At what point does weight become unattractive?
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This.Yeah that's true, confidence is a big factor. I notice a big difference in the way people hold themselves!
Hard to verify that in the winter.I definitely agree with the person that said that muscle definition is a factor!
Personally and honestly I try no to judge. I was big at one time mostly due to inertia. Some folks might say I am still too large (I am still 'overweight by BMI standards) A friend of mine is big because of a major medical condition. Not much right now she can do in her live do to meds. My MIL was big until she had her thyroid checked... she was healthy but could not drop pounds. Once on the correct meds she has slimmed.
Each of us has our own story. Yes, people will judge but what matters most is how you feel about yourself. I could give a crap about anyone's opinion outside of my immediate family. THEY know the daily struggles. If you don't want to get to know me because I might be a tad large for you then it is your loss.
...whew. that turned into a rant rather quickly. Now back to your normal thread...0 -
For me weight just isn't a factor in attractiveness. My ex-boyfriend was and is extremely overweight, his personality however is stellar and I loved him dearly. My ex-fiance was very fit (in the Navy) but that had nothing to do with why I was planning on marrying him. My fiancee is overweight as am I - I love her regardless and think she's the most beautiful woman in the world as far as I'm concerned. Attraction for me personally is very much deeper - you can be the most "fit" person in the world and have the most horrible personality - THAT makes you unattractive, not the size of your clothes.
I will ALWAYS be overweight, there's no getting around it. At my current LBM, if I get down to what's considered normal for my height/frame size, I will actually have too little body fat...which is SO not normal but that's the truth of the matter.0 -
I think its impossible to put a number on this question. Example. I am was a uk 8-10 before i had my children. I felt great and had guys sniffing around a lot (uninvited of course) i ballooned to a size 20-22 after children and felt worse then awful about myself who used to be a confident outgoing person. 1 of my bff's is in a size 20 and happy as a pig in poop and her confidence radiates. She puts great effort into her looks by buying flattering, fashionable clothes yet when i was that size i was so unhappy i would try and avoid going out to the local shop never mind social events. She gets a lot of attention regardless of her size as she is happy. So in a nut shell i don't think size in general matters its about how the individual deals with their size. If they are happy then they will attract attention and remain fun and outgoing. I know many "skinny" people who are misrable so it works both ways i think.
Individuals perception of fat differs as the way people carry weight differs Ie apples and pears etc.. My aim is to have a healthy BMI what i look and feel like when i get there only time will tell, but is any1 ever 100% happy with their bodies no matter how big or small they are?0 -
You know what, this is an un-answerable question because as I see it, beauty is very much in the eye of the beholder. What floats one person's boat sinks someone else's. Theres's no one idea of attractive that fits everyone's tastes. Too chubby in one person's eyes could be just right in another persons eyes. Some people dislike too much muscle, as we have seen many times on threads on here lol. It really is all about individual taste IMO.0
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Since you're just asking for *opinion's* .....
For me, looking at women, it's about what I call the boobs-to-belly ratio.
Personally, I like very "fit" looking women, and a six-pack makes me swoon.
I can also appreciate curvy -- Scarlett Johansson can come visit me ANY time at all. (It really helps that she's smart and snarky as well).
Christina Hendricks is also welcome to visit at any time.
But if I go to give a girl a hug, and hit belly before I hit boobs -- that's a complete turn off for me.
Everyone is different though, and to each their own.0 -
Shallow topic. Attraction is more than weight. This is body shaming.0
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Marilyn Monroe was a UK size 16. Just thought I'd throw that in there.
I looked into that, and yeah she was a size 16, but that was 60 years ago!
Portion size and dress sizes have changed to fit todays life styles, and people have got taller aswell. So she was a size 16 back then, but if she was the same now, she'd be a size 12 (uk)0 -
All I can say is your friend sounds like a douche for saying that!
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Shallow topic. Attraction is more than weight. This is body shaming.
I wouldn't say this is body shaming. It is a shallow topic but then again, so what?
A person must be attracted to their other half to a certain point, and if I cant ask this question on here, then where else can I ask it.0 -
I can honestly say that I have been pursued at every weight by someone who thought I was attractive. And I can also honestly say that I do not give a rat's *kitten* if anyone thinks I'm attractive or not.0
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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder...and who care what other people think. its what you feel about yourself..enough said0
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For me it is about how you carry your weight but I have been told that I am dumb because I can find scars, stretchmarks or wrinkles as sexy. I like things that make women unique so I am not sure how much I helped.0
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that is not completely true either. I am pretty overweight and very healthy. My blood pressure is rarely over 110/65 and most of the time less. I get blood work every year and come back with perfect sugar, cholesterol, and blood cells. Every once in awhile I will be low on iron but not enough to concern my dr. (while preggo though I have to take iron supp) So you can be healthy and overweight. I joined the Army and was considered overweight for height/weight. They did measurements and figured by body fat % I was indeed within the limits and I went on to boot camp and rocked it! I could do 98 sit ups in 2 mins when req was only 53. I could do 45 push ups in 2 mins when req were only 19. I couldn't run worth crap though. If you are short and very muscular you can have a overweight bmi
Being overweight and posting good numbers for BP etc in your 20's is much different than carrying that extra weight into your 50's and 60's. In your 20's your body is still able to cope with the weight but as you age it isn't so easy. BMI is crap because you can be muscular with a high BMI.0 -
Marilyn Monroe was a UK size 16. Just thought I'd throw that in there.
She wasn't even remotely pudgy. She had a 22" inch waist. I doubt anyone in a size 16 has that measurement today.0 -
Marilyn Monroe was a UK size 16. Just thought I'd throw that in there.
She wasn't even remotely pudgy. She had a 22" inch waist. I doubt anyone in a size 16 has that measurement today.
Most SUPERMODELS don't have that measurement today.0 -
I see this topic as a breeding ground for even more hurtful and body shaming conversations.
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Sorry but I think the original post was correct. Obesity is not healthy. There is no way you can eat right and exercise and be fat, yet healthy. Maybe you are accepting and feel like you are contect with your weight and life style, but medically speaking, there is no healthy in being obese.
For the record, the word OBESE was never put in there. It was "overweight". And some of us cannot fit into society's standards of an "acceptable" weight due to certain factors, such as bone density. Now, I AM obese (and was not offended by the OP's words, I just rolled my eyes) but I am working on it. As far as blood factors go, I'm in the norm for everything but cholesterol as of my last check (which was 2 years ago and I've eaten better since then haha). But I know I am unhealthy due to my weight and that's why I'm here.
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Marilyn Monroe was a UK size 16. Just thought I'd throw that in there.
She was an American size 16 (UK 12) and that was wildly different from the vanity sizing of today 37-23-37 is approx a UK 8 today0 -
This is sch a depressing topic. There is always someone who is going to think someone else is fat, and there is always someone who is going to think someone else is fabulous. And what's worse, at any given time, what those people say and what they actually think deep down aren't even going to be the same thing.
There's only one person in this world who's really, truly going to be with you your entire life, and that's YOU. Be what YOU think is attractive--body and soul--and let the rest of the world do what it's going to do.0 -
It depends what you define as attractive to be honest. One mans version of attractive definitely isnt the same as anothers. I have one boy mate who loves girls to be pure skin and bone, he like tall girls who look malnourished and is open about this. It is what he likes. I have another boy mate who loves very large women, especially focused on their chest area i think lol but anyway....Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder.
I'm 5ft 10 and I am now an 8-10. I think I look fine but have a little way to go with toning etc, my boyfriend says i am more attractive now than i was at a size 14 but others say im too skinny.
Its such a hard topic, it is about how you carry weight and what the person looking at you thinks is attractive.
Plus i think that guy who called you 'borderline' is a *kitten*.0 -
my husband married me when i was a size 20 he met me when i was a 22 im now a 18 and im pritty sure he wouldnt have married me if i was unattractive .. some people like differant things thats why theirs bow making tons of money eating cake naked on webcams ....0
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How about this for an idea....
We all stop giving a fu!K about other people and their perceptions of beauty and attractiveness and get on with the relatively short *kitten* life that we have.
One mans meat is another mans poison.0 -
I haven't read through everyone's replies, but to me... weight becomes unattractive when a person lets it destroy their confidence and self-esteem. There is no magic number. There is nothing more attractive than a person who embraces who they are and lets their personality shine.0
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My husband has always said women can be attractive at many different weights. When there's cellulite, thats when they become less attractive physically.
Really? Even "super models" have cellulite.
this thread is full of douchness.0 -
I think it depends on the person, and how they carry their weight.
I'm apple shaped, and only 5'2", so when I gain weight, a size 8 is no longer attractive for my body because my waist disappears.
But someone who is taller and/or maybe pear shaped might look awesome in a size 8.0 -
Why are so many people so sensitive about the thiought that somebody MIGHT find a particular weight unattractive? The op asked for opinions. And I love how people like to throw around Marilyn Monroes dress size yet they never mention her measurements. It was 36-23-36 with only slight fluctuations.0
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How about this for an idea....
We all stop giving a fu!K about other people and their perceptions of beauty and attractiveness and get on with the relatively short *kitten* life that we have.
One mans meat is another mans poison.
BOOM.
My thoughts exactly.
For just as many people who may find one's weight (or even other attributes) unattractive,
there are just as many who will not.
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It's how you feel that counts the most.0 -
Even the premise was douchey.My husband has always said women can be attractive at many different weights. When there's cellulite, thats when they become less attractive physically.
Really? Even "super models" have cellulite.
this thread is full of douchness.0
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