up next door to me, I'd probably need some chemical help to get through the day too :laugh:
In all seriousness though, if you can't get anywhere with talking to the neighbors, contacting the licensing agent might be a good next step (to protect compliance). Depending on the situation and where you are, the police might not make a big deal out of it...or they could be medically licensed to smoke it.0 -
Normally I'd try to ignore them but if its coming into my house and affecting my life I'm calling the cops.0
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Also,
I just read the response above that mentioned the hose...
not a bad move
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50 yards away from where I park my car (front of the house. I didn't explain that well). 50 yards is 150 feet.Kids smoking pot 50 feet away from you is not creating an unsafe environment. If they were offering it to the children, breathing it in their faces, or talking about how "cool" pot is to them, that's a whole different story. But it's their yard-- they can do what they want, and you're the one that chose to run a business out of your home. That means dealing with the fact that your neighbors have every right to smoke things in the privacy of their own backyard.
However, if you're really that worried about the day care getting shut down, talk to the parents. Getting the police involved will scare off more parents than the pot will, I guarantee you on that one.
The playground is in the back of the house with an adjoining fence. The boys are smoking about 5 feet from the fence which puts it anywhere between 10 and 20 feet from the playground.
If it is strong enough for me to smell from 50 yards.....0 -
call the cops, I am sure mom is aware of the situation0
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If you can smell it, then obviously you are breathing it in.
Are you suggesting that having litle kids breathing in pot smoke is somehow safe?the state could potentially shut her down because of the unsafe environment.
Unsafe environment lol
So now they're breathing it in? Come off it.
That is about as basic science as it gets.
Just because you can smell the pot odor doesn't mean you're inhaling the cannabis smoke. The smoke dissipates almost immediately. That's basic science. Think about it-- smelling tobacco on someone's clothes, in their car, or in their home doesn't mean you're inhaling smoke... smh0 -
I would call the police.
If your wife was watching one of my children and I found out, I'd pull my kid.0 -
Tell them all, mother and kids one last time, if you ever smell pot outside your house that you are calling the cops immediately. You gave them plenty of warnings!!0
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He was probably calling your bluff. If he really didnt care I feel like he'd probably smoke it in the house. They smoke outside so his mom won't smell it when she gets home- at least that's my suspicion. I would bring it up with his mother- the problem is even if she does try to handle it, he may not listen. In that case- you should probably call the cops.
If he's 18 then would his mom get in trouble- he can be held liable as an adult.0 -
Oh, and if the kids are legally adults (you said over 18) there is no need to get "mommy" involved.0
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Well, I wish you were right but, the state and, even more, the health inspectors see things differently.
Well, technically, the pot smoke IS crossing into my back yard.Stay out of it each to there own as long as it doesn't cross you're front door leave it but hey it's just advice !
This is where a legal business is run and is subject to spot inspections by both the state (infrequently) and the health department (sometime three times a month)
I mean, if they were shooting up heroin, I could care less because it does not cross onto my property but the smoke does and, as a result, my wife could get her business shut down.
Your wife can't be held responsible for this, she's not causing the smell!
The health inspectors could care less about the "how" and "why" of the situation. All they care about is that there IS a situation.
Our street floods pretty bad when we get a heavy rain and we had to actually present a plan on how to keep the kids from going into the flooded streets.
Nevermind the fact that they would not be playing in the streets on any other day.
And the high water is absolutly beyond our control but, they don't really care about that.
Yes, that's a risk assessment on how your wife will keep the kids safe when there's flooding...something she is bound to do to keep them safe. They wouldn't blame your wife for the flood....I hope you see what I'm saying.0 -
I'd talk to the mom and explain that the pot smoking could cause your wife to lose her business.
I agree with this post -- if it weren't hurting business for your wife I would say just let it be because it really doesn't hurt anyone (more so than alcohol or cigarettes anyway). Most mothers don't want their children around inebriated individuals or around cigarette smoke so them not wanting pot smoke is pretty valid.
I will say that if the kids (teenagers?) are smoking in the yard and often then the mother probably already knows and does not care. If it were me in this kinda tough situation I would speak with the police about it and explain your situation, then most likely they can at least intimidate the guys enough for them to quit. If they continue after that then they're asshats and they get what they deserve.
Also, kudos for the patience. Their rudeness and attitude would have made me call the police right away. It seems like you're looking for a good solution rather than popping off right away. Good job. 0 -
I can't imagine the State would shut your wife down because of something the neighbor does. You cannot control your neighbor.0
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No offense to you or your wife, but if a day care center opened up next door to me, I'd probably need some chemical help to get through the day too :laugh:
In all seriousness though, if you can't get anywhere with talking to the neighbors, contacting the licensing agent might be a good next step (to protect compliance). Depending on the situation and where you are, the police might not make a big deal out of it...or they could be medically licensed to smoke it.
If I'm correct I think even if you have a medical license you can only do it so many feet from schools and preschools. I could be wrong but I know for at least the state of NV I remember reading this.0 -
I saw the title and was going to say, JOIN them... but I see now that is inappropriate. :blushing:
I would talk to the mom and explain you don't judge or care what they do so long as it doesn't jeopardize the daycare business. If they continue to be rude and obnoxious, you may have to try another method.
Can't you make an anonymous call to the cops?0 -
50 yards away from where I park my car (front of the house. I didn't explain that well). 50 yards is 150 feet.Kids smoking pot 50 feet away from you is not creating an unsafe environment. If they were offering it to the children, breathing it in their faces, or talking about how "cool" pot is to them, that's a whole different story. But it's their yard-- they can do what they want, and you're the one that chose to run a business out of your home. That means dealing with the fact that your neighbors have every right to smoke things in the privacy of their own backyard.
However, if you're really that worried about the day care getting shut down, talk to the parents. Getting the police involved will scare off more parents than the pot will, I guarantee you on that one.
The playground is in the back of the house with an adjoining fence. The boys are smoking about 5 feet from the fence which puts it anywhere between 10 and 20 feet from the playground.
If it is strong enough for me to smell from 50 yards.....
Okay, I'll admit I misread that part about the distance and I see now that you mentioned the fence in other comments. My apologies. However, second hand smoke has to be closer than that to be harmful. And it's outside, so it's not as if the kids can be "hotboxed". I still think it's an easy fix to tell the parents. If, for some reason, they don't care that their children are smoking pot, then turn to the law, but like I said-- if I saw cops outside my child's day care center, I'd find another place in a heartbeat.0 -
it's good to live in Colorado :smokin:
Amen, my friend0 -
If you can smell it, then obviously you are breathing it in.
Are you suggesting that having litle kids breathing in pot smoke is somehow safe?the state could potentially shut her down because of the unsafe environment.
Unsafe environment lol
So now they're breathing it in? Come off it.
That is about as basic science as it gets.
Yeah, so basic you got it wrong.0 -
Are you suggesting that having litle kids breathing in pot smoke is somehow safe?the state could potentially shut her down because of the unsafe environment.
Unsafe environment lol
So now they're breathing it in? Come off it.
...to smell something you must inhale molecules of the substance. So yes, if they can smell it, they are breathing it in. Whether or not it's unsafe, I have no idea.0 -
Things are different where I live (Washington) because it's legal and I wouldn't be able to do anything.
I'm guessing though it's illegal where you live. Since the kids don't care - talk to the mom - she may not be aware this is going on. If she is and she's okay with them smoking pot - ask if they could possibly do it after daycare hours are over. If that does not work, then you should call the cops.0 -
For F@#KS sake call the cops...EVERY...SINGLE...TIME! Take it from someone who grew up with druggie/alcoholic parents; its better to end this not and with finality.
a bit harsh to immediately call in the cops and potentially ruin some teenager's lives.
i would talk to the mom, and make clear you will be calling the police if they don't move their activity, or stop altogether.
I disagree that this is harsh. They're doing something illegal that could potentially cause the daycare to lose its liscence and livelihood. Oh, and they wouldn't be ruining the teens lives; the teens are doing it just fine on their own.0 -
Well, technically, the pot smoke IS crossing into my back yard.Stay out of it each to there own as long as it doesn't cross you're front door leave it but hey it's just advice !
This is where a legal business is run and is subject to spot inspections by both the state (infrequently) and the health department (sometime three times a month)
I mean, if they were shooting up heroin, I could care less because it does not cross onto my property but the smoke does and, as a result, my wife could get her business shut down.
Your wife can't be held responsible for this, she's not causing the smell!
Even if she's not shut down by the state it could bother the parents enough to pull their children, in which case it would still affect her business.0 -
BTW I still love it! I'm just on an extensive break. My job does not allow, nor do my children. However.......Once I retire/change jobs and kick the kids out of the house there's gonna be a big F***ing party over here. lol, j/k. maybe0
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This is a no brainer. If it isn't something that is legal where you live and it is endangering your wife's job and children, call the police...0
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Talk to the mom, then call the cops. I live in Colorado, so things are a little different 'round these parts... but the mother should be given a chance to rectify the situation before involving the police, IMO.
I agree with this advice. However, I also live in Colorado. It's still not legal for teenagers to smoke pot. And for whoever said it wasn't unsafe for kiddos to be around--do you really want your day-care aged child to inhale ANY kind of smoke, legal or otherwise?
Child care programs deal with a lot of licensing regulations and this could be considered a health risk if the children are anywhere near the smoke.0 -
Stay out of it each to there own as long as it doesn't cross you're front door leave it but hey it's just advice !
Well that is the problem, when the smell crosses over into your yard then well it is your problem and not doing anything is not an answer when illegal activity is involved. Even if it were say Cigrette smoke, when you are running a daycare it needs to be a smoke free zone which means No Smoking within so many feet also a Drug free zone.
As for some advice:
1) I would first talk w/the parents as obviously talking with the "kids" did not work. I would also let the mother know that if something is not done, you will be forced to call the police.
2) If nothing is done. Call the police.
This is about your job of running a daycare part of your income, explain that to the mother as well. I know I would not want her to loose her job either, but she is the parent and if her kid does not want to stop she has the choice to tell him to quit doing it on her property or move out.
A hard situation to be in regardless... my prayers go out to you and good luck!0 -
That kid should apply for a job at the daycare. Just burn one and run around playing with kids and toys all day? Maybe a little nap and some juice and cookies? Sounds aweosme0
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1 then 2 would be my choice.
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give her a chance to deal with the situation....
if no change, then call the cops.
This.0 -
Things are different where I live (Washington) because it's legal and I wouldn't be able to do anything.
I'm guessing though it's illegal where you live. Since the kids don't care - talk to the mom - she may not be aware this is going on. If she is and she's okay with them smoking pot - ask if they could possibly do it after daycare hours are over. If that does not work, then you should call the cops.
Legal for adults, just like here in Colorado...but it's not still legal for teenagers. Is it?0
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